4.25 stars!

Danny Scudd’s life is not going according to his plan in First Time for Everything by Henry Fry. Brutally honest and endearing, I found myself cheering Danny on as he traversed life as a gay man in London. Danny is a character that reminds us we may say and do the wrong thing but it’s owning up to those mistakes that separate us from the pack. And Danny’s journey to accept himself is inspiring and satisfying!

This book has one of the most memorable and hilarious openings I’ve read. We meet Danny as a patient in a health clinic as he’s being tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Danny believes he’s in a loving, committed relationship, so how would he have an STD? And while hearing Danny’s internal (and external) thoughts—specifically in this scene but throughout the novel—is laugh-out-loud funny, it’s also a harsh reminder of how the LGBT+ community is often not accepted or forced to conform to the heteronormative world.

From this low point in Danny’s life, things get progressively worse as (he thinks he) breaks up with his boyfriend, is forced out of his flat, moves into a commune with his flamboyant best friend Jacob, and struggles at work. Finally seeking therapy, the reader accompanies Danny as he reluctantly faces things from his past, explores his new dating life, and learns to love himself and his friends.

At the heart of this story is Danny and Jacob’s friendship. Both of these flawed characters have struggled in very different ways and I so wanted to reach into the book and give them both hugs. I not only laughed, I cried, longing for them both to find their way to peace with each other and themselves.

First Time for Everything examines gender identity and mental health, spotlighting some very serious issues but with a witty and honest tone. It feels especially important to read books and listen to people from the LGBT+ community. To empathize, educate, and learn how to better support our fellow human beings. No one should be made to feel uncomfortable for living their truth.

Coming of Age in Swinging London

Danny thinks he’s escaped his boring small town life by coming to London. Things are going great. He’s in a stable relationship with his boyfriend Tobbs. He has an apartment with his friend Laura and his job is all right. Then everything changes.

In a dull nurses’ office he discovers that he has an STDI. Tobbs hasn’t been as faithful as he’d thought. This leads to a breakup. Then he loses his apartment because Laura is pregnant, and she and her partner want to start a family. Even his job turns sour. He’s rescued by is non-binary friend Jacob who offers to share his apartment. Where Danny is reserved and quiet, Jacob is the buoyant and outgoing.

Fitting into Jacob’s lifestyle Danny learns about a side of London he’s new to. Forced out of his shell. Danny starts to grow and change. He sees a wonderful, supportive counselor, Nina. Together with her and his new experiences, Danny finds the person hidden under is quiet demeanor.

This is a hilarious coming-of-age story. The dialog and humor carry the story. While it deals with a serious topic how the shame experienced by young people because of who they are shapes their life, it is filled with memorable moments. I believe the light, humorous tone keeps the story from becoming too psychological.

I received this book from Random House for this review.

Greatest lesson in life is the one you get while trying to figure out who are you and what kind of a future you are seeing yourself in. It’s the harshest, cruelest and the most brutal lesson. Once you lose your protective layers, once you start to get hit left and right, you start to realize maybe you are not who you think you are, maybe you are just a people pleaser or worse, burden to everyone without knowing. It is the first Time Danny sees that.

When Danny came out, it wasn’t as glamorous as his best friend Jacob’s coming out. Jacob was unapologetic. Jacob knew who they were. Jacob set their boundaries at the beginning claiming their full identity. On the other hand, Danny was still wearing his boring blue shit and trying to put everyone’s need (especially his annoying boyfriend Tobbs’ needs) before his own. After being pushed around so much and being first to be replaced everywhere, he moved in with Jacob. After that a transformation began. This transformation showed Danny maybe he wasn’t the victim as he always claimed to be…

This is like a great coming of age novel but in terms of sexual identity. It was a display of how a person can built walls while calling them boundaries while forgetting what boundaries actually do. It shows how we see ourselves 90% of the time is waaayy different than how people see us. Most importantly, it tells us if we cannot agree on who we are, no one is going to take time to figure that out for us.

