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Dear Wendy

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Two rival Instagram advice columnists at a historically women's college end up becoming best friends in this celebratory novel about friendship and asexual identity by debut novelist Ann Zhao.

I want to start by saying that this was probably one of my most anticipated reads of the year because I just might be the perfect audience. I am a Seven Sisters alum (Smith) who identifies as somewhere on the ace spectrum and grew up in the just-outside-Boston bubble. My high school swim conference meets were at the Wellesley pool. (A fun fact is that as a result, I competed against both the Wellesley high school team and then the college team too.) So there were a lot of things that were very close for me in a number of ways, which I do think can be a double-edged sword.

First and foremost, I'm so glad stories like this are being published. There isn't a ton of asexual representation in media period, let alone ace MCs, and definitely not a lot of aroace (aromantic asexual) characters. There was a really lovely range of diversity here - in race, in gender, in sexuality - and some really good conversations between characters about how cultural context affects identity. We love it! Identity is never simple, regardless of what identity it is, and Zhou definitely captured that nuance. And it was also so lovely to have a story that really centered around friendship - not all love is romantic love, and platonic love is important too! Both of the MCs, Sophie and Jo, work through not only understanding their own ace identities, but also the fear that they'll be left behind by their other friends who aren't ace once they enter into romantic relationships.

I do think you can tell that Zhou wrote this while still in college and that it's a debut. I think the pacing could have been tightened up in a few places. At times, it's a little too Wellesley specific - and while yes, I can confirm that historically women's colleges really are that weird sometimes, I think the story can get a little lost when bogged down in the details. Even though the characters are first years in college, it does read a little young. I will say that I 100 percent knew type-A "Wendy" students like Sophie, especially as first years. (Does that make me more of a Wanda?) I think a lot of growing up happens over the course of four years, so maybe it's natural that they read a little more like high schoolers, but take that as you will, with the caveat that I am a solid decade older than the majority of the characters in this book.

Again, I'm so glad that stories like this are being told. There is such beauty to be found and discovered in telling stories about friendship and in celebrating all the aspects of what it means to be queer. This is an earnest, tender debut, and I'll be looking forward to reading what Zhou writes next.

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Thank you to Feiwel & Friends + NetGalley for a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

This book centers around 2 college-aged, aroace friends, Sophie (she/her, Chinese American) + Jo (she/they, white) who are able to bond over their aroace identities and form a queer platonic relationship in the end.

I think that we need more books like this! Zhao did a great job of explaining how both Sophie and Jo feel—what aroace means and what it means to each of them. I love when they both discover they’re aroace, and they get so excited to connect and discuss with someone who understands 🥲

I loved how quickly they became friends and realized how much they enjoy each other’s company. When they created the aroace college group, I thought this was such a great addition to the story! All of the characters who came to be a part of it, and all of them able to connect and affirm each other was so awesome.

I believe this book is going to affirm so many people in their aroace identities, and I hope it continues to connect others!

CW: acephobia/arophobia, lesbophobia, biphobia, transphobia, bullying

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The 5-star rating scale isn’t enough for this book; I’m changing the scale to 10 so I can give this 11 stars, thank you!!!

Dear Wendy is, at its core, a heartwarming celebration of platonic love. Watching the bond and friendship that blossoms between Jo and Sophie was so sweet, and I loved every second of it! There were so many moments when they were getting to know each other—hanging out in Boston, bonding over their aroace identities, talking over dinner in the dining halls, texting about random interests— that just made my heart so happy. Many love stories feature best friends, but they’re never at the heart of it; the friendship always come second to the main romance plot line. But Dear Wendy showcases the beauty, depth, and importance of platonic love, and how romance is not the key to the stereotypical perfect life. It was also great to see them so close in real life and then fight in anonymous instagram comments lol. I just know I’m going to be rereading this sooo many times!

I loved the emphasis on friendship, but there are also so many wonderful discussions surrounding gender, the intersectionality or BIPOC and queer identities, navigating complicated/close-minded family situations, fandoms, creating community, and not knowing where exactly you belong, especially on a college campus.

