I continue to read books to recommend to my clients as a helpful, solid book on how their childhood attachment dynamics impact their relationships as an adult and this one is a solid one. This book focuses on reparenting your inner child as a tool to calming your anxious attachment style. If you are specifically wanting to learn more about your attachment style, how your early caregiving relationships impact your style and how this can impact relationships in the future this is a great overall educational and healing resource.

Thank you to Netgalley and Reveal Press for the ARC!

Cultivate the self-awareness and understanding needed to earn your own secure attachment—so you can approach your life and your relationships with an open heart, a curious mind, and a joyful soul. Do you feel insecure, jealous, or anxious in your relationships? Do you have a deep fear that people will abandon you? Have you ever stayed in a toxic situation because you didn’t believe you deserved better? If so, you may have an anxious attachment style —a way of coping with difficult situations or emotions that is often rooted in an adverse childhood experience (ACE), such as neglect or abuse. Fortunately, there are ways to heal this anxious attachment, and even transform it into an earned secure attachment. In this holistic guide, therapist Jennifer Nurick offers a trauma-informed approach grounded in neuroscience, mindfulness, and polyvagal theory to help you feel more secure in who you are; cultivate self-worth, self-trust, and confidence; and approach your life and relationships from a place of calm, clarity, and connectedness. You’ll also learn to release your anxious fear of abandonment, move past reactivity and critical self-talk, and curb the negative impulses that sabotage healthy connections with others and keep you trapped in unhealthy relationships and situations. An insecure, anxious attachment style often springs from an unmet need for security, calm, and understanding in childhood. But you don’t have to let your past define you. You can build healthy self-awareness, trust, and empathy; as well as the ability to regulate your emotions, respond to stress, solve problems, and form secure and trusting relationships with others. This book will guide you in doing just that.

I found this to be very helpful. I am using it daily to help with my anxiety and discovery of new coping techniques. Will recommend to others.

Being someone that suffers from anxious attachment, I was immediately excited to read this book. It offers solid advice and when used in combination with therapy can be an excellent tool to have a more fulfilling relationship. Thank you to the publisher and Netgalley for the ARC!

So much information to process in Heal Your Anxious Attachment by Jennifer Nurick. Reading this has been like having an extra therapy session.

This self-help book focuses on reparenting your inner child, working through your anxious attachment struggles, and learning how to have a secure enough base within yourself that you can feel secure in other relationships. The author explains core concepts about attachment therapy and shares advice about how to heal, and she includes lots of reflection questions, imaginal exercises, and guided meditations throughout the book.

At times, I felt that the book wasn't well-organized, because the author intersperses all of the exercises with her writing. This demands that you either stop immediately and do things as soon as she introduces them, or go flipping back through later to find the activities. I think it would be better if the exercises had appeared at the end of each chapter, because they often disrupt the flow of the book.

The author explains early on that she doesn't want this book to become a pathway to blaming and shaming your parents for all your problems, but wants to help people acknowledge their childhood wounds so that they can improve their lives. I felt that she handled family issues in a healthy way, but she doesn't write about other sources for anxious attachments. This book is designed for people whose attachment wounds come from their parents or other first caregivers, and it doesn't acknowledge people who experience anxious attachment as a result of an abandonment or other trauma from later in life.

This book only focuses on early childhood wounds and people's current attachments in romantic partnerships, and I think that this is much too narrow. There are important attachment bonds and key attachment wounds that can happen apart from your early childhood caregivers and your romantic partners, and the author doesn't address this or include more varied examples. Also, the vast majority of the case studies are about women, and even though the cover is pink, the description doesn't convey how female-focused this book is.

I also have major worldview differences with the author, and I wasn't expecting this book to be so New Age. A lot of the exercises involve imagining things that you're supposed to derive healing from, like talking to your ancestors, and the author also suggests that you can heal chronic pain just by conversing with whatever part of your body hurts. That can be possible in some cases, and it's worth trying, but she makes it sound like you can just think and believe your way out of all of your problems. I do not agree with many of her spiritualized assertions, and I don't think that you can heal your life just by imagining a bunch of stuff.

