I completely fell in love with Clover from the first chapter. And I guess I must be in love with Mikki Brammer, too, for writing sentences like “the overhead light reflecting in his eyes like sunbeams on an unopened Coca-Cola bottle.”

Clover is a death doula. I had never heard the term and didn’t even know if it was real, so, of course, I googled it. Yes, there is such a thing, and yes, there are death cafes also, where people come together to talk about death. A death doula walks with you through the last days of your life, and helps you process.

Clover keeps three notebooks, in which she keeps notes on the last words or moments of her clients. One is Advice, one is Confessions, and one is Regrets. Clover tries to learn from them. She even tries to do some of the things people regret they never did.

You see, Clover is an extreme introvert. After her (rather uncaring) parents died in an accident abroad, Clover is raised by her grandfather. A wonderful man, he nevertheless presents a world in which the two of them are enough. So after his death, Clover really doesn’t know things like how to make friends or find lovers.

I don’t want to give away too much of the book (which is a must read) but two people walk into Clover’s life. One is Sebastian, whose grandmother is dying but the whole family thinks she doesn’t know. Sebastian wants Clover to be his grandmother Claudia’s death doula.
The other person is Sylvia, her new neighbor, who won’t take no as an answer, from life or from Clover.
Before the book is over, there is also Hugo.

I have a feeling this is one of those books I’m going to reread, just for the pleasure of revisiting it. I received an advance copy in exchange for my honest review, but I am quite sure if I hadn’t, I would have bought it anyway.

P.S. I do hope Mikki is going to write the screen play for the movie herself. It’s got to be a movie! It should be one of those ones with translucent figures of Grandpa, and Claudia, and Hugo each standing behind and watching over their loved one.

The Collected Regrets of Clover is a delightful, ultimately heartwarming debut novel by Mikki Brammer. Clover Brooks has a unique experience with death. In kindergarten, she observes her teacher pass away in the middle of story time and her reaction stands out from her classmates. Her parents die in an accident while they are traveling abroad, leaving a young Clover to live with her grandfather in New York City. After her grandfather dies while Clover is abroad, she turns to a profession unknown and misunderstood by many- a death doula. She helps individuals who are close to death through the end of life process, including many who would be alone otherwise. This profession, not surprisingly, can be a challenge to bring up when meeting people. While Clover is good with the dying, she finds herself not putting herself out there in relationships of her own. She is very much a loner, retreating after negative experiences both in friendships and potential romances. Her only consistent friend is an elderly man who lives in her building that she has known since she was a child.

After establishing Clover's life, Brammer introduces unexpected risks for Clover to take. After meeting Sebastian at a death cafe, she agrees to spend time with his dying grandmother Claudia. She also has a new neighbor move in below her who is persistent on getting to know her. She has to open herself up to new adventures (road trip to uncover a mystery love) and relationships (friendship and budding romance). All while trying to not to regress to her mean solitude when things do not go smoothly.

This is a lovely debut. Clover is an enjoyable and memorable character to follow throughout and I found myself deeply moved as the book came to an end. While I had some minor quibbles with how one of the side characters was written, this book was a delight, and highly recommend to readers interested in a moving tale of connection and finding joy and peace in difficult life circumstances. Well done!

Thank you to St. Martin's Press via NetGalley for the advance reader copy in exchange for honest review.

Clover, a death doula, has struggled to live a life worthy of the books after the death of her grandpa over a decade ago. With the help of a persistent new neighbor and a new client Clover slowly comes out of her shell and builds a life worth living.

This one hit a tad too close to home for my liking. “I regret existing out of habit.” What a line and what a massive gut punch. The first line of the book was also a banger. “The first time I watched someone die, I was five.”

Even though Clover insisted she isn’t asexual, she’s definitely demi coded.
- “I studied his face as he talked, trying to decide if he was attractive.”
- “I couldn't tell the difference between platonic admiration and the lukewarm beginnings of romantic attraction.”
These lines could be attributed to Clover’s inexperience but even those who have little experience don’t usually have trouble deciding whether they have romantic feelings unless they’re on the ace spectrum. The world needs more demi rep anyway so I hope she is.