I have to say, I went into this book thinking I was a Wendy, but I am most definitely a Wanda. I related so much to Jo’s struggles with what their future will look like without “the one,” and feeling like everyone will leave you when they find “the one” themselves. That kind of loneliness hits different. It was so comforting to see a character not completely confident in their sexuality and feeling sad sometimes. It felt like I was reading my own thoughts or staring straight into a mirror.

No words, even though I’ve said a lot here, can fully capture how much I love and adore this story. It’s just so beautiful.

Thank you to NetGalley and Macmillan for the eARC, and thank you to Colored Pages Book Tours, Fierce Reads, and Ann Zhao for the gifted physical copy!! <3

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I was so excited to receive an arc copy on NetGalley as I’ve been hearing so many good things about this book lately!

This was a fast and fun read and included a lot of really interesting and important conversations around asexuality and aromanticism. Given how a lot of ace rep these days features characters who are portrayed as ace simply because they don’t like sex, I was thrilled that the author quickly dispelled those myths and explored different aro/ace perspectives.

The characters were really likeable, and I definitely see a lot of myself in Sophie.

The plot was fine. I wouldn’t normally seek out books with enemies to best friends/miscommunication drama. I was definitely here for the ace rep, but I still enjoyed the story! I think Dear Wendy is a great new addition to aroace canon!

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Dear Wendy is the debut book of the author about two aroace students at Wellesley College, Sophie and Jo. They both anonymously run their advice Instagram accounts for their fellow students and quickly start a feud online. But they also bond in real life over being aroace people.

I absolutely adore this book. Dear Wendy depicts what is life like when you're aroace, how the aroace identity intersects with other LGBTQ+ identities and a BIPOC backgorund. There are a lot of discussions around attraction, sexuality, growing up a child of immigrants, expectations and just overall figuring out life as an aroace person. The story emphasises the existence of love in all its forms and that regardless of how you identify you are deserving of love.

As someone who is a-spec, I was over the moon to pick this book up. Especially because when I was younger, I had no representation whatsoever in the media, and it took me a while to figure myself out. Jo and Sophie's journey as aroace people and their experience navigating a world where romantic love is prioritizes over platonic love just hit differently.
It was a joy to see Sophie and Jo connecting over their aroace identity. Finding community, finding someone who gets you completely is such an impactful experience. Their friendship builds over the book and becomes this epic platonic love story. It's indescribable.
The aroace identity is in the focus of the book with all its doubts and fears.
Jo's fear of being alone forever because they will never have "the one" is so relatable because platonic love is not normalized in the world.
When Jo expressed this thought in one of their sadder moments, I felt so seen:

"...I'll be alone forever, and I'll live a sad boring life with nobody in my life who loves me more than they love anybody else because everybody has The One that they love."

This and similar thoughts and fears are discussed freely in Dear Wendy. Topics like familiar expectations, place for aroace people in the queer community, mental health and misconceptions about historically all female colleges all pop up in the book and provide valuable and honest insight and opinions. I loved the open and direct communication about these topics because I feel like they are often glossed over.

The story is perfect for young adult readers, and though it is set in college, I would definitely recommend it to younger audiences. I voices so many thought that run through the minds of young people and provide mindful examples of how life can be.

Rest assured, though this book touches on important and deep topics it is till a platonic rom-com about friends. It has all the drama, humour and love that a regular rom-com has, but it focuses on friendship and platonic love. It's kind of wonderful that way.

The representation in the book is honestly epic. Apart from Jo and Sophie being aroace, Jo also uses she/they pronouns and has lesbian moms, while Sophie is the daughter of Chinese immigrants whit all their expectations. Their friends are all over the queer umbrella, and they start a student org for a-spec students as well.

The story focuses on the college experience as a queer person, finding a community and just figuring out how life can be after stepping of the heteronormative road.

I really think this book can be a treasure to young people who struggle to feel seen.

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Dear Wendy is about two aromantic and asexual college girls who meet each other and develop a beautiful friendship between them. This book has a lot to offer for teens and adults who are looking to learn more about queer identities or who are simply craving representation. Ann Zhao did an incredibly job explaining the nuances of these identities and I hope to see more books from them in the future.

