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A Quick & Easy Guide to Asexuality

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A quick and fun filled explanation of the asexual spectrum. Some parts in the book can be problematic for some. Generalizations and judgements are made by the writers.

A good start and teen friendly.

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This book delivers exactly what it promises. I like that it gets into many important topics: defining asexuality, exploring the spectrum, explaining the difference between sexual and romantic attraction, dating, growing up asexual, stereotypes, and the larger LGBTQIA+ community. There are also resources for further reading and research. As someone who has been aware of their own asexuality and aromanticism for awhile now, this book didn't present anything new but I still enjoyed reading it and feeling validated by the authors' insights and experiences. It's nice to have this guide bringing attention to asexuality and being there to help inform people who don't know about this orientation or who might be questioning. I would have loved having this guide around when I was younger and struggling with my identity but didn't have the terminology to described what I was -- and wasn't -- feeling. This guide is super quick (it took me about an hour to read), easy to understand, and told with simple illustrations and a casual, conversational tone. Highly recommend!

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This is a very honest description of the ace experience. It's informative and covers pretty much everything there is to know about it.
It could be very useful for people who are trying to understand themselves and also
for those who want to know more about asexuality in general.
I don't agree with a couple of things they mentioned, hence 4 stars, but it's a good book anyway.

Thank you Netgalley for this ARC!

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I got an e-arc through Netgalley, this in no way affected this review.

I really enjoyed this informative book on Asexuality. It’s still a sexuality you don’t see a lot of representation of in today’s media and I’m so happy this book exists.

I identify as aro/ace, which took me a long time to figure out and I really feel like this book could have helped me if I’d read it a few years back! But I’m so happy other young, queer readers might pick up this graphic novel and find themselves in it.

The only reason that I didn’t give it 5 stars, is because while everything was explained in an excellent way, I did feel like they repeated stuff a lot to the point where I skipped some of the pages where they were summarising everything.

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I always want to educate myself on the elements of the LGTBQTIA+ community that I don't have a great understanding of, so I was really excited to see this graphic novel explaining the basics of asexuality.

This book does exactly what it sets out to. It's a great simple and concise introduction to all things A. It looks at topics within asexuality and aromanticism and swiftly dispels some myths about them. It's really accessible with simple language and some great drawings. An absolutely great starting point for anyone who wants to learn about asexuality.

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I really wish I had something like Molly Muldoon and Will Hernandez’ A Quick and Easy Guide to Asexuality when I was struggling to figure myself out. I did not hear the term asexual outside of very specific conversations about cellular reproduction. When I did start hearing the term in relation to human sexuality I initially confused it with androgyny, which is an entirely different thing. Fellow Cannonballers started reviewing Angela Chen’s Ace and I was very curious. Further investigation gave me an almost cartoonish lightbulb moment when suddenly SO MANY THINGS made sense. Anyway, it would have been very nice if I had realized not really being sexually attracted was a thing and not a problem to be fixed a few decades ago. I feel like I owe a few exes an apology.

Coincidentally, it’s National Coming Out Day, and this is me, coming out as Ace. Specifically, somewhere in the aro-ace corner. I’m not going to worry about it too much because at this point in my life it’s largely irrelevant.

But back to Molly Muldoon and Will Hernandez’ A Quick and Easy Guide to Asexuality. It is a lovely and joyful short comic doing exactly what it says on the tin – providing a quick introductory guide to asexuality. At this point, I’ve moved beyond this level of introduction, but even two years ago, I could have used this. I liked the friendly artwork. I liked breadth of covered topics. I liked the very clear message that we are all more than our labels, and that attraction and love are a spectrum. This would be an excellent addition to any library where teens and young adults (or older adults who had no idea asexuality was a thing) are looking for information.

This lovely little book is out in late March of 2022. Plenty of time to pre-order or suggest to your local library.

Thank you to NetGalley and Limerence Press for the advance reader copy. My opinions are my own.

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Note; I am asexual and on the aromantic spectrum myself.

I think this was a very good guide to the A! It is explained in a very clear cut and easy way, while still providing enough detail to avoid oversimplification. Of course, asexuality is a very wide and diverse spectrum, so it is impossible to cover everything, but I think this book did it well! I kinda felt that there was too little about sex repulsion though, although it is good that they covered that asexual people can still be in relationships.
I also liked how it covered both dating and growing up as asexual, and I could relate to alot of what they talked about.

I do think they should have specified that the A does not stand for ally, and the chapter about aces and the lgbtqa+ community could have been handled better. It was not necessary to see examples of what kind of negative things people say about asexual people online, for example.

It definitely benefits people that know nothing or little about asexuality, but for asexual people this is kind of redundant and almost too simplistic. It kind of lacks nuance, I suppose.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for the eArc!

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This is the second book I have read in the Quick and Easy Guide series (first one being about consent), and I really appreciate the series being put forth to teach readers about some difficult to comprehend topics.

