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How to Talk When Kids Won't Listen

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Love anything that Joanna Faber puts out! Instantly added to cart and read. Such great insight! I always love the real life examples provided - it makes it so much more practical.
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Great parenting advice, especially for those tense times when your kids are driving you nuts. Practicing some of the recommendations presented in this book and they work.
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I have a spirited son who is continously getting in trouble both at home and at school.  It is really easy to place blame and start shouting when he refuses to listen. This book made me realize that I'm making things worse with my reactions. I love that this book not only gives you solutions to common problems but also gives you opportunities to practice with various scenarios. Although some of the ideas are similar to previous books for babies, the examples are geared towards older kids. I love that I can always come back to this book to remind me that my children are their own individuals and should be treated as such. As parents, we all need to be reminded sometimes.
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As a long-time advocate of consensual living and respectful/peaceful parenting, Faber and Mazlish’s books have long been in my recommendations for parents. Their book, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk is a staple for many parents who need a fast read and easy explanations into getting into a new mindset. Joanna Faber, daughter of the famed Adele Faber, along with Julie King, is expanding on her mother’s previous series. If you are looking for another book in line with the original Faber and Mazlish books, Faber and King’s books are a welcome addition. There isn’t anything truly groundbreaking in the newer editions. Much of the same information is covered. However, with new examples and additional reading, these will likely appeal to new parents looking for answers.
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Very helpful book with advice I can easily apply. The first section covers basic communication tools. Part 2 goes into real-world examples, broken into sections on Getting Through the Day, Unnecessary Roughness, Anxiety/Fears/Meltdowns, Bad Attitudes, Conflict Resolution, Bedtime & Bathroom Battles, Touchy Topics, and Troubleshooting. Hopefully a reader won't need the entire book, but the section you so need is specific, helpful, and talks about what has worked for others in a similar situation.
This is a great parenting book that doesn't get bogged down in rehashing research findings but instead jumps into helpful and actionable advice to better communicate with your kids.
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This book is very similar to the other How to Talk books, but with different examples. At first it was hard for me to get into this book as the beginning shares concepts from previous books. The second section gets into new examples.

While the authors do acknowledge that there is not one right response I wish they had dove deeper into “when kid’s won’t listen.”  For example in Chapter 13 Name-Calling and “Bad” Language they briefly touch on how to respond if you are feeling overwhelmed or dysregulated. This was really helpful and I would’ve liked more detailed explanations. 

If you are new to the How to Talk books I recommend starting with a different book. If you have read the other books and think more examples would help you then this book might benefit you. 

I received this book in exchange for an honest review from NetGalley
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4 stars

Full of useful information for anyone who works with kids and has communication struggles.

I voluntarily read an advanced copy.
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Thank you, Netgalley and the publisher, for the opportunity to read an arc version of this book!

I am not a parent/guardian; however, as a teacher, I was interested in learning more about the research on communicating with and raising children. Of course, some sections were more relevant than others for my context (ex. When Kids are Completely Unreasonable vs Potty Power Struggles). This books uses graphics/comics to their advantage! The scenario-based cartoons highlight different strategies that adults tend to use when speaking to children and illustrate how our words might be perceived (ex. Comparison, Philosophical Lecture, Advice, Denial of feelings), all in an effort to “give kids some perspective”. And the tools! Shout-out to the authors for making sure that the tools and tips come early on in the book, this is a definite text that I would like a paper copy of to go back and mark up and reflect on more extensively.
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Thanks to Netgalley and Scribner for the ARC of this in exchange for my honest review. 

I read How to Talk So Little Kids will Listen last year, and really liked it and found that after a year I was really needing a refresher and planned to reread it, since we've been going through some serious meltdowns and refusal to listen ending in yelling lately. When I saw this was coming out, I decided I had to request it instead. It doesn't seem complicated, in theory, but I find in practice I do well for part of the day with these tools - as I get worn down by previous issues, I start to lose my cool and my kids moods tend towards worse as we get to just before dinner. I think I will be rereading these more often to see if that helps it to sink in as reflex to use the tools, instead of something that I put effort into as long as I can. My favorite part of these books is that there are real life examples of children and parents interacting, in "traditional" ways and then following the "rules" that Faber and King put forward - something they work perfectly, and sometimes there is just progress, and I think that keeps it from being disheartening if it doesn't make our days instantly easier, to know that it was a process for someone else. Definitely a book I will want to own to reference and would recommend to parents.
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I've read the other "How To Talk" books by Faber and this one was very similar. She provides practical information that people can easily implement. Thanks to the publisher and Net Galley for a copy of this book in exchange for my opinions.
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I received a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. 

