Thank you to Netgalley for providing an e-arc in exchange for an honest review.

FINALLY! AN AROACE PLATONIC ROMANCE! BLESS!

Dear Wendy is a beautiful romantic comedy that really hits the aroace rep where it hurts. Both Sophie and Jo have their own experiences when it comes to their a-spec identity, but somehow both feel extremely relatable to myself. I felt just too seen.

The comedy is gold and really corresponds to LGBTQ+ gen-z culture. As a millennial that is borderline gen-z, I could really see fresh eighteen-year-olds talking like this, while also adding drama that has me laughing out loud. I love all of the cringey pop culture references and how even Wanda and Wendy's posts are formatted to look like Instagram posts/stories. Go into this story expecting not to take everything seriously. Just embrace the cringe of young college queer students.

The last quarter of the novel really captured the aroace experience and challenges. In a society that constantly prioritizes romantic relationships over platonic ones, both Sophie and Jo experience strong character development and face their inner fears through each other. I really loved how these topics were addressed--in a casual, but delicate and validating way.

I think this would make a perfect young adult Netflix flick.

NETFLIX PLEASE!!

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for this ARC.

This book was such a beautiful friendship love story. I loved how messy they were and how they grew through their mistakes. They felt like real people. I loved the way queerness, and identity were talked about and the diversity the cast had.

The conversation around identifying as aro/ace spec was so genuine.

I will think about these characters for a long time.

If possible, I feel like I’m a Wendy and a Wanda. But I feel like my indecision makes me a Wendy.

(4/5) adorable amazing fantastic. i thoroughly enjoyed this, although i will say, not a fan of the modern references. they felt constant and sometimes out of place in a scene. ALSO. i was absolutely shocked when i opened this arc and saw my hometown called out in the first page?? hello?? talk about crazy coincidences.

I have had this book on my TBR literally since the day the deal for this was announced — before it even had a cover and (I think) a goodreads page?? I don't even think I identified as aroace when I first heard about it. I certainly had no idea that I would end up at a small, historically women's college not too far from where this book is set. So, getting approved to read this book early? The literal DREAM. And even though I did not enjoy this one, it means a lot to me that I'm in the position to read and review books that so closely resemble under-represented aspects of my life! So thank you to Macmillan (Feiwel & Friends) for the eARC for honest review.

DEAR WENDY follows two aroace students in their first year at Wellesley College, a historically women's college in Massachusetts. This is (supposed to be) a platonic love story, where Jo and Sophie form an online rivalry through their anonymous relationship advice blogs, while unknowingly growing into close friends in real life. There's a lot of use of the Wendy/Wanda dynamic at Wellesley: Wendy (our Sophie) is the put-together, always-prepared, thoughtful character type, while Wanda (our Jo) is goofy, cool, and more of a relatable mess.

Here's the thing: there wasn't really a single aspect of this book that fully developed. There were some moments in the beginning where Jo or Sophie would passingly reflect on part of their aroace identities and I was so ready to see these thoughts evolve and to observe their effects on their lives and relationships. But rather than exploring these concepts through the story, they just kept being thrown at the reader in a superficial way.

The only aspect I felt was sorta demonstrated through the story was Jo's fears and uncertainty about companionship as someone who can't and doesn't want to experience romantic/sexual relationships. Yet, while this was the only aspect of their aroace identity that had any real bearing on the plot, it kept being brushed off? Every time Jo would mention it, Sophie would respond with some sort of variation of "yeah, I used to feel like that but I'm past that now" and then we'd get some internal monologue about how much Jo wishes she had it together like Sophie. (And this EXACT discussion happened so many times in this novel!!)

In general, I felt like there was way too much telling and not nearly enough of the characters experiencing what they were talking about. At least half the book was Jo and Sophie either in a discussion during class or discussing identity when hanging out together. And every single time, they just shared conclusions they had come to and were like "omg same" and then moved on to the next suuuper relatable experience. It was like the author was trying to tick the box on every aspect of aroace discourse?? I don't want a list of ways people can be aroace, I want to sympathize and understand the actual, lived experiences of these specific characters.

I think there's something to be said about stories where the characters already are comfortable with their queerness, about allowing people who are past the initial self-discovery moment to live and exist as who they understand themselves. But if you're not going to have a coming-of-age story arc, I'm gonna need some character development. Sophie did not change from page 1 to the very end. Plus, because Jo's little moments of vulnerability were only approached at a surface level and given such concise and formulated answers, the story did not build. By the time the climax happened, I was underwhelmed.

