Like many others have said, this isn’t really a comprehensive guide for approaching intimacy if you’re trans or in a relationship with someone who is. It’s more like a general sex ed guide, but without the boring high school textbook feel and with a lot more inclusivity. If you weren’t given an inclusive option to take a sex ed course in your lifetime, I think there’s enough new material that is beneficial for adults to learn.

This book is really an updated sex education guide that whilst marketed for Trans people, it is really for everyone. I really enjoy this read and although most of the information wasn't new to me it is a very comprehensive guide for anyone not just for non cisgender heterosexual people.

The book intends to address all areas and people it is a great starting point. I also think that this book will help a lot of people feel understood and validated.

I highly recommend this book for trans, enby and for anyone who just wants a more inclusive and comprehensive version of sex education.

I think I misunderstood what this book was, and that's one me, so I will rate is highly because I do believe that for someone ELSE this book could be deeply helpful. I was hoping for a more detailed, higher level look at this topic (as someone who is trans and who has had a complex relationship with physical relationships but is looking to improve them) but this was much more basic. A very shallow and wide river instead of deep one, if you will. And that can be very helpful for someone else.

‘Trans Sex’, whilst focusing primarily on the physical trans experience and options for sex and physicality, is essentially an inclusive sex ed guide that most adults would likely find useful. It covers some specialist trans topics, such as various realignment or gender reaffirming possibilities, but also recovers the familiar sex ed concepts of ‘safer’ sex and STIs with inclusive language.

The language alternates between passionate and personal, and dry and factual for various topics, but it is never difficult to read or focus on.

This book is highly detailed and tackles a lot of subjects in a short space. I do think there could be more detail given in some areas, especially regarding practical application/tips, and parts are a little dry - overall though, this was comprehensive as an introductory text.

Although this book wasn’t entirely what I expected or hoped for, I still believe that it is incredibly valuable. As a non-binary individual whose sex life has definitely been impacted by gender dysphoria, I had hoped that this would be a primary focus of “Trans Sex.” In reality, the section on dysphoria is limited to approximately 1 page and provides general prompts or ideas with little exposition.

Instead, the bulk of this book explores what I would consider “basic adult sex education “— but with a more inclusive approach than any other book I have read. The definition of “sex” is broadened. Trans bodies (with and without medical transition) are considered. Lubrication, sex toys, and kink are all included in how to play safely. As someone who has professionally adapted sex education curricula for better LGBTQ+ inclusion, I loved to see this author providing the sex education that our community deserves but so rarely receives.

Unfortunately, my experience as a sex educator also meant that most of this book was a review. At this point in my own journey, I tend to choose books that offer an in-depth exploration of a specific technique or topic. “Trans Sex” is meant to be more of a primer; a sampling of topics that provides an overall well-rounded starting point.

That’s not to say that I didn’t learn anything though! The anal douching section was incredibly thorough and educational. I learned about the “authentic consent model” which is much more relatable than “enthusiastic consent” for me personally. And I really appreciated the short historical details, especially within the kink and BDSM sections. (I even made notes about who created the “Safe, Sane, Consensual” and “Risk-Aware Consensual Kink” frameworks, so that I can research those individuals later.)

There were also parts of “Trans Sex” that just made me feel understood and validated — which is equally important. For example, the author explicitly recognizes that chests can sometimes feel more gendered than genitalia, simply because it is a part of the body that is more easily visible in public life. Midori’s lovely idea of asking “How do you want to FEEL during a scene/sexual encounter?” was also included, which has been a game-changer in my complicated relationship with sex.

Overall, I would highly recommend this book; for trans folks, for their cis partners, for anyone who just wants a more inclusive and comprehensive version of sex ed than what we received in school. Even if you are beyond the need for a beginner's primer, I still believe that this book will be a valuable addition to your sexual repertoire.

This is absolutely great. It is so refreshing to read a book like this which doesn't make any assumptions about which people have which body parts. I particularly love the phrasing of 'non-op' / 'post-op' to normalise different bodies.

If I had one TINY gripe it's that the kink section doesn't really include trans-specific info. I can see a political argument for that (kink is for everyone!) but it doesn't really fit with the rest of the book, which explicitly addresses the differences that might be relevant to trans folk (or people playing with trans folk) in each section.

Aside from that, I totally loved it - and am grateful for the extensive further reading list, and for the frequent reminders that terminology and science changes all the time, and that this book is part of an ongoing literature. I am a trans person myself, working adjacent to the field, and will be recommending it widely.

This book seems to offer clear, factual, and positively presented information on a subject that is very useful but not always readily available. I intend to purchase this for my public library, as it is a locally relevant subject.

This is a much needed nonfiction book that explain sex, and how sex affects the bodies when it come to trans people. Although this book is demographic towards trans people, I do think that this would an excellent resources for cis partners that want to learn more about the basics of sex with trans people. I recommend this book everyone.

THIS IS THE BOOK WE'VE BEEN NEEDING. Trans Sex by Kelvin Sparks is a gift to the transgender and gender nonconforming community. There is so little out there about trans bodies, and even less about trans sex. How do we navigate it? How do we express ourselves in ways that are both physically healthy and emotionally validating? This book provides so much insight into what it means to be trans, and the varied ways in which trans bodies can navigate their sexual experience. We've needed a Sex Ed just for trans folks, and this is it.

I’m not really sure what this book means to do. It reads as a formal textbook with sterile illustration but has no purpose as it says nothing new.

Strange and pointless.

This book was amazing. Not only is it informative, but it is clear, concise, and inclusive. I love how the author used language to normalize the way we should be talking about bodies, functions, behaviors, and safety. The emphasis on reducing shame around bodies, behaviors, and common thoughts helps the reader to "hear" the message. As I cisgender therapist who specializes in working with Trans and non-binary folks, as well as people exploring their sexuality, I found the book to be an amazing resource, and will be recommending it to all of my clients. BRAVO. #TransSex #NetGalley

A little book of immeasurable importance. Every single one of my friends are trans, their partners are trans, my fiancé and I are trans, this book will be gifted to them with love, amusement, and care. Thank you!