This was my first time reading a book of short stories that weren’t strictly autobiographical and I really enjoyed it. Each story shined a light on interpersonal behaviors with a particular focus on race, gender, and wealth. I wouldn’t say it was earth shatteringly insightful but made for interesting reading. My only other experience reading Sittenfeld’s work was Romantic Comedy and this was a great introduction to the rest of her work. A huge thank you to the publisher and author for the ARC!

I think I’ve finally come to the conclusion that I just don’t like short stories. I have to care about the characters and short stories don’t give me enough time to get there. But I do love her writing

I am a huge fan of Curtis Sittenfeld’s writing, and really enjoyed this collection of short stories. I feel like the title of this collection is exactly why I love her work— her writing is incredible, and she is able to articulate observations in large and seemingly mundane moments in life— discussing marriage, friendship, race, wealth, privilege, fame and more. Every story was thought-provoking and I couldn’t stop thinking about each of them.

Thank you to NetGalley, RandomHouse & Curtis Sittenfeld for the chance to read this book in exchange for my honest review.

I found these short stories to be an incredibly palatable exploration of flawed thinking and patterns. The various narrators' point of view were often cringe inducing and quite pretentious. But I think reading unlikable characters can induce more empathy.

I really enjoyed this collection and will definitely seek to read more of Sittenfeld's backlist.

A set of short stories with such thorough character development and such clear, succinct, and essence depicting prose that I read the whole set without once wishing I were reading a novel instead (I tend to get bored with short stories about 1/3 of the way through the collection).

The stories run the gamut of professions, relationship statuses, races, and problematic situations. Just about all of them got me thinking about some little aspect of life that I hadn’t necessarily considered before. While the characters are all different, they do seem to all share an earnestness, a tendency toward reflection, a (shared with us) path to insight, and a focus on whether or not they are, indeed, good people. A few over thinkers (unfortunately, I do identify with this). I loved the exploration of human fitness and honesty within relationships. There is plenty of dramatic tension, but of the “it could happen to me” variety and not the melodrama that so many people seem to crave.

I liked all of the stories but here are a few that tickled my thinking bone: a VP of film production heading to Alabama to convince the religious author of a popular marriage book to allow a gay couple in the movie; a babysitter for a future internet billionaire; a woman researching the “Billy Graham rule” that “if you’re a married man, you don’t spend time alone with another woman;” a Covid story that unearths strange behavior patterns in a long time couple.

Quotes:
“He’s the kind of writer, I trust, about whom current students in the program have heated opinions; I’m the kind of writer their mothers read while recovering from knee surgery. To be clear, I’m mocking neither my readers nor myself – it took a long time, but eventually, I stopped seeing women as inherently ridiculous.”

“Even if it takes a month to get through a novel, the ritual still anchors me, the access to lives I’ll never live.”

“Among the gifts Alison had given me years before when she said ‘only white women are afraid of getting old’ was the reminder, at a time when I’d needed it, of just how many cultural narratives were optional rather than compulsory.”

“I hadn’t thought adulation was something I wanted or needed; I had thought companionship sufficed. But I’d failed to anticipate how calamitous the standard erosion of affection over time could be when you started with a modicum as opposed to an abundance.”

“Not for the first time, it occurs to her that perhaps, rather than exploring the customs of married, heterosexual socializing, she is inadvertently demonstrating the isolation of modern life.”

“I’d noticed over time that neither she nor Cheryl insulted themselves in the reflexive, somewhat disingenuous way my white friends did; Allison and Cheryl didn’t use self-criticism as a bid for either praise or bonding.”

This was a collection of twelve stories involving the nuances of day to day life, primarily around middle aged women. I found some of the stories to be thought provoking and the characters were all well developed, but most of them were not particularly compelling or memorable.

Thanks to Random House and NetGalley for a copy of this book.

Thanks to NetGalley and Random House for the digital copy of this book; I am leaving this review voluntarily.’

Curtis Sittenfeld is one of those authors where I want to read her stuff regardless of genre. I loved Romantic Comedy and also enjoyed Rodham, which are two very different books. This short story collection is also different from those two books, and I enjoyed it thoroughly.

Sittenfeld just knows how to write women’s characters very well. The 12 stories all have a common theme of women who are at a crossroads in their life and they also happen to be middle-aged. Some of the stories could be considered controversial, others about mundane things, but all of the stories are highly readable. All the stories are similar in tone and form a cohesive body of work.

I really enjoyed this collection of stories and would give this volume a solid 4 stars.

This is actually a collection of 12 short stories!

I could write mini-reviews of each short story, but I’ll just say that I liked some and loved some.

