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The Emotionally Exhausted Woman

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I am reminded of a book I read too, "Black Women Die Exhausted," when I think of the content of this book, because more often that not-women are raised and affirmed to believe that they should always be the giver, always be at the service of others and never of themselves, and Nancy shares insights on how easy it is for women to be depleted-exhausted and stressed with being there for everyone and everything but themselves.
This book promises that you’ll learn why you are feeling depleted, why you take care of others at the expense of taking care of yourself, and how to develop a deeper form of self-care beyond the temporary respite of a spa retreat, bubble bath, or manicure.
This book raises your awareness to your situation, and I found it to a good place to start to gauge just how near burnt out you are and then offers some practical tips on what you can do to relax, ease off that tension.
It's not a 100% perfect solution, but it's a great place to start for that conversation. Thanks Netgalley for the eARC.

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I usually don't read anything related to self-help or close to it, probably due to some bias of mine. but this book was such a refreshing read! I'm glad I gave it a shot.
while I didn't "learn" anything per se, it put things into words when I couldn't. I thought about them but they were just abstract thoughts.
I think any woman living in a society will be able to see a lot of themselves in this book.

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Thank you so much Netgalley, Nancy Colier and the publisher for the ARC!

I love this book. It is exactly how I expected it would be - touching some of the important issues, exploring and explaining what she believes to be the problems and what can be the solutions. There are good parts and not-so-good parts but the best trait of the book is that it never made me want to fall asleep for which I am grateful. I always get terribly bored while reading nonfiction. It also didn't tell me something legendary or remarkably life-changing and that's fine. I wasn't expecting it to change my life, I was hoping to learn about her outlook which I did and therefore am quite satisfied. Recommended!

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I felt this title in my soul. I did think the book had great explanations on the why we as women feel exhausted but was kind of lacking on the how to fix it. Still an interesting read.

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A genuinely helpful book for every woman. This book talks in detail about the root causes of why women end up feeling exhausted. While we always blame ourselves or compare with others, it is different for everyone. Our families and upbringing play a big role in how we deal with our own needs. I read this book slowly and one part at a time. This is not a quick read. By the end of this book, you'll find yourself more aware of yourself and your needs. The first book i read that suggests joining a gym instead of the "go for a walk every day in a park", which is mentioned in every other book. This book validates how uncomfortable it is to "go for a walk in the park" every day in different weathers and times of the day. There are many such relatable scenarios in the book.
If you are healing from narcissistic abuse or just starting your self-care journey and want to know more about how to be there for your own self, this book is all you need.

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This book gives and interesting look into all the ways that society has primed women to become emotionally exhausted and then to feel guilty for that fact. While the book provides interesting insights and accessibility written, it did leave me wanting in terms of practical and applicable tools that could be used. Definitely a good introduction to the concepts.

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What woman is not emotionally exhausted at times!? I really enjoyed this read and found a lot of it to be relatable! I gained much insight and have recommended to many friends and mothers!

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From the very beginning of the book I was highlighting and highlighting. Don’t let the short page count fool you because it is packed full of wisdom and gets right to the point. A reread for sure.

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I think this will be the year I will give up on selfhelp books completely. They all look the same with the same ideas and non existant advices. This book was no exception.
It's a book about a bunch of white privilaged ladies, who are unhappy in their lives that they created themself. Everyone around them is at falt except, of course, themself.
I was waiting for those lifechanging steps, that were promised in the begining of the book, that will change my life completely, but they were never introduced.
Sad I wasted my time on this one. The one good thing about it is that this book was short, even though it felt like I read it for ages.
Do not reccomend.

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Not at all what I was expecting. I didn’t love it. Thank you to the publisher and author for my copy in exchange for a review.

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It probably says how much I needed this book that it took me several months to actually read it.

The title says it all- going through defining emotional exhaustion, why it tends to define women most and exacerbated by societal norms and negative connotations. Finally it goes through simple steps to overcome or limit the emotional exhaustion.

There are some places that I feel like the personality type that is described isn't specific to women - I know men who are just as emotionally exhausted because our culture nearly demands it. But to the point of the book, it is culturally easier for a man to assert themselves and see positive effects from the suggestions to overcome emotional exhaustion.
It was a powerful, validating read and the advice is seriously helpful even if it's straightforward.
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Many thanx to NetGalley, the author and publisher for allowing me to read and review this book

I'm in a place at the moment where I need this type of self help! Being a carer to my husband who has dementia and mood fluctuations, I am totally exhausted both physically and mentally each and every day.

Took some time to get through this book but found a few very good pointers for myself to try.......and most certainly will do, given the time!

Very good self help book but also must realise that every woman has different emotions for different scenarios.