Overall, although this book will appeal to women with early attachment wounds who relate to the author's New Age beliefs, if someone has attachment issues from later in life or isn't interested in the kinds of woo-woo exercises I've described, they are better off pursuing a different resource.

Thank you netgalley for an advanced ARC of this book

Along with meany things recently on my mental health and also personal development journey to become a better me, I have been looking into a lot of self help books when it comes to topics that I think can help me grow and become better within myself... one thing I suffer from is an anxious Attachment style in relationships along with BPD ( Borderline personality disorder). With books like this I take out of them stuff that I think will be something I can work on daily to releave in time how I am, and I found some very useful information in this book which made me look at what I am going though and how I am differently , i do recommend this book for people who are just starting to look into their style of Attachment in relationships so they know what steps to take forward.

It also in this book doesn't make u feel bad about how u are but instead makes you feel more comfortable about it, so u can take steps forward... "to know is half the way to work on it is to succeed" its a saying I say to myself everyday when it comes to dealing with challenges when sorting myself out.

I thank this book for giving me some new info to take away and work on.

I loved this book. I found it useful, very clear and on point. I learnt a few things I didn't know and I'm grateful. It contains explanations, but also a lot of useful exercises.

4.4 ⭐️
“Reparenting your inner child” sums this up nicely. The book title is a bit misleading, as you have to understand the definition of anxious attachment and avoidance attachment to realize this book is for everyone, not just people with anxiety.

“The inner child is part of you that remembers everything that happened in your childhood and is still looking for the co-regulation that was inconsistent or nonexistent from your caregivers.”

🧘🏼‍♀️ The foundation of this book touches on a path I have been exploring for over a decade, and it has completely shaped the way I treat my inner self. Reaching into the source of where our inner dialogue and learned reactionary behavior stems (childhood) and rewiring our brains to allow ourselves grace, acceptance and boundaries for protection.

“An estimated 58 percent of people have one of the three insecure attachment adaptations: anxious, avoidant, and disorganized.”

“Insecurely attached infants are more likely to report illness thirty years later than those who were securely attached, and insecure attachment is linked to higher rates of obesity in US preschool-aged children.”

🎧 This book offers a step-by-step approach based on research and years of practice, along with free audio guided meditations (I highly recommend! She has a soothing voice) to getting in tune with your inner self and reshaping our neural networks for positivity instead of the pre-existing negativity that invokes fear-based reactions. There is a spirituality aspect as well, as you are tapping into your inner and higher consciousness - which will not be everyone’s cup of tea, but I have a hard time separating mind-body-soul, so this is right down my alley.

“I felt alone and betrayed, without anyone to support me. This is where I abandoned myself without knowing it. I was so disconnected from my core self and afraid of being rejected further that I struggled to set boundaries to protect myself.”

🗓️ I love the challenge to hold a new belief pose twice a day. What a freeing and positive experience to shape our negative thoughts into positive action. I have personally experienced tears when doing a tree pose, leaving me feeling so exposed and vulnerable, but also bold and free. This is a book, that if truly implemented into practice, can be life changing for anyone.

“Unless you consciously create new networks, you will use the old ones. You might have an old script that says, When I’m sad, buy something, and I’ll feel better, and every time you do this, you strengthen that script, making it more likely that the next time you feel sad, you will buy something. You do this compulsively because that is how your brain is wired until you try to create a new script.”

“I don’t need to outsource my need for love, acceptance, or approval because I love, accept, and approve of my inner child daily.”

👫🏻 This book has helped me have a better understanding of myself as well as my relationship dynamic with my partner (we both have avoidance attachments), my needs and fears, better approaches and what a secure relationship should look like.