I love Danny Scudd. I think his story is one a lot of people will relate to: as someone who has gone through a similar episode, I loved the in depth look, and being able to see his situation improve as he wen through therapy and learned more about himself. I think the biggest critique I would give is that it was really long: most people will probably get bored around the halfway mark, since nothing really happens for a lot of this book.

Henry Fry really nailed the ending with this - over the course of the book Danny becomes SO unlikeable I was beginning to worry that the book was going to reveal that Danny's true self was just a horrible and self-centered person. It was interesting to see Danny dig himself into a hole and then work his way back out again.

Obviously since I'm me I loved the found family here. The Centerfold was home to some of the coolest and weirdest and most loving characters I've read. I particularly loved Melania and how quick she seems to take people under her wing.

This book really gets into the ways different people deal with judgment and shame. Danny and Jacob had this incredible friendship but were complete opposites in how they chose to guard themselves - Danny choosing to become invisible while Jacob leaned into being the center of attention.

I'd say that even though this book isn't Young Adult it is fairly PG13 and hopefully will be an amazing story that young queer people will find relatable.

Thank you to @NetGalley and Random House Ballantine for the copy of this book for my honest review.

First Time for Everything has a lot to offer in the way of self actualization and coming into ones own. Danny Scudd is a uniquely lovable character from the very first scene as we watch his life unravel before his very eyes, but I did start to falter in that feeling as the book went on, and it lost me a bit in the downward spiral of anger.

All in all, tho, this was an interesting coming of age tale told through the eyes of 27 year old Danny. Some of my favorite interactions were his therapy sessions with Nina, followed by those with his eccentrically fabulous best friend, Jacob.

3.5 stars for this debut out tomorrow 5/10

Received from NetGalley, thanks!

I really liked this book! Once again I went in blind, knowing nothing of what it was about and this time it was a win!

Danny Scudd is in his late 20s and the book starts with him at a sexual health clinic and honestly, that was a great way to start a book. Despite how things start, it seems like Danny has his shit together; he has a job he sort of likes, a boyfriend who seems like a complete wanker, a best friend, and a good place to live with some old school friends.

However, things fall apart pretty quickly, and we learn that Danny is kind of a hot mess.

Throughout the book Danny is trying to find himself, figure out who the real Danny Scudd is. I really love how important therapy is to the story. And that it feels so accurate; that the therapist gets Danny to a place where he can figure things out on his own, that she’s not giving him answers or solutions. Mental health is also really prevalent throughout the book. Danny goes through a lot and figured things out about himself and his past that really have an impact on him.

While there is a splashing of romance here and there, overall this book is about friendship, found family, and finding yourself. It looks a lot at gay relationships and what it’s like to be gay in a small, conservative town and the things you do to survive.

While a lot of the content is about gay men, I really liked that it was also about the queer community as whole, as well as other marginalized communities. There was good diversity in the side characters and they all felt well written and like actual characters, not just thrown in there to meet the diversity quota.

Overall, a good book, a really solid debut. There were some great lines and I highlighted a bunch of them. I’ll definitely be watching for more books from this author.

I really flew through this book! I found Danny really charming, and saw some of my life and experiences reflected in this delightfully queer story. I did struggle a bit with the British pop culture references and it felt like a lot went over my head, but still had a really good time reading this book.

Danny Scudd has a massive crisis of identity, not because he's gay, but because he doesn't really know who he is beyond the mild-mannered guy that disappears into the background and lets everyone walk all over him. When the guy he thought was his boyfriend gives him an STI and then informs him there never was a relationship on the same day that the friend he rents a room from kicks him out, Danny finds himself with an opportunity to explore more sides of himself than he ever thought possible and what he finds isn't necessarily for the best.
It goes a lot deeper into depression and the effect on past traumas on current behaviors than I was expecting, but I appreciate how well Fry manages to incorporate the deep thought and discovery moments so well into what is mostly a very entertaining romp.
Fry hid a deep and fascinating journey of self-discovery and relationships in between a story of misadventures and captivating characters. A truly enlightening read that hits all the emotions and makes you think.

