Cover Image: A Quick & Easy Guide to Asexuality

A Quick & Easy Guide to Asexuality

Pub Date:   |   Archive Date:

Member Reviews

This is a really interesting read for both allo and ace people, and of any age. Whether you are questioning your identity, have a friend that is doing so, or you just want to know more about the topic, this is a very good book to begin with.

Was this review helpful?

this is pocket size quick guide on asexuality for anyone who has no prior knowledge of what it is.

as an aspec reader, i would most closely label as biromantic demisexual — or, honestly, just queer — at this point in my life. while this is far from perfect, it’s definitely something i wish i could’ve given to some family members when i first attempted coming out to them. and after reading through this, i most definitely share a lot of life experiences with molly, namely, learning about demisexuality from fanfiction, a little bit of medical trauma from being ace, and more.

however, there are a few things that i noticed that were a bit lacking and generally, incorrect. the obvious one, one that i’m sure has already been noted by other apsec reviewers (because, why?!), is that they don’t explicitly confirm that aspec individuals are queer. instead, they beat around the bush a lot. while many of us might not personally identity as a queer individual (i know i didn’t feel comfortable using that specific label for a while), being aspec is a minority sexuality and thus falls under the umbrella term for being queer. i wish they didn’t take the stance that being an ally could fall under the LGBTQIA+ acronym. it doesn’t, end of story. so, that was a bit frustrating to read that.

i also recognize that since this guide is focused mostly on the asexual side of aspec identities, the aro side is kind of only mentioned in name rather quickly. they do mention the split attraction model but completely forget aesthetic attraction as the third level of attraction that should be taken note, since it’s also a big contributor as to why aspec individuals feel “broken” for so long. i think they this book would’ve done better by extending even a few pages longer to expand on their concepts past the very very introductory level.

TLDR, i think this can be a great starting point if you know nothing about asexuality, but this misses the mark on a few key aspects. if you are using this to figure your own identity out, learning about it because of a loved one coming out, or what not, please go read further resources. https://www.asexuality.org/ is an incredible resource to start. and remember, the A = asexual, aromantic, and/or agender, NOT ally.

Was this review helpful?

As someone who falls in the gray spectrum of asexuality I really enjoyed this drawn guide.

It's true that asexuality is not something widely recognized or talked about in either mainstream media or everyday life, so it was a nice surprise to stumble into this title.

I've even had conversations with friends, who I guess would label themselves as allies, and still scoffed at the notion that someone can have romantic attraction towards another person while feeling no sexual attraction to them. We live in such an over-sexualized world that's it's inconcebible even for somewhat open-minded people that you wouldn't want to have sex with someone you click with. It was a very uncomfortable conversation, let me tell you.

But back to the book, I really like the chill, friendly tone. And I loved the drawings! They were so expressive and full of movement I felt like I was seeing the freeze-frames of an animated video.

I think this is a great resource for people discovering the world of asexuality and those wanting to know a little bit more, whether just to better inform yourself, or because you're questioning where you fall in the wide range that's human sexuality.

Kudos to Molly Muldoon and Will Hernandez for opening up and sharing their experiences in such a fun, simple, clear, educational way.

And how awesome is it that Asexuality's unofficial mascots are axolotls and cake?!

**I recieved an e-arc of this title from Oni Press and Limerence Press through Netgalley. All opinions are my own**

Was this review helpful?

Like the title says 'a quick and easy guide' amd that what it was, I was happy to read something that teaches in a clear way about asexuality and its nuances. In a comic format we see the main characters talking about the definition, the difference between aro and ace, about the stereotypes we see in media that can be harmful and also talking about how is growing up being asexual. A great book for those who want to understant more but don't want something too deep.

Was this review helpful?

First off, I want to thank Net Galley for allowing me to read this amazing book and guide to Aaexuality and that all opinions in this review are my own.

This book is an extremely helpful and informative guide to aesxuality. It gives you everything you need to know!

I recommend this book to anyone struggling with their identity concerning thheir asexuality or anyone interested in the topic in general enreal!

5/5 stars.

Was this review helpful?

This was a really informative book. As a member of the LGBTQ+ community I wanted to learn more about what asexuality is and the spectrum of it. This book was a really easy guide to understand all the components of asexuality and how different labels apply. I really recommend this one to anyone looking for a quick and easy guide to asexuality! It was also my first graphic novel ever so it really stuck out to me!!

Was this review helpful?

This was a concise and very well written graphic novel which serves as an introduction to asexuality. My favourite part of the graphic novel are the descriptions of the following:
- what asexuality is; the spectrum of asexuality
- differences between asexuality and aromanticism
- ace stereotypes in culture and media representations

I do wish that the illustrations were more detailed as it mostly centred on the two narrators; since the graphic novel is in black and white, more detail would have added visual interest to the book. Or, to add colour to the various illustrations in lieu of additional detail. However, I still think they did a good job of maintaining the reader's interest through interesting dialogue and topics covered.

