An hysterical,
irreverent, bold collection.
Truly laugh-out-loud.
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🌟

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This book felt uneven. Pages and pages about Sex and the City rewrites did little to entertain me but her essay about her mother’s death brought me to tears. Lots of bathroom references- not my thing. All in all, not my favorite Samantha Irby but happy to have read it. Thanks Netgalley for the ARC.

Samantha Irby's essays are always hit and miss to me, but the hits are plentiful enough that I have read her three previous collections. She is at her best when writing about her own life and relationships with friends, co-workers, and family, as her insecurites are relatable.

The strongest pieces in Quietly Hostile are the bookends. In "i like It!" she advises the reader to use the simple title phrase (with exclamation points!) to diffuse people who are condescending and judgemental about things one enjoys. In "my firstborn dog", she and her partner bring a less than perfect rescue into their home in the midst of a COVID lockdown. I really got a kick out of "we used to get dressed up to go to red lobster We waited three-plus hours for diet salad." which is a celebration of mediocre restaurants such as The Cheesecake Factory and Red Lobster and skewering of overly complicated Starbucks orders.

Unfortunately there are a couple of the duds in the collection (one about nuns having lesbian sex, and another that revisits almost every episode of Sex in the City) and they go on way too long. (Especially the Sex in the City reimagining,) There is also a lot of discussion of GI issues, which should already be familiar to readers of Irby's previous collections.

Overall, there is plenty to enjoy in this collection. It would be best enjoyed by reading a chapter or two in multiple sessions, and give yourself permission to skim (especially the Sex in the City chapter),

Thank you to Vintage and NetGalley for an egalley of this book in exchange for an honest review.

As enjoyable, relatable, and hilarious as always, Samantha Irby's Quietly Hostile was exactly what I needed to escape my grief for a lil bit and even *gasp* laugh a little...or actually, a lot. Irby is a reliably hilarious author who always delivers with her essay collections, especially valuable for readers who are having trouble concentrating; need a laugh; and/or are in between big/lofty reads for a reset/palate cleanse. Thank you to Vintage & NetGalley for the early read, it was just what the heart needed!

What else could you possibly need to know about this book other than the brilliant and hilarious Sam Irby wrote it and you will likely pee your pants at some point while reading it because you are a middle-aged lady sob-laughing too hard.

My favorites were "how to look cool in front of teens?" and "david matthew's greatest romantic hits"

I didn't love-love the "superfan!!!!!!!" chapter (but that's because I've only ever seen maybe two episodes of Sex in the City and don't care about it), but it was still funny as hell.

I have nothing but love and admiration for Samantha Irby, and I would read anything and everything she writes from now until the end of time. She is THE FUNNIEST AND BEST.

Quietly Hostile is a hilarious collection of essays, which had me laughing out loud with most of the essays and relating with some.
Irby writes about her family relationships, surviving the pandemic, her favorite fast food chain, and writing about her experiences writing for Sex and the CIty, and more. I enjoyed this more than I expected and although this is my first of Samantha Irbyś works, it will not be my last!

Thank you #Netgalley for the ARC of this delicious book

Samantha is one of the funniest writers I have ever read. Quietly Hostile is her newest collection of essays about her life, pop culture, etc. I particularly enjoyed her essay on Sex and the City.

This was my mostly highly anticipated nonfiction book for 2023. I have read all of Samantha Irby's books and loved them. Quietly Hostile did not disappoint.

I loved the Sex and the City chapter. I was too young to watch it when it first aired so I was excited to read her thoughts on the show. I have since started watching it.

I just find Irby's content so relatable yet absolutely hilarious. I always recommend her books to people and I will definitely be recommending Quietly Hostile as well.

Hilarious? Check. Real and raw? Check. Relatable? Check.

Samantha Irby’s latest essay collection, Quietly Hostile, reminds us what life is really like. Instead of romanticizing the unfortunate (dead parents, chronic diarrhea, etc.), Irby takes you right there into the bathroom stall with her (and her noise cancelling headphones so she can’t hear herself — other ears be damned).
Reading this collection was like talking to a friend. Her writing is entertaining and enjoyable. This book made me laugh the entire way through, with certain parts that I caught myself saying “exactly!”
Highly recommend this collection of essays for when you’re in need of a good laugh. 4/5 stars.

