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Your Father has Something to Tell You

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This book tells the story of Mark and his family and the secrets an adult son can uncover as he helps his aging parents come to terms with the realities of losing independence with age. Spanning across a couple of years, Mark's parents go from living together in a house a plane-ride away from him to both parents struggling to manage with increasing levels of care, until Mark moves to be closer to them, care homes and hospital stays are arranged, and eventually both parents pass away. I think that a lot of readers would connect with Mark and his changing relationship with his parents, as this is something that many people have to deal with as their parents age. The family secrets that slowly make their way to the surface also are part of this "new reality" and changing situation, because all of the things parents hide from their children eventually become less and less scandalous, and more and more important as memories fade and time runs out.

The book really reads like a memoir, but it is a fictional story - a point the author argues and tries to prove in his author's note at the end of the book. The family secrets are relatively mellow and one is quite predictable, so I didn't find them a driving force behind the unraveling story. Also, neither was purposely revealed but rather sort of stumbled upon. Really the title probably should have been something like: "your father doesn't want to tell you something about his past but you might figure it out anyway". I also felt like the flashbacks to his childhood were kind of unnecessary. In some instances they added context to the situation, but often I felt they were just filling time and not adding anything super relevant to the storyline. I also thought it was a bit odd how adamant the author was about this not being a memoir and felt that the author's note was almost like an unnecessary epilogue that changes the feel of the end of the story. I get it, you made this up, you don't need to convince me! Other than that it was a pretty good book, not super riveting but a good length and a very realistic storyline that many readers will connect with. Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for giving me the opportunity to read and review this book.

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This fictional memoir is one of the best that I have read in a long long time.I could easily relate to Mark and his sister,as my home life in the 50's was very similar.
I too discussed with.my parents more than once about their drinking,but was always assured that it was under control and anyway all their friends were doing it.

Both he and his sister had their children raised and both had busy jobs,but managed to spend as much time with their elderly parents as they possibly could.
The mother dying from complications from dementia and losing their father a yr.later to heart failure made for a tearful story at times,but there was also a lot of shit and giggles.This seems to be extra special when it involves your parents.

Thank you to NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review this book.and author "Dave Riese" for writing it.
Do yourself a favor and pick up.a copy,you will thoroughly enjoy it !

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These by memoirs drew me in from the start. The honest depiction of the writer’s relationship and challenges faced with elderly parents echoed my own experience. I was in turn smiling and crying.. This was definitely an emotional read for me, which I would definitely recommend.

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Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for providing this book in exchange for an honest review.
Reading this book, I had to keep reminding myself that it's a fictional story. It could very easily pass as a memoir. The story is very realistic and believable. Taking care of aging parents is something a lot of us can relate to. And every family has some sort of dysfunction or secrets that, when they are dealt with, make the care of family that much easier.
Overall, this is a relatable book. It did move kind of slow for a fictional story but it was a pretty good book.

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This is an interesting book about the evolving relationship between a father and son over time. Told from the son’s point of view, although fiction, the book reads like a memoir. While I was initially disconcerting by the back and forth between the present and the past (I initially found the transitions awkward), I soon realized that this was a critical literary device necessary to tell the story. Highly recommended.

I received this book as an ARC from the publisher and NetGalley.

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I was granted a free copy of this text by Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. This is a run-of-the-mill book about how families grow and change over time. Having to care for elderly family members made this a more emotional experience than most readers will, but it was good to read regardless.

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I received a complimentary copy of Your Father has Something to Tell You from NetGalley.  Opinions expressed in this review are entirely my own.

This one was unique and interesting—depicting many plausible family secrets of days gone by. This one was a slow burn without much action, but I was expecting most of the bigger secrets that were revealed. The daily caregiving routines of an older relative were pretty realistic and as such may be quite unfamiliar to younger readers.

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Calling Dave Riese's "Your Father Has Something to Tell You" a pleasant book to read isn't really giving credit to the hurt and struggles that are portrayed within. However, it's pleasant in the sense that it's low-key, readable, and is mostly just the tale of a typical family.

As even the author mentions, it reads very much like a memoir, and I found myself wondering throughout if this was a novel based on his life, although he denies this. If Dave Riese ever does write a memoir, I feel that it will follow this same format exactly!

This crux of the story is how a married man deals with the aging of his mother and father, as they decline in health. Very true-to-life, as he and his wife and sister contemplate how to navigate the intricacies of children becoming the care-givers to their parents. There are a couple of interesting secrets that emerge, but the author treats these matter-of-factly, as do the characters in the book when the secrets emerge. Actually, one of the secrets gave me pause, and caused me to drop the rating a star, only because the characters treated it more nonchalantly than I thought realistic. I agreed with the way the situation was handled overall, but there was less of a surprise factor than I thought would have naturally occurred.

As mentioned above, I thought the book was pleasant, although if I had been 10 years older than I am now, I would have found it immensely depressing, as I would then be closer to the parents' age. I definitely would not want to read it then, knowing how difficult the choices were that the children made.

Three stars, and thank you to NetGalley for a copy of this book in change for my honest review.

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Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for the Kindle ARC. I didn't know anything about this book when selecting it. I'm always up for a great read about dysfunctional families and childhood mental abuse - I can relate. I desperately wanted to be engrossed and astounded by this story, but found myself drifting and skipping ahead. The main character, Mark, and his sister Leslie are in the lives of their parents at the end of their lives. Mark describes verbal abuse and psychological abuse that he suffered as a child but doesn't provide examples of that abuse. His father comes across as a product of his generation - gruff, inappropriate comments to his children. Both parents are alcoholics. I think the thing that made this story disappointing to me is that, although, Mark says he was emotionally abused as a child, he and his sister are greatly saddened by the loss of both parents. Hard to believe that a person who suffered that much abuse would be heartbroken and the loss of the abusers.

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