This book was absolutely adorable! I was a little confused at first when I started reading the first few pages, because I thought the book was just pictures of each individual bug. However, I was thoroughly surprised how explanatory and well written it was. It screams boring non-fiction, but with all the pictures, it was worth the read!

My very favorite thing about books is that they allow you to "read" another person's thoughts... ie, they give you true insight into the heart, mind and experience of someone who is very different from you. "Every Good Boy Does Fine" was a brilliant look through author Calvin Arsenia's eyes.

These poems are deeply personal- almost memoir-ish, but they don't tell a complete story. Instead they are vivid snapshots of moments in the life of a gay black man raised in a deeply religious home and church. The poems reveal Arsenia's journey from "pray away the gay" through "struggle" and finally to "peace". (Expect raw language.)

A few points...
The book is a quick read- some poems are just a few lines while others unfold over a few pages. There is an especially poignant section reproduced from the author's teenage prayer journals. Additionally, while all musicians will recognize the title as a musical mnemonic (and Arsenia himself is a professional musician), the poems themselves rarely reference music (an exception is "A Notion", which I especially appreciated). Instead, his primary focus is his sexuality and sexual orientation, especially in conjunction with Christianity. (This is also the theme of his podcast- "We Were Christian Kids".) He spends a much smaller number of pages sharing some thoughts on race and racism. Finally, Arsenia is a Kansas City native, as am I, and there are several hometown shout outs included.

I was really moved and impacted by these poems and I recommend the collection. I received an ARC in exchange for my honest opinion. My thanks to the author, publisher, and #NetGalley for this opportunity. #EveryGoodBoyDoesFine

"Every Good Boy Does Fine" creates a cacophony of emotions in the best way. It opens up about Arsenia's life in a way that is bold and does not apologize. The poems capture Arsenia's flair for musical compositions and have a sort of lyricism that asks the reader to create along with the author.

Poems stem from topics such as race, sexuality, religious trauma, and relationships. The best poems were the ones that didn't fear purity. Swears, sexuality, and frankness all lend a hand in creating honest art.

My favorites in this collection are: "Teeth Marks", "Curfew", "Angry", and "Perfectly Simple."

Enticing and enjoyable. It all starts with a simple yet alluring cover. It’s clean, crisp and elegant. The title is perfect. All music lovers and musicians will appreciate the name!
When I see memoir books written in poetry form, I’m eager to make the story a priority. My family is left to fend for themselves until I finish the book.

Calvin Arseni is a young black man who grew up in a fundamentalist Christian home with a single definition what a man ought to be. Calvin struggles with “unnatural” feelings for boys and the impurity and mentally of feeling unclean.
However I felt like I didn’t really get to know Calvin’s story but elements here and there. You will be left with questions. I was left wanting more. I wanted to know the epiphany of his self discovery come to life. Did he keep it a secret from his family? Did he come out of on his own time or pressured into it? Why did his first love suddenly turn away from Calvin? What gave him the courage to explore his sexuality while being in a religious fundamentalist home? Did his family chose to accept him or turn him away? What was it about music that blossomed into a passion? Was it music that gave him healing and the voice he didn’t realize he possessed?

While yes, these poems are nonfiction, I wouldn’t really call this a memoir. If so, the poems could’ve and should’ve gone deeper. I wanted more. However, the poems grabbed my attention and like a potato chip, I wanted to read the next one and the next one! I never got bored and enjoyed every page until the end.
After I read his book, I immediately went to look up his website to see more and understand Calvin better. My heart fluttered when I saw he is a harpist! I LOVE harp and enjoy playing it as well!

That being said, I still recommend this book. There are some solid verses that make you pause and meditate, which is the very definition of poetry!
I appreciate the vulnerability and the painted words Arseni put out in the world. Thank you for sharing.

Gritty, visceral and blunt.
A shock to the senses and all that makes sense.

While well done it was unfortunately, not my type of poetry for parts are rather crass and brazen.
Which is why my rating is quite low, the talent is there so I look forward to sampling future works by the author.

*3.75 stars*

This is a poetry collection about being a gay black man raised in the church. Each poem comes together to form Calvin Arsenia's life and emotions about said topics and more. While this was overall a good read some of the poems read more like tweets than poems which was disappointing. Not all poems have to be long and masterfully written but some of these just were too tweet esk.
Overall it was a nice poetry collection. I enjoyed what was said and the overall structure I just think some of the poems are weak (which is a problem with poetry collections in general) Would recommend.

