These days, Facebook feels like an obituary. It is so normal to be surrounded by death during this pandemic, especially since many of them die without proper ways of saying goodbye. I’ve never really appreciated wakes and funerals until they have been restricted for public safety. How then do we deal with grief? You’ve Reached Sam offers a way to explore how our world changes after someone dies and how to live on when life does not follow our plans.

Though the main characters have been in a romantic relationship, this is not a love story. Julie and Sam could have been just friends and the story would not have changed much. With Sam’s death, Julie’s idea of the world–graduation, college plans, and life in Ellensburg–has changed drastically, and this time, she does not have the support of her probably greatest cheerleader.

I love how this book takes us through the very messy reality of loss: a rollercoaster ride that keeps changing its tracks after each loop every time you feel that you’ve reach the end. Unlike in other books, here there is no linear growth through the usual five stages of grief. In fact, none of these terms are mentioned at all. There are no neat labels, no checklist of behaviors boxing Julie’s experience. There are no expectations of what Julie should have accomplished X months after Sam’s death, but neither does the book ignore the very real consequences of neglecting some responsibilities.

Instead of achieving arbitrary milestones set by psychology textbooks, the book conceptualizes mourning as a collective activity. Everyone is learning how to navigate around the Sam-shaped hole in their lives–first by trying to fill it with vigils and other rituals of honoring, and later by self-appointed missions to carry out his legacy. I love that it does not attempt to erase Sam’s life, personality, and legacy, nor does it minimize him to the point of being a ghost or fever dream. It’s also interesting to note how these “Sam gaps” vary from one person to another and one circle to another, and how the characters try to resolve these differences by redefining their relationships with each other. This approach takes away the usual solo-flight/individual inner peace only; rather, this little community reshapes its network in a way that allows each member to recover from isolation and shock.

As much as I love slow-paced books and usually gel with them right away, it took me a while to get into this. It requires living in Julie’s head as she processes the world around her, and though the memories that she dredges up are thematically appropriate, these specific moments sometimes don’t add much to push the narrative format. The book then feels too bagged down by unnecessary emotional baggage, and the “Before” chapters can quite be dragging. I hate being duped into manufacturing sadness just for the sake of crying and I can’t help but think that the book is banking on a flood of tears to blur my eyes from the lack of depth in the narrative. I love it when flashbacks serve as foreshadowing for any kind of emotional struggle in the next chapters, yet it doesn’t seem the case for this book. The readers are treated to an extended tour around the Julie-and-Sam show, and although it’s fascinating to read about their cute adventures, it can be a bit tedious to read nothing new.

Since it’s very much a character-led story, I know how important it is to put myself in Julie’s shoes but honestly… I don’t like being in her head. She is a very flawed but realistic character, and her voice is quite distinct, but for some reason, I feel uncomfortable because I don’t personally agree with a lot of her life decisions 😅 [Note: I strongly advise against choosing a college based on your significant other’s decisions] It took Chapter 5 for me to be familiar enough with Julie’s mindset, and to be softer and more forgiving towards her.

At first, it’s tempting to reduce Julie’s identity to her relationship with Sam, but that isn’t the case here. In her memories, one can see that she has always been grounded with other interests: her relationship with her monm, her writing, her work in the book store, and so much more. She and Sam are a team, yes, but it doesn’t seem that she has lost herself entirely. She may have lost some connections to her hobbies that Sam brings to the table, but once she is able to get back on her feet, she is pretty much okay. She isn’t as isolated socially or wholly dependent on Sam as I first assumed, which is both a breath of fresh air and also a sad realization about many of the other contemporary books I’ve read–YA or otherwise.

Overall, I actually like this book. Though it has not reduced me to a puddle of tears from the prologue alone like with some other friends, I still appreciate its presentation of grief and loss. I think that if I were to read this in 2016 or 2017, I would have loved it more and sobbed my heart out so that Julie wouldn’t have to.

If you are struggling to mourn, then this might help you gain words to describe and validate what you feel. If you are at the cusp of a huge life transition that has suddenly been taken away from you by factors beyond your control, then you might find Julie’s actions understandable–not really acceptable, but very very relatable.

