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Growing up in the Church, it's always been tabu to talk about having mental Issues.  Michelle Williams knows that all too well.  Whether you're a grammy winning artist or not, mental issues is no respect to anyone.  I myself have been dealing with depression for almost 30 years, and there were a lot of tips that are going to help me once i implement them.  She was vulnerable and transparent and gives a lot of wisdom and helpful tips throughout this book.
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I wasn't sure if I would enjoy this book when I first started reading it but it ended up being a good read. Michelle talked a lot about her personal life which I wasn't expecting but it tied into her mental health journey.  I wish she would have talked more about the journey of getting help. I think the book would have had a greater impact had she spent less time talking about her personal life and more time on mental health. Overall, it was a good read but I was expecting a little more focus on mental health.
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I received an advanced/review copy of this book. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content and honesty of my review.

Michelle Williams is probably most notably recognized for being a part of Destiny's Child. I've been a neutral fan of hers since I was a kid--I was never a huge Destiny's Child fan, but I enjoyed their music when it'd play on the radio. I've heard some of Michelle's solo work, but I've mainly followed her thoughts on life and her faith throughout the years. I always thought she seemed like someone who really had her life together, which could feel intimidating as someone who loves Jesus but doesn't always feel like she measures up--either in the world or as a believer.

When I first read the preface for this book, I knew I had to read it. This woman is someone I've admired from afar for many years, and to learn that she had struggles that I could relate to was not only intriguing but inspiring. The book itself is a fantastic read. It's part memoir, part inspirational, that dives deep into Michelle's own experiences with crippling anxiety and depression--so severe that it contributed greatly to the downfall of her engagement to who was essentially the man of her dreams. 

While the majority of the book is more serious in nature, she also has a way of making you laugh and showing the lighter side of things, which is a nice break from the constant heaviness this subject matter tends to bring. There were times while reading that I felt like I was having a chat with a friend rather than reading a book, and I greatly appreciated her unique and conversational tone.

At times raw and poignant, Ms. Williams also gives some pretty solid advice when discussing how to handle anxiety and depression; including "checking in" with friends and family as well as God. She also discusses the importance of therapy and learning to recognize when you need help. While I loved the addition of bible verses and her talk of faith, I do think this would also be a lovely read for those who aren't Christian. There's plenty to relate to and feel inspired by, especially when considering it's so easy to just hide ourselves away when we really need to ask for help.
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ABSOLUTELY LOVED THIS BOOK,  and how open and raw Michele got with her struggle with Depression. It takes courage to share your story with others,  and I appreciate how she wants to help others with her incredible story.  Definitely a book that I would recommend to everyone. 

This book was recieved as an ARC in exchange for a honest review.
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I enjoyed this book because of it's writing style, unique topic, and the fact that it really provided a thought-provoking experience. Recommended for readers who want to read slowly so as to take time to process.
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I devoured this book in one setting! All I can say is that I spoke to me as a Christian, single woman, struggler of anxiety and depression. Michelle managed to be both vulnerable and transparent with her readers, all while speaking God’s truth. 

After finishing the book it took me a moment to gather my thoughts. I was left feeling seen, understood, challenged and encouraged. 

My prayer is anyone struggling with or knows someone struggling with depression, anxiety or other form of mental illness will pick up a copy.

Special thanks to Netgalley.com and Thomas Nelson publishing for allowing me to read this book in exchange for my pure honesty. You will never know what this book has meant to me!
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Did you know Michelle was her second name?  Her first name is Tenitra.  One day, she knew she needed help so she checked herself into the hospital.  She learned to: check in with God, check in with you, and  check in with others.  Sounds easy, doesn’t it but that isn’t necessarily so.  Michelle learned that building walls around your feelings can hinder your healing, that joy can be, and one can live a happy life.  Before getting help, she was afraid of being a disappointment to others.

In this memoir, she wants people to not be ashamed to be in therapy.  She talks about the faulty thoughts that people have about mental health.  This is a book to show people how the help she received has help her.  Her journey of her fight against being depressed is real which made me interested in how she would deal with it.  It’s an excellent book to read.
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Life can be hard, rather you're living it in the public or feel like you're all alone. No matter where you find yourself, CHECKING IN by Michelle Williams is here to remind you of the importance of loving you and not forgetting yourself along the way.

The book is an open, honest look at depression, how we spiral out of control---but also how we can find ourselves again. I love how it shows that we might have good people around us, but that doesn't mean they are the RIGHT people that we need to love us and hold us accountable.

If you are ready to make changes and see the results mentally, emotionally and spiritually, CHECKING IN can lead you in the right direction.
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I did not finish this book. I read the first five chapters and lost interest. I was very interested in hearing about Michelle's journey through depression but I found it poorly written and poorly edited. There was also too much talk about God and the Bible for me personally.

Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for a digital copy in exchange for an honest review.
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CHECKING IN: HOW GETTING REAL ABOUT DEPRESSION SAVED MY LIFE---AND CAN SAVE YOURS.
BY MICHELLE WILLIAMS

This book was a quick read and was written by Michelle Williams. I came away from reading this memoir thinking how brutally honest Michelle is about her ups and downs in life. Her real name she tells us in the very beginning is Tenitra. Michelle is her middle name. This Grammy award singer wrote this book with the intent of helping others who have suffered from depression and anxiety. I never knew that Michelle had been through so much. I knew her as the person in the trio with Kelly and Beyonce that performed in the mega successful girl R&B band called Destiny's Child. I can remember clearly like it was yesterday the three singers exploding on the TV when they got back together and I loved their music.

Beyonce is someone that I hear about often. Michelle says that Beyonce's mother Tina actually gave Michelle her chance to become famous in the band Destiny's Child. I never knew that Michelle Williams had bouts of depression and anxiety. She says that one-fourth of the population suffers from those two mental illnesses and that she is sharing her life experiences in order to help others who feel isolated and alone. She is super honest which I respect. It takes strength to tell the world that things are not always as they appear.

She finds strength by having a relationship with God and often quotes Scripture as she tells her story. She shares that her mother and father had a lot of turmoil in their marriage and when people grow up in that environment it can really affect people. She was affected by it. But her message and reason for being so open and honest is to help others.

I wanted to read this because I was interested in Destiny's Child. I loved their music. I was surprised to read that Michelle Williams had been through such a frightening ordeal. One thing is for sure is that she has risen above her struggles. She talks about how close she and Kelly and Beyonce still are. This is not a tell all about Destiny's child about friction between them. Quite the opposite. She didn't want the band to break up but shares that when they went their separate ways to pursue solo careers that they went out on top.

Michelle shares about 2018 being a hard year for her. She shares about her reality Television show and broken engagement with Chad. After reading this book I feel like I really respect Michelle Williams for her courage. Her purpose for sharing her struggles is for others not to feel so alone if they experience what she has. I loved her philosophy about asking someone for forgiveness. She says that when asking for forgiveness you state how what it is you are seeking forgiveness for and having zero expectations for the outcome. To give people the space they need. I feel like she spoke a lot of truth about the human condition. I applaud her for her honesty and pure intentions of helping others.

Publication Date: May 25, 2021

Thank you to Net Galley, Michelle Williams and Nelson Books Thomas Nelson Publishing for providing me with my Arc in exchange for a fair and honest review. All opinions are my own.

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Michelle Williams gives an honest and raw account of her experiences dealing with depression and its effect on all aspects of her life. Even though she speaks candidly as a Christian woman and uses scripture, this book caters to anyone that is going through a rough time. The main premise is self awareness or checking in with yourself instead of just going through the motions. What I liked most about this book is the honestly, you can tell that these words are hers and not made to look fancy for a book. We know Michelle Willams as 1/3 of Destiney's Child, but I had no idea of her background and the things she's been through over the years. If anything it's made me admire her willingness to share her darkest moments in order to help others see things and make changes within themselves. For me, she definitely hit some raw topics in me and really made me think about how I approach things in the world and how I treat myself. She isn't forcing any beliefs on you, but simply inviting you to take a deeper look inward and to never give up on yourself.
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I usually first think of Michelle Williams as part of Destiny’s Child, which of course she was, but she’s also much more than that. Sidenote: I am still obsessed with the surprise DC reunion during Beyoncé’s 2013 Super Bowl halftime show — my favorite one! 

Checking In: How Getting Real about Depression Saved My Life—and Can Save Yours is Michelle’s memoir about her struggle and challenges with depression, which she hid for years. It took her a long time to reach out for help and acknowledge why she opted for some behaviors over others. She talks about the importance of quieting our fears against what’s actually true, our willingness to be vulnerable, and the importance of forgiveness, which is admittedly something I’ve often struggled with. 

”We do this, don’t we? We jump from point a to point z and we don’t even question it; we don’t take the time to check in and ask ourselves what’s true and what’s fear-based.”

“Being able to forgive others, ask for forgiveness, and forgive yourself is about you. It’s about checking in with your heart and not being tied to someone in a negative way.” 

No matter where you are in your mental health journey, one that’s not always a linear path, Checking In has helpful reminders — You Are Not Alone.
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I’ve loved Destiny’s Child growing up and Michelle Williams has come out with a autobiography/self help book about her journey through depression and how she made her way through it. It also offers some interesting insight into her career and personal life as well. It’s perfect if you are a fan of hers from the group of if you are looking for good advice book on someone battling there way through depression.
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What a special and important book. I am a huge Destiny's Child fan, and I always treasured following the band member throughout their careers since then. What a raw and honest book about Michelle Williams deciding to put herself first and give her mental health the attention it deserves. Thank you to NetGalley and Nelson Books for a copy of this book for an honest review.
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I'm always interested in other people's mental health experiences, celebrity status not required. It's such a common experience any more, especially in these pandemic days, that I appreciate when folks are willing to talk about it and share their experiences.
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This book was received as an ARC from Nelson Books, Thomas Nelson in exchange for an honest review. Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own.

