What a great debut by Shelly Jay Shore! This is a beautiful love story that explores grief and saying goodbye to loved ones. It's learning to love again and while the ghost element is a big part of it it is well done and a worthy read.

I absolutely fell head over heels in love with this story. From the characters to the setting to the feelings it elicited within me… This was an amazing look at not only the dynamics of a funeral home but the dynamics of grief and simple human interaction as well. I was invested from the first page but by the last I felt as if I was apart of this world myself: These characters became comfort characters for me.

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I loved the premise of a guy who can see ghosts having to work at his families funeral home after his mom surprises everyone by running off with their rabbi’s wife. Eli also has a crush on his new downstairs neighbor Ben, but keeps encountering the ghost of his husband. A really deep character study in family, grief and relationships, but I felt the ending got drawn out a tad.

This book had a lot of moving parts and subplots that were woven together really well. It felt equal parts paranormal (ghost viewings), family drama (between parents as well as inter-sibling relationships), coming of age (changing jobs, moving homes, Ezra coming fully into himself), romance, found family (Ezra’s new roommates), workplace struggles, and more. It was a lot happening but Ezra was at the heart of it all so it worked well for me. I really appreciated that his trans and Jewish identity was shown as a part of who he is, and how normalized queerness as well as Jewish culture was throughout the story.

Thank you to NetGalley and Random House Publishing for the ARC.

This book is a wholehearted 5/5 stars. It touched my heart in such a deep and unforgettable way. In the first few chapters, I was very surprised to find many parts of my identity reflected back at me. Ashkenazi, culturally Jewish, queer, and grandchild of a Holocaust survivor from Poland. I didn’t realize how deeply imbedded some of these facets of my identity were in every aspect of my life until I made my way through this book. I felt my heart breaking with Ezra at so many points throughout the story. I often found tears streaming down face, feeling as though the words on the page were describing innermost thoughts. Shelly Jay Shore wrote masterfully- balancing both inner dialogue and discussion beautifully. The frequent use of Yiddish and Hebrew without definitions or explanations felt incredibly important and validating. I truly feel grateful that I took a chance on what I thought might be a fun paranormal book with Jewish and queer representation, and turned into a book I will certainly cherish for a long time to come.

Thanks Netgalley for allowing me to read this book. Ezra has family issues that most people don't understand. His family runs a funeral home which would be ok., except Ezra talks to the dead. This book was a quick read

Rules for Ghosting is a beautiful, nuanced book. There’s family drama, family business issues, and oh yeah our main character can see ghosts! This book has so much going on and is perfect for those looking for a deeper spooky season read!

Wow, this was a fantastic book and I am so glad I got an early copy.
As soon as I read the blurb about Ezra (trans MMC) who is a psychic who can see ghosts and trying to figure out his life when suddenly his life implodes and his mom is running away with a lover and leaving his father, he has to go back to the family business at a funeral home and he also found a guy he likes and he might see the ex-husband ghost. If this doesn't pull you in, I do not know what would.
There is so much to uncover as we follow Ezra as he tries to navigate his life and trying to keep his family together. There is great exploration of life, death and what happens to the people left behind. There were tender moments that made me cry and at times I just wanted to hug Ezra and Jonathan.

Do you ever get literally 4% into a book and just KNOW it's going to be special? Because that's exactly what happened with this book for me. Four percent was all it took for me to know that I was going to love it, and boy did I love it.

Also it is completely wild to me that this is a debut. I can't imagine the things that Shelly Jay Shore has written before we got this gem of a story, because what the hell. It's such a fascinating, refreshing concept for a romance that I stopped in my search for my next read immediately to pick it up.

From the first page, I understood Ezra's need to be the one to fix things with his siblings. The one to take on all of their problems and make it all better for them, while holding onto that stress or responsibility himself. Feeling like you're the one person that keeps the family together and convincing yourself your happy about it? Yeah, been there. It was so wild to see this on the page and brought me to tears several times, because I was that sibling for most of my childhood.

I love a messy family dynamic, and boy is the Friedman family messy. Even their ghosts have drama, and I ate it up. As messy and angry as they all are, they are also so full of love for one another and I just could not help but root for them to get it together. I'm a huge found family truther and this? Oh, this found family is everything. Ezra's initial reluctance to let them get close made me stop and have a long look in the mirror, because am I this book's main character? Everything was just so close to home it got me good.