Whether our specific grief is represented well here or not, I hope that reading You’ve Reached Sam will be able to help you heal.

this is a very lovely story that deals with A LOT of grief. if you can't handle that, don't read this book. i knew what i had to expect, i still felt a bit overwhelmed and cried (that doesn't happen a lot to me while reading). it's sad. it's so sad, but it's beautiful, too.

this is not a book packed with action. the gentle writing style guides you through julie's journey trying to connect and let go of sam.

some parts weirdly reminded me of that part of twilight when bella is depressed because edward has left her, and then she keeps seeing him in her head. this definitely gave me the same vibes.

we've also got some nice representation: sam is japanese american and there's also two queer side characters (one is very minor though).

lastly, the ending felt a bit.. unfinished or rather underwhelming? it was predictable. nothing about this book is actually unpredictable, yet it still offers a journey worth taking, in my humble opinion. it's the beauty of a character-driven book!

tw: major character death, harassment

I picked up this book after seeing the beautiful art on the cover, and the writing was just as beautiful to go alongside of it.

If you like getting your heart broken by death trope, grieving and lost loves, not to mention those things combined making you cry multiple times almost like you're the protagonist of this novel, Julie, who recently just got her whole world shifted when her boyfriend, Sam, unexpectedly passes away, then this is a recommended book for you.

Dustin Thao's writing is so beautiful and so easy that I found myself so caught up to the point I didn't notice how far I was into the book until I was 3 sobs in and definitely worrying the other people I live with. Julie is a perfect protagonist in my opinion. I liked the fact she was not perfect, I liked the fact she had the reader rolling their eyes at her past and present actions. I liked how realistic she was as she struggled with her stages of grief.

Another positive of this book is that though Sam passes away very early in, you still get to know his character — through the phone calls and also with the flashes back into the past almost like a dream for Julie.

An amazing book overall with realistic descriptions of grief and loss and anger and all the other stages, at the same time as tackling a very stressful senior year of a teenager.

I've just finished reading this beautiful, emotional, sweet gem of a book that will pull on all of your heartstrings. At first everything starts out absolutely perfect for Julie and Sam. They are 17, in love, finishing up high school and working on their graduation plans, getting an apartment and their future together. Suddenly Sam is killed unexpectedly in an accident and everyone that knew him is devastated!

Everyone is sad and grieving, and they end up dealing with Sam's death their own way. Julie is so upset she didn't even attend Sam's funeral, or any of the vigils that people held for him. She is in her bedroom with tears, reminiscing the good times she had when Sam was still alive and she was looking at her cell phone, she calls his number just to hear his voice on voicemail again and, he picks up the phone from beyond! He says "Hello?" !! How is this possible?? From then she is somehow able to have several conversations with him about life before the accident, as well as the "what if's". Sam tells her she is to keep her conversations with him a secret, it is the "rules". Between Julie and Sam's ability to have those conversations, she is able to find better closure not only for herself, but for some other people as well, like her and Sam's best friend Mika, and Sam's family, especially his little brother Jimmy who was blaming himself, but shouldn't have been. There are some other things happen in this book too, but you will have to read it to find out.

I loved that Sam was able to have Julie go to some places that he wanted to show her but never got the chance to, and that he was able to direct her to some special gifts.

When it was time for Julie and Sam to find closure and say goodbye it was really emotional and sad, but also kind of okay. At least they got to have that last chance to talk, say things that were never said, and be able to move on.  Wouldn't it be nice if people could actually have such a chance in real life?


I would like to thank #NetGalley, the publisher, St. Martin's Books/Wednesday Books, and the author Dustin Thao for this eARC in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own.

It seems silly to state this because it seems like the obvious, but wow was the emotional book! You've Reached Sam follows protagonist Julie, as she griefs for her recently deceased boyfriend, Sam.

The story is told through analepsis, dream sequences, and the present, allowing the reader to glimpse at Sam & Julies love story, and how she is coping now that she is gone. Spoiler alert: not very well. Julie is so overcome with grief and guilt, that she throws away Sam's things and refuses to attend his funeral, determined that she just needs to try to forget about it and move on. It doesn't take her long to realise that things aren't that easy, and that she never wants to forget Sam . . . so she picks up her phone and dials him. He answers.

