This short non-fiction guide to using they/them pronouns is accessible, fun to read, and highly informative. It has a combination of text and illustrations on almost every one of it's 237 pages. I enjoyed the visuals and the personal stories of the author, which are told with an easy-going and super likable tone.

Some of the visuals are really informative: like the diagram of their coming out journey, or the pie chart of the most used neutral pronouns. And others are beautiful and poetic: like flowers growing out of each of the letters in the word "weird," or a page full of eyes.

I would highly recommend this book for high school libraries and public libraries. And honestly, maybe this should be required reading for anyone who works with the public.

This guide is incredibly informative without the author taking themselves too seriously or the text getting overly academic. I love the diy/zine-like quality of the illustrations and charts woven throughout the book, making it more fun and visually appealing. Overall, I'd say it's a non-judgemental, accessible, well-written introduction to non-binary identities (and gender in general really) and the use of they/them.

I would recommend this for people who are fuzzy on the subject and would like a good primer.

Language evolves to meet new needs and has done so for a very long time.  The use of they/them in new contexts is part of that history.  It is important that language be responsive and make sense.  In this book, the author provides a good explanation for the current addition of they/them as a singular pronoun that is responsive to our current time.


The author provides history and engages in dialogue with the reader, all the while helping readers to embrace adding to their vocabularies.  This book is recommended for those who want to educate themselves and others in their lives.  Many thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for this title in exchange for an honest review.

I'm really excited to purchase this book for my workplace Pride Employee Resource Group library. There's so much call for digestible educational tools that can reach people across all levels of exposure to concepts of gender identity. This will certainly be one I hand out to colleagues looking to learn.

Very informative guide for the realm of they vs them. Not only is the definitions personal to the author they also give insight into the other definitions as it relates to gender, sexuality and the LGBTQIA community. A good resource for all.

Between this and the "Quick and Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns" by Archie Bongiovanni, if you still don't get it, it's intentional. Don't give me any of your "it's not grammatically correct" BS because they as a gender neutral goes back to Billy Shakes. And don't try with the "it's hard to learn new words" thing because you learn new words every year as trends pop up. Just listen to what people say and use the pronouns they ask you to use (see that singular they I used in a sentence in a way I'm sure you've used multiple times without realizing it?). This is such an easy concept that can mean so much to a person, so don't be an asshole--just use the right pronouns.

How to They/Them is an approachable "gender-friendly primer" about gender expression and how to get oneself comfortable with using they/them pronouns. The book is highly informative in that it differentiates between sex (at birth), sexuality, and gender and utilizes a broad spectrum to encouage the reader to look beyond the binary. The tone of the book is conversational and lighthearted and the Q and A sections are honest, clear, and often humorous. If you have had a difficult time adjusting to they/them pronouns or if you are thinking that you or a loved one may identify as they/them, but are still trying to figure it out, then this reference book is a good starting point. There is one particular section that I really appreciated: the author addresses how to talk to children about they/them, and as an educator I have often wondered how best to be more sensitive to my students who identify with they/them pronouns. After reading Getty's advice I feel much more prepared.

I rated this book a 3.5: while the information is sound and the author's personal examples are helpful, I was sometimes confused by the overly conversational tone (leading to rereading sections to clarify) and I found the illustrations distracting.

Advanced copy provided by the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. Available September 2020.

This is a lighthearted but very informative guide to everything you wanted to know about pronouns, gender fluidity and such but were afraid to ask. It's illustrated in black and white with lots of arrows, sketches and humor. The author is non-binary and tells their story along with background info on pronouns, FAQs and much more. I wasn't a big fan of the tone (it's sort of cutesy/funny in an almost condescending way) but it's good info. I know I had a ton of questions when this was new to me, and others in that boat will find most of the answers in this short but informative, helpful book.

I read a temporary digital ARC of this book for review.

This is such a fantastic book!
Wonderfully illustrated, it explains everything gender identity in such a simple, straightforward way that it really makes you wonder why it is such a subject of controversy still. I wish every single person would read this book!

I love this book. I never would have imagined I'd have so much fun reading about pronouns. I knew the content would be important but I never expected to feel such joy while reading How to They/Them. The tone is lighthearted, friendly, and accessible while providing easy to understand information about non-binary pronouns and gender fluidity. I was so smitten while reading this that I searched out Stuart Getty's film theyTHEM which I would also recommend to anyone and everyone. I hope a lot of people read this, I know I'll be recommending it whenever I have the chance.

A necessary reading to get educated about this identity issue and be more open-minded and empathic towards people.

How to They/Them is a funny reading as well as well-informed where the author spill the tea of all the details you need to know to be a more tolerant person and don't make mistakes.
It's a book to have on your nightstand and read anytime you need to thanks to their Q&As and several chapters about different topics on gender identity and sex stuff.

The author use an informal tone to explain things so they're accesible to any kind of reader, even if you know things about this topic or not; you'll be educated at the end of the reading. They also are tolerant with anyone's point of view so they explain things in a neutral way, not positioning or trying to adoctrinate. Just simply teaching and giving history lessons, grammar punctuation and social awareness.