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Sh*t I Say to Myself

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Breaks down specific negative thoughts that plague our brain and lets us know in direct terms how to deal with them. This is a book that gets shit done!

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This book is a nice introduction to negative self-talk and the ways in which you can interrupt it. I liked the fact that it was broken down by the specific negative phrases that we tend to use on ourselves and what those phrases might be revealing about our true emotional state. My only real complaint is that the overviews are very brief (2-3 pages per negative phrase), which is great if you're just starting to address your negative self-talk but not very in depth for those already on their journey.

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We are our own worst enemies. The stuff we say to ourselves we would never even think of saying to someone else. The language used in this book is geared toward a younger crowd the 20-30 year olds. At times it can be a bit gimmicky but for the most part it is relatable.

Based on CBT this book's focus is on negative thinking and with 40 examples you are sure to find many that fit your own negative thinking. It's not groundbreaking stuff but as a starter to dealing with your issues it is a fun little book

I received an arc of this book via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

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I have read a ton of books that are meant to help you deal with your anxiety and this is by far the best one I’ve ever read.

I love how this book tackles so many of the intrusive thoughts that I have on a regular basis. Not only did Katie give very clear real-life situations, but all of her examples were also so relatable. I kept reading sections and saying oh my gosh that’s me! And I’ve had that experience in a book before, but she took it one step further, which is what made this book stand out.

She actually gives step-by-step instructions on what you can do to help. She gave me things to think about and then things to write out to process how I was feeling it. I can actually look back and say oh I’m having this thought. Let me try and go work through it to get me back out of it.

This also was a great way for me to share more with my husband. He’s very understanding but sometimes I don’t know how to articulate the cycle that I’m in. When I worked through a chapter that was particularly difficult, I could go to him and we can talk about why it was hard, and then what strategy was suggested. It’s literally a toolbox that can sit on my shelf.

I read this as an e-book, but I’m going to buy a physical copy and go through and highlight a ton. She does use foul language, so just a caution but my brain responds well to that. If you’re like me, check it out for sure!!

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This book apparently has been sitting in on my therapy appointments because it is all questions and sentences I have said and what my therapist has said back to me. Save yourself the months and months of therapy bills and read this book, super helpful tips and information about what we think, why we think it and how we can help reframe our thoughts.

Ok maybe keep going to therapy but keep this book in your back pocket for when you need reinforcement.

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I really enjoyed this book, I loved how forthright and straight to the point it was, no faffing about, just hits you right where you need it at that moment. It was very though provoking, particularly in regards to the ways you speak to yourself, and how exhausting, devastating an deterring that language can be, especially if it's constant.

It felt very relatable and the fact it's from the mind of an actual therapist was really enlightening, especially someone whose had to battle with this incessant and draining negative talk themselves. It is enlightening to the ways these negative mantras about yourself and your capabilities impact your growth, and reaching the goals you're aspiring for, as well as your own happiness and self-esteem.

The questions and opportunities to reflect throughout the book were really great additions. They helped to remind you of what you've learnt so far from the book, but also in challenging these negative preconceptions , and how to encourage the change of these to more positive and uplifting statements to help you grow and heal your relationship with yourself and your mind.

Overall it's just a very important, though provoking and empowering book, to help you overrule the negative self-talk that is often quite prominent in our lives, and use the tools and tricks to slowly replace these with more positive affirmations. I've learn a great deal, and I think it helped that Katie expressed things so directly and candidly. It's always interesting to learn more about the way your own brain functions within day to day life, and just how much negative self-talk is ingrained, without being fully aware of it.

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This a great self-help book to remind you to be kind and love yourself. Worth the read and highly recommended for all the women who talk shit to their selves most of the time.

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This is a practical and easy to read book to help a person navigate negative self talk and to counteract sh*t talk with talk that is more productive. It draws heavily from CBT and the author references some of my favorites in the mental health arena (Brene Brown, Kristin Neff). The author is transparent with her struggles and how she counteracts unproductive self talk. I appreciated the psycho education on the biological aspects of how our brains are wired and how the techniques in the book work to “rewire” your brain.

I received an ARC courtesy of the publisher and NetGalley. The opinions are my own.

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Sh*t I Say To Myself is a self-help guide written by psychotherapist Katie Krimer regarding how to break up with a toxic mindset. Using cognitive behavioral therapy, the author provides the reader with techniques of letting go of negative thoughts and moving forward with positivity and confidence. This is a straight forward approach to improving one self and provided individuals with tools to remove the toxicity. It is approachable and broken down in a way that is easy for a "common" person to understand.