Special thank you to NetGalley for an Advanced Reader Copy in exchange for an honest review.

(Very sorry to hear about the death of her beloved cat, Hellen Keller)

This was perfect if you are a fan of Sam Irby's writing - her essay collections are definitely in a voice and if you enjoy that, you will like all of them.

Made me think and bust out laughing, what more can you ask for from a collection of essays? Each piece was strong, some hit a little better for me than others which is to be expected.

Thanks to Netgalley for the free copy in exchange for an honest review

Ok if you love Samantha Irby of Bitches Gotta Eat than you know what you are getting into.
It’s been awhile since the last book and she put in the work with this one.
You will laugh, cry, and possibly gag.
Five stars.

QUIETLY HOSTILE |

Is hilarious as expected

Irby discusses porn, some freaky sex, adopting a horrible dog, working on Sex and the City's reboot (going through all seasons), deconstructing David Mathews' love songs.QUIETLY HOSTILE |

Is hilarious as expected

Irby discusses porn, some freaky sex, adopting a horrible dog, working on Sex and the City's reboot, deconstructing David Mathews' love songs. SI wasn't expecting some of the essays to go on as long as they did - for instance the SaTC and Dave Matthews - she goes through what seems like every single episode of every season and she goes through a lot of Dave Matthews songs. For someone who never liked him, it was a lot. But that also goes to show that I could probably read anything Irby writes and still think it's funny without even needing to know/love/hate the subject.

I was excited to be approved for this title and as usual Samantha Irby didn’t disappoint. There were a few essays that lost me and I skipped (I am just never going to read that many pages about Dave Matthew’s songs no matter who is writing it and how funny they are), and she maybe hit the shit thing a little too heavy handedly, but overall this was a funny and enjoyable read. Would definitely recommend to friends.

Thank you to the publisher and NetGalley for this eARC. All opinions are my own.

I really enjoyed this new essay collection from Samantha Irby. I've been a fan of hers for years and if you liked her last few books, I'm confident you will enjoy this one as well. The background into her TV pilot for Meaty and writing for the Sex and the City reboot were especially interesting parts for me. There are also bits about COVID-19, TikTok and other culturally significant events which make this feel like a timely read. Recommended.

First time reading Samantha Irby and what a delight it was!!! Highly entertaining, hilarious, real, relatable, honest, and smart writing. I love her style and sense of humor. Even the most mundane, sad or serious stories she can spin and make it comedic. She definitely puts herself out on the line at her expense for our entertainment - so happy to have read QUIETLY HOSTILE!

Thank you to Vintage Anchor and NetGalley for the ARC!

I've now read all of Samantha Irby's essay collections and I feel confident in saying that I would read dozens more. She's a national treasure! Highly recommended.

Many thanks for the opportunity to read and review!

I love Samantha Irby. I love how she's able to bring humor into any situation, even the bleak ones. She's back again with another stellar collection of essays about writing for TV, dealing with aging, and dangerous brushes with the emergency room. As with any essay collection, some pieces are stronger than others. However, there's no bad one in this book. I didn't really enjoy the Sex & the City essay, but that's my own problem because I've never seen the show. Irby always knows how to make me laugh out loud while reading, and I love her for it.

I love Sam Irby's books. I yelled when I got approved for this one. This book is amazing. She never disappoints. We are never meeting in real life is still my favorite of hers. I love how she can write a short story to make me laugh out loud in public. I have always loved how she discusses living with a chronic illness and puts a funny spin on it. I am glad this topic has been consistent in all of her books. Can't wait for her next book

GIVE SAM IRBY A MACARTHUR, A NOBEL, A GRAMMY, I DON'T EVEN CARE, SHE IS THE COMEDIC GENIUS OF OUR TIME. As always, I laughed so hard that I wept and immediately forced everyone in my proximity to start reading this absolute masterpiece. Samantha, my god. Never change.