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Helped me realize what the actual reason was for my exhaustion and how to help myself communicate in a clear way without guilt. Doesn’t push any “quick fix” self care gimmicks.

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The Emotionally Exhausted Woman by Nancy Colier is a self'-help book that you will want to pick up and read if you are looking to better yourself and to break the cycle of being emotionally exhausted.

This book was very insightful, and it will change your life for the better. That is if you allow it to and you make active steps to apply what you have learned from reading this book.

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This book was very enlightening. I recommended it to all my neighbor mom friends, and will likely purchase it for myself.

It's shocking to realize how much we as women fall into, as she calls it, the likeability cage. Everything we do has to go through the filter of "will so and so like it?" or, "I must be seen as having it all together," or any other ridiculous notion that cancels us out as our own people. They say you can't pour from an empty cup, but who has time to fill theirs? This book may serve to show you some of these destructive patterns so that you can learn to break out of them.

The self-help industry can be a great thing, but what so many of us don't realize is how much it *is* an industry. So many products we can buy to help us relax and take care of ourselves, but all they really do is buff out the surface. The self help we really need is deeper. We need to help ourselves out of the likeability cage and out into the free air. Perhaps this book will be a catalyst for many who feel caged but yearn to be free.

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This book was incredibly insightful, painful in its accuracy, helpful, supportive, non-judgment and very well written. I couldn’t recommend it more highly. If the title grabs you (it really does speak for itself) I implore you to pick this up. It took me a whole to et through this book purely because it was hitting so close to home (literally). Very well done.

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Nancy Colier as create a book for women to realize that all healing comes starts from the inside. To become self-aware of your world and where you put your energy.

The author uses inspirational stories to teach different lesson though the book. This self-help book is willing to go into the darker side of womanhood and how to step back and figure out how to create a world for themselves and others that will prevent you or anyone from becoming Emotionally Exhausted.

I am not a fan of self-help books because most do not seem to apply to my life. That being said The Emotionally Exhausted Woman is a surprisingly good and worth investing into the change it can help women create. Thank you to netgalley for advance copy of Nancy Colier the Emotionally Exhausted Woman.

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This is a very valuable resource for women, especially those who are feeling burnout, excess stress, and a general feeling of being unfulfilled. A lot of these feelings stem from unmet, and sometimes even unacknowledged, needs. Generally speaking, women aren't encouraged to have needs, let alone to pursue getting them met. The author skillfully breaks down how we're inundated almost from birth with expectations to deny our needs, push them down in order to serve others, and to think of ourselves as bad for even having them in the first place. It felt so very validating to have lifelong messages I've received put into words and called out.

After defining why women tend to have unmet needs, the author then tackles the prevailing concept of self-care. They rightfully examine the folly of somehow being able to overcome a lifetime in a society that expects women to please others and stay undemanding with foot baths and hot yoga. What we currently call "self-care" is just another set of tasks for women and one more thing to feel inadequate about.

Where I felt this was a little lacking was when it came to what to actually DO about the problem. They advocated for radical self-acceptance, boundaries, and honest communication, but it felt like the advice dried up a bit after "acknowledge that you have needs." Some exercises to help get to that point would have been helpful, as well as more examples of how women implemented these ideas in their lives. That being said, this is still something every women would benefit from reading and I highly recommend picking it up!

Many thanks to the publisher and NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review!

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This is a very important book for women to read these days. I am already thinking of friends to whom I want to gift this book. Nancy Colier does an fabulous job of breaking down why women are constantly trying to please others, diminish themselves to avoid inconveniencing, and how they feel overwhelming levels of guilt and shame for daring to think of their own needs. It really is exhausting, and Colier deals with these themes in a gentle straightforward manner. The notion of self care and its industry is focused on for the last half of the book. It was eye opening. It was great to read an analysis beyond the many think pieces that have cropped up these last few years. I do wish there had been mention of the pandemic because that’s a whole new twist to why women are so emotionally exhausted and why a simple spa treatment or shopping spree won’t solve everything. I enjoyed the cases interspersed throughout the book and related all too well to most of them. In fact, I want to go back and reread just so I can highlight meaningful statements! What I also appreciated was how Colier offers solutions and steps to learning how to find yourself. There were times I felt like I was communicating with my old longterm therapist, which says a lot for the care and thought she put in this book. I highly recommend.
Thank you to NetGalley and New Harbinger Publications for kindly providing an ARC for my honest review.

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Thank you to the publisher and to NetGalley for this arc in exchange for an honest review.

This book tackles a very real and present problem women face. I found a lot of great advice peppered within the book, but I had to dig for it through A LOT of story examples.

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