No nonsense in the best way, DATEABLE dives into all the hard but sadly true topics of ableism related to “dating while disabled.” But it also brings hope and possibility, shedding light on the ways to make it easier on oneself while in the process. Each chapter added a helpful new perspective. I’d love to see more books like this!

I found this piece to be exceptionally well-crafted, and I'm eagerly anticipating the opportunity to delve into more works by this author. Given its potential popularity among our library patrons, we're certainly looking forward to adding it to our collection

DNF @ 55%

I will be very eager to try this as an audiobook once it exists. As a written book, I think there was a lack of clarity and editing about who the audience is (disabled people? nondisabled people? both?) which made it hard to follow. I think the content is very important though and I hope to finish it in a format that works for me. And I will definitely share the book.

At first, I thought the book, being written by authors with disabilities that were primarily physical and visible (and who were white, cis, and straight/passing) would not be relevant for me and my neurodivergent and mad communities, whose primary disabilities are invisible (and who are also BIPOC and queer/trans). I thought it was still insightful as a glimpse into other lives that I've not experienced first hand. The authors' voices are warm and humorous, making it easy and fun to read. However, when I came across this, I felt so seen I cried:
"You will need a partner who can care for you. But what you don't see yet is that you will also care for them. You are wise and thoughtful and loyal. In some ways, the life you offer to a partner is small, but in others, it's beautiful and expansive. If you find someone who cannot recognize that, it's not because you aren't enough; it's because they don't yet understand. It's not your job to stick around until they do."
What I wish this book further elaborated on, is how to navigate mutual caretaking in relationships where both partners are disabled. The caretaking chapter mostly talked about interabled relationships, where one partner is disabled and the other is not. But in neurodivergent communities (as a result of double empathy), both partners are often disabled, and must navigate needing to provide each other care while having limited spoons themselves.
Overall, this is a book I will be returning to and recommending in my peer support and disability justice work.