The phone calls provide a space for Sam and Julie to get one last goodbye. I found the conversations interesting and emotional, and I enjoyed being able to hear Sam's voice (I was hoping that the end would be like lol joke he's somehow risen from the dead!). I would have liked a bit more out of the phone calls than Julie just recapping her day at school, I wish they had more conversations between them, but the reminiscence about their past and their mutual grief about lack of future was an interesting dynamic to explore multiple types of grief - Sam's for his loss of life and everything that entails, their mutual future together, etc. Despite Sam's lack of 'page presence' he was the most intriguing character, and character I connected with the most. I felt his loss.

Although we as the reader spent the book inside Julie's head, she was hard to connect to. Now, I understand she was grieving, but during the flashbacks to her and Sam's relationship, I did struggle to see what he saw in her. Often I found she was selfish with him and bratty. He buy's her one bookend and she's like 'well where is the other one? That makes no sense' and he's like 'I couldn't afford it' (turned out he had saved it for a later date), and how she struggled to allow him to have relationships with other people that didn't involve her. I'm not sure this was meant to be painted as a picture perfect romance, it was about Julie's grief over all, and she did love Sam, but it wasn't a romance I was truly invested in because of the way she treated him.

I really did enjoy the writing style, and it captures your attention from the get go. The way the past plays sort of like a montage in a dream sequence, was really stunning and well written. Julie's grief felt very tangible.

I know some other readers seemed to have issues that it wasn't explained how Sam could connect with Julie from the afterlife, but I wasn't too bothered by that. I think any answer would've detracted from the main point of the story, and leaving it speculative was a good open ended move.

Overall, I really did enjoy (funny to say that!) this novel, and I recommend it to you if you want a good little cry one afternoon.

DNF. The story had a lot of potential but it honestly wasn’t going anywhere. There was no point or goal to the story at all. The whole story was the MC talking to her dead boyfriend while she just went on with her everyday things 🤷🏻‍♀️. I don’t usually DNF books but what made me do it was (if you are interested in content read “spoiler” which really isn’t that of a spoiler anyway)

.spoiler below! You’ve been warned :s


....that a character was homosexual. I was getting red flags from the beginning when the “dead boyfriends” guy best friend started acting wierd with his friend’s girlfriend saying how she smelled like him when she wore one of his shirts and then proceeding to act all eek. And then him telling her how she hated her for so long because she stole him from him 🙄..... pls note the “dead boyfriend” was straight so....



Yeah, kinda sucks because it sounded amazing and that cover is gorgeous but oh well. Thank you, next :)

This was a quick. It emotional read. I’m sure anyone that has lost someone close to them can relate to all that Julie is feeling and going through with the loss of her boyfriend. To be able to talk with those we lost one last time would be a gift. I think the author did a great job expressing this although, to be honest, there were some parts that confused me.
Overall, the books is worth checking out.
Thank you to Wednesday Books and NetGalley for the opportunity to read this.

Unpopular Opinion, I hated it. DNF @ 30%.The best thing about You've Reached Sam is the gorgeous cover, the artist did an amazing job on it. That's about the only positive thing I have to say.

From the very beginning it was a mess. The foundations weren't laid out for me to buy into the relationship. The prologue contains multiple shifting scenes that are trying to convince us how in love Sam and Julie are. It did nothing for me, it came across as more of an info dump instead of sincere memories that you could swoon over.

Maybe it wouldn't have been so bad if the only issue was I couldn't connect to them but frankly, their relationship was unhealthy. Julie has no other friends and she dislikes most of Sam's. "Sam grew up with them. They formed a close-knit group that used to hang out before I moved here. The group fizzled out a little once Sam and I started seeing each other." She blames his female friend Taylor for it but when she asks Sam why they don't like her he says it's because Taylor's dad drove a truck and Julie's dad drove an environmentally friendly car. The problem isn't about what kind of cars their parents drive or even the rest of Sam's friends, the problem is that Julie is self-centred and shallow. I have absolutely zero sympathy for her. She's cruel to other people who are grieving for Sam because with her it's not really about Sam. Her grief is more centred around the fact that she lost her boyfriend and no one else can apparently understand that.

The characters weren't the only problem I had with the book. I felt like how the author described the setting was misleading. Julie moved to Ellensburg from Seattle. She talks about hating the "Small Town" life. But when she's dramatically running in the rain she passes by the University and the 400 acre cemetery. What kind of "Small Town" has a University or a cemetery that can fit like half a million people ?! A quick Google search will tell you that Ellensburg has a population over 20,000 and according to Wikipedia it is a city. Rather minor compared to disliking the MC, and not caring about the relationship this book is focused on but it kept me from believing this story. If I can't buy into the setting or the character's there's nothing left to encourage me to continue reading.

