This is a short book that is jam-packed with quality content. I really enjoyed reading it and I think it would be very helpful for folks to read, especially teens.

*posted 10/7/21

This book did an incredible job of breaking down a sensitive topic in a way that was easy to understand and explained what this movement was all about.

Of course, the book deals with some very sensitive topics like sexual assault and rape so I do need to issue a trigger warning. The author does this throughout the book so that readers can be aware of the content discussed in every chapter, which I loved. She also does the same for the example stories used because some are fictional and others are not (they are labeled on the top).

The first chapter is the easiest one and does not cover any sensitive issues so that readers can start off on a comfortable level and then decide for themselves if they are ready for the subsequent chapters. It covered basic information and let us know what the rest of the book contained.

The later chapters deal with different types of abuse and what they might look like, how you can be an ally to a victim, what to do if you are a victim, resources to learn more and get help, and even how to deal with abuse in a school setting specifically. There was so much information that was new to me and I really enjoyed learning more about how to support someone who might be going through something like this.

This book was very informative and educational. It's a perfect way to bring up the topic to a teen/family member in a gentle way. As the author states, it's not an easy topic to broach or even a pleasant one but it's important. I'm happy to be able to review this great resource and hope it inspires others to educate themselves more too.

A must-read for pre-teens and teens. Divided by topic into chapters (on things like consent, being an ally, healthy boundaries, sexual abuse, and seeking help), #MeToo and You provides essential terminology and real-life examples, offering teens a baseline understanding, actionable advice, and a way to start conversations. This book exposes myths and arms teens with the truth. I cannot stress this enough, every (pre-) teen should read this book or a version of it. Some real-life examples provided are explicit and come with warnings and can be easily skipped for those who may be triggered.

This is likely not a title I would book talk, but it is a title I would want to have in my middle school library. Middle schoolers will likely encounter some of the many terms this book explains like healthy/unhealthy relationships, consent, boundaries, etc. as they begin to navigate those ages and puberty. I appreciate how this book breaks down terms and chapters and encourages readers to read what the my are ready for. These are important topics, and libraries need to have resources available.

Okay first of all, I highly recommend people to check this book out. It is definitely centered around resources available in US but apart from that the things that have been discussed in this book are really essential for the target audience, mainly teenagers.

The first thing I really liked about this book was the fact that the author mentioned trigger warnings at every point, wherever it was necessary. The book started off with heavy stuff - ranging from sexual assault and the different terminologies that people should know about and understand them. It talked about boundaries and consent in such a sensitive and important way that it got me to start to think about my boundaries wherever necessary and the aspect of consent became for me and those around me. These topics were covered in a very broad aspect, take consent for an example - the author made sure to include every possible scenario that comes with consent, be it in your personal relationship, friends, family etc.

Other thing about this book is that it contains a lot of resources - links to them and mentions about where to find them. Yes, it was mainly focused on US only but it at least made me search available resources for my country. Conversations around Sexual assault, Consent, Boundaries etc. very limited amongst the teenagers, especially in school. I honestly hope that it changes a bit with coming years and these topics are included more in the conversation and professional knowledge and discussion is given to the students.

Although the author mentions TW before every section and story, here are some: Sexual Assault, R*pe, Bullying, Cyber Bullying, Kidnapping, etc.

I was provided with an arc in exchange for an honest review via netgalley

Promoted as YA but it’s definitely on the younger side. While it’s filled with tons of information and resources that’s good to know there are some issues. First, the illustrations were really unnecessary and didn’t mesh well with the content. Plus the author really doesn’t make the hypothetical examples gender neutral which is really problematic and using BPD as a potential example of why someone might not respect people’s boundaries but then throwing an afterthought disclaimer of “but not all people with BPD abuse others” is infuriating.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publishers for providing me with a digital ARC for an unbiased review of this title.

This is an excellent book that discusses a wide array of situations in a variety of real and fictional scenarios. Supplied with a wide variety of resources, the title deals with both less common and more prevalent types of abuse and harassments. The tone is uplifting and never defeatist. Definitely recommended.

“#MeToo and You” by Halley Bondy is directed at middle- and high-school youth and is basically a guide for recognizing and combating sexual harassment and sexual abuse. It is intended not only for anyone who has experienced sexual abuse and/or harassment but also anyone who wishes to be an ally and support victims.