🧠 Overall, this book offers a variety of important topics and thought-provoking content that is a lot to digest in one sitting. You will want to take your time by breaking it up into small doses and revisit often. Practicing every day will be vital, as it takes time and showing up to rewire our brains. Very insightful into your inner self. I love that it ends with connecting with nature and what is meaningful for a well balanced mind m-body-soul journey.

Thanks to NetGalley, New Harbinger Publications, and Jennifer Nurick for providing me with a complimentary ARC to review!

I’m an attachment theory junkie, so I was excited to do a deep dive into practical applications for my life. However, the chapters felt pretty disjointed, ranging from basic attachment theory definitions to woowoo meditations where you picture yourself talking to your ancestors.

Personally I prefer CBT and more research-cited tactics, but I think this book would be helpful to those who aren’t familiar with attachment theory and who consider themselves spiritual.

Heal Your Anxious Attachment was an eye-opening read.
I requested this as an ARC on NetGalley and I’m glad I did.
As someone who suffers with anxiety and different things that come with it, I found this book insightful, beneficial, and well thought out and written.
I love that it includes different guided practices (including links to audio ones).
I feel this is a book I’ll go back to for these guided practices as I continue to work on my struggles with anxiety, attachment issues, and more.
I’ve even shared this with my husband as something we can use a tool in our marriage.
Definitely recommending to friends and family. I’m even going to share with my therapist!

I found this book to be interesting, but it was also hard to follow.

The research and general information provided was nice to read, but it was broken up with questions for the reader to answer, “experiments” for the reader to try, and meditations.

The questions didn’t really help. As I read this on my kindle I had to constantly get up to get a journal to answer the questions.

The experiments were a little weird. I tried them for the first half of the book but then I gave up because I didn’t feel I was getting anything out of doing them.

The meditations didn’t work either. Too short and not guided well. I’ll admit that I didn’t go to the website to listen to them. That may have helped.

Overall, it was a good concept, but the execution was lacking.

This book seamlessly weaves together practical strategies and insightful guidance, offering readers a roadmap to improved mental well-being and resilience. Its pages are packed with actionable advice, promising not just momentary relief but lasting growth towards a more enriching and contented life. With its abundance of wisdom, this book is poised to become a trusted companion, beckoning readers to return time and again on their quest for personal evolution and happiness.

Simple and straightforward guide to starting to understand attachment and how to begin work in this area. It is a good book for clinicians and great book for clients. It offers easily understandable explanations of clinical terms and practical steps to take if you are beginning work on this area in your life.

Of all of the attachment styles I relate the most with anxious attachment, so I was excited to read "Heal Your Anxious Attachment." I love that it is full of tools to help you with mental health and resiliency. Highly recommended for anyone who struggles with attachment issues now or in the past. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC.

I've read many books on attachment, and this is one of the most comprehensive. It integrates many trauma-healing modalities (eg. parts work/inner children, somatics, polyvagal theory, mindfulness, ancestral healing), to create an integrated road map for healing anxious attachment. The author writes in a compassionate, empowering voice, and includes many engaging activities (eg. quiz, meditation, reflection question).

**Thank you for the ARC! All opinions are my own.** Informative and descriptive read. Great balance of psychology and studies.

The book was exactly what I needed! It really outlined for me what was stopping my healing and what I needed to learn to move forward!

I really enjoy learning about attachment styles in general, and I am always looking to try and understand myself and how my past may affect my current and future relationships. Really liked hearing Jennifer's point of view on the anxious attachment style which is the one I relate to the most.

This is a must-have resource to help one improve mental health, resiliency, and live a more full and happy life. It is full of great strategies, advice, and easy to implement ideas. This is one I'll return to again and again. Many thanks to the author, publisher, and NetGalley for the advanced copy of the book.

This book empowers individuals struggling with anxious attachment to cultivate self-awareness and transform their relationships. Nurick's trauma-informed approach, grounded in neuroscience and mindfulness, offers practical tools to build self-worth, manage emotions, and foster healthy connections. It could be a good resource for anyone looking to break free from anxious patterns and create more meaningful relationships.