I love reading queer memoirs and I don't think we can ever have too many. Radclyffe's journey is singular, and he takes the reader on a journey through the many stages of his life from biker to wife to mother to coming out as a lesbian and eventually stepping into his identity as a trans man. He doesn't shy away from discussing his own learning and relearning, his initial prejudices to his newfound understandings. A very interesting read from someone who, despite enormous privileges, has been through some shit. Thank you Oliver for writing this book.

I am so glad to read this story of trans identity which is essential reading for everyone. Thank you to this writer for telling his truth and being so open about gender identity and transition. We can all learn from reading this book.

When I read about this book, I thought it’d be too much. Lesbian and trans story together.. I almost gave up near the start however I ended up enjoying it! I picked it up initially because I wanted to understand about transsexuals and the book didn’t disappoint. I was sad it ended.

Radclyffe’s memoir details his experience of navigating his queer identity, moving from a married mother to a lesbian to a trans man. Trans masculine memoirs and books remain rare, and some may find valuable representation with this text, particularly given its additional intersectionalities. I also cannot ignore the courage it takes to share one’s vulnerable moments in any memoir, but especially in one like this where the author has already had to overcome much.

However, I found the writing overall bland and thus had difficulty maintaining interest in the narrative. It felt like readers were being told everything rather than shown. There are long explanations in the form of dialogue take place, for example, which feels less like authentic conversation and more like lecturing.