Come Together is a deep look at sex in long-term relationships. The book is filled with scientific facts, anecdotes and an informative and non-judging tone. This is a must read for all couples looking for great advice and new ideas to keep their relationship fresh and sexy!

In "Come Together," Emily Nagoski, PhD, once again delivers a groundbreaking exploration of human sexuality, this time focusing on the often-misunderstood realm of sex in long-term relationships. Building upon her earlier work in "Come as You Are," Nagoski dives deep into the complexities of maintaining a fulfilling sexual connection with a partner or spouse.

Nagoski offers readers a profound shift in thinking – it's not just about how much sex you have or how frequently, but rather, it's about whether you truly enjoy the sexual experiences you share. What sets "Come Together" apart is Nagoski's ability to demystify the truth about sexual satisfaction. She steers us away from the notion of "spontaneous desire" as the ultimate goal, advocating for a deeper understanding of what truly drives satisfying and lasting sexual connections. She provides readers with invaluable language and tools to navigate conversations about desire and arousal with our partners, dismantling the stigma around fluctuating libido.

She discusses the obstacles that hinder sexual enjoyment, ranging from stress and body image issues to relationship complexities and societal expectations. Additionally, she presents practical strategies for overcoming these barriers, helping readers create a blueprint for a fulfilling sexual life within the context of their unique emotional and relational dynamics. She approaches the topic with a sense of humor and compassion that truly makes this an educational and entertaining read.

This book is a game-changer for those looking to cultivate lasting and fulfilling connections with their partners. Thank you to the author and publisher for the opportunity to read.

"Come Together" by Emily Nagoski, PhD, is an illuminating guide that takes a fresh perspective on the often misunderstood topic of maintaining a fulfilling sex life in long-term relationships. Building on her groundbreaking work in "Come as You Are," Nagoski dispels common myths surrounding sex, debunking the notion that desire inevitably wanes as relationships endure. Instead, she focuses on the essence of sexual satisfaction and the importance of enjoying the intimacy we share.

This book goes beyond mere frequency, delving into the quality of our sexual experiences. Nagoski skillfully dismantles barriers to sexual enjoyment, addressing issues ranging from stress and body image to relationship dynamics and societal expectations. With scientific rigor, wit, and empathy, Nagoski provides tools to foster lasting sexual connection. Readers will discover the importance of understanding emotional nuances, communicating with partners, and cultivating a sexy state of mind for a vibrant and enduring sex life. "Come Together" is a compassionate and insightful roadmap to unlocking the potential of great, lifelong intimacy.

Come Together is an informative, non-judgmental, and accessible look at sex in long-term relationships. The author offers compelling scientific research and anecdotes to illustrate her points and she very helpfully summarizes key takeaways at the end of each chapter. While the focus may be on sex in long-term relationships, I think many of the lessons are more broadly applicable to anyone wanting to better understand their bodies and their emotions and experience more pleasure and connection.

Thank you very much to Random House Ballantine and NetGalley for the opportunity to read a copy.

I LOVE LOVE LOVED 'Come as You Are,' by Emily Nagoski, and knew that I needed to read her newest installment.

Same great balance of science and anecdote. Nagoski does a fantastic job of explaining concepts, and reframing them in various ways to make sure that it is understood.

My only qualm with this book is the assumption that even if you don't desire sex, it is worth it if there is pleasure. Desire is very different for different people and I don't love the message that you should try to make sex a regular part of your life if you do not desire it.

After being married 14 years and together 16, I felt this was a great refresher. I can see how parts felt redundant but they were easy to skim through and Emily is a wealth on knowledge. Concise information that was well put together.

I had read Come As You Are and thought it was fantastic, so maybe that's why I was slightly disappointed by this book. It was just a bit more boring than I would have expected? Part of it might be that I wasn't exactly searching for the material the same way I was her previous book, but rather read it because I like Nagoski's previous work. I would probably rank it a 3.5/5, but rounding down because I was routinely bored throughout. But if you are actively searching for help in your relationship, this has the potential to be much better.

This book offers some interesting advice for couples in long term relationships to get that spark back. The advice was practical and I think it would help many couples who are struggling. There were different scenarios and examples that explained the advice that was being given. The author seemed extremely knowledgeable and even discussed the situation from the different gender roles which would be more relatable for the reader. Overall, I think this would be a useful tool for those who need help with their intimacy.

Thank you to Random House and NetGalley for this ARC.

Don't let the comic title mislead you. If you are looking for erotica or masturbatory material, this book is not for you. What it is, is a treatise from PhD Emily Nagoski that can truly help you if you are young and inexperienced. Or if, as she says, you need to learn the difference between desire and wanting and other language defined for you, If so, this book may be just the ticket. If, on the other hand, you are a long-married (happily, I hope) person or couple, you will no doubt have figured out by now what works for you sexually. Using case studies from her own practice, Nagoski illustrates what occurs when the newness of a relationship moves into the complications brought into life by work, money concerns, children and more.

This book is entertaining in that it is well-written and amusing, while explaining sex, clinically and experientially, to those who want a textbook-like approach. It may also work for those who are either experiencing difficulties in their sex lives and don't want to feel alone in this, or to those who can't afford a therapist. I can see "Come Together" as a textbook for students earning a master's degree in social work (or beyond).

Emily Nagoski writes well, and the book, although overly long, I thought, is well worth your time. Thanks, NetGalley and the Publisher for an ARC copy of this booi.

This was an informative and interesting book. It is different than other books I usually read, but this is an important topic and I am really glad to have a copy of this book. It is great for someone who is in a long-term relationship and wants to start learning more about how to improve their sex lives.

Thanks so much to NetGalley and Random House Publishing - Ballantine.

Nagoski wrote Come As You Are, so I was excited when this recommendation popped up in my inbox.

She writes about sex in long term relationships. I really appreciated this honest look that addressed many misconceptions, specifically that sex in long term relationships is better at the beginning and then fizzles the longer than a couple stays together. She also talks a lot about barriers that prevent people from having great sex. This is an honest look at sex, and she does so in a way that's comfortable and funny! This book is so approachable and real, and I could read it without feeling awkward or embarrassed!

This was a book I did not read the blurb for. And I am not mad about that. Apparently the universe thought I may need this. And they would be correct.

Of course it is about sex. In your mature years. I, like a lot of women, thought that the heady passion days naturally waned in your sixties. That is not actually true.

Nagoski has done a lot of research and the things she is telling us are science based. So if it isn't about wild, hanging from the ceiling sex, what is it saying?It's about how you like your sex life.

I don't know what is keeping you shy about letting go in the bedroom, but for me it is that old body image thing. Now, there is nothing wrong there, it's just in my head. Nagoski talks about this and everything else, stress, rough patches, your "idea" of what sex should be.

You will find a lot of information on how to push through those intrusive thoughts as well as lots of laughing. Let's face it, it is a funny thing! After reading this twice, I had a chat with my husband and he had the same fears!

NetGalley/ RHPG-Ballentine, January 30,2023