This is one of the most life changing books on marriage I have read. I wish I could go back three years and give my younger self this when I was newly married. I’m technically still a newly wed so I mean, at least I got to read it now ;)

I will say, this book tends to lean more toward a complementarian view so if you lean more egalitarian, you will probably disagree with a few of her points, specifically on the topic of submission. I personally find myself leaning more complementarian so it didn’t bother me, but figured it was worth mentioning.

This book challenged me in so many powerful ways and there are points I read that I still think about daily. It gave me a new perspective and respect for my husband. I really enjoyed this book and would recommend it to any wife who wants to find the hero in her husband and be his number one fan! ♥️

Review originally published October 11, 2021This book was full of wisdom and perspective on marriage. The main message was to honor our husbands by using our power as wives to build them up. I really appreciated how the author dealt with power in the relationships. I’ve read and seen a lot of unhealthy examples of power dynamics in marriage, from wives who have no say in the marriage, to wives who completely dominate over their husband. This was such a refreshing perspective on how women have power, but how that power can be used to mutually benefit the relationship. I think there were a lot of nuggets of wisdom found throughout the book that were both biblical and practical.

There were several parts in the book that I think were over-explained, and some that seemed to parrot other teaching on marriage. It took me a few months to finish because the writing didn’t draw me in enough to make it my go-to book. I actually received an advanced copy in exchange for an honest review because I’ve heard so many things about the author, but I don’t think I even finished it before the release date because I had a hard time reading it.

Overall, I think this book has a lot to offer in terms of providing a marriage narrative that honors how men and women are different without painting women as less than. To me, it wasn’t my favorite book on marriage, but I think some of the information is unique and I’ll definitely apply it. I would love to one day work through the study guide questions with other women, but I still think the book as a whole is beneficial!

This is the book I wish I had earlier in my marriage!
Most books like this start off with a wisdom bang and hen start to prefer off with their wisdom and only have a few nuggets amid a lot of repeated points from the powerhouse early chapters.
But this book was almost the opposite for me. The first maybe 5 chapters felt kind of slow and very elementary for me. Then it ramped up. Stuff that even after 20 years I was needing reminding off topics and points that I have in fact learned within 20 years of marriage that I learned the hard way and wish I’d had this book to give me a leg up all those years.

“Many years ago, I had the opportunity to interview Dr. Scott Stanley, who is a renowned marriage researcher. He made a statement based on his research that has stuck with me: Your greatest chance of happiness is the marriage you are currently in. Yes, some marriages are toxic and destructive. But the great majority of difficult marriages are two people who have gotten stuck somewhere on the road to intimacy.”

Dr. Juli Slattery’s updated Finding the Hero in Your Husband is the perfect read for a newlywed or a long time married woman. I thoroughly enjoyed and learned from the stories and questions.

I liked the idea of this book. I truly want to feel like my husband is the hero in my world. I felt this book was almost too traditional from where I am in my life, my belief system and my relationship. I thought it could have been more relatable to a younger audience.

I want to thank Netgalley and Dr. Juli Slattery for my copy of Finding the Hero in Your husband, for an honest review. This was a very good read. I always enjoy a boom that encourages the strengthening of a marriage. The author made very good points, that are easy to apply in real life.
I have always been a believer in seeking help to work on your marriage. This was a very quick read. I am sure I will reread at some point. This was a 4 star read for me. It was my pleasure to read and review this book.

Jill Slattery presents the reader with an alternative way of communicating and seeing your husband. This useful book provides a gentle approach to redirect communication with your loved one into a more positive manner.

I enjoyed this book and the reminders to seek out the good and focus on the positive qualities in a relationship. Christian readers and others who are happy to read content from a Christian perspective will find something useful in this book.

Thank you HCI and NetGalley for this ARC.

Finding the Hero in Your Husband Revisited by Juli Slattery has lots of good nuggets of truth to help you be a better more supportive wife. This year will be our 15th wedding anniversary so I’d say we’re been married long enough to have had some challenges, newlyweds, babies, death of a parent and a cancer diagnosis all served to bring us together and make us stronger. But no one has everything figured out. Dr. Slattery hits on a lot of topics from respect, finances, work, honoring God and putting your marriage over your kids who will grow up and leave. I’d highly recommend this book for any wife who struggles with knowing how to best support their husband without being a nag.