I never really knew much about asexuality before I joined Tiktok during the pandemic. I purposely sought out creators of different backgrounds in the LGBTQIA+ community so I could be a better ally. Being allosexual, I found asexuality difficult to understand at first. When I saw this book available on Netgalley, I decided to request it to help further my education on the topic.

What I really liked about this book was that it states at the beginning what this book is, and what this book isn't. It also provides resources to fill in any gaps the book does not cover. The actual content of the book is easy to follow, and provides examples and clarifications throughout.

The one thing that I didn't like in the book was the discussion of what the "A" stands for in the LGBTQIA+ acronym. I felt like it was kind of awkward when it danced around what the A stood for... and I definitely do not agree that it could stand for ally. Allyship is super important, but I don't think they need to be included in the acronym.

Overall the book is very informative, and educates readers on the basics of asexuality. Readers won't be experts coming out of reading the book, but it does lay a good foundation of understanding.

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Thanks to Netgalley and Oni Press for a digital arc of this book!

This is a great introduction to the world of asexuality. If you are new to the concept of asexuality, this will go over the basics. It also talks briefly about the split-attraction model, other sexualities on the ace-spectrum, and a dip into aromanticism.

This goes a great deal into depth about stereotypes of asexuals and why they aren't true, and explains what is the actual case. It really felt like a conversation between the authors and the readers, and I think it will be a great resource for anyone who wants to learn about asexuality, is asexual, or knows someone who is asexual!

Content Warnings
Graphic: Acephobia/Arophobia

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tldr;
5 stars!!!
It's brilliant! I could not recommend it more for any reader who wants to learn a little about an often forgotten identity or a reader who is searching for solidarity and a feeling of validation that is hard to find.

The long version:
I thought this was a brilliant primer to give someone a basic understanding of asexuality. It in no way tried to be all-encompassing and outright stated that asexuality is more complex than can be expressed in this book, but it was friendly, engaging, and relatively easy to understand for those who are unfamiliar with the topic or are trying to figure out their own identity. It was also really inclusive and just helpful. I loved the sections about stereotypes on ace identifying people because sometimes it is so easy to overlook a stereotype as the norm since ace is not an identity with any real meaningful representation in the media. That section really helped me see my own biases and also made the identity much more three-dimensional. I also loved that the authors included their own stories and experiences about being ace and the fact that this book was written by ace people. It made the book resonate a lot more for me and made it feel more like a safe space. I will say the art took a little getting used to, but honestly, the message was far more important and I totally appreciated the book for what it was. I will be keeping a copy of this book in my proverbial back pocket if ever I need to explain asexuality to someone and I don't feel up to the task.

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As an ace person myself, I’m sure I’ll NOT give a super reliable review here, but this comic is something that I've dreamed for SO LONG and it’s finally real!!! This is just so, so good, I’ve loved it. Seriously. Before I found out I was asexual, I struggled for so long, trying to figure out myself, and in some ways, I’m still doing the work. I don’t think it’s ever done. And I’m so glad the new generation of ace people will have more content to rely on. There’s still a long way to representation, but I’m happy to see ace people setting the ground for future generations themselves.

This is a perfect introduction to asexuality I’ve ever read, period. I’ll probably send a copy of this to my sister’s once I’m came out and they start scratching their heads trying to figure out what the heck asexuality means. Of course, this will probably not work for everybody, but people are people. We’re all complex individuals, after all. Overall, this is very well written, the art is freaking adorable and you know, a very good introduction to what being Ace really is.

Would recommend this: for ace people trying to figure themselves out, for ace people who are tried to explain what asexuality is to allo people (it’s really tiring, I know!), or you know… ace people looking for more info on our asexuality. Again, this is just the basic, but a pretty darn good one. Go read it, you’re not gonna be disappointed.

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This book was aptly named. It was in its essence a quick and easy guide. It was very clear in its delivery of information while avoiding being preachy. Hopefully this book does well and is distributed generously because I think it could change a young questioning person's life.

Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for this ARC in exchange for an honest review.

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I received an eARC of this title through NetGalley in return for an honest review.

There's not much to say about this guide. It is short, informative, and educational. I believe it is good to have something like this in the library for those who are trying to find the words to describe themselves. While this is a quick and easy guide, they give resources for more studies into asexuality which is important as well. Honestly, a good introduction to a complex topic.

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The more I've thought on this the more frustrated I am. I can't get over the fact that they brushed off massive issues and that they refused to state that the A stands for asexual. There's no getting around the fact that that is immensely harmful and just perpetuating queerphobia. We already get enough aphobia from other queer people and we sure as heck don't need it to be coming from fellow aces as well. I URGE you to edit this before it's published and to not allow this intense piece of information out into the world.

This is a super great guide and one that I wish I had when I was first figuring out my asexuality. I really loved the illustrations and the general flow of the book worked really well. I definitely want to throw this at people who are super unfamiliar with asexuality and know very little. This is a great book to give to like family friends and coworkers to help them learn a little bit more. It's only 80 pages and a very quick read. When I came out as Ace a lot of people asked me how they could load more and this is a great quick easy resource.