I also just felt like the online rivalry between their online, dating advice personas was really petty and not at all funny. They were straight-up rude and nasty to each other, especially Sophie. She would literally acknowledge that something "Wanda" said was obviously a joke and then proceed to take it wayyy too seriously and give a mini essay on why they were wrong.

Also, even the in-person banter felt forced. So many times, one of them (usually Sophie) would make a supremely boring joke and they were described as "bursting into laughter" for long periods of time? Maybe it's just me (it's not just me), but I feel like banter shouldn't have to be pointed out as hilarious to be funny. It actually... makes it less funny. There was also heavy reliance on pop culture that already feels outdated and this book hasn't even come out yet.

We need more aro and ace fiction, more non-romance queer YA, and especially more of these stories from authors of color. Unfortunately, I cannot recommend DEAR WENDY for this because I do not feel it develops any of these concepts beyond what's already been said better by others.

Funny, heartfelt, and real. Dear Wendy takes you on the most hilarious yet powerful journey of identity, sexuality, and friendship. Ann's contemporary voice SHINES on the pages and makes one feel so seen and loved.

4.75 stars
I am LIVING for the a-spec representation in this book! As an asexual person, these characters made me feel so seen in many different ways.

Sophie and Jo are both aroace and attending Wellesley, and they are both secretly running anonymous advice accounts on Instagram. One is a serious advice column, and the other is a snarky take on it. Their rivalry heats up as their in-person friendship blossoms.

This is one of those books that I wish I'd had a decade ago. I love the platonic love, the Sapphic relationships around the two main characters, and the mixed media format of their posts and texts. I adore the various BIPOC representations and the college-level discussions of exclusion and attraction. The family and friendship dynamics were really interesting, and I adore the idea of an a-spec club.

I think the writing could have been tightened up a little bit, and I unfortunately think this book will not have the lasting power since it is so focused on actual current technology. But I definitely look forward to seeing more from this author with hopefully more a-spec characters!

sophie chi, an aromantic and asexual college student, runs an instagram account called “dear wendy” dedicated to giving relationship advice, despite knowing she’ll never have a relationship of her own. jo ephron creates a parody of “dear wendy” called “sincerely wanda,” not expecting it to gain as much traction as it did. the two feud online, but keep their identities secret in real life, leading to the two becoming friends who bond over their shared aroace identities.

this was such a sweet book! i love the idea of two people with secret identities having different dynamics online than they do in person. both of their reactions to the other’s online identities made sense to me, too.

i loved reading about sophie and jo bonding over being aroace, as i’m sure this can feel isolating sometimes. they also had different reactions to being aroace: sophie has mostly accepted it, but jo is still coming around to it. i liked how both sides were represented. it was also cool how they set up a club for fellow aspec students!

side note: soooo many books were referenced in this one, and it was really fun trying to piece together the clues to see which specific book they were talking about!

i highly recommend this book to any YA readers!

This book would fit so well with a fresh cup of coffee, crisp fall air, and the exciting feeling you get when school begins again.

"Dear Wendy" focuses on two characters, Sophie and Jo, who both run anonymous Instagram advice accounts for students at Wellesley. Both characters are aroace college students who deal with their own struggles of loneliness, friendship disasters, difficult families, and trying to build friendship and community during their freshman year of college. Sophie is a "Wendy," a type-A student who gets stuff done. And Jo is a "Wanda," a student who is more laid back.

I enjoyed the banter between Sophie and Jo throughout the novel so much. While the novel got serious at times, these two characters still made me smile. I don't think the two characters are as different as they were supposed to be, which may be why their friendship works so well.

All of the side characters in the book were very present, which was both good and bad. When I first began reading, it was difficult to keep the characters straight in my head, but it was fine by the end of the book. I think that the side characters being so present helped make the book feel real, though.

I feel like this book needs to be published and I'm so glad that I was able to read it. It was the first book I have ever read with aroace main characters and I learned a lot. I hope to read more books focused less on romantic relationships and more on friendship because of how much I enjoyed "Dear Wendy."

Thank you NetGalley for allowing me to access this book in exchange for an honest review!


I honestly loved this book so much. I loved the friendship the was shared and the characters growth!! Ugh please read it!!

I think we need more platonic love stories like this. I had a blast reading it! Both Sophie and Jo were so vivid and complex. I found myself relating to both of them in different ways. I realized I hadn’t read a book where the main characters were aroace before and I really loved how Zhao explained all the complexities and nuances of that community. The author’s note at the beginning was especially great. I really enjoyed the Wendy and Wanda battles. They were silly and ridiculous, but I found myself cackling several times at their online banter. I did think that the story dragged on a few places, especially towards the end, but I was still loving these characters and their friendship. I loved the focus on platonic soulmates. I did also think Priya and Lianne were reeeeeeeeally judgmental and off putting at times. Overall though, this was such a sweet read and I’m so happy it exists
CW: biphobia, lesphobia, aroace phobia, mentions of diaspora

Thank you to NetGalley and Feiwel & Friends for an advanced digital reader’s copy in exchange for an honest review.