And Jonathan. Sweet, sweet, Jonathan. I loved him immediately and he only became more perfect as the story went on. Equally stubborn and soft (but always so full of love he made me sob), he was the perfect counterbalance to Ezra's instincts to shut it down and bolt. They fit so well together and it was just so lovely.

This review is a novel in itself now, but Rules for Ghosting is a book about dying, living, grieving and finding yourself and your community through it all. I silently wept through probably the last hour of the book and it is easily one of my favorite things I have ever read. Honestly might be my top of the year and and it's only May.

Please keep this one on your radar.

Absolutely adored this book, from top to bottom. The characters were rich and authentic and relatable, the story was compelling and fascinating, and entire world that Shore weaves in this story is so easy to get lost within. I've been telling everyone I know to read this book, and I cannot wait for it to be published so that even more folks can fall in love with Ezra just like I did. A+++!

***Review will be posted after the pub date as requested in the ebook file. Please let me know if you would like a review posted earlier than that!***

While I reflect on this book, one word keeps coming to mind...lovely. Rules for Ghosting handles complicated grief, family, and romance so tenderly.

Shore has a delightful knack for writing diverse characters. As a trans man, I loved the care with which the book explores each trans character's experience. There are trans struggles, but there's also so much trans joy!

I started this book pretty unfamiliar with Jewish customs, including death rituals. I really enjoyed learning through characters that I relate to. Instead of spirituality being a source of trauma, it is deeply interwoven with healing.

In sum, Rules for Ghosting is lovely! I look forward to reading more by this author.

Thank you so much to NetGalley for the chance to read an ARC for free. I'm leaving this review of my own accord.

I loved this gorgeous, queer, Jewish romantasy and didn't want it to end. Ezra sees ghosts, which made growing up in the family funeral home a problem. Now he's at the other end of the life-death cycle, working as a birth doula and teaching yoga. When his mom and her lover, the rabbi's wife, come out at Passover and set up house together, chaos ensues, complicated even more by the fact that Ezra's just moved into a new apartment haunted by the ghost of his mom's lover's son. And Ezra finds himself falling for the ghost's partner Jonathan, who is involved in chevra kadisha (burial society) work at the funeral home and lives in the same building as Ezra and his found family and friends. There are loads of other great characters, including Ezra's siblings, and I appreciated the depth of each of them, and the learning and development of many. Ezra and Jonathan work to make their relationship work, and it's nice to read about that work in a positive way.

♡ Spooky Vibes
♡ Funeral Home
♡ Angst with a Happy Ending

Went into this knowing nothing about it, and wow, it was so good. I loved the characters, the spooky atmosphere, and the plot. The trans rep was also fantastic and really enjoyable to read.

I loved this book so much! The characters were well thought out and the friendships were so wholesome. Ezra and Johnathan were so precious and I was rooting for them the whole time. And I loved the line: “You don't have to make up for needing to be loved.” (- Johnnathan; Chapter 35, Page 277 of the ebook edition) it was so powerful in that moment.

Overall this is a story about a trans dude who can see dead people and falls in love along the way which I mean if that doesn’t convince you then note there is a very adorable dog in this book as well.

Thank you to the author, Random House Publishing, Dell Imprint, and NetGalley for this eARC in exchange for an honest review.

Spice Level: 🌶️🌶️(2/5)
Angst Level: 💧💧 (2/5)
POV: Third Person
Release Date: 20, August 2024
Rep: Bisexual Transmasc (Main Character), Transfem (Side Character), Asexual (Side Character), LGBTQIA+ (Main and Side Characters)

⚠️ Content Warnings:
Graphic: Cursing, Medical content, Fire/Fire injury, Grief, Sexual content, Blood, and Death
Moderate: Panic attacks/disorders, Dysphoria, and Alcohol
Minor: Car accident and Transphobia

An insightful family drama with a bit of romance, a bit of chaos, and a whole lot of ghosts!

To save his family's failing funeral home - and his own chance at a queer love story - a reluctant clairvoyant must embrace the gift he long ignored.

This was an interesting read! I think I struggled at times, because I thought it was would be a romance more than anything else and it wasn't. However, it has a great premise and foundation. I enjoyed our MMC, Ezra. Outside of his queerness, he was relatable and kind and a perfect mess. And him being trans felt fully realized and I enjoyed exploring that journey alongside him. This also felt like a love letter to Jewish culture and I loved learning about the different holidays, traditions, rituals, and expectations. This book is inclusivity personified and I loved it!