I cannot recommend You've Reached Sam to anyone. I've written so much for a book I only read 30% of and I could still go on but I relent. If you're a fan of If I Stay or Your Name you'd be spending your time better by re-reading/watching them.

P.S No small business would hire two teenagers to do nothing because that means there's not enough business to afford keeping them on payroll. And no cafe would allow a employee to sit and talk to his crush for literally hours while he was on the clock. Even if it was tolerated, no decent human would make their co-workers pick up their slack like that, especially if they already had 5 breaks before their crush even arrived. If Sam was my co-worker I'd hate him.

Actual rating: 4.5

This book accomplished what it set out to. From the magnificent cover to the beautifully poignant prose, this was meant to be and is quite the tearjerker. Almost every chapter was downright emotional and I appreciated Thao's writing for that.

I do have a couple of holdbacks. While I shed a number of tears all throughout this book, I didn't get the complete sobbing I was expecting, so I was somewhat disappointed. There were a few moments that really made tear up and cry, but nothing quite punched me in the gut. Part of me thinks it's because I didn't read this in one sitting, but the other part feels like this really didn't do it for me.

One thing I didn't like was how all over the place the rules of the "magic" were. It was quite obvious to me that a bunch of random rules to how the calls worked were thrown into the story just for the sake of emotional impact which at some points weren't even followed.

Although clichés abounded in this book, I didn't mind them all too much since they did serve their purposes in terms of evoking nostalgia in the reader.

Another thing I didn't mind but might be a huge hiccup for some readers was the number of song references made in this book. I was only familiar with one of them, but for the rest, I was completely clueless as to how they sounded and was not in the mood to pause my reading in order to listen to the music. Perhaps on a reread I will do that to get the full immersive experience.

Overall, I still liked this story and look forward to reading more of Dustin Thao's work. This is quite an exceptional debut. Perhaps a story dedicated to Oliver as the main POV is in order?

This book hurt so good. I balled like a baby the majority of the book, but it was so worth it. I felt Julie’s pain as she morned for Sam. I am so glad I read this because it changed my perspective and my life. It makes me hold a little tighter to my loved ones and think fondly of the ones who have already passed. EVERYONE should read this book.

Special thanks to NetGalley and St. Martin’s Press for sharing this digital reviewer copy with me in exchange for my honest opinion.

I wasn't the biggest fan of the "If I Stay" series, but I am a fan of the anime film "Your Name". Honestly, I would say that this book is a good blend of both sources because it incorporates the contemporary and YA atmosphere from the former and the fantasy/magical realism from the latter.

The central theme of this book was grief, how Julie and those surrounding her dealt with it. You can tell that the way Julie dealt with it frustrated her friends, especially when she starts talking to Sam on the phone. It does get frustrating at times as she practically throws her life away to cling to mysterious phone calls. I did wish it didn't take Julie so long to realize what she was doing wasn't healthy, but then again people deal with grief differently, especially with her circumstances. She was blinded by the hope of these phone calls and her excuses to hide it was not helping her case. Some people around her believed that she was the cause of Sam's death and that she doesn't care that he's dead because she never really showed that she cared (i.e. attending his funeral). Eventually, when Julie comes to realization, things do wrap up quite nicely. I'm glad that she was surrounded and guided by a good group of supporting friends.

Overall, if you did enjoy the "If I Stay" series and "Your Name", I believe you will enjoy this as well.

I needed a good cry, so I figured I'd pick up You've Met Sam. And I guess it worked really well, because I'm DEVASTATED. I read the whole book in one sitting and I lost count of how many times I cried. This is such a beautifully sad book.

I can't believe I have to wait until November to own a physical copy!

Book Review for You’ve Reached Sam
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I don't know what to think, the synopsis seemed interesting. People compare the book with If I Stay and I liked that one, but it doesn't even come close to. But, the cover is beautiful.

I feel that something was missing in the plot development, it's told between past and present. In my opinion, the story focuses too much on the present rather than the past, and for that reason, I couldn't connect with Julie and Sam's relationship. On the other hand, if Thao's intention was to show us the feelings of loss and how hard it's to lose someone you love, he did it, the story has a sad, melancholic tone and when I finished it I felt that way.

