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Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited

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I had read this book when it was first published as Juli Slattery and decided to read the updated version. I found the updated version as great as the initial reading and related to her advice in new ways as wife of 20 years as I did as a young wife. The reader is reminded that it's normal for wives and husbands to live see life differently. The author helps wives find the good in their husbands and how to strengthen their marriage with God's help. This is a great book for wives of all stages.
I received a complimentary copy of this book through NetGalley, but all opinions are my own.
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This book has a lot of really good info for wives who want to encourage their husbands. I enjoyed the east writing style and relatability of the book.
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As someone who desires to start a family of her own someday. Books like this are helpful for preparations. Dr. Juli Slattery breaks down with relatable stories how as women we can build our husbands and develop intimacy in marriage with helpful tips to working out conflicts.
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Intimacy isn't just about what happens in the bedroom. I'm a big fan of Dr. Slattery's podcast, and reading her writing was just as encouraging. If you're in a healthy marriage and looking for ways to make it stronger, more intimate, and more fun, this book is worth a read!
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In Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Dr. Juli Slattery helps married women to improve their relationships with their husbands. This is done by good advice and sound Biblical advice as well. I think this book is good for all women -- whether they are engaged to be married, newly married, or have been married for many years already. This book was easy enough to read while still challenging the reader in the right way.
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I am learning so much from Dr. Juli Slattery. I've highlighted much of the text to read and re-read. This book is changing some of my thinking and beliefs. My husband is noticing postive changes in me. I recommend this book for married women who want to improve their relationship with their husbands.
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At some point, I think each of us say, “enough with the self-help books!” However, when it’s on a topic that we all can improve on and at some point need help with, this book rates top. The author presents an open and honest look at the reality of life in marriage and helps us strip off the facade so many couple put on. Keeping our relationship vibrant and fresh, along with cultivating Christ at the center of my life and in my marriage relationship brings the needed perspective us self-centered humans always default to…”what about me?”…
It is easy to read, down-to-earth, and appropriate for reading before and during marriage (for a reminder!) no matter how long you’ve been married!
Highly recommend this kind-hearted approach to the topic of mutual respect and adoration in marriage!
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Let's get one thing established here first. I like to see who wrote the book that has the potential to influence me. Juli Slattery is a widely known clinical psychologist, author, and broadcast media professional with over 25 years of experience counseling and teaching women. She is known for her commitment to biblical principles and is a highly sought after speaker. She was the former co-host of the Focus on the Family Broadcast and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, an international non-profit designed to minister to women. Well, I believe the author knows what she is talking about!

In my opinion, this book should be read by every woman to prepare for marriage and by every woman who wants to improve their relationship with her husband. Even after more than 30 years as a wife, I found that I needed to be reminded of some of the "best practices"!

I found a couple of the chapters a harder read. For example, I think I will have to reread the chapter on submission. But I really liked the way the author described what submission means. It was like a light bulb went on in my head!

Overall, a biblically sound book for every Christian woman who wants the best for her marriage.
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"Finding the Hero in Your Husband" is a book which I have recommended and bought for others over the years. I am excited about this "Revisited" edition. Juli shares examples of her own marriage as wells as others examples throughout the title. I will continue to recommend this book to others.
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I've read many marriage books written from the Christian perspective, and most range from shallow and unhelpful to theologically suspect or outright harmful. I grew up in a home with spousal and child abuse, and I experienced the harm that comes from that kind of teaching being used to pressure women into staying in unsafe marriages. In Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Dr. Slattery makes no allowances for abuse and pointedly denounces the misuse of Scripture to enable abusive behavior toward women and children. She does a wonderful job of blending clinical psychology and sound biblical teaching to provide wisdom and guidance for women in safe marriages. She employs higher level theological and psychological concepts while also offering practical tools, all with the aim of helping wives understand their God-given role and influence.
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Synopsis: “Do you know that you have a lot of power in your marriage? Your power is a dynamic tool that can be used either to build intimacy or sabotage it.” While the title talks about finding the hero in your husband, really this book is all about your role as a wife and using that role in a godly way. It covers a variety of topics including different marriage roles, intimacy, career, and family life just to name a few. Dr. Juli Slattery brings married women solid, Biblical truth in her book, Finding the Hero in Your Husband.