This was a very impactful collection with strong themes of struggling with religion as a member of the LGBTQ community. It took me a good amount of the book to connect with it, as I didn't feel that the themes were presented strongly enough for me in the first half. I found the fourth/final section, Confectionately, to be the one that I felt the most engaged with. I think many out there would enjoy Every Good Boy Does Fine very much, and should definitely check it out!

This was a moving collection of poetry. I definitely related to Real Talk and laughed aloud at it because it was so abrupt and concise.
Thank you to Netgalley for this arc ebook in exchange for an honest review.

Wow. Calvin Arsenia's "Every Good Boy Does Fine" is a solid collection of poems. This poetic memoir takes the reader through Arsenia's childhood and struggles to reconcile his faith, his race, and his sexuality. The collection has five sections: Virgin, Dirt Lip, Him + him, Brownnoser, and Confectionately, as well as illustrations interspersed throughout.

I found myself being the most interested in his reflections on his relationship with God and how that intersects with his sexuality. One political group has all but erased homosexual Christians because how can one believe in God and be gay? I love the way Arsenia reclaims the space that everyone has in the kingdom. The section "Dirt Lip" includes excerpts from his teenage prayer journals, and they're filled with beautiful, hymn-like praises to God. Arsenia interjects his own misconceptions regarding LGBT+ folks throughout, including the poem "What is 'Gay Church'? there was a time in my life/when I thought/all gays hated Jesus." Lastly, in the final poem of the collection entitled "Higher Ground" he writes, "I read all of your words and I prayed and I fasted/You neglected to heal me of this fatal attraction/ I asked You over and over to make this queer straight/Your lack of action has sealed in this fate/You are the one who said, 'Truth will set free,' so this marks the end of me hating me." The poems could generate an important conversation about what Christianity is and who makes up the collective Church.

Finally, the poems on race (namely in Confectionately,) were especially hard-hitting. I thoroughly enjoyed "Command +Z," "F*ck February," "Color-splaining" and "Internal Conflict." Take for instance this brief excerpt from "Internal Conflict." "I am ashamed that the only black men this country honors are the ones who they kill." So incisive.

I wouldn't hesitate to recommend "Every Good Boy Does Fine." It's accessible for those who find poetry to be daunting or confusing, and it would surely create important and necessary discussions. Thank you to NetGalley for the advance copy.

Every Good Boy Does Fine grabbed my attention because of the title, and the description of it being a memoir in a poetic form. This short memoir/poetry book was a quick read, and a very unique way of telling the author's story. I went into reading EGBDF completely blind, not knowing at all who he was. Spoken word was what jumped out at me for much of the first section, but then I got to the prayer journal portion of the book. It was pure poetry. I identified with this part of the author, as I was raised in a Christian home and all of these sentiments are similar to how I do still believe; though I know it is not who he is anymore, those pieces were beautiful and full of emotion.
Roughly half of the entries were so poetic, it triggered emotion and connection; others, it was more a format to communicate thoughts and experiences. There was one that read as more a stream of consciousness, and another that read like he recorded a conversation between him and his lover and then typed it out. It was a very creative way to mix up the content. Overall, a brilliant concept. Page 157, though, is basically a repetitive quote, "I'd rather you like me for who I am than hate me for who I'm not." I was really surprised at its inclusion, as it is written like it is straight from his mind, and not a phrase people have been using for a very long time. It also wasn't fitting with how personal and honest the rest of the book is. That one part could have been left out, because the very last poem speaks volumes to it, in a way that is much more real and raw. Racism, homophobia, and sexual references are present throughout. "Confectionately," was probably the most poignant, thought-provoking section; page 167 was my favorite passage from it.
This memoir is for those who love spoken word, poetry, memoirs, diverse authors/experiences, and anyone who should be opening themselves up to stories of those who have been oppressed and hurt because of what they look like, who they love, and who they are.

I don’t know what to say other than this is probably one of the most powerful collections of contemporary poetry I’ve read in a long while. From the very start Arsenia’s first poem punched me in the gut and left me in tears feeling seen for the first time in a long time. ⁣
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The collection has multiple focuses: faith, love, race, and being one’s true self while wrestling with the faith you’ve grown up with that urges you to be anything but. The raw honesty and relatability from Arsenia in poems like “Family Portrait,” “A Recipe for Reciprocation,” “Yet,” and a personal favorite “Angry” are what keep the collection alive and I have no doubts this one will stay with me long after this review. ⁣
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Thank you @netgalley and @andrewsmcmeel for the advance copy. This stunning collection drops SEPTEMBER 21. Thank you to the author for the bravery it took to form this collection. I look forward to adding it to my shelf of favorites.