Julie is a character who goes through the loss of someone she loves, I didn't get to connect with her, but I did understand how she felt and everything she was doing to overcome everything she was facing.

As I said before, I would have liked to see a little more of Julie and Sam's relationship in the past, if they had given me more of that, I would have given the book 4 stars.

~👑𝘚𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘬𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘕𝘦𝘵𝘨𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘞𝘦𝘥𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘉𝘰𝘰𝘬𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘈𝘙𝘊 𝘪𝘯 𝘦𝘹𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸!👑~

This didn't break me.
And I'm sad about that.

𝘙𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨: 🌟🌟🌟🌟⭐ 4.0

Being the smart, intelligent, soulless being that I am... you would THINK that I have a semblance of something in my head. You know what I have? ~static~ Ergo, why I went into this book LOOKING for a heart-rending, shattering, soul spilling story which would wake me up at dawn in reminiscence of its pain and make me bawl my eyes out.

#superhealthycopingmechanism

When I read a 'sad' story, I expect to be a sobbing mess by the end of it. Which I was. A mess that is. Sobbing, well, depends on how you take the term. There were slight traces of watery liquid which may be venom or tears (we'll never know) in my eyesperes, so of course, my nose was looking like Rudolph the Reindeer. Shout out to that guy, the first thing to make me cry. Thank you.

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙬𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙄 𝙢𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙠 𝙤𝙛 (𝙄 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬, 𝙢𝙚. 𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜. 𝙋𝙛𝙛𝙛𝙩𝙩𝙩𝙩) 𝙖𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙚𝙖𝙠 𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙠. I never grew to deeply love any of them, so their actions didn't affect me as much as I would've expected. This is not to say that they were bad, because they weren't, however, for me to adore a book I need to at least care for the background charcaters. See, they all had personalities, and they all had their own problems, but it was such a lukewarm relationship between them, I was left aghast as to why they weren't connecting more.

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙈𝘾 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙚𝙭𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙢𝙚𝙡𝙮 𝙞𝙣𝙛𝙪𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙨. And yes, I do understand her grief, and we all have different ways of coping with it (personally, mine is food and annoyance), but even before she lost someone whom she didn't deserve (*smirk), she was extremely whiny, and frankly not a very interesting person.
There.
I said it.
She was dull.
I shall hide now.

The thing is, I really wanted to like her as a person. I wanted to feel every inch of heartbreak, alas, I felt a small portion of that same emotion that I was craving to experience (again, why am I like this). I loved how strong she was at times, but it faded into nothing once I started realizing "dang, this girl is a piece of work". Why? Well because she couldn't keep promises, was sadly naiive and obviously didn't have the brain to begin to comprehend NOT TO TURN THE DANG PHONE OFF. One scene, y'all. ONE scene. And she messed it up.

𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙢𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙈𝙀 𝙪𝙥? 𝙎𝙖𝙢. Wow, such a smart decision from yours truly! Who would've thought that Booksy would've fallen for a dead guy.


I thought that. Because I frighten myself sometimes. I'm that idiot that falls for the guy who dies in movies. The kind of idiot that clearly smacks against the glass because she didn't see it. The kind of IDIOT that got her heart shattered at the end of this book. That was one of the few moments in this story which physically hurt me. And I don't know what to feel about that.
This guy was so utterly sweet, and emotionally gorgeous (it's a thing). The way he spoke, and acted. The amazing relationship he had with his parents, how he was the bestest friend, and especially how he tolerated the MC for three years. I could NEVER. All of those tiny things mounted together and sprinkled with slight mentions of death, all of them made me connect with him way more than the rest of the characters mentioned in this book. I wouldn't say that I truly fell in love with him, because I didn't have the time, but I will say that he was an amazing boyfriend and an amazing reason to be emotionally numb for.

The rest of the characters as previously mentioned, didn't do much for the story, and I would've loved for it to be otherwise. Alas, not all happily ever afters are possible.

𝙎𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙛 𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙞𝙡𝙮 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙖𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙧, 𝙡𝙚𝙩'𝙨 𝙩𝙖𝙡𝙠 𝙖 𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙡𝙤𝙩.(y'all see that transition? It took me four hours to get it right *snort*) It was staggeringly well done, of course, some small inconsistencies peeved me but I can say that I enjoyed it immensely. The intersecting memories, the heartbreak imbued into each sentence and word, the surprising connection between past/present/dream/reality left me gobsmacked and flodding my GR updates with "OH MY GOSH, OH MY GOSH, I KNEW IT". Which I deeply apologize now. *snort* I adored the way my soul shattered at the ending pages and absolutely loved the fact that I sat in shock for awhile after that.