- 3.75 stars-

Thank you NetGalley for allowing me to access this book in exchange for an honest review!

I think the concept of Sophie and Jo’s growing friendship versus their growing rivalry as Wendy and Wanda is hilarious! And for those who are searching for themselves in a story and haven’t quite found it yet, this might be the book for them. I identified as ace for the better part of 8 years before finding that that was not in fact the case, but during that time, I think I would have found comfort in this book and dreamed of a friendship like Jo and Sophie’s. At this stage in my life, there were parts of this I could have passed on, namely the parts that tend to fall into that buzz-wordy category a lot of my recent reads have landed in, but given the purpose of the book, I think this was to be expected, so I won’t fault it for that.

Wow, I really want to scream off of the rooftops about this book. Please read it! It's such a lovely aro/aspec story and I think so many will appreciate the authentic representation.

This book was adorable. I really enjoyed the representation and the author’s depiction of the characters. Such a fun, sweet read

I'm so glad Dear Wendy will be out in the world soon, and I hope the young people who need it will find it. I'm a decade older than Ann Zhao's leads, Sophie and Jo, but I felt so seen by this book, and found Zhao articulated many thoughts I've had but never put into words, and, in many cases, hadn't seen in a book. I think the book is strongest in showing the range of a-spec identity, understanding, and acceptance - having the contrast of Sophie and Jo's thoughts and journeys added so much. Setting the book at a very liberal, queer-friendly school that still struggles with acceptance also added another useful layer. The overall plot, of Sophie and Jo as secretly feuding advice-givers, was also entertaining, and I loved the interstitial advice posts and comments.

Zhao does tend to fall into over-explaining for her readers, in ways that people wouldn't naturally speak or the characters need to share with someone who is so similar to them, though it will likely be useful for young readers and those unfamiliar with the ace/aro spectrum. I do think this book suffers from some "first novel" writing weaknesses, and Sophie and Jo feel a bit childish and aged down for college students, but these things didn't bother me for the most part. The emotion and meaning come through so well that I could let go of the rest.

“Dear Wendy” by Ann Zhao is the platonic rom-com of my dreams. It’s a YA novel set in college which follows two aromantic and asexual students as they feud over Instagram but become best friends in real life.

This was a great book, and I highly recommend it to anyone who is asexual and/or aromantic, questioning, wants to know more about these identities, or just wants to read a delightful novel that prioritizes friendship.

The two protagonists are Sophie and Jo. Sophie runs an anonymous Instagram to give people relationship advice, something which she takes very seriously and employs lots of research to do. Jo, meanwhile, starts their own advice account on Instagram at first to help a friend, but continues it as a sort of joking counterpart to Sophie’s account. The two start butting heads online over their very different attitudes and approaches to giving advice. However, in real life, Sophie and Jo meet in a class together and soon bond over their shared aro-ace identity. As their friendship strengthens, the tension builds—when will they discover each other’s online alter egos?

I loved this as a person who wants to read more stories centered around friendship, and the fact that it takes place in college is another plus for me. I thought both main characters were very well-developed and had strong, unique voices. I appreciated the rest of the people inhabiting their world as well.

I did find some of the educational themes of the book to be a bit heavy-handed, but that’s coming from someone who knows a lot about aromantic and asexual identities already. This book would be a very good introduction to someone just learning more about those identities and the nuances of them, and it does a good job showing that no two aro-ace people will have the exact same experiences or outlooks.

Overall I really enjoyed this book and I think it’s a very necessary addition to the YA market. This book will mean a lot to many people and will help many people on the aro-ace spectrum or who are questioning to understand themselves. Thank you to Ann Zhao, Feiwel & Friends, and Netgalley for sending me an eARC in exchange for an honest review.

Thank you Macmillan Children’s Publishing Group and NetGalley for granting me access to an eARC of this fantastic book!

Firstly, this book is one of my favorite things I’ve read in a while. I don’t read enough books with aroace characters and I loved getting to do that here.

Zhao discusses lots of important topics in this book ranging from the way that society makes it more difficult for aromantic people to exist with the expectation that everyone is supposed to find their one true love and live happily ever after which just isn’t true. Zhao also discusses the way that children of immigrants can have a hard time dealing with parental expectations and their own desire to make their parents happy even if that means hiding pieces of themselves for their approval.