Other notable quotes for me:
“But extended solitude was always a fickle thing. At first it soothed, swaddling me from the chaos and expectations of being human. Then, in an instant, it shifted from rejuvenation to numbing isolation.”
“Loving someone inevitably also meant one day losing them-if not by rejection or betrayal, then most certainly by death.”
“Just because you don't feel your feelings, doesn't mean they don't exist.”
“Pitying them wouldn't take away their pain. The kindest thing I could do for them was to look them in the eye and simply acknowledge their presence as human beings.”

3.5⭐

Thirty-six-year-old Clover Brooks works as a death doula in New York City, guiding her clients through the last days of their lives – keeping them company while also taking note of their last wishes and much more to make the transition easier for them. Witnessing the death of her kindergarten teacher as a child fueled her interest in the subject of death and her academic pursuit in thanatology. When she was twenty-three her grandfather who had raised her passed away while she was traveling and this further motivated her to her engage in this line of work. Though she is a consummate professional and takes pains to not get emotionally attached to her clients, she does record her experiences in three notebooks documenting what her clients share with her through their interactions in the form of -“Regrets”, “Advice” and “Confessions”. Her social life is practically non-existent and her closest friend is Leo her elderly neighbor and a friend of her late grandfather. When she isn’t working she spends her time watching movies, attending death cafes and watching her neighbors through their open windows. When Clover meets Claudia, a terminally ill but spirited ninety-one-year-old former photojournalist and grandmother of Sebastian, whom she met in a death café, Claudia’s stories and her regrets encourage Clover to take stock of her life and her own regrets. Uncharacteristically for her, she finds herself on a quest to help Claudia in a personal matter – a regret that Claudia has harbored over a lifetime – and doing so just might enable Clover to look at her own life and regrets from a fresh perspective.

One might expect a story that revolves around a death doula to be morbid and/or depressing. But Mikki Brammer’s debut novel The Collected Regrets of Clover is far from that. A celebration of life that urges you to enjoy every moment, take advantage of the opportunities life throws your way and live life with as few regrets as possible is a wonderful message this story conveys. The flashbacks to Clover’s childhood and her memories of her grandfather are so beautifully written and I just loved Claudia. Sylvie was an interesting character, to say the least. However, there are a few aspects of this story that prevented me from giving it a higher rating. Clover’s characterization felt both inconsistent and unconvincing. On one hand, she is portrayed as someone well-traveled and displays much maturity in her professional life but much of what we see of her in her personal life reads as a tad immature for a thirty-six-year-old. I also understand loneliness and the importance of human connection but Clover’s attempts at alleviating her feelings of loneliness by peeping into the lives of others (literally, with a pair of binoculars) was a tad off-putting, though I did feel sad for Clover. On this note, while I can see a character who has led an otherwise solitary life harboring a great deal of grief and closed off from friendship or romantic relationships take gradual steps in emerging from her self-constructed shell, the romance track (which I felt was unnecessary) and the changes in Clover’s worldview in this story felt a tad rushed.

Overall, this is a lovely story with a beautiful message that will resonate with many. I truly appreciate the premise and found the subject matter relevant and thought-provoking. There is a lot to like about this story and I appreciate the author’s effort to shed a light on sensitive topics such as aging, loneliness and the need for end-of-life respect and comfort.

Many thanks to author Miki Brammer, St. Martin’s Press and NetGalley for the digital review copy of this novel. All opinions expressed in this review are my own. This book is due to be released on May 9, 2023.

I'm not going to lie, when I picked up this book, I had no idea what to expect. The character didn't hook me at first, the situation was quite strange, and I thought I had walked into a book I wasn't going to enjoy at all.

I truly enjoyed this book, so very much.

I loved the side characters. I loved how the romance ended up. I enjoyed the main character, though I obviously liked her more once she started to come into her own.

There's something so quietly lovely about this book, and the death notebooks that Clover kept, that is going to make me think about this book longer than I thought I would.

What a warm little book.

Thank you to Saint Martin's Press and NetGalley for a chance to read and review.

Oooooo this was a good one. Challenging and thought provoking in the best way. I loved getting to know death a bit better from each characters perspective. And yes, I will fully admit to getting weepy thinking about my own regrets when it comes to my grandparents because boy do I have them.

I loved the overall concept of this story, Clover’s background and underlying personality, and how that plays out with her life choices and how she interacts with other characters. It was uncomfortable in the same way that all growth is: messy, necessary, and satisfying.

