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In "But How Are You, Really" by Ella Dawson, readers are invited into the tumultuous and reflective world of Charlotte Thorne, a bisexual woman grappling with stalled career aspirations, a passion for drawing that's slipped away, and the complexities of reconnecting with her queer chosen family. Set against the backdrop of a five-year college reunion, Dawson skillfully explores themes of self-discovery, mental health, and the enduring impact of past relationships.

Charlotte’s character is relatable and deeply human. Her reluctance to confront her past, particularly her relationship with Reece Krueger, a hockey player and an old flame, is portrayed with honesty and depth. Dawson excels in capturing the nuances of Charlotte's internal struggles, from her career frustrations to the unease of revisiting old stomping grounds and rekindling lost connections.

The setting of Hein University, with its mix of nostalgia and new experiences, provides a rich canvas for Charlotte's journey. The narrative expertly weaves flashbacks and present-day encounters, allowing readers to piece together the puzzle of Charlotte's past while witnessing her current struggles. The use of a college reunion as a narrative device is effective, offering a poignant exploration of how our past shapes our present and future.

However, the novel's pacing can sometimes feel uneven, particularly in the balance between Charlotte's personal growth and the various subplot developments. While the portrayal of Charlotte's mental health and her journey towards self-acceptance is compelling, some readers might find the resolution of these complex issues within the tight timeframe of a weekend reunion somewhat unrealistic.

Content warnings for themes of mental health, sexuality, and relationship dynamics are appropriate. The novel will resonate most with readers who appreciate character-driven stories that explore the intricacies of identity, past relationships, and the journey to self-acceptance.

In conclusion, "But How Are You, Really" is a thoughtful, engaging novel that delves into the complexities of coming to terms with one's past and the ongoing journey of self-discovery. Ella Dawson has crafted a story that is both relatable and poignant, making it a strong addition to the genres of LGBTQIAP+ fiction and women's fiction.

** A copy of But How Are You, Really was provided by the publisher and NetGalley/Edelweiss+ in exchange for an honest review **

But How Are You, Really is a fun and emotional debut. It takes place at a five year college reunion and deftly handles themes such as emotional abuse, toxic work relationships, queerness, and adulting. What is most powerful/beautiful is the friendship and found family at the heart of the novel. I also deeply appreciated the themes of being proud of who you are and how your you-ness makes you worthy of love and care. Overall, Dawson offers a story that feels like a much-needed and healing hug. Highly recommend!

Side note: What a wonderful cover!

Really love how this is an echo of healing through the friendships we form, and the love we deserve, even if the road is tough getting there. Highly recommend!

Drop whatever you're reading and get your hands on this fun, steamy, debut novel, But How Are You, Really by Ella Dawson.

Picture this: it's been five years since college graduation. Having successfully filled her life with all-work-and-no-fun following a brutal break up, the thought of attending her five-year reunion to schmooze and risk seeing ex's and old-friends fills Charlotte Thorne with impending dread. Unlucky for her, Charlotte's savage boss is asked to give the commencement speech which means, like-it-or-not, she's going. Out of options, Charlotte must brave the weekend head on, rekindling old connections--some welcome and some not-so-much-- and ultimately find herself faced with confronting all the things that scare her the most.

In her debut novel, author Ella Dawson skillfully brings the reader back to the concrete walls of college life, capturing the angst and drama, as if it was just yesterday. You may *think* you don't want to revisit those days yourself, but I promise that you won't be able to put down this claim your life/take back your story/follow your heart/trust that your worth more than you think/best friends are forever/second chance at love/with a healthy dash of heat novel.

Five stars for But How Are You, Really.

Thank you to Penguin Group Dutton and NetGalley for the opportunity to read and provide feedback on this advanced review copy of But How Are You, Really by Ella Dawson.