Personally, I really enjoyed the authors snarky approach to the topic. She uses approachable language and examples from her own life. She refers to herself as a former negative thinker and expresses how much better she feels without the toxicity. There are 40 main points that are focused on and several organigrams are used for visual reference. These diagrams are helpful and would be a good ting to post for helpful reminders.

The 40 main points are each broken down into small categories and short chapters. Each chapter has an example of the negative thought and how to remove it from your life. I found this guide to be an easy but also a bit repetitive. Due to the repetitiveness, it did take me a while to finish reading. I just kept drifting in and out of the desire to read it.

Sh*t I Say To Myself uses a proven professional technique in a way that is easy and understandable. The way Katie Krimer talks about herself and her negative mind is relatable. I believe there is a target audience of younger readers (age 20 to 30) but there is something for anyone to pick up. The tone however will not be for all readers. It is blunt, uses swearing to describe things, and also uses slang that may not be recognizable by older generations. The tone may be blunt but, it is still supportive and encouraging to the reader. It is set up to help the reader and remove the toxicity for their lives.

Rating: 3.5 Stars

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Thank you so much Netgalley and the publisher for approving my request to read this book in exchange of honest opinion!

Though I try to steer clear of nonfiction, I've read great self-help books via Netgalley in 2022 and it is certainly one of the most memorable ones. It is written in a humorous way and made me laugh out loud while also pointing out the mistakes I've been making all over my life. The best feature of the book is it didn't make me feel attacked or like I've been living my life all wrong. It was easy to read and though you might know a lot of the information and methods she included, her tone is cheery and hopeful which will definitely lift up your spirit. Sometimes you just need to hear the truth from someone else. A comforting word or two, to know that everything is going to end up fine if we just persist and keep believing ourselves. Her reassuring voice was similar to a warm hug and I loved it, will probably collect a copy. Thanks again! I truly had a great time.

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I think this book has some really interesting and helpful ideas to help deal with negative thoughts and self-talk. It's something that I think we all do and go through, and it's good to acknowledge it but find a way to resist or stop doing it. I would highly recommend a read-through, and I'm thinking it would be good to buy and just have a copy in hand.

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An easy to read, conversational style book that coaches readers to improve their own self talk. Highly recommend for anyone interested in self development.

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Negative self-talk is prevalent for many of us. We talk to ourselves in such a negative way that we would never talk to others. This leads to increased depression, decreased self-esteem, and heightened anxiety. This book is a quick, easy, relatable read about how to combat the negative self-talk. Strategies to combat negative self-talk were presented in an “easy to follow” format with real life examples so that you and use them right away in your life. I highly recommend this book. Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for the advance review copy in exchange for my honest review.

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The author does an excellent job of explaining topics and providing personal and/or hypothetical examples. The writing style is friendly and witty. This book is full of information, inspiration, practical tips, and exercises for readers to explore how the content impacts their own lives.

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I struggle SO much with negative self talk. I identified so much with this no-nonsense, tell it like it is book!

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Many of us with depression and anxiety tend to fall into the never ending loop of ruminating. This book covers forty such thoughts and has exercises and coping strategies to break you out of the negative self talk cycle. There are little illustrations included throughout, and the book is written in a casual & snarky way. So if you’ve steered clear of self-help books in the past because they were too stuffy then you might enjoy this one; it’s more like you’re speaking with a friend rather than a doctor.
I wouldn’t say there’s anything groundbreaking contained in the book, but still plenty of great info presented in a palatable way.

Thank you to NetGalley & New Harbinger Publications for this advanced reader copy. All opinions expressed in this review are my own.

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It's time to break p with your toxic mind. If you often have thoughts that bring you down of have a negative outlook, weather it's on yourself or on life in genera, this one is for you.
The author gives helpful techniques to change your negativity into something more productive. The writing is really familiar and relatable, and is probably targeting people in their 20s and 30s. It's an easy read, divided in short chapters, each presenting a different negative thought and ways to get rid of it. It also presents great organigrams that I will definitely recreate to pin them on my fridge to reference when needed.
I received an advance review copy for free and I am leaving this review voluntarily.

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***Thanks to the publisher and Netgalley for providing me with a digital copy of this book in exchange for an honest review***
Hilarious and fresh.

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I really enjoyed reading this book. I've suffered from Anxiety and Depression for a very long time and always appreciate reading something that will bring me back to a healthier headspace. This work really resonated with me, the author had a great writing style and it didn't feel like a chore to read it (as can often happen with books designed to be helpful).

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Okay now this was something! Definitely will be using a couple of these in my daily life. Very entertaining to read and intriguing.

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