𝙏𝙝𝙧𝙚𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙄 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙮𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚:
1. It made me sad at times.
2. It made me frustrated at other times.
3. Ultimately all ended in me feeling numb. (and dumb, but mostly numb)

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙡𝙨𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙙𝙚 𝙢𝙚 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙣𝙪𝙢𝙗 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙞𝙩 𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙨𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨. Also, it was so dang quotable.
And it doesn't help that the ARC sample looked like this. (I couldn't quote so bear with me, please)

If I could put washi tape on E-Arcs, trust me, I would've found a way.

𝙇𝙚𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙛𝙛 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙖 𝙨𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚:

It basically called me single in 678902938476478 languages.
And I kind of feel okay with that.
H̶a̶!̶ ̶N̶o̶ ̶I̶ ̶d̶o̶n̶'̶t̶.̶ ̶I̶'̶m̶ ̶n̶o̶t̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶m̶a̶t̶u̶r̶e̶.̶

𝐎𝐧 𝐚 𝐜𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐞, this book had a lot to give, and I feel like it worked well with what it had (make of that what you will *snickering*). It was a nice 'sad' read, and I hope that it's a testament to the book not being sad enough that I didn't cry and not because I am a stone rock. Which slightly works, but I identify as smudgy pretzel.
All in all, it was entertaining, and I think if it had better character building, I would've enjoyed it a hecka lot more.
I still want to throw whatever the heck the MC's name was, under a truck.

𝐈 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐝 this book to those who are slight masochists and want to feel something, once in a while. Who obviously want to tear up in the last chapter and come on, if you don't like it, I can read your rants! Oh, And you could maybe skip all the MC's lines. They are of no consequence.

𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐫: 𝐀𝐧𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐬𝐚𝐢𝐝 𝐮𝐩 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐨𝐰𝐧, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐦𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐞𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐫𝐬 𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐨𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬, 𝐬𝐨 𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐢𝐭 𝐟𝐢𝐱𝐞𝐝!

My awesome friend and I changing the name of this book never fails to remind me, woah. We're a different kind of special.

𝐇𝐞𝐫:
Son of Sam
Bye Bye Sam
Hey Sam, it's Me
Sam yo it's your homie
Sam I miss your face
I Miss You Sam, it's Sheila
Sam I miss you

𝐌𝐞:
Calling Sam, Please Hold
Sam this is the voicemail
Running with Sam
Sam is you present
Sam, where art thou?
Sam, get yo food

𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘰𝘰𝘰, 𝘪𝘵'𝘴 𝘮𝘦. 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘸𝘰𝘰𝘰𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘧 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘳𝘳 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘥 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘦𝘦𝘦𝘦𝘦𝘵. 𝘚𝘰𝘳𝘳𝘺, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘰𝘰 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴.

[𝙁𝙤𝙧 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙛𝙪𝙣 𝙚𝙭𝙩𝙧𝙖 𝙨𝙝𝙚𝙣𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙜𝙖𝙣𝙨, 𝙫𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙗𝙡𝙤𝙜 𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙠!]

Are you looking for a book that is going to make you sad and possibly reflective for days on end? Do you want your heart wrenched out of your chest?

Well do I have the book for you! This book.

Julie's life was drastically altered when her boyfriend Sam dies. A year after her death she still seems to be frozen in time. Grief (and maybe a little denial kept her from attending his funeral. And a year later, it's the same feelings that keeps her from visiting his grave with her friend.

So when Julie impulsively phones his number just to hear his voice via his voicemail, she's shocked when he picks up. He can't tell her how it came to be or where he is (let's just call it the after life), but he desperately wanted a chance for them to say a proper goodbye. Obviously Julie isn't ready to do this so Sam tells her that they don't have to say goodbye until she's ready.

If this ever happened to me I honesty think I'd be with Julie and just start crying in a cafe too because I can only imagine how it would feel after a year of not having someone in your life, because they're dead, to be able to talk with them again. Would you say your proper goodbye there and then? I think I would. Mostly because I don't think I could handle talking to someone I know I have to let go of at some point.