Analysis: If you’re looking for a small handbook on marriage, this book is an excellent place to start! Reading through it I felt like I was sitting down with Dr. Juli Slattery and having a cup of coffee. Yes, she’s professional, but she’s easy to listen to and kind. She gives excellent biblical advice in a practical manner. And to be really transparent, I felt like she was speaking directly to me in every chapter! As someone still young in my married life, this book gave me tons of tools and tips to work on to improve my role as a wife and my relationship with my husband. I’d highly recommend this one for all wives seeking a godly marriage! 

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I've had the pleasure of hearing Dr. Slattery speak at conferences more than once and read the earlier edition of this book many years ago.  My husband and I are in a different season in our marriage now, our kids are older, but this time reading it was no less impact than the first.  Regardless of where you are in your marriage, I strongly recommend this as a way to reconnect, reignite and most important, realign your one with Christ at it's center.
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This book is all about how to use your power and influence in your marriage to build your husband up, not beat him up (even unintentionally). She discusses how men work, what they need, and how they differ from us ladies. This helps us know how to love, serve, and encourage them the best!

I love that she uses Bible texts throughout the book to not only explain God’s big picture design for marriage but also how we navigate the specific day to day issues of communication, intimacy (inside and outside the bedroom), conflict, past experiences, etc.

Slattery does a good job of being very specific about what the Bible teaches. She’s done her homework to make sure what she’s teaching aligns with God’s word - which makes what she has to say all the more powerful because it is timeless wisdom from the God who made us, loves us, and designed marriage.

Slattery shows how our femininity is a strength and an asset to our marriage and that strong men have their leadership made better by supportive, strong, respectful, loving wives. She anticipates readers’ potential questions and answers them carefully and thoroughly. 

I hope this doesn’t come out badly, but I don’t often enjoy Christian nonfiction written by women especially about “women’s issues” - but I truly enjoyed this book and recommend it to any wife no matter how long you’ve been married.

Thank you to @netgalley for the eARC!
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Finding the Hero in your Husband provides both a great Biblical foundation as well as practical knowledge. I love how the author speaks to all readers and doesn't offer a perfect marriage but steps towards intimacy in your marriage and points towards intimacy with Christ as the goalm
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Thank you to Health Communication Inc and NetGalley for allowing me to read this book. My thoughts are my own.

 As a word of introduction, I first heard Dr. Slattery on a radio broadcast. Since then, I've listened to her podcast and read several of her books. 

In fact, I jumped at the chance to read Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited. Hers is a voice of Biblical reason in an ever-changing culture.

While reading, I remembered who I was as a young bride. In fact, I recalled the good and the bad of those early years. Looking back, I hope I have grown since then!

That's not to say I didn't get anything out of reading it as a wife of 18 years. Rather, I highlighted substantially, knowing that I am always learning. I read areas that convicted me of attitudes that need to change. 

This book touches specifically on all aspects of marriage. Topics include communication, physical intimacy, submission and boundaries. Again, she even discusses difficult subjects, and as a result touches on abuse and addiction.

After reading this book, I recommend that every wife read it. No matter what stage she is in. It would be the perfect gift for a bridal shower. Additionally, this would be a great book to read in a small group or counseling setting.

Why You Should Read This Book
After five years of marriage, Dr. Slattery decided to write the first version of Finding the Hero in Your Husband. Imagine that! I don't think I was anywhere near ready to write a book on marriage 13 years ago. Even today, I still don't think I could! 

In contrast, Dr. Slattery took the challenge. 

Now, after 20 years, she has returned, with an extensive rewrite that incorporates her life experience as a wife, as well as a seasoned counselor. To me, this represents the best of both worlds. First, we can see Dr. Slattery as a young bride, encouraging wives to celebrate their husbands' qualities as a younger woman. We can also see Dr. Slattery's added wisdom from her years as a wife and a wise counselor.

To me, this is the biggest reason this book differs from other marriage resources. Additionally, like I said before, Dr. Slattery's message has been constant. She stands firm on her Biblical values. She uses the scriptures throughout the book, pointing us back to God's word.
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