I would recommend this book to those interested in learning more about asexuality and would also recommend it to my friends who are practicing medicine; as a healthcare worker, I found the feedback re: how to better serve the Ace patient demographic and their experiences within medical clinics to be incredibly beneficial!

Thank you to NetGalley and to the publisher, author, and illustrator for providing an advanced reader copy in exchange for an honest review.

Was this review helpful?

This was such a warm and welcoming introduction to asexuality. Having the author and illustrator present themselves as the characters sharing the information made it immediately accessible and engaging while also establishing their authority on the subject matter.

I hope this book is a balm to young adults (and beyond) who are starting their journey to understand their identity or who are looking for validation and support. Definitely going to suggest that my library add it to their collection in hopes that it finds its way into the hands of someone who needs it!

Was this review helpful?

Thank you for the ARC given to me through NetGalley from Limerence press. This book helps those who are new to the term asexuality understand what it is through the use of a comic format. The book opens with trigger warnings, which I always appreciate as they are very helpful for potential readers. The Book is own voices which I think gives the book a more personal touch, and feels like a friend is giving you advice. The book as a whole looks at how identifying as apart of the ace community can affect someone and the different aspects it can affect in a person's life. The book opens by defining asexuality in it's most simplistic form, it then goes on to answer some of the most common questions ace people are asked. The book did a good job looking at the asexuality spectrum which is commonly overlooked, and looks at the terms that come under it. I really liked that the book looked at the difference between asexual and aromantic which is not commonly understood. Furthermore, it looks at the common stereotypes that the media portray and how this can be harmful to the community and how this needs to change. It also discusses how some people in the ace community don't always welcome in LGBTQIA+ spaces, and that it is important to find a community that accepts you. The Book ends with a bunch of resources from organisations to other books that could be helpful. As someone who identifies as being Ace, I felt this book did a great job introducing the topic in a engaging and informative way, and I see this being useful to those that are younger who are trying to understand themselves better, or want to be a better Ally

Was this review helpful?

I really like the quick and easy guide series; I think they do the damn thing. They're great resources to pull off the library shelves when people have questions because they are just so quick and easy. 80 pages maximum and full of pictures, it's such a simple thing to ask people to read and I think they really help communicate topics that I had to learn about in the trenches of Tumblr University to confused parents and teachers.

That being said, this one was probably one of my least favorite books in the series. Most of my other frustrations are covered in other reviews, like with the art style or the "are aces queer" section, so I won't go into those. For me, so many of the examples were frustratingly heteronormative and I know that they would not be helpful for figuring out if you're gay or ace or dabbling in both. Particularly pages 39-43, my experience as a (not-ace, probably-not-aro) lesbian is pretty identical to that, and I'm surprised there was never an acknowledgement of this overlap. It's just such an underutilized point of solidarity.

Honestly one of my main takeaways from this book is that like... it made me wish there was a book like this for aromanticism? Or something that talked ever about being aro but not ace? It's an identity that I feel like gets dunked on a lot in the service of standing up for aces who do want romance (noooo dont worry I can still be Normal^tm), and the way this book was written made me sad about it idk. They did say that they have a very specific scope at the start of the book, so how mad can I really be about my little niche complaints.

I don't know. I think my library is pretty likely to buy this, I can see it being very useful, but I will continue to have my little gripes about it.

Was this review helpful?

This book is kind of similar to "A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns". Same format, easily digestible, and good graphics. I'm not sure if the graphics are supposed to be in color, but my copy was black, white, gray. I'm not sure if that was on purpose since their theme is that asexuality is like a gray spectrum people fall on.

I wish that they would have defined "sexual attraction" and "attraction". Most people who are reading this book are going to be asexual/ace or questioning. So from that perspective, ace people have never felt "sexual attraction" and would need a baseline for that word/concept. I also wish they would have brought up "aesthetic attraction" - I feel like that would help explain things to some aces (ex: like celebrity crushes).

They brought up the term "demisexual" and "gray-a" (a.k.a gray-sexual) which was great! But I got confused by their definitions. From my understanding "demisexual" is someone who only experiences sexual attraction once there is an emotional bond with another person. But they did not use the term "sexual attraction" when referring to demisexual - just "attraction" (page 22) which is confusing. For "gray-sexual or gray-a" I think it is someone who may experience sexual attraction, but only very limited/very rarely (like only to one or two person in their lifetime). Whereas in the book, they say that "gray-sexual/gray-ace" is more like saying your asexual, but they compared it to saying you are from Seattle, instead of a suburb outside of Seattle - so that didn't jive with me.

I like how they went over questions aces get from their doctors and friends. I also like how they addressed the issue of asexuality in the LGBTGIA+ community. My feelings on that are if there are people in the community who say that aces don't belong, then those are people you don't want to hang out with anyways! They ended their book on how people just need to be kind and understanding and that is a great message.

Was this review helpful?