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This book made me cry happy tears. Twice. 😭🖤🩶🤍💜 I was so excited about this book when I read the synopsis for the first time. A story about two aromantic and asexual college students!? Sign me up!

This book is honestly one of my favorite love stories. We rarely get to see platonic love celebrated like this in media and it was refreshing and heartwarming. Jo's complicated relationship with their gender really resonated with me as someone who also uses she/they pronouns and has a similar relationship with womanhood (like, I am a woman, but also ???? lol). Gender is complicated, y'all. In addition, we had a demisexual side character, strong student professor relationships, mental health rep, and the list goes on! The representation is everything in this book (I'm also totally a Wendy 😂)!

I'm not always a fan of more straightforward and to the point writing, but it worked here for me! The humor sprinkled throughout also gave me some good laughs (I'm definitely in the right demographic to get all the references too!)

I hope to see more from Zhao in the future and that Dear Wendy is just the beginning of many more aroace books to come!

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Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher Macmillan Children’s Publishing Group for a digital ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review.
This book was such a fun and light read that I couldn’t put it down. It was so fast paced, and I live for the trope of people being rivals in person and friends online, so this reversal of that trope really intrigued me. I remember seeing the announcement that this book was acquired by the publisher years ago (I think?) with a brief description of the book, as well as the author announcing it on TikTok, and I was so excited to see aspec and arospec rep like this! Although I identify as aspec and not arospec, I loved the representation in this book and the reality of questioning yourself endlessly about your aspec/arospec identity. The excitement that Jo and Sophie experience when they find out that they’re both aroace was so heartwarming, as I remember when I accidentally moved into a cooperative living house full of other aspec and arospec college people by accident years ago and was so relieved to finally meet people who shared this identity with me in real life. The platonic friendship in this book reminded me a lot of Radio Silence by Alice Oseman with the friendship between Aled and Frances, which is the book that I always think about when I think of ace rep since it introduced me to demisexuality. I love a good teasing, platonic relationship, so Jo and Sophie made me very happy.
I do think that this book felt on the young side of young adult for a book that’s more new adult fiction, especially in the very unserious Instagram fights between Wanda and Wendy, but I suppose they are college freshmen, so I wasn’t torn up about it. The author had a message in the beginning of the book that she kind of wrote this book for fun during college, and you can tell that in a good way because it was fun to read and easygoing for the most part. However, this book was also good about being serious, such as interrogating ace discourse, Jo questioning their LGBTQIA+ identities, and Sophie grappling with her Chinese immigrant parents not understanding her asexuality and aromanticism and thinking it’s just a phase for her. This book was quite good and so necessary–we need more aspec and arospec books like this in the world! I’m so glad this exists!

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Unfortunately, this was just not the book for me. I was excited to read this as an ace person, I’m always looking for rep and cute stories! However, the writing was just not something I could get into and the style felt verrrryy YA despite these characters being college students (it is very likely I’m just out of touch with how college freshmen talk but to me it felt much more high-school, which is fine, but not what I expected). The representation was great and incredibly affirming to read, it was nice to see ace-spec people having a normal time and making strong friendships and platonic relationships. I also really loved the chapter titles, which is a small but very fun detail. I think if YA is more your thing this will be a fantastic book to turn to, I personally just found myself disengaged and mildly annoyed by the writing and character “voice,” though I will always cheer good rep on!

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"Dear Wendy" follows the journey of two Asian college students who are social media influencers attending an all-female college. Over a school year, they navigate the complexities of their friendship, veering between camaraderie and rivalry. Each maintains separate social media accounts where they dispense anonymous romance and relationship advice to fellow students, reminiscent of the dynamic in the DCOM "Radio Rebel," albeit set in a college setting.

As an asexual Asian American woman, the reviewer deeply resonated with the book, finding herself mirrored in the characters' experiences, from navigating strict family dynamics to grappling with online interactions. The portrayal of Gen Z culture within the confines of a college campus felt authentic and relatable, particularly for individuals questioning their relationships.