In this end, I’d recommend this read, especially to those who may be struggling with grief.

I'm on the fence about this novel. At thirty-six Clover is a loner, a bit childish at times, and is a death doula. I had never heard of this before and actually had to research what a death doula is. The book is ok, just bland. It could have used a little more drama. Thanks to Mikki Brammer, St.Martins Press, and NetGalley for providing a copy of this ebook for an honest review.

Thank you to St Martin's Press for the chance to read and review this book prior to release.

This was such a unique concept : a death doula with very few friendships/relationships keeping track of all of her "patients" regrets and advice. As she spent the last few moments of their lives with so many people, she gained a great deal of wisdom about life, but yet failed to put much of what she learned into practice.

It took just a few pages for me to fall in love with the writing style of Mikki Brammer. She has such a great way of describing emotions and helping you get a depth of understanding for the characters.

Clover was such an interesting person with such a heavy past that I was left feeling so bad for her. While some of her decisions were pretty rough, you can't fault her too much based on her obsurd upbringing.

There were parts of this story I loved and some parts I could have done without. I did appreciate the ending and how things came together.

I think this will be a hit for those who liked Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine. It gave me those same happy/sad vibes simultaneously. I don't think this will be for everyone and I don't personally relate to Clover but I know many will.

I'm so excited to read what she writes in the future!

This will be available on May 9th.

I went into this with significantly different expectations than the reality of what I got. I guess I was expecting that I would get something closer to a more literary experience than the eat pray love-esque rom com the author ended up giving me. I started tuning out at about the time the man stalking her was portrayed as romantic and at a certain point just subtituted in a mental image of Sebastian Stan any time he was mentioned. By the time we got to the low key homophobia I was actively rolling my eyes. And by the time we got the cliche as hell "death should affirm life" trope I was pounding at the bit to be done. Ended up not being for me.

Many thanks to NetGalley and the Publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.

This was a well written book about the art of dying. I loved how it tackled a more unique subject matter in a thoughtful and meaningful way. The one thing that bothered me was her age and “inexperience”. I think if she was younger, it would have made more sense. Regardless, I enjoyed the charters and the sentiments. It’s a great read!

The Collected Regrets of Clover is a beautiful, funny, heartwarming, and interesting debut novel. Clover is a death doula who seems to be far more comfortable with the dying than with the living. Through new relationships with the grandson of a client and a new tenant in her building, as well as an old relationship with her elderly best friend, she slowly learns to embrace life and stop living in the past and dwelling in her regrets.

This book is a breath of fresh air. The writing is descriptive and makes the characters come to life. I loved watching Clover grow and change throughout the book. Her journey is inspiring and exciting.

Clover Brooks is a death doula in New York City. This wasn’t her original career path, yet there’s a reason she doesn’t want people to die alone. Guilt, past trauma and loneliness have plagued Clover, until she decides it’s time for a change. Opening her heart to new friendships and love might be risks. However, her new client Claudia has her thinking that risks are better than regret. This leads Clover on a road-trip to help Claudia with some unfinished business. The Collected Regrets of Clover discusses love, loss and the fear of living an unfulfilled life.
 
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I was interested in reading The Collected Regrets of Clover because bereavement was the central focus of the novel. Loss is discussed and death takes place, yet it isn’t for shock value. Mikki Brammer wrote these moments to honor the character’s impact on protagonist Clover. As much as I connected with the message this story conveyed, it didn’t grab my attention until halfway through the book. Towards the end the pace and storylines picked up. Since the road-trip was the focus of the synopsis, I would have loved for it to have a larger role in the novel.

Publication Date May 9, 2023
Thank you Netgalley and St. Martin’s Press for the ARC ebook in exchange for an honest review.

hank you to @us.macmillin, #StMartinsPress and #NetGalley for a digital ARC of #TheCollectedRegretsofClover. The opinions expressed here are entirely my own.

The concept of this book intrigued me. The protagonist - 36 year old Clover - is a death doula in New York. She makes a living helping people prepare for their death. Sounds like a heavy topic, but the author does a really good job of talking about preparing to die in a very honest and almost comforting way. And for me, that is the highlight of this book.

Yet, I almost abandoned this book less than 20% in. I just didn't connect with the characters in any way. I think Clover is meant to be quirky and socially awkward, but she's just sad. Her life has been negatively impacted by deaths in her own family. As a result, she lives a very lonely, isolated life by choice. The story unfolds predictably and Clover gets her "happy-ish" ending, but I just didn't care.

