the cover is what drew me in but i stayed for the humor! quite relatable. thanks netgalley & the publisher for the ARC in exchange for an honest review

not my cup of tea - it felt like every 'millennial' thought or joke that ever occurred to the author was just mishmashed into this collection of essays that truly talked way more about poop then i would ever care to read

As an avid reader, stumbling upon Samantha Irby's "Quietly Hostile" was like finding a hidden treasure. This book is an unapologetically authentic glimpse into Irby's life, with a side of humor that had me laughing out loud at every turn.

Irby's raw storytelling abilities are on full display as she fearlessly delves into the gory particulars of her real-life experiences. Behind the glitz and glamour of her skyrocketing career, she peels back the curtain to reveal the messy, relatable truths that lurk beneath. From debilitating dental issues to recurring bouts of diarrhea (yes, you read that right), Irby doesn't hold back. And honestly, why should she?

What sets "Quietly Hostile" apart is Irby's ability to find humor in the most unexpected and sometimes straight up gross places. She effortlessly spins tales of being turned away from a restaurant for her choice of clothes, diving headfirst into therapy and the wonders of medication like Lexapro, exploring the mystical realms of Reiki and crystals, and even succumbing to the addictive allure of QVC. Irby's self-deprecating humor never fails to hit the mark, and she always makes me laugh while also offering a comforting sense of familiarity.

If you're looking for a book that will have you laughing until your sides ache, while simultaneously feeling seen and understood, "Quietly Hostile" is an absolute must-read. Samantha Irby has once again proven herself as the relatable, uproarious tonic we all need in our lives. Brace yourself for an uproarious rollercoaster ride that will leave you begging for more of Irby's uniquely infectious charm.

I've been a fan of Sam Irby for years - I even have a book she signed right in front of me during an event with her and Lindy West. Her humor really works for me and I find her writing incredibly human and relatable. I just love her point of view. For anyone who has loved her other work, this is obviously a necessary addition to the oeuvre.

Samantha Irby is one of my favorite essayists. I have read all of her books and they simply never disappoint. If you like audiobooks, Irby narrates, and are the best way to consume her work, imo!

I will preface this by saying that I am not a huge fan of the essay as a genre, but I have tried to read Irby's last several works and haven't found one that resonates with me. I love the covers though!

This would have been 5 ⭐️ except a huge portion of this book talked in depth about Sex and the City which I get (she is a writer for the reboot), but I’ve also never watched it so I had no idea what was going on. I did LOL several times while listening so it was definitely funny.

Samantha irby has a singular voice. She’s honest, gross, funny, and neurotic. I love everything she writes and this collection is no exception. How lucky we are to live in a world with writers like her!

If Samantha Irby writes a book, I will read it. Her self deprecating humor and realism just get me every time.

That said, as with all essay collections there are parts I like more than others. Essays about dogs? Loved. Essays about TV shows I never watched and never plan to watch? Less interesting to me although I'm sure super fans loved it.

This is another hilarious collection of humorous and observant essays from Irby. I found myself laughing out loud numerous times throughout this book.

Samantha Irby is just fucking funny. She is no hold's barred funny. I absolutely love her essay collections and this one did not disappoint. As a fellow IBD sufferer, I appreciate her fresh and raw take on what it's like to live with a debilitating autoimmune disease that ravages your body. Not everyone is willing to be so real and honest, but to me, that is where Irby really shines. If you liked this one, definitely check out wow, no thank you. They're both legit laugh out loud favorites for me.

So far, my favorite Samantha Irby! I particularly loved the Dave Matthews piece, as well as the one about relating (just don't try) to teenagers, and her honest portrayal of her (non)relationships with her siblings were the standouts. I even enjoyed her very deep dive into Sex & the City episodes, while having not watched despite being the exact target audience during its heyday, I knew enough by osmosis to find entertaining. 30% through I was hopeful that we'd avoid the blow by blow bowel narratives so prevalent in previous books, but found myself cringing through again, only to land in an elderly nun porn film... not my speed, but I enjoy her writing and humor enough to power through those to get back to the good stuff I know she has in her.

Thank you to Vintage and NetGalley for an early copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

I deeply enjoyed reading all of Irby's collections when COVID started. She makes me laugh like no one else -- reading her books feels like reading a text thread from a slightly unhinged but very funny friend of mine who I maybe don't know very well but loves to talk. And this was no exception! I love the movement of the essays to be about things that you do as you get older, as you settle, as you start to care much less about the bullshit that's going on constantly. In a way, these seem more personal than her early essays about her background.

4 stars.

I love Samantha Irby, and enjoyed a lot of this book, the small chapter on whales was my all time favorite, it felt like someone was writing thoughts directly from my brain. That is what I love about Irby's writing it seems to resonate with such a fun audience and I always feel less a lone reading her thoughts, as well as like wow I can not believe someone else shares these same thoughts as me. I don't think the essays on Sex and the City were my flavor, but I did enjoy a few parts of that as well. Irby as usually just knocked it out of the ballpark.

Quietly Hostile was fine; not my favorite Irby. A lot of the essays focused on elements of pop culture that I don't care too much about - for example, Sex and the City - and lacked the special quality of Irby's earlier work that made me laugh at everything she wrote regardless of whether I was plugged into that particular pop culture element or not. I'll still read everything Irby puts out, I would just recommend her earlier books over this one.

This book was full of essays but some of them were a little too much. Some of the essays were really laugh out loud funny and others really told too much information that was not necessary. The book was full of awkward experiences. Part so the book are so funny and heartfelt. I had never read anything by this author so I was not really sure what to expect.

I'm fully convinced that Samantha Irby can do no wrong. Every book of hers is perfect and makes me fall in love with her writing more and more. Quietly Hostile had so many fantastic chapters, but my favorite had to be the entire chapter breaking down her favorite Sex and the City episodes. As a fellow millennial, my love for SATC is so nostalgic, and Samantha's writing reminded me why I love the show while also understanding how silly it was.

I also always appreciate Samantha's ability to make poop and fart jokes actually funny, especially for those of us with tummy issues. Her writing is cathartic and hilarious and honestly healing.

Thank you so much to the publisher and Netgalley for sending me a review copy. I will now be patiently sitting and waiting for her next masterpiece to come out.

Samantha Irby never fails to put a smile on my face. Her essay collections are the ONLY essay collections I seek out and throughly enjoy EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. This book was no exception, and I highly recommend it!

If this tells you anything, I have never even seen Sex and the City but you bet your a$$ I read ever last word of "superman!!!!!!!". I had no clue what opinions I was supposed to be having about what she would change in the show if given the power, but I had a great time hearing her takes regardless.

*side note* if you can, do yourself a favor and pick up the audiobooks for any of Samantha Irby's essay collections because the way she narrates makes the stories even funnier. Trust me on this.

There's nothing better than spending a hazy, lazy afternoon with a new collection of essays from Samantha Irby. Told with her trademark wit and snark, Irby takes the ordinary and makes it extraordinarily funny and relatable.

I kinda like this one, although the writing isn't that good, which I understand because it kinda reads like a diary. It's humorous and actually relatable, especially when it got to the pandemic part. Anyways, this is a good read!