The characters are thoughtfully crafted, each serving as a fully realized individual rather than merely a representation of a specific identity. The inclusion of various types of relationships, including one-night stands, young love, queer love, and platonic connections, underscores the message that love is diverse and multifaceted.

Highly recommended for fans of both Gen X and Gen Z literature, especially those who enjoyed Alice Oseman's "Loveless" or the Disney movie "Radio Rebel." "Dear Wendy" offers a delightful, relatable, and poignant exploration of womanhood, intersectionality, and LGBTQIA themes within the realm of young adult fiction.

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“People choose, every day, to be lovers, to be friends, to be family. You seem to love your best friend a lot. Bottom line: You don’t need to change a thing.”

Dear Wendy follows Sophie Chi and Jo Ephron, two first-year students at Wellesley College, as they navigate university life, friendship, independence, identity, and what it means to love and be loved as aromantic, asexual individuals.
Sophie is an expert in relationship advice, (despite the fact that she’s long accepted her aroace identity) and shares her advice often on her incredibly popular “Dear Wendy” Instagram account. She’s a total Wendy too– stereotypical Wellesley student, always on time, a little neurotic (in a fun way!), and always looking to learn. She runs into trouble, though, when a competing advice account– “Sincerely Wanda” emerges and turns love life advice into a huge joke. Little does she know, Wanda is really Jo– the cool girl she’s been befriending in class. The stronger their friendship grows, the deeper the feud. Can Sophie and Jo still remain friends when the truth bubbles up?
This book is a beautifully written love letter to platonic devotion, community, and self-acceptance, and I feel lucky to have happened upon it. It’s a love story without romance and truly full of passion, and heart. I laughed, I cried, and I felt so incredibly seen

Luckily for Jo March enthusiasts, enjoyers of Alice Oseman’s Loveless, and anyone who has ever wished to live out their lives with their best friends, a stack of books, a cat, and no long-term romantic commitments, Dear Wendy is out this week!

Thank you to NetGalley and Ann Zhao for the arc!

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I received an ARC from the publisher via NetGalley and am voluntarily posting a review. All opinions are my own.
Dear Wendy has been one of my most anticipated reads for the first half of 2024, and I’m happy to say it blew me away. In a similar vein to Alice Oseman’s Loveless (which is also referenced in-text), it explores the nuances of aroace rep in a beautiful way, and while it doesn’t claim to be the definitive representation for a spectrum of experiences, it provides a window into what it can look like for some people in the community.
Zhao not only pulls from her own experiences as an Asian aroace person, but also infuses the experience of being a Wellesley College student into the narrative as well. While the topics will still likely be recognizable for young people who are in or have been to college, I loved the little nuances of Wellesley College life, including the prominence of the advice columns and their influence on student life.
And speaking of the advice columns, I love the way these are conveyed. With both Sophie and Jo being the columnists in question, there is some inclusion of these columns and their online interactions in the body of the chapters themselves, and their respective reactions to each other, but I also liked seeing the little interstitial bits showing the slightly different styles two the Wendy and Wanda pages in their own right, along with mock-ups of Instagram Stories highlighting some of their back-and-forths beyond the banter in the comments sections.
As for the characters and their relationship, I loved them. Sophie and Jo are simultaneously very similar, being aroace and having several queer friends, meaning they quickly bond in real life, but they also have some differing opinions when it comes to romance and providing advice for others, as shown in their online interactions. It makes for a fun juxtaposition, and a heartfelt aroace subversion of a common romcom trope. Their secret identities provide a bump in the road for their friendship with each other, as does an attempt to invalidate their advice on-campus due to their aroace identities being revealed. But despite their initial frustration and hurt feelings, I loved seeing how they came together at the end and resolved things, both on a “professional” level and for the sake of their blossoming queerplatonic bond.
I absolutely adored this book, and it gave me all the feels. While it’s not a romance in the “traditional” sense, I’d absolutely recommend it if you’re open to something somewhat adjacent to the genre that pays homage to those tropes through an aroace queerplatonic lens.

