"You Will Find Your People" by Lane Moore is a useful tool for healing your past friendships and learning your attachment style so you can know what to ask for, and creating future friendships you deserve. Recommended for anyone curious to learn more about finding friendships. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC.

This is a lovely, compassionate, and approachable guide to examining what you want from friendships, how to maintain and communicate, and how your attachment style may affect those relationships.

You Will Find Your People by Lane Moore is both a personal development book and a self-help resource providing tools for those looking to deepen the relationships they have currently, assess which relationships to let go of, and those searching to make new connections based on the person they are in the present season of their lives.

I really enjoyed the structure of this book and the way there are personal narratives from Lane's life shared throughout. She also shares examples from popular culture including some of our favorite TV shows that help to drive points home in a meaningful way. There are relationship dynamics that Lane helps readers normalize that we all encounter along the course of our development including toxic friends, falling in love with a friend, deciding whether or not to befriend an ex, etc. And then there are dynamics that feel familiar or that we are drawn to because of toxic family patterns, our own attachment styles, blind spots, or even a deep desire to maintain a bond at any cost. The author encourages us to consider all of these things.

The author provides readers with concrete tools, friendship tropes, and questions to get us to consider what we need in a friend and whether or not those needs are being met. She teaches readers how to assess the tricky nuances of relationships and makes some really strong points about the difference between friends that look good on paper and what actual healthy, meaningful, and reciprocal friendship should look and feel like.

I know this book is going to provide readers with some great food for thought and help normalize the disconnection many of us feel when trying to make and maintain friendships in adulthood.

Thank you to the author and publisher for the e-arc copy!