The book begins with an introduction to the #MeToo movement and then provides an introduction to relationship issues such as consent, power dynamics, boundaries, and so on. The first chapter contains no violent or sexual material but later chapters do include stories and definitions of sexual abuse. Every chapter that includes any difficult material of this type starts out with a trigger warning. The author suggests that readers start with chapter 1 and then wait to move on if they don’t think they are ready yet for “heavier stuff” (as the author terms it).

The book includes both true stories of abuse as well as fictional examples that were created to allow the author to make specific points (the author clearly identifies which stories are and are not true). She explains how the events were handled and also discusses how they should be handled, giving readers concrete examples to help them understand. In some cases, the author explains, you may not be able to do anything to stop the abuse; in those situations, she carefully discusses how (and to whom!) these types of incidents should be reported.

Chapter 2 provides definitions of a lot of key terms – abuse, sexual abuse, human trafficking, slut-shaming, peer abuse, molestation, grooming, to name just a few. This is material that tweens and teens really do need to understand and the author presents this in a clear and straightforward manner.

Chapter 3 goes over 22 myths about sexual abuse, many of which are widely accepted even today and sadly are often seen in media reports about sexual violence or abuse. Later chapters go over how to ask for help, how to be an ally, and how to get involved in #MeToo activism. There is even an “additional resources” section at the end of the book with URLs to a variety of important sources of information and help, from crisis hotlines to nonprofits to government and educational programs. My only gripe about this list is that it is basically all North American-based organizations; a section on international sources of help would also be useful.

This is a wonderful book and I think it should be required reading for all young people. Every school library should have copies of this book available to students and frankly I think that this material should be covered in a required class in every school. This is also essential reading for parents and teachers, to raise their awareness and help them learn to be allies as well.

I received a free e-copy of this book from NetGalley in exchange for an unbiased review.

This guide for young adults as to what constitutes appropriate behaviour and what is abuse of various sorts, and what to do about it, may help many young people. I'd like to see this book on the library shelf of every school.

We're guided though early chapters which talk generally, to those with warnings before providing examples of fictional or real life harassment. From a male teacher remarking on girls having periods when they asked to leave the class, to an adult caregiver carrying out inappropriate behaviour, even a girl abducted for days.

Sometimes there is nothing you can do at the time, as the book explains, but you're shown how to report incidents and to whom.

We're also given examples of how to be a good friend and supportive, of how to not participate when some phone photos are being passed around. Peer pressure does not have to include you and control your behaviour. And finally we are given examples of a few young people who started local movements which grew, helping children abroad by actions like selling lemonade.

At the back a lot of organisations are listed, mostly in America. Great work by this journalist author and the metoo stories are barely even covered, there is so much else to discuss.

I downloaded this ARC from Net Galley. This is an unbiased review.

#MeToo and You is an incredible introductory book to middle school and high school aged children about what is a healthy relationship, what constitutes abuse, how to ask for help, and how to be an ally.

I want to first point out the level of care and consideration that Halley Bondy took in writing this book. She tackles very difficult content and relays the information in a way that pre-teens and teens can understand. Most importantly, she posts trigger warnings at the beginning of her chapters, so readers are not caught off guard with graphic content about sexual assault.

Honestly, I feel like this should be required reading in school. The author does a great job at explaining the content, providing examples (both fictional as well as real), and listing resources for further research on the subject.

Usually, I don't like giving ratings to nonfiction books. However, this was sent to me for review and I feel like I need to correctly represent how helpful this book would be for the intended audience.

As someone who hasn't been in middle school for quite some time, I was hesitantly going into this book. That being said, I still learned quite a bit and I also recognized that it's my duty to stay informed and also be aware of resources like this for my future students.

Even if there hadn't been a movement of victims speaking out, it's still so important to stay informed on how to stand up for yourself and also be an ally. This book is a quick way to get some basic information on all those things.

It's definitely a resource I'm going to want in my classroom so that my students have something to look to if they're hesitant about coming to me or another adult at first.

#MeToo and You provides a useful introduction for teens as to what is and is not acceptable for healthy relationships.

The book begins with scenarios and definitions before going on to discuss myths surrounding sexual abuse. There is advice on how to ask for help, and how to provide help for others. It covers all types of relationships which I was impressed with due to the amount of peer-to-peer bullying around these days.

I am sure this book would be very useful for adults looking to begin difficult conversations with their teens. I also feel it could be used by parents of younger children so that they learn from an early age how to respect others.