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i wish i was one of the people that enjoyed this book, because we desperately need more novels that feature aro/ace characters. i'm a bit sad that i didn't enjoy this one as much as everyone else did, since it seems i'm a minority here - so, by all means, do give “dear wendy” a try, especially if you think you'll relate to these characters.

i think i've simply outgrown YA or maybe this reads more like a middle-grade, because the characters felt very juvenile - and they're supposed to be in college.


the writing style was okay, not overly poetic, but not simple either. i think the dialogue was a bit forced at times & some of the jokes that the characters found funny completely missed the mark for me, but maybe that's just a me problem. at times, the story felt either too slow or too rushed and i almost considered dnf-ing because, when there wasn't any action, the characters weren't interesting enough to hold my attention by themselves, which sucks. the story just felt insanely long, since nothing was happening for a good chunk of it.

to be completely honest, sometimes i had to go back and check whose pov i'm reading, because i thought sophie and jo had quite similar voices at times. i did like sophie more than i liked jo, mainly because she was somewhat written like a college student, while jo read more like she's still in high-school. i didn't really liked their online personas either, since most of the “friendly banter” was them being straight-up malicious to each other. even if the characters were aware it wasn't that serious - i mean, you're fighting over an instagram account, they still managed to blow it out of proportion. the big reveal of the story felt so pointless, because it was all one big miscommunication and then all the characters chose to behave like children. who has this much time on their hands while in college, especially in their first year?

overall, “dear wendy” is a good book if you're looking for rep and are in the mood for a quick “feel-good” type of read. however, this simply wasn't the book for me, as i didn't really connect with the characters because they felt younger than the age they were and i found the main conflict a bit too petty for my taste. please don't let this review stop you from giving it a go, if it sounds like a book you'd like.

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Thoughts and Themes: There was so much for me to love throughout this book, from the beginning the first thought I had was Ace main character! Ace Main Character! This part of the story meant a lot to me as someone who identifies as Demisexual/Demiromantic. I haven't really read books that have asexual or aromantic characters, so I was pleased to find this one.

Something that I really enjoyed about this book is that we don't get a forced romance between our main characters. From the start I was hopeful that at most we got a Queer platonic relationship between the two of them and nothing more. I will leave this up to you to continue reading to find out what happens between our two main characters.

Characters: In this book you are introduced to our two main characters, Jo and Sophie, along with their online personas, Wendy and Wanda. You also get to meet their roommates, Priya, Lianne, and Katy, along with Priya's girlfriend, Izzy. Along with their friends you also get to meet both of their families, some of the other students at their school, and a professor.

I really enjoyed meeting each of the characters that are introduced throughout this book even if you briefly get to know them. I really enjoyed the relationship that Sophie has with her professor because it shows how important faculty/staff at colleges are to student's development.

I also really enjoyed getting to know Jo and Sophie and their friendship shifting as they got to know each other and found secrets about each other out. I really liked how they just seemed to understand each other and how important that was to both of them. I liked that it was more than just them being ace/aro that brought them together and how it just felt easy. I have found friends that way and it reminded me of those moments and I enjoyed seeing both of their fears about their friendship.

Writing Style: This book is written in first person going back and forth from the perspectives of Jo and Sophie. You also get to read through the Instagram posts of Wendy and Wanda, along with the comments on those posts. I really liked the way that this story was told and how the posts were included throughout. Each of the chapters were no more than 5 pages at most which made it easy to go through.

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An aro/ace coming of age story centered on college and online spaces

Plot: 3/5
The pacing of the plot works pretty well and though it is predictable, it plays out in a satisfying way. I had a hard time feeling the gravity of the situations.
I think this story would be really valuable for elder high school students or college kids. I'm 25 and I do read YA often but this book definitely feels like it is specifically trying to be helpful to the "actual" YA demographic which made it miss for me. Which is not a fault of the book, it's doing it's purpose.

Characters: 4/5
I really enjoyed both the main characters and their dynamic. They both had different aro/ace experiences and that really informed both of their personalities.
Considering the importance of the side characters on the plot, they didn't have a lot of individual character, I kept forgetting who was who.