This book was really well done. The dual point of view was perfect for this story because of the social media rivalry. The small details about the college culture that get included throughout the book reminded me of my days at my undergrad, not because I went to the school in the book (I didn’t), but because I think a lot of colleges have that special language that only students know about. That part is probably going to trigger some nostalgia in non-teen readers.

I love that one of the big themes of the book is forgiveness: forgiving yourself for not being perfect, forgiving your friends for hurting you on purpose, forgiving them for hurting you not on purpose. I also love that Sophie and Jo get to experience that feeling you get when you find a friend who really understands a piece of you that nobody else understands and that they take that feeling and turn it into something actionable. They start an a-spec club so other a-spec students on campus can share that with them.

This is a very hopeful book and I recommend it to anyone who enjoys stories about friendship and self-acceptance!

Check this book out on April 16!

5 out of 5 stars.

This book is exactly what it's advertized as- a platonic love story (key here platonic), an online enemies situation, and two college students just trying to figure themselves out. This gives Alice Osman Loveless vibes so if you like that, you'll love this. This is aro/ace queer representation, BIPOC representation, and found family. This is a book that so many young adults will be able to relate to, help shape themselves, and identify themselves. This is incredibly powerful and I cannot wait to see this blow up and change the young adults of this next generation. This book will be so widely loved.

The only reason I'm not giving this 5 stars is because I felt it was a little long and being someone who isn't aromantic nor asexual, I wasn't able to relate to this the same way that other people will. Still a solid 4.5 stars though- 100% would recommend it to all.

"People choose, every day, to be lovers, to be friends, to be family."
Love is more than just a romantic attraction. Love is how you feel for your friends, your family, and the people in your life that you care about. Yes, some people choose to have romantic relationships, but not having one or wanting one doesn't make you less than or wrong. This lesson is a hard one to learn but is one that the author really pushes to teach in this book. My identity is not aro/ace, but this is a book that I learned from and helped make me more confident in who I am. Whether I am in a relationship or not, I am a confident and strong person and a relationship doesn't define me. Thank you for reminding me of that <3

I wasn’t all that invested in the book or the characters, but I did enjoy it for the most part.

Reading this book on my Kindle left me completely unaware of how long the book actually was. I genuinely felt like it could be 600 pages or more. The story felt so incredibly long while nothing was really happening. I was waiting and waiting for the big reveal only to find it to be a letdown. There were so many chapters, descriptions, and sentences that could have been cut and the story would have been the same.

I also found that constant references to other YA books a bit repetitive. While it was fun to decipher which books were being referenced, I can’t help but question what it added to the story.

What the book does really well is provide experiences of aspec youth! I always love reading about characters on the asexual spectrum because experiences can vary greatly. It is wonderful to see representation for aspec readers. I also appreciated that all the aspec characters were in different places in their life, acceptance, understanding or just showed different placements on the spectrum.

My favorite part of the book was reading Dear Wendy or Wanda posts and banter. I really liked the idea of anonymous advice columns and I think it was an interesting plot for the book. I just wish the big reveal was a bit more exciting or realistic.

Overall, the book was enjoyable but felt painfully long and a bit cheesy.

Sophie has been running an anonymous advice account for months. It's pretty famous on her college scene. But then someone makes a counter account, and it's very unserious and Sophie takes it as an attack, a mockery. And so the two start an online feud. Little does she know that this account is run by fellow aroace and fast friend Jo.

I had a great great great time reading this. Loved the rep, the talks, the lectures, the whole college setting. I love the petty Instagram drama and the friendships and the friendship drama.
I loved the main characters, both points of view were just as compelling and captivating. I was sucked in from beginning to end. I also loved the little screenshot and text post of both accounts. This was simply great from start to finish.
I honestly could not recommend this more. It's one of my favorite debuts ever. I loved it so much. I can't wait for more books by Ann Zhao. This book has just made her an auto-buy author for me.

I will wholeheartedly recommend it to everyone, let's start with that, I've never read a book about aro-ace identities ( I fall into the a-spec ) that has made me feel so seen and safe.
Ann Zhao was able to create a book filled with so much love, warmth and acceptance that it filled my heart with joy. Through out the book I was nodding at stuff, relating to and adoring these characters. Sophie and Jo are two characters that I never knew I needed.
The writing was fun, fast-paced and enjoyable, and the story was wholesome like one big bear hug. I hope it reaches people who will relate to it, who will feel seen and heard by it and will realise they aren't alone and so many a-spec people face the same thing and won't feel so alone.