Thank you NetGalley for the opportunity to read this book for my honest opinion. But in true disclosure, I loved this book so much I bought my own copy when time ran out to finish reading it.

The title of the book was what intrigued me to want to read it but I clearly made a mistake. This book had too much religion and scripture written that it turned me off. I enjoyed the first chapter where it discusses Disney and how we build up for being like Prince Charming and Cinderella couple but then we don’t see how they live their lives after. I tried to give the book a chance but after three chapters I had to stop.

This was an encouraging book full of practical but powerful ways to strengthen a marriage. It was scripturally-sound and easy to read. Great for new and experienced wives!

I have been trying to find good books about marriage and this one truly did meet my expectations. I learned a few things and was also reminded about why I got married and what I need to do to keep things working. At first, I struggled to get into this book but this was mainly due to the season that I was in. I was struggling with seeing marriage as anything but an unequal patriarchal union where all a woman does is to give, give and give. It felt like husbands are kings but wives are not queens but humble, submissive servants. The idea behind this book made me feel like it is just another book about what wives have to do. However, reading through the chapters, my perspective shifted. I started seeing the power that wives have and the path that God chose for marriages. It started seeing marriage as a partnership again. This book provides an open and real look into marriages and for that, I recommend it.

This is a must-have resource! It is full of great strategies, advice, and easy to implement ideas. This is one I'll return to again and again. Many thanks to the author, publisher, and NetGalley for the advanced copy of the book.

This book was challenging, yet engaging. Written from a distinctively Christian perspective, Slattery offers advice for wives in all stages and years of marriage. There is definitely some food for thought, and actionable content in here. Thank you to the publisher and NetGalley for the review copy. All opinions are my own, and freely given!

Finding the Hero in Your Husband is a great book! I definitely recommend. I had never heard of Dr. Slattery prior to reading this book, but now I certainly intend to listen to her podcast and read some of her other books.

This book is written for Christian women seeking to better understand their role as wives, their husband's psyche, what they can do to improve their marriage, and how to glorify the Lord by keeping in mind Proverbs 14:1, "The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands."

I was reminded of a lot of things and learned some new things. I think it's easy to criticize a book like this and say it was overwritten, but I think the truer description would be that the author is casting a wide net to many different women in different types of marriages. If you are in any way curious as to how God can use you in your marriage, I think you would like this book. It was validating, encouraging, convicting and inspiring ❤

I liked the beginning of this book. However, it did start to drag on for me a bit.

I do often have that struggle with some religious/self-help books. I believe that after a while the point has literally been made to death. This was absolutely the case with this book.

I did take a way a few points from the book. However, they were all made in the first half. I felt that some of the writing was just redundant because the book needed to be longer.

Love it! One of the best books a wife can read! It is great, practical and just loving!
I enjoyed each page!

I had read this book when it was first published as Juli Slattery and decided to read the updated version. I found the updated version as great as the initial reading and related to her advice in new ways as wife of 20 years as I did as a young wife. The reader is reminded that it's normal for wives and husbands to live see life differently. The author helps wives find the good in their husbands and how to strengthen their marriage with God's help. This is a great book for wives of all stages.
I received a complimentary copy of this book through NetGalley, but all opinions are my own.

This book has a lot of really good info for wives who want to encourage their husbands. I enjoyed the east writing style and relatability of the book.

As someone who desires to start a family of her own someday. Books like this are helpful for preparations. Dr. Juli Slattery breaks down with relatable stories how as women we can build our husbands and develop intimacy in marriage with helpful tips to working out conflicts.

Intimacy isn't just about what happens in the bedroom. I'm a big fan of Dr. Slattery's podcast, and reading her writing was just as encouraging. If you're in a healthy marriage and looking for ways to make it stronger, more intimate, and more fun, this book is worth a read!