My singular issue with this book though is that there's an opportunity here to plainly and clearly declare that the A stands for asexual, aromantic, and agender but this book doesn't do that. It flirts around the object and instead of making a declarative statement that the A is for asexual, aromantic, and agender, It also makes a point that the A could stand for ally. Don't get me wrong, allies are necessary and needed but they are not queer and the A is not for them. It honestly put me off this book for this one part which is so frustrating because the rest of it is wonderful. The fact that it's written by two ace people, this shouldn't have happened. The A is not for Ally. Asexuality is inherently queer, and to not have that cemented as a fact in this book is honestly kind of harmful. They talk about different forms of aphobia yet fail to realize that by not making the statement the A is for asexuality (and aromantic and agender) , that they are just putting more misinformation and confusion into the world. So in case you're confused, the A in LGBTQIAP+ is NOT for ally, it is for asexual, aromantic, and agender.

As a whole this is a good guide and I understand that you can't cover everything, but I wish there had been a little bit more coverage for sex repulsed aces and less of the " asexuals can still have sex/asexuals can still have relationships " It is important to celebrate all varieties of asexuality, and that includes the people who are sex repulsed or who never want to have sex.

Dear fellow sex repulsed aces, you do not have to compromise and you absolutely can still find a romantic relationship or a platonic relationship without any sex if that is what you want.

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Review of A Quick & Easy Guide to Asexuality by Molly Muldoon & Will Hernandez

Thank you NetGalley and Oni Press for access to this eARC in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

This guide really is quick and easy. It’s fun to read. It’s incredibly uplifting and hopeful for asexual readers and I imagine it’s useful for allosexual readers as well. Muldoon and Hernandez start at the beginning with a basic definition of asexuality and work from there. This is a big topic for people who haven’t heard about it before, but Muldoon and Hernandez break it down into easily digestible pieces with clear definitions, jokes, and fun graphics. There’s also a list of resources for further reading in case readers wish to find out more about the topic. If there’s someone in your life who wants to learn more about asexuality, I highly recommend using this book as a resource.

5 out of 5 stars

A Quick & Easy Guide to Asexuality by Molly Muldoon & Will Hernandez is scheduled to be published on March 29, 2022.

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Every time a new book comes out on asexuality, I feel a little more hopeful. This was a lovely guide for those trying to figure out their own sexual identity, as well as those who have no idea what ace is. It's short enough that I literally want to buy copies to throw at anyone who ever asks me once I tell them I'm ace, haha! Simple and reiterative, with just the right amount of heartwarming corny thrown in. A must-read for anyone discovering their own ace identity and for those who want to expand their views on the sexuality spectrum.

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A surprisingly thorough and friendly guide to asexuality presented graphic novel-style! I loved this - it addresses a lot of the misconceptions surrounding asexuality held by allosexuals, redefines a lot of terminology, and introduces many concepts that are key to understanding the asexual spectrum. I loved this! Very much looking forward to presenting this to kids and adults alike.

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I will try to keep my review short and sweet since this one is super short. First, thank you so much to NetGalley and the publishers over at Limerence Press for an ARC of this one in exchange for an honest review. This is part of a series that these publishers are doing about different orientations and experiences. When I saw this was available for request on NetGalley, I had to ask for it immediately. This one doesn’t come out until March of next year, but it should be available for preorder soon if it isn’t already.

As an asexual person who reads and reviews books, I had to get my hands on this one. I haven’t read any other books in this series yet, but this was as quick and easy as it proclaims itself to be. It’s a 72 page nonfiction book written in a graphic novel format and it explains the ins and outs of being asexual. As someone in that community, I found that a lot of the things they discuss are things I’ve known for a few years now. But I feel a book like this would have been so life changing for me as a teenager. Or I can remember the night I found out about what asexuality is and turning to my husband and just pointing at my computer. God, that conversation would have gone so much better if I could have shown him this guide. (I mean, how is your husband supposed to react when you tell him you aren’t sexually attracted to him?)

For people who are in the asexual community and who have spent years learning these things first hand, this can all come across as a little obvious. But for people who know aces but don’t get it or family members this can be such a great tool to explain asexuality. Though, I think this guide can most importantly have a powerful effect on teenagers and young adults who have never understood what their friends are always going on about when it comes to sex and relationships.

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A quick and cute introduction to asexuality. This graphic novel, coming in at around 70 pages runs through the basics of asexuality. Written in a reassuring and validating tone, curious readers will find additional resources at the end of the book should they want to learn more.

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These Quick and Easy Guides are the best for basic knowledge check ins, and to get one started down a path to finding out more. Short and sweet, just like the asexual symbol of cake!

Speaking of cake, the Cake Metaphor is one of the simplest ways to understand asexuality.

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