Writing: 4/5
Zhao's writing as a debut author is very strong, she captures voice really well. I think Zhao focused a little too much on the little details and it felt like stuff I just didn't need to know (the stand out moment of this was Sophie making a flyer on Canva). I think I would have liked more grand scheme descriptions to visualize the campus or the setting versus so much action description.

Overall: 3.5 (rounded up)
A wonderful aro/ace story that I think will help so many people!

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Online, Sophie and Jo are rival relationship advice accounts, but offline they are classmates who are becoming close friends. Throughout the story, there are pop culture references to other aroace stories, such as Loveless by Alice Oseman, and popular music artists such as Taylor Swift and Harry Styles. I loved the dual perspectives and seeing how Sophie and Jo were in their respective friend groups and be able to see them interact with each other and get into their minds. It was a refreshing story about two people falling in (platonic) love and growing into themselves throughout the course of the book.

The story itself reads young, definitely for those going from young adult and transitioning to new adult. For those who are knowledgeable about LGBTQIA+ identities, it does feel repetitive having them defined constantly; however, I could see someone who's not well-versed being overwhelmed with all of the nuanced identities that are represented.

Overall, it was a light, enjoyable read. I especially enjoyed the acknowledgements (IYKYK) and look forward to recommending this book going forward!

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Sophie and Jo are first years at the same college. They are both figuring out how best to fit in when they are different than most other people at school. Although they don't know it, they have something else in common: they are each the secret author of Instagram accounts that offer relationship advice to their classmates. Sophie's account is serious and informed by research, while Jo's account is often sarcastic. Both like nothing more than to make fun of the other account. While the two are frequently engaged in an online battle (without knowing who they are feuding with), Sophie and Jo meet in class and soon become real-life friends. But as their accounts become increasingly popular, the risk of their identities becoming known also increases—and with it, a potential ending to a friendship each has come to treasure.

This is a well-written book with strong characters and a charming story. Both perceptive and funny, it is a moving exploration of early adulthood.

Highly recommended.

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In addition to the normal disclaimer that I received a free copy of the book, I do feel the need to disclaim (but really mostly to brag) that I do know Ann. I am a very proud person-who-exchanges-Instagram-DMs-with-her-sometimes. But I promise all the bias in my review only comes from the same places it usually does, which is just me being very opinionated.

The plot of Dear Wendy is most easily described as a platonic You’ve Got Mail. When Sophie and Jo, two freshmen at Wellesley College, create dueling love-advice accounts on Instagram (Dear Wendy and Dear Wanda respectively), they find themselves in an online feud, while simultaneously a friendship grows between them in real life. They meet in an intro gender studies class, and end up hitting it off when they realize they are both aroace. Soon they are making plans to do what all college students do: grabbing meals together in the dining hall and starting an organization for a-spec students. But their fledgling friendship is threatened by the secrets they keep from one another and the growing intensity of their online arguments.

One of the things that make this novel such a delight to read is that we get dual POVs from Sophie and Jo, each of who has a very distinct voice. Sophie is a type-A people-pleaser, known at Wellesley as a “Wendy,” who admits “I think Jo would get a bad impression if they learned that I was widely known for being aloof and bitchy and too much of a teacher’s pet, even if half the students at our college are also aloof, bitchy teacher’s pets.” She takes her role of advice Instagrammer very seriously, doing extensive research and crafting responses. She can’t stand when Dear Wanda is flippant, even if it probably is a joke. 

Meanwhile, Jo is a total “Wanda,” a type-B personality, who is a little more chaotic and messy. Jo is also struggling a lot with how to approach her friendships. She is really good friends with her two roommates, but is scared they will both leave her when they get partners. Jo had some really bad experiences with their friends in high school, and has some internalized aphobia which makes them feel like they will ultimately be left alone. So forging a relationship with Sophie and other a-spec students at Wellesley ends up being an incredibly important part of her growth.