It looks like I'm in the minority with my opinion on this book. Overall, it was OK. Not sure I would recommend it.

A rare gem !
This book treat a difficult subject without being sad or too heavy. The writing is really excellent I could quote half of the book !! No stereotypes or cliché, so relatable. I really recommend it either you just want a good book or something on grief specifically.
I feel really grateful to have discover this book thanks to netgalley in exchange of an honest review.

Warning this book should come with a free prescription for Lexapro. I have never been so depressed while reading than in this book. There are types of "Sad Reading" that we all love, you know the ugly cry kind.Think Love Story, A Walk To Remember, Titanic, where you have a pint of Ben and. Jerrys (wait scratch that--Edy's Cookies N Cream) sweat pants, messy bun alone on a Friday night let it all out sister.
BUT this is the type of read that was just gloom and doom for 95% of the book, it was so morbid. I give this book two stars (I would give it 1) if it were not for Hugo. Clover the protaganist whole life has been surrounded by death and people (including her parents) who were incapable of love. I couldnt help but feel tragically sad for her. Her job a "death doula" -could have made for a cool quirky read as I thought i was promised-- instead the author took this down a deep cliff. I felt no passion from Clover. She was just a "dud", no emotion, no life to her. Honestly her dying clients seemed to have more of a life than our Clover.
Don't get me started on Sabastian, I immediately started waing red flags with his inability to know her coffee order (total cliche in a movies and books) His treatment of Clover again, was just what I am going to sum up as what a "Pompous Donkey" --so there.
I was hoping at the end there would be some happy ending in regards to Claudia/Hugo, however again the reader is left with another heaping pile of gloom.
I'm sorry I did not think this was charming in anyway, and frankly I can't wait to get y hands on the cheesiest Hallmark book that I can to pull myself out of this deep state of depression brought on by this book .

Thank you Netgalley and Mikki Brammer for this advanced copy read. I was not influenced for this honest review. These are all my own opinions.

PS DON"T YOU LOVE THE COVER???

TW: Death, Close Family Members

This novel has taught me a lot about how to deal with my own grief, how to support those who have lost someone important to them and how to be there for someone you love who is reaching the end of their life.

Clover tends to live in her own world, only speaking to clients of hers who are close to death, as her occupation as a Death Doula. Throughout the story, Clover learns from her books of Advice, Confessions and Regrets from clients who have passed - categorizing them throughout their last few days of life. I found that although Clover did lack certain emotional characteristics and experiences, I empathized with her. I appreciated her development throughout the book and her ability to "be cautiously reckless".

I found Mikki was able to write about the difficult topic of death, and make it simple throughout the dialogue and the messages that were conveyed. I laughed and I cried, and I felt like I became friends with Clover, Slyvie, Leo, Hugo and Claudia.

A very special thanks to NetGalley for providing me with a digital copy and the amazing opportunity to self-reflect and grow as a person, just as Clover did.

Good book if you can get through the first quarter of the book which is very morbid. The rest is easy reading and sorta funny as Clover tries to navigate her first friendships while being a death doula.

Thank you Netgalley for the ARC

Thank you NetGalley for an advanced copy of THE COLLECTED REGRETS OF CLOVER by Mikki Brammer. I really enjoyed this beautiful story about making the most out of life and death. I'd never heard of a death doula, Clover's profession, but learning about it was really interesting. The best part was definitely just seeing Clover's character growth from being so isolated and grief-stricken to learning how to create a life she wouldn't have to regret when she died. The ending was so inspirational and filled with so many great little quotes: "Grief is just love looking for a place to settle," and "The secret to a beautiful death is to live a beautiful life," and many more. I loved it!

The Collected Regrets of Clover is a thoughtful and comforting book about living life. Clover Brooks came to know death early in life. First her kindergarten teacher dies while reading a story to Clover's class, then her parents die in an accident while on vacation. As a young child, Clover was raised in a NYC apartment by her grandfather who was a biology professor. Now thirty-six year old Clover is a death doula to comfort terminally ill people. Author Mikki Brammer provides readers with a good framework to discuss death and living, regrets and hopes. This novel is recommended for discussion groups and young adult readers.