Julie, however, keeps talking to him and basically tears that wound open and keeps it fresh all while debating if she should reveal her secret to other people and risk that precious connection she has with him. Though it seems to be more of a 'if you have a deep gash in your leg the doctor's keep it open in order to force the body to fill in that hole with some new tissue and not have it develop a major and dangerous blood clot' type deal for Julie. With Sam's help, she does make some progress on moving forward and opening up a little to those around her after more than a year of pretty much shutting them out and disassociating due to the trauma of losing Sam so suddenly. Disassociation is a very real thing people.

So, if you are looking for an emotional read that will exquisitely drag you down into the dumps of the feels (because let's be honest, every now and then most of us wants to read one of those books) this is probably the book for you. Just be warned that the pace is fairly slow, as it should be when reading about a young woman in the throws of grief. That ending though...maybe grab some tissues.

Some things to note as possible triggers: Grief, Death of a Loved One, Depression, Bullying

A HUGE thank you to NetGalley, St. Martin's Press, and Dustin Thao for sending me an eARC of this book in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.

Wow. I was immediately intrigued when I saw the cover for this book, and then after reading the synopsis I knew I had to read it. This book was right up my alley, everything I'd hoped for and then some.

This book was so heartbreakingly beautiful. This book is for anyone who's lost someone and never got their chance to say goodbye, or just anyone who's ever grieved over someone.

Julie's character was so raw and real, and I loved that Thao did such a great job touching on how everyone's grieving process is different. Everyone deals with death and loss differently, and I loved how that was shown throughout, with Julie, his friends, his family, and those whose lives Sam touched.

As someone who's lost a very close friend in a car accident, this book definitely hit home and I cried endlessly throughout this book. It hurt so good, and I will say that this book is not for the faint of heart, it's very emotional and heavy, and deals with a lot of raw emotion.

Thank you Net Galley for an ARC of You've Reached Sam. This is a young adult romance. Julie and Sam are still in Highschool when Sam suddenly dies. Julie starts communicating with him on her phone, Giving them both a chance to say goodbye. Three stars.

It's been a while since I've cried while reading a book. You've Reached Sam left me heartbroken. Dustin Thao's style in writing is articulate and the opposite of boring. He wrote words that would effectively pull the heartstrings of the readers. I love the way he wrote his characters. Sam and Julie feel like real people that you know, that you've met because of the way you feel about them. Thao didn't make them unrealistic. His portrayal of grief and vulnerability is on-point. This book would make you feel sad, heartbroken, happy, and hopeful. Hopeful, not because you'd hope that Sam would magically come back, but because you would feel that hope in you as you go down the book that Julie and Sam would get their 'closure' and would get to move forward. Also, I love that he emphasizes the misconception of moving on, that 'moving on' means 'forgetting' that person. I really applaud him on that part because moving on isn't forgetting about that person and your memories of them. Instead, moving on should be moving forward all the while still thinking about that person from time to time and remember them as they are.

Dustin Thao is a genius for writing this masterpiece. I anticipate to read more of his future works. :)

You’re Reached Sam- hydrate thoroughly before reading this, because you will definitely be sobbing! If you enjoyed the film Your Name then you’ll want to pick this book up. I was immediately drawn in by the gorgeous cover. Julie is a high school student abruptly heartbroken when her boyfriend Sam dies in a tragic accident. Julie wrestles with her grief and sadness, desperately missing Sam and struggling to process her feelings. When she calls Sam’s phone simply to hear his voicemail message, Sam answers. I don’t want to say too much more, I’d rather just place a copy in your hand!

You’ve Reached Sam felt so visceral and real. Sam and Julie extend a hand to everyone who has ever had a loss in their life that they felt they could never move on from. You’ve Reached Sam filled me with nostalgia, joy, and sadness. Thao imparts bittersweet, poignant lessons about grief. The prose conveys the sense of watching a vibrant movie, with sweeping emotion and crescendos. If you’re the type of reader who would like to be curled into a ball by the end of a book, sobbing, screaming “my emotions!!” then you must check this out! You’ll be very glad you did. I absolutely recommend this heartfelt and moving story about grief and love. I’m excited to see what Dustin Thao writes next! You’ve Reached Sam releases November 2, 2021. Thank you so much to Dustin Thao, Wednesday Books, and Netgalley for a free ARC in exchange for an honest review.