I am a fan of Destiny's Child have seen some documentaries on MTV on Destiny's Child especially when Michelle was in the group and I remember her being energetic and outgoing but, after reading Checking In, I've learned that she kept all of her real emotions bottled up and "swept under the rug" so to speak and that made Michelle realize that she needed help mentally and emotionally. I have always admired Michelle when she was in Destiny's Child but after reading Checking In, I admire her even more now for her bravery and courage for checking herself into an institution and getting the help she needs, but checking in with herself in reminding herself what her true purpose is and as long as she believes that, she has no reason to feel any kind of negativity even when others surround her.

We will consider adding this title to our Biography collection at our library. That is why we give this book 5 stars.
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Did not finish this book. Wasn’t what I expected. Will leave average review for you. Thanks for the opportunity to give it a try.
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I’ve been following with Michelle’s journey since Destiny Child’s days and I can’t express my joy at receiving a copy of her book.
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In her first book, Michelle courageously shares the hidden secrets that nearly ended her life; the importance of her faith, family, and friends; and the lessons she learned about prioritizing her mental health. She is on a quest to increase mental health awareness and urges others to understand the importance of “checking in” with themselves, God, and others. Her candid, often humorous, and incredibly brave book will inspire readers who desire hope for their own difficult times.
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I love everything about this book, Michelle’s is transparent as she  shares her journey and experience with us. I love how she continuously point us to God truth and his presence .
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This is much more than a book to read, in each of the of chapter , Michelle’s own honestly propels me to check in with myself and  ask the hard questions.
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I didn't quite know what we readers would be getting here, but let me tell you! This book gave what it was supposed to give! Michelle is honest without telling all her and her folks' business, while doing her part to advocate for mental health awareness. 

Checking In pleasantly surprised me. Ms. Williams was a guest on my sorority's program about mental health awareness right before the book was released. I decided to register to drop in for a few and hear her. You know, see what was what. She was amazing! I loved her personality and knew I had to read this book. I'm glad I did!

This book is part memoir, part self-help. It does have a Christianity slant but she's not overly preachy. Religion doesn't take over the entire book. So if religion isn't quite your thing, you can skip/skim it and keep on pushing to the next paragraph. 

Additionally, for those y'all who wanna get in her business, yes, she discusses her relationship. For the record, I thought doing the show was a bad idea. Unless you NEED the money and your relationship is solid as a rock, chile, no. I digress..


Anyway, I appreciate Michelle's candor, vulnerability, and advice. If I don't do anything else now, I check in with myself, especially when I feel the crazy start to creep up. Listen, none of us are exempt from life. There will be ups and downs; there will be disappointments, grief. There will also be happiness. Check in with yourself; listen to yourself and your intuition. Seek help if you need it. There is no shame in taking care of your mental health. 

In short, I immensely enjoyed this book and recommend it. I learned a lot about Michelle. I identified with her, related to her, and hell, I like her! I'm so happy she decided to share her story. Sharing helps others, and you never know who you could be saving.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher, Thomas Nelson Books, for granting me an ARC to read and provide my honest review!
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I'll start by saying I am a huge Destiny's Child fan and I've long thought Michelle to be underrated and frankly, treated very unfairly. We've all seen the memes and the 'Beyonce, Kelly and the other one' references. She is a fantastic talent and I believe any true DC fan will know that. I was aware of her struggles as I follow her closely on social media and so was so happy to receive this copy of her book to review.

She is very honest throughout and so damn funny! I really laughed out loud several times. She is someone who seems very self-aware and knows her mistakes and is willing to admit to them. She gives some wonderful advice and I highlighted so many inspiring words and quotes from her. I found it very helpful. I read it in two days! I kind of thought it would be like the usual wishy-washy celebrity does a self-help book thing but it was completely different. I've read self-help books from actual professionals who gave me less helpful advice than Michelle does here!

I know she has strong faith and is a true believer in god, which I am not, so was a little worried that it may be too 'Bible' for me. And yes, she does quote the Bible and talk about God a lot, but it is never preachy and I found her quotes very helpful actually.

Yes, she mentions DC and the other girls but only briefly and if you are looking for celebrity gossip then you won't get any here. She respects her true friends and would never do Bey and Kelly like that. If you want some real talk about depression and anxiety and to know that even beautiful, wealthy, famous people suffer from it, then this is the book for you.

Frank, honest and well-written, I think Michelle may have found another talent as a great author!
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