My biggest hang up with this one was the amount of subplots. There is A LOT going on. Ezra's many jobs. Ezra's new living situation. Ezra's parents' marriage. Ezra's siblings and their dynamic. Jonathan. Ezra seeing ghost including his beloved grandfather and Jonathan's husband. The funeral home and it's viability. So much happening! I felt like there wasn't much focus one major plot except Ezra being at the center of it, so it was hard to get invested or care about any of it. The writing style, which is very exposition heavy or wordy, also lends to kind of feeling boggled down a bit in characters, plots, and details.

Overall, a read that felt like a hug in that people aren't perfect and grief can be hard, but wow, how lucky we are to have lived and to have been loved whether we're of the living or the dead.

Thank you NetGalley and the publisher for my free electronic advanced reader's copy in exchange for my honest review.

Emoji Book Review: 😍😍🥺😍

⏰Short Summary: Ezra’s family owns and operates a Jewish funeral home. In the aftermath of his mother’s major bombshell, Ezra struggles to maintain expectations put on him by both himself and others. At the same time, major love is brewing with a new neighbor. Oh did I mention, he also sees ghosts and recently one of the new neighbors dearly departeds has been visiting him. This is a story about family, community, knowing your worth, love, grief, life and death.

⚡Thoughts: This is my first read by this author and it was everything I wanted it to be and more. It was charming, it was witty, it was just all the things. I truly felt like I was eavesdropping on this beautiful story in all the best ways. I absolutely fell in love with Ezra, even when I found myself screaming through the pages at him. He was perfect and a MC I definitely wanted to know more about.

The story was captivating and compelling and I cannot wait to see what this author writes next! Definitely pick this up if you want a sweet, charming, irresistible love story with all the elements of figuring out life in between.

📚Genre: Romance, Fantasy, LGTBQ

📅Publish Date: August 20, 2024

Thank you to NetGalley and Random House for an advanced copy in exchange for an honest review.

I found myself smiling at the end of this book. Beautifully written, it's about family; both family of origin and the one we create.

I love the MC in all his angst and warmed to the rest.

A lovely debut

Thanks to Netgalley and the publishers for giving me the opportunity to read this ARC. This is my honest review.

I feel like this was a truly excellent debut. The writing was what really pulled me in, but what made me stay was the discussions of death, grief, identity, among many others. I especially loved seeing Jewish death culture (something I'd honestly had no idea about) represented on page. There's a definite care the way the author writes and I appreciated seeing this tender, empathetic look at both life and death.

That being said, I will say that there was a lot going on. I saw someone on another website classify this book as a "dramedy" and I'd say that's pretty accurate. There's a LOT of drama going on and at times it felt a bit too much. While I appreciate the way it was handled, I think that taking out a few bits of drama would've narrowed the focus and allowed for expanding the relationships between the characters. Again, I still think I liked the way this was done, but I did want just a bit more. Especially in regards to Ezra and Jonathan's relationship. I feel like I didn't quite get enough of Jonathan as a character on his own outside of his relationship with Ezra. It would've expanded and deepened their relationship just a bit more, I think.

Still, this was a really solid debut and I look forward to seeing what the author writes next.

I enjoyed that all of these characters felt so real! They weren’t perfect and you could relate to them. Poor Ezra, dealing with a move, a temporary job change, his mom coming out of the closet, and a new significant other! And none of that is including the ghosts that only he can see!

Review of the Rules for Ghosting by Shelly Jay Shore

This novel was a funny, heartfelt, and sincere read. It focuses on both the family you are chosen and the one you are born into. The protagonist is part of a Jewish family that owns a funeral home. Ezra, a young trans man, is a doula and yoga instructor by trade. He moves into an apartment with queer friends and a cute new neighbor. Then things take a turn with him being furloughed. In the meantime, Ezra jumps reluctantly into the family business, only to be confronted with some literal and metaphorical (nonthreatening) ghosts. Ezra and his family must deal with some things left unsaid. Transitions, whether medical or metaphorical, also are a significant theme. Relationships, community, change, growth, and love run throughout the story. This is a heartwarming read and one I recommend not to ghost!

What a great read! Ezra is navigating moving into a new apartment not only with roommates but with his ex! While also dealing with his mom coming out, having feelings for someone new and seeing ghosts!? And this is just the tip of the iceberg! I seriously cannot wait until it comes out so that I can buy myself a copy!