The title says it all: it is an easy and quick read ! I didn't expect this book to be a comic but it didn't bother me.
I didn't learn anything new, but I think it is an essential read to anyone wondering what asexuality is. It's very informative and easy to understand. I didn't really vibe with the illustration style but it's not very important in such a book.
I think this book is really important and should be spread among everyone, BUT I really didn't like the non commitment of the authors in relation to the fact that aces are LGBT+ or not. They even said that A in LGBTQIA could stand for ally ! It's sad that these authors, who are asexuals themselves, didn't acknowledge that asexuals are part of the LGBT+ community.
Aside from that fact, I really enjoyed this little comic (72 pages!).

Was this review helpful?

I thought this was beautifully written and honestly needs to read by anyone. This could include if they are questioning if you their on the spectrum, know they are, want a better understanding, have a friend who is, etc. Whatever the reason is you choose to read this book; I think this book is wonderfully written and definitely needs to be read. I also loved the visuals that were used.

Was this review helpful?

First and foremost, I loved this book. Well, mostly I did. Being an ace person myself, I could see myself in a lot of things mentioned in the book but again, being an ace person myself, I didn't like this part at all:
"So, are aces covered in LGBTQIA+ or not?"
"Well, there's really no right answer."

When there is in fact a right answer which is YES. Aces, aromantic and agender people do belong in the queer spaces and the "A" in the LGBTQIA+ acronym stands for us.

I would still recommend this book but I definitely suggest the publisher getting this part in order before publication.

Was this review helpful?

I've been trying to figure out my sexuality since I was 14 years old, and while some labels have felt like they sort of fit me, but they've always left me with more questions. I used to think I was broken because I didn't feel any sexual attraction, but that also confused me because I still had high school crushes. It wasn't until I met my husband, my ride-or-die, that I felt sexual attraction to another person, and that took me a while, quite a few months actually.

I'm a romance reader, and this last year I've really branched out into reading queer books; one I read had a demisexual main character, and I felt a little spark in my mind, like hey, this sounds like you. So on and off, I've been googling and researching the Ace spectrum, and then I saw this; A Quick & Easy Guide to Asexuality on NetGalley and knew I had to read it.

I love the format of this book; it's an informational graphic novel and reads like a conversation instead of a dictionary which was beautiful. It was so engaging and felt so inclusive to read. The authors are both on the Ace spectrum, and it was lovely and heart-warming to hear their experiences and how they discovered their sexual identities. This guide is so easy to read, and it feels like a hug in book form. It also answered a lot of questions I've had and made me feel included and more knowledgeable about myself and who I am.

I would 10/10 recommend to anyone who questioning if they're Ace or not. It's a great thing to be informed, and this book is such a quick and easy way to do that.

Was this review helpful?

'A Quick & Easy Guide to Asexuality' in the form of an easy to follow graphic novel was exactly what I needed in my life! I wish this book was written about 10 years ago when I was a confused teenager questioning why I didn't feel the same sexual attraction as everyone else.

This book is perfect for anyone wanting to know more about asexuality - whether for themselves, their friends, partner or just for general knowledge. It covered the basic principles of asexuality including most of the questions I've been asked by people when they find out I'm asexual. It's comforting to know that theres a simple resource like this out there that I can refer them to!

Thank you to the publisher (Oni Press) and NetGalley for this eARC in exchange for an honest review

Was this review helpful?

As the title says, this is a very easy guide that explores the first basic notions of asexuality and how relationships can work for asexual people.
I’ve found it pretty clear and I believe that it could be a good read for high-schoolers or for anyone who has heard about asexuality but who hasn’t understood yet how it works and what it really is.
I hope it will reach many readers.

Was this review helpful?

Another excellent "Quick & Easy Guide", but this time focused on asexuality. These are excellent, short, accessible resources that most ages can use to better understand their world.

Was this review helpful?

It is a very basic guide to asexuality, like the cover says. It doesn't get into the complexity of asexuality. It is helpful for explaining it and Split Attraction Model.
My biggest problem is the art. The body shapes are the same with the same thick neck and stocky body. There is something about the eyes and noses that bother me. They're too simple, but not in a charming way. The noses are L-shaped or with a weird upside down triangle I associate with animal noses. The art is pretty literal with the artist and writer talking to the viewer and recounting their experiences. The most creative part is when they have a graph as a background to explain split attraction theory. The medium of a graphic novel wasn't well utilized

Was this review helpful?

Thanks to NetGalley for providing me the ARC for this book in exchange for a review. As an ace person, none of this was new information for me, but I was reading it to check if it could be a good resource for the allosexual people in my life to read to learn more about what asexuality actually is. I would say yes! This book is very concise and clear in its text and shows a very straightforward and understandable approach to explaining asexuality. It also debunks common ace myths and discusses the place of ace people within the lgbtq community. I definitely recommend this book as a baseline resource for libraries, classrooms or for you to add to your "I'm coming out, here's what that means" gift basket for anyone important in your life.

Was this review helpful?