I read another book by this author and it was wonderful and extremely helpful. So I had high hopes for this book. I am happy to report that this book lived up to my high expectations.
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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk was, I think, the very first parenting book I ever read and it was way before I became a parent. It was handed out at a babysitter training course, and skimming through it, I found it vaguely interesting but not at all relevant to my life. Seeing this book on NetGalley immediately piqued my interest since the subject definitely applies now. I also like to collect parenting and child development books as part of my therapy practice, so this was a win all around!
This book keeps the same general tone as the others, and remains helpful in that it breaks down caretaker-child interactions into their smallest sections and also provides readers an opportunity to quiz themselves on the best course of action in different situations. It's an easy read that a busy parent can chip away at little by little.
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How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen, Listen so Little Kids Will Talk is one of my favorite parenting books.  I recommend it to all my friends and family who have kids.  When I saw Joanna and Julie had a new book coming out, I knew that I would read it.  Especially when I have a child, who despite using the techniques in their first book, does not listen often.

The first part of the book is a small recap or reminder of the important topics discussed in their first book.  Acknowledging feelings, engaging cooperation, offering choices, problem solving, praise etc etc etc.  The second part of the book provides more examples of how to put these techniques into practice. To be honest, it was more or less an extension of their last book.  Only there are more examples of how to apply these skills in your parenting.  The examples are more specific and therefore more helpful. I found it useful because if a parent is having an issue with a particular battle, like sharing or homework then can flip to that specific chapter for tips.

I love the writing style of these two authors.  It has great flow and they provide plenty of examples of how to put this into practice and when/how it worked for others. Each section ends with a recap which is helpful.  The writing isn't dry or hard to follow which can be common in other parenting books.  The way the book is formatted makes it easy to skip the sections that don't apply to you at the time.

I won't lie, while I enjoyed reading this book, I kept saying in my head "but what about a kid like mine?  A kid who really doesn't respond well when I acknowledge his feelings which doesn't allow me to put the other skills into practice" and then they had a whole section for me which was titled "Troubleshooting" There was some good ideas that I could try to put into practice in the future with my challenging child.

Overall, I really enjoyed this book and the authors get another 5 stars from me.  I feel like this book is coming out at the perfect time.  After being home with my kids for the last 16 months because of COVID, I realized that I had defaulted away from acknowledging feelings and engaging cooperation. I slipped back into some of the ways I used to parent before reading their first book. This book kind of gave me a bit of a reboot which I am grateful for. It was a refreshing read and makes me feel rejuvenated when it comes to parenting some of the challenging behaviors .  

Thank you to NetGalley and Scribner for the advanced readers' copy in exchange for my honest review.  This book comes out August 3rd!
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I am a huge fan of the series and use it in my clinical practice so much I buy the original book in bulk. Having said that, I am not sure this one presents any new information. The title is catchy and may appeal to the new audience but, ultimately, the material is not new. I doubt I will recommend this. I am still a fan of the original.
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I have the original book upon which this one is based and find it very helpful. This book in particular has opened my eyes in many ways. What I loved:
It’s really accessible and easy to dip in and out of.
It provides concrete solutions to typical issues arising from children. 
It makes sense!
Highly recommend this one for parents/teachers/childminders etc.
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These books are popular for a reason! I found this latest addition to be insightful, helpful, and full of great examples and interesting advice. Highly recommend
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I was a huge fan of How to Talk When Little Kids Won't Listen, and this follow-up didn't disappoint. It's nice that there are tips and tricks presented that caregivers can access at different stages of kid's lives. The work of these ladies is, as it always has been, very approachable and funny! As one of my childcare providers once said- we do what works for as long as it works, and then we have to find the next thing that works. These books will always be helpful for caregivers who need to find the next thing that works!
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Admittedly I am the parent who read every parenting book from birth to preschool, however, life and parenting has left me with the realities of my lived experience, and less time for reading parenting how to's. That is until I discovered this book -it's written in a way that is easily digestible, and has practical tips &tricks for navigating sibling challenges, communication struggles & defiant kids . This is definitely going to be a resource I will frequently look to  & gladly recommend to friends/parents. 

Many thanks to netgalley for the advance copy
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I have found this book to be very helpful so far. I keep going back to different sections and re-reading and re-establishing the tips and tricks. I think this is a very helpful resource for anyone with children in their day to day life. 

Thank you to NetGalley and the Publisher for this ARC!
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I was so excited to receive this book. I loved her past work and this did not disappoint! The characters were so well established, and the book didn't feel like anything else I've ever read. Loved it!
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