I highly recommend this book. Thank you Halley Bondy, Lerner Publishing Group, Zest Books and NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review this book.

This should be required reading for all middle school and high school age students, especially before going off to college. It breaks down the term of consent, what are healthy relationships, and uses social stories to help explain points, with questions for discussion about if the actions taken were appropriate. It also ends with a section on how to take action. This is extremely valuable information and boys and girls alike should be familiar with.

Halley Bondy has provided a marvelous tween/teen-friendly manual on healthy vs. unhealthy relationships, power dynamics, consent, boundaries, myths about sexual assault, how to report abuse, being an ally, and more.

This was not an emotionally easy book to read content-wise, but I am so happy this book exists, and think it should be in every middle/high school library. Multiple stories throughout the book (both true and fictional, including the author's own upsetting story of abuse) provide examples of situations and how they were handled well or could maybe have been handled better. The graphic content warnings were very much appreciated, and there's a great resource section at the end as well.

The thing I loved the most about this book is that there is a real focus throughout on identifying abusive behaviors, believing victims, supporting them, and NOT BLAMING THEM.

I especially loved this quote:
"It is the responsibility of the rapist NOT TO RAPE, and it is the authorities' responsibility to PROTECT VICTIMS. It is not the responsibility of victims to learn self-defense, even if it's handy."

My only complaint about this book was the focus on activism at the end - it felt overwhelming, even as an adult, and seems like too much for kids to take on in addition to all of this new, difficult information (but I'm old, so who knows).

Age range: middle school / 12+; recommending to all of my tween/teen parent friends

Review based on an ARC provided by Lerner Publishing Group / Zest Books via NetGalley.

Wow this book was so informative. I learned so much and the author put everything into words that were easy to understand. She gave examples even her own story to better illustrate the message she was trying to send. This book is so necessary and I think every elementary, middle, and high school classroom should have a copy on their bookshelf.

This was an excellent text
clearly defining the #metoo
movement and all aspects that
go with power, consent and
Sexual assault. Not anly does
the book give clear definitions,
it also provides ways to be an ally;
resources to give aid or get aid;
and concrete examples of
everything the author discusses.
#Metoo and You is going to be a
great resource for continuing
change and discussions about
sexual assault and the laws
governing it.

#metoo and You is a necessary book for all young teens. It tackles the big topic of sexual assault and the metoo movement. It's an amazing beginner's guide that starts with the basics that everyone should know: healthy vs unhealthy relationships, consent and boundaries. It concisely gives definitions for everything they need to know.
It then goes to harder topics surrounding sexual assault and harassment. The author goes into topics surround being a survivor and an ally giving you information about reporting, policies, legal systems, getting and giving support.
It then goes into activism for the whole movement and how to get involved outside of advocating outside your own community.

This book was a very informational how to guide for navigating the violation of boundaries and trying to advocate for safer environments. The definitions clearly told the readers what they needed to know while the stories in between the advice and information contextualized the content for the reader.

This book should be required reading for everyone, not just teens and tweens. It discusses not only what is healthy and consensual in the context of romantic relationship, but also in the context of friendships. Very importantly, it looks at the concept of consent in terms of respecting someone's overall boundaries, not just yes or no in specific situations. It provides versions of the same relationship where consent is respected and where it is not. 15/10 recommend.

**Thanks to the publisher for providing an e-arc through Netgalley. All opinions are my own**

I don't normally rate nonfiction, but I would probably give this 5 stars. I want to see this book in schools whether or not it be a middle school or high school, or younger. There is so much important information in this book and I think it could be incredibly educational. I really hope that more people read this and I hope that parents pick this up and go through these important definitions with their kids.

#MeToo and You is a book that every parent and teacher of preteens and teens need in their library, regardless of the child’s gender or sexual identity. The book is an honest guide to consent, setting boundaries, and seeking help if you have been sexually assaulted or abused. Within each section are short examples, some fictional, some not, that demonstrate the concept in a “real life” situation. It is important to have these conversations early and often and this is a great parent-child book club choice or can be useful in leading discussions in a health class or counseling session.

Advanced readers copy provided courtesy of the publisher via @netgalley in exchange for an honest review. Available in February 2021.
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⚠️explicit content regarding sexuality and sexual abuse/assault (though written with a younger audience in mind)