Happy thanks to NetGalley and Ballantine Books for the early read!

I could not put this book down. It is wonderfully written, witty, charming and intensely describes the coming of age.

”I can’t believe this: Even my therapist is laughing at how ridiculous my life is.”

Okay. I was clearly not the target audience for First Time for Everything. Surely there is a reader out there who will appreciate (and maybe even enjoy) the story of Danny Scudd and his quirky, messy life, but I was not that reader.

”You need to look after yourself and find someone who treats you like the magical queen you are. Not some second-rate gossip columnist who gives you the boggy balls!”

Pet peeves and trouble spots that this book features in technicolor, in no particular order, that individually I might have overlooked, but together just became too distracting and uncomfortable for my reading tastes:

- regional / generational / sexual (?) jargon and slang terms that I am unfamiliar with and therefore could not process
- a man who names his penis, yikes
- casual use of the C-word for women
- vivid descriptions of STD symptoms, testing, and diagnoses protocol (would have loved to finish my life without any of this information taking up residence in my head, but alas.)
- a culture vibe throughout the book that monogamy and marriage are somehow “outdated and heteronormative” concepts, which frankly I find insulting
- a truly horrible strip club moment where a dancer tries to sexualize period blood (this was the nail in the coffin for me; at this point I was ready to call it quits and absolutely would have DNFed if I wasn’t reading a galley)
- awkward and personally humiliating anecdotes from Danny that were less “self-deprecating-and-funny” and more “Scott’s-Tot’s-level-vicarious-cringe”

”Monogamy is a heteronormative paradigm steeped in misogyny, designed to control. As queers, we get to define our own relationships.”

I will admit that Jacob, the MC’s best friend, seemed like a fun person and a truly good friend. I also really enjoyed reading the insights that Nora, Danny’s therapist, offered—he clearly needed a lot of help and I appreciated the compassionate wisdom she was able to give him.

”I concentrate on helping my clients be kind to themselves, to heal their trauma and understand what’s led them to reaching out for help. I don’t provide solutions, I help guide you to realizing them yourself.”

Overall, though, I really didn’t love it. However, for readers who find depressingly down-on-their-luck characters to be super relatable, or seeking more gay representation in their books, or those who really want a fabulous trans icon/queen like Jacob for a best friend, this book might really resonate.

”Growing up gay in a straight world plays havoc with your rainbow matter.”

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A huge thank-you to Henry Fry, Random House, Ballantine, and NetGalley for an ARC in exchange for an honest review!

DNF @ 35%. I requested this because the tone sounds similar to Bridget Jones's Diary, which I love. While it does have some British humor, I didn't find the characters compelling enough to continue reading. Danny is wishy-washy in an off-putting way (except when he corrects his friends and family about Jacob's pronouns, which Jacob doesn't care much about anyway); I liked Jacob, but at times it felt like they were included more for the sake of representation. The amount of introspection and analysis of Danny's (again, less-than-interesting) life combined with the onslaught of stereotypical queerphobic language made me not want to finish it.

It is funny at times, and it should be praised for its representation, but those are the main positives from me.

First time for Everything by Henry Fry is a light and funny book. I found this to be a very quick read. It definitely helped push me through as there were many funny parts to the story. It was well written and the characters were well developed but I am not the target audience for this novel.
This is also well written for those that need to better understand LGBTQ people and what they go through on their journey for acceptance.
Thank you Netgalley and Random House Publishing for an ARC in exchange for my honest review

I struggled with this one. There was an entire lingo in this book that I had difficulty understanding. Maybe I am too old or too American for this book!

This is a bit of queer man’s coming of age story. Danny has always lived on the periphery of his truths. Trying so hard not to be “too much.” On the flip side, is his mixed-race, flamboyant, non-binary bestie, Jacob.

I didn’t really connect with Danny’s journey, but I did appreciate the raw honesty of his situation and his struggle to figure out his life.

I think if you are looking for a gay Bridget Jones Diary type book with British humor and snappy pop culture references, this is the book for you.

