I really like Rachel Lindsay and was so excited to read this book! Rachel dishes the Bachelor tea, stories about her life, and life advice. I flew through this book and thought it was BY FAR the best Bachelor/Bachelorette books that I've read - and I've read a lot of them! Would highly recommend.

4.5 rounded up

Thank you to the author, Random House Publishing Group - Ballantine, and NetGalley for providing a copy to review!

Welp, that was fun. The former bachelorette tells her truth about the Bachelor franchise, racism, mental health, fairh and love in this memoir in essays. Fans will love this one.

Rachel Lindsay is one of my favorites from the Bachelor world. She has separated herself from the franchise (for good reason), but that won’t stop me from supporting her and keeping tabs on what she’s up to. She is one of the people from the show that I was hoping would write a book, and now it’s here!

Miss Me with That is a collection of essays that cover her relationships, politics, race, The Bachelor, and much more. I really love that these essays can be read out of order, so you can start with the essays that you are most excited about and read the rest after. Her voice really shines through in the essays — it felt like I was having a conversation with her. Rachel’s vulnerability led to me learning a lot more about her. I loved reading about her relationships with the final men on her season, what was aired and what wasn’t (especially her relationship with Bryan, since the show tried to convince everyone that Peter was her first choice).

Rachel doesn’t hold back when talking about the lack of diversity on The Bachelor and how she was treated as the first Black Bachelorette. Miss Me with That is an inspiring book of essays. Everyone will be able to find something they can relate to or learn from.

Former Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay has written about her life in her new book, "Miss Me with That: Hot Takes, Helpful Tidbits, and a Few Hard Truths." Rachel talks honestly about the difficulties being the only Black girl when attending a private school while growing up, as well as the community she finally found in college. As a viewer of "The Bachelor" and "The Bachelorette", I was especially interested in the sections of the book in which she shared her experiences. She shares openly about what caused her to pick Bryan and the relationship they have formed after the show. I appreciate that she has taken her notoriety and used it to make changes in Bachelor Nation.

I would recommend this book to anyone who is part of or a fan of Bachelor Nation.

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know I love the Bachelor franchise and I never miss a memoir. So when I was able to get my hands on an early copy of Miss Me With That thanks to Ballantine, I was so excited. Rachel Lindsay’s memoir is everything you would expect - full of truth, some hot takes, and so much fun background info. She shares her whole like story in this memoir, from her childhood, past relationships, her experiences on the Bachelor/the Bachelorette and more. This is one of the more mature Bachelor nation memoirs I’ve read - Rachel shares her story and her beliefs but in a way that doesn’t feel like she is playing the victim or seeking additional fame

I was expecting this to be good and I'm glad to say I was not disappointed. Lindsay gives a great narrative of her beginnings as a black woman growing up in predominately white communities and how that shaped the public persona we have grown to know today. I enjoyed hearing her perspective and I think she was the right amount of introspective to really weave the story together. Her Bachelor/Bachelorette seasons have been far off, but I almost wish we had seen more of her interesting relationship history play out on TV.

Of course, like other fans, I wished for more salacious details, but understand the choice not to make this book about that.

Thanks to Netgalley and the publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.

Lindsay's conversational and revealing debut is guaranteed to both satisfy fans and garner new ones. Writing in an accessible, chatty tone that feels uniquely hers, Lindsay offers essays covering a range of topics: her childhood, past relationships (some quite disastrous) that informed her outlook on romance, and plenty of details about the process of going on both The Bachelor and ultimately becoming the Bachelorette. The last few chapters offer a blistering critique of the Bachelor franchise that are absolutely riveting, even for casual fans; they aren't to be missed. But the book as a whole is imbued with Lindsay's wit and charm, and there's plenty of interesting bits for readers to dig into. Lindsay is the best thing to come out of the Bachelor industrial complex, and her public work since leaving the show only hints at what she's capable of. Put this in the hands of her fans, fans of reality TV, and those looking for a fun celebrity memoir.

I found some of the chapters about Lindsay’s early relationships fairly boring.

But I *love* that she came for the “Bachelor Klan” and clearly delineated the double standards she’s had to deal with from the Bachelor fandom and producers on the show.

It makes me sad how much racism she’s had to deal with. But BRAVO to her for being a voice for racial justice. 👏🏽

Lindsay is always so honest and forthright with her audience and this book is no different! While I was less interested in the memoir aspects (surprising myself) and more interested in the more contemporary essays, I think Rachel does a great job serving up both in this book. I do wish we'd had more on the Bachelor and less on Ed, but maybe that's just because I found that entire saga of her life so frustrating as an outsider---I think that was the point though, haha. The insight into her relationship/problems with Peter was interesting, and I can't wait to see what Lindsay does next--what an interesting career

OK, I admit it:over the years, I have enjoyed watching and discussing episodes of both The Bachelor and The Bachelorette with my sister. Rachel Lindsay appeared on both shows, first as a candidate for perennial character Nick Viall (what is up with him returning over and over?) and subsequently as the first Black Bachelorette, where she ended up finding and marrying her husband. I watched both seasons, and thought she was an amazing woman.

In Miss Me With That, Rachel shares an amazing amount of detail about both her experiences on the shows and her “real life,” beginning with her privileged childhood as the daughter of a federal judge in Dallas, on through college and law school, to a successful career as an attorney, which she left when she realized she wasn’t happy in a legal career.

Rachel shares an incredible amount of information about her love life, education, sex life, and political views, as well as some juicy details about her stints as a reality TV star. She became VERY well known when she spoke out about the lack of diversity on the hit TV shows, and has always spoken her mind, becoming a respected woman willing to share her strong opinions (as well as her vulnerabilities).

Will be enjoyed by those familiar with The Bachelor/Bachelorette, but also by anyone who appreciates essays by a perceptive observer and participant in the quest for social justice and an outspoken advocate for the Black Lives Matter movement. I came away happy for her: As she puts it, ““The Bachelor gave me an opportunity, but I created my own happy ending.””

Four enthusiastic stars. Much better than I expected, and thanks to Random House/Ballantine and NetGalley for providing a copy in exchange for this honest review. Four stars.