Something a discerning reader of this review will have noticed is that Jo uses she/they pronouns. They are still trying to figure out what their gender is exactly, and a lot of their thoughts were something I found to be completely relatable. They are comfortable being in a majority-women environment, but also don’t quite feel that the woman label fits. I knew going in that aroace identities would be explored, but I didn’t know I would also get an added bonus of gender identity! 

Of course, a-spec identities are one of the main themes of the book. Sophie and Jo both interact with their aroace identities differently, and I think Zhao makes it really clear that these are two people’s experiences of a-spec identity, they do not represent everyone’s identity, just the two characters whose stories she set out to tell. But I think that just emphasizes how important it is to have another piece of a-spec literature out there.

And I have to say, I love how much this book focused on friendship. Friendship in college (and adulthood in general) is genuinely really hard! You say “we should grab lunch sometime” and then you never do. You mean to keep talking to those people from class after the semester ends, but school tends to get in the way. Sophie and Jo both have friends already, but they are also struggling through the experience of making friends post-orientation. It is a complicated process that I can attest took up way more of my thought and time in college than dating ever did. 

However, please do not get the impression that this book is overly serious. There is so much lightheartedness and humor to be had. Reading the Dear Wendy vs Dear Wanda account beef was so funny. I always love multimedia stories, so the inclusion of the Instagram posts and comments was such a fun way to show how the drama was spreading outside of Sophie and Jo's circle, and just how big their fight was getting. Sophie and Jo both have some pretty snarky senses of humor, which lead to lots of actual laughing out loud on my part. Their lives are equally filled with schoolwork and shenanigans.

As one of a relatively smaller number of reviewers who can speak on it, I also feel like I do really have to commend Ann for so accurately capturing the Wellesley atmosphere. I need everyone to understand that is exactly what drama at Wellesley is like. And I love that it reflects how many of us feel: Wellesley is not a perfect place, it has a lot of things to improve on. But it is also a really special place that many people consider home. I certainly read this book at a time when I was really missing Wellesley, and getting to be immersed in the world of Dear Wendy for a few hours felt like being back at Wellesley with my own friends. 

Dear Wendy is a charming addition to the growing body of YA literature set in college, as well as the queer YA canon. The novel thoughtfully explores friendship, allonormativity, gender, and finding your passions. It is a perfect read for anyone who loves a coming of age story, and wishes there were more books that focused on the importance of friendship in our lives.

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so heartfelt and so funny! i love how it shows how powerful and life changing platonic love can be! it’s such an important story and i can’t wait to have my own physical copy one day!

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I was so excited to read this YA book with not just one but two aroace MCs and it was soo good!🤩 It was such a perfect friend-com(is that right?😆) with amazing characters and a wonderful platonic love story. I wish there had been more books like these when I was in my teens but I'm so happy they're getting published now!

Sophie Chi is a first year student at Wellesley College and has a popular Instagram page called 'Dear Wendy' where she gives relationship advice to other students but noone knows about her identity except for her roommate. She does a lot of research and gives serious advice! And Jo Ephron is another first year student who had created her 'Sincerely Wanda' account as a joke but somehow it took off and she has started offering advice to the submissions in a sarcastic but playful manner. After a few playful jabs and exchanges, Sophie and Jo end up in a weirdly funny online rivalry without knowing who the other is.
And at the same time, they grow closer irl after meeting in a class and bonding over their shared aroace identities and experiences. But what will happen when they find out about each other's online identities?👀😂

Honestly, this was so delightful and funny! I think I found Sophie a bit more relatable at first with her advice-giving and how serious she was about some things(what can I say? I guess I'm a Wendy and yes I did read the acknowledgments too 😂) But it was hard not to love Jo too - who might seem a bit prickly on the outside but was actually very sweet and goofy!❣️ I loved how both of them had varying experiences(asexuality is a spectrum) and finally felt seen after meeting each other. Not only did I love their friendship but the supporting cast was amazing too! I loved their roommates, friends and family - who brought some drama and varying degrees of supportiveness! I should probably stop gushing but I think this is one of my fave YA/NA books from this year and I can't wait to read more from this author!

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