I requested an advance reader copy of this book from the publisher and these are my honest opinions.

I went into this book not knowing much about it. I was pleasantly surprised. The first chapter pulled me in and I needed to know more about Danny and the search to find out who he really was. Who he really wanted to be. Therapy and mental health is a HUGE part of this book and I loved it. This was such a delight and a journey.

A sort of coming of age for a British, gay man named Danny. Life isn't awful, but it isn't great. It takes a sketchy visit to the the STI clinic (this scene was hilarious!) and a LGBTQIA+ commune for Danny to realize just how bad it's all gotten. However, with the help of a empathetic therapist and some really great friends, Danny is about to embark and experience a life he's never thought possible!

Wow, what a story! A character driven read that showcases how important being true to oneself is and how important it is that we treat ourselves just as good as well as we treat those around us.

It took me awhile to fully connect to Danny, but I slowly but surely fell in love with him. He's human. He makes mistake. And sometimes, he's downright awful. But he does the work and he really tries to be better. He's a fully fleshed out character with a backstory and disposition that many can relate to. His growth is the best part of this book and truly impactful to read.

Besides Danny, I really enjoyed the side characters and all the pop culture references. Each character grounded this story in reality and made for a relatable cast. The pop culture reference kept even the more serious matter light and humorous.

My only negatives were mostly pacing and length. Sometimes it felt like the book dragged a bit in the middle. There's a lot of exposition with not too much dialogue. It could've been a bit shorter with a bit more action. Some of the more climatic bits came much later than expected.

Otherwise, a solid read with great LGBTQIA+ representation and meaningful themes that will keep me thinking about this one for a while!

Thank you Netgalley and Random House Publishing Group - Ballantine, Ballantine Books for sharing this ARC with me in exchange for my honest review!

So, this isn't my normal genre but I picked it because the main character reminded me of one of my best friends. And reading it he really is like one of my besties but I forgot how much that bestie can annoy me with all of his anxiety lol. It's a decent book, I think it would make a great tv show.

First Time for Everything is Henry Fry’s debut novel.

Danny Scudd is a white, gay, man. He has never been comfortable with who he is. This is his exploration into self discovery. He learns who he is and to be comfortable with who he is through ordinary life activities. Nothing crazy or insane, just normal life for Danny, navigating his own identify. Danny also suffers from anxiety, that at times is crippling. He shares his struggles through journaling and therapy. One thought that particularly stuck with me is when the main character says he never thought of being gay as anything but a defect of being straight. That thought stuck with me.

I haven’t read many books narrated from the perspective of a gay male, obviously this is not my own perspective so it’s always interesting for me to be able to put myself in someone else’s shoes. I loved the idea that Danny needed to become comfortable with who he was, comfortable in his own skin. Doing so, involved some major realizations, a move, a break up, failed dating, a job promotion and a bit of a nervous breakdown. This novel is a slow burn of Danny’s saga of self-realization.

BOOK FEATURE

First Time for Everything ~ Henry Fry

When Danny Scudd’s relationship gets turned upside down and his roommates decide on starting a family, he is forced to start over - in an East London “commune.” Moving in with his best friend Jacob catapults Danny into new experiences in dating, work, and queer life - he’s even started therapy!

It isn’t long before Danny realizes that he might not have been living his life as his truest self. With the help of his new therapist, roommates, and mistakes turned into life lessons, he starts to face the truth for the first time. “This is a book for anyone who has ever felt like an outsider - for all of us who have gone through the joyful, excruciating, and necessary journey of discovering the people we were always meant to be.”

Have you ever been searching for an answer to who you are or just trying to navigate life? That’s exactly what Danny Scudd is trying to do. Danny is a queer male who is trying to figure out who he is and carve out his place in this world. Through events in the book he finds himself single and homeless then ends up moving in with his friend and starts on his path to self discovery.

This book was really well written, the characters were witty and very relatable. However there were so many side character that it became overwhelming at times for me to keep track of. This is not my go to book but I found it to be a really enjoyable read.