Some fell short for me, or ended abruptly (which sometimes is the case with short stories unfortunately). Some felt a bit awkward or I didn’t love the characters or their actions. But others made you feel so many emotions in such a short page count. Crafting stories with well-rounded characters that elicit an emotional response or connection in 50 pages or less is no small feat.

If you’re looking to read a collection of short stories and have enjoyed her past novels, this would be a good choice.

I would rate each short story differently, but the collection overall averages to a ⭐️⭐️⭐️ read for me.

Thank you Random House and NetGalley for the ARC in exchange for an honest review.

I've loved Sittenfeld since the first time I read Prep and was super thrilled to read this. I usually find short story collections very hit or miss, but this one was solid throughout. (bonus: no naked saxophoning - IYKYK)

I almost never DNF a book, but Show Don't Tell by Curtis Sittenfeld was unfortunately one I could not read another page of. I liked Prep and loved Romantic Comedy, so I was super excited to see that Curtis Sittenfeld had another book coming out. Plus, I was excited that Prep's main character was making an appearance in one of the short stories!

I just truly couldn’t find any motivation to read another page of this book. I didn’t enjoy or feel connected to any of the characters or their stories and felt like they were too long and drawn out for really no purpose.

I'm bummed, but this just was not for me.

Thank you to NetGalley and Random House for an advanced copy in exchange for an honest review.

An absolute delightful book of short stories. They were provocative and made me think of how the stories might relate to my life and experiences. Highly recommend

The stories in SHOW DON’T TELL explore the topics Curtis Sittenfeld is well known for—marriage, friendship, artistic ambition. Her characters in this collection are mostly middle-aged, and I enjoyed their reflections on their lives so far and the way those memories often contradicted with the long-held beliefs they’re forced to confront. The character development is incredible; I felt like I knew them so well after just a handful of pages.

Reading these stories feels like you’re reading something that is, simultaneously, an experiment and a perfection of the craft. You can tell Sittenfeld is having fun in the way she plays with structure and theme and even in her line-level writing. But each one also felt very purposeful in its message. She goes deeper into timely political themes than her last collection; many of her characters are midwestern white women who either confront within themselves or within others the issues that the last ten years have dredged up, and as a midwestern white woman myself, I both identified with and recognized these characters.

My only real complaint about this collection is that by the end, the similar themes and characters started to meld together a bit. Although when I discussed this to @agrayreads, I realized that each story did have its own unique things to love; so I guess my suggestion is to read them with a bit of space; let each marinate in your mind before moving onto the next.

The final story, LOST BUT NOT FORGOTTEN, revisits the main character from Sittenfeld’s 2005 debut PREP. I turn grumpy when characters and stories I see as complete and perfect are resurrected (did we really *need* more Hunger Games books, Suzanne???) so this was not my favorite of the bunch, and I don’t think the overall collection needed it. But @agrayreads hasn’t read PREP and she loved the final story — I’m curious to hear others takes on it!

I enjoyed this short story collection. Each story was unique and offered a different perspective on relationships, friendships, and love, and felt both of the time and modern. I like how Sittenfeld is able to accomplish a lot within a story even in the short story format and doesn't leave too much out for the story to not make sense from start to finish. I especially enjoyed the story that called back to her book Prep, the one about the narrator remembering her time in a co-ed residence hall, and the one about the student serving as a nanny to a doctorate student. While I'm not usually a short story reader, I appreciate that you can read each story in a quick sitting and savor the book over time.

Thank you to Random House for the opportunity to read and review.

Sittenfeld’s second short story collection focuses on many of the same themes as her first – marriage, friendship, and class to name a few. Highlights include a story about a babysitter for a tech startup, a story about moms who banded together after their children were bitten by the same preschool bully, and a woman doing an experiment on whether a man and a woman can hang out socially alone together after they are married.

Why Kirsten likes it
As with most short story collections, I loved some of the stories, I found some unforgettable and I actually LOATHED one of them (it involved a poop schedule and I was just like…why?) If you are a Sittenfeld stan, you’ll notice the common themes of classism and you’ll be drawn into the vivid stories, but like me, you might find some forgettable.

Show Don't Tell is a collection of short with a strong female focus with themes of academia, social injustice, and marital crossroads throughout. Sittenfeld has an innate ability to write in a way that is intriguingly poignant but also easily accessible. I found this collection very entertaining and thought provoking. I especially enjoyed The Marriage Clock, The Richest Babysitter in the World, and The Tomorrow Box. While short, I found each story to be flushed out and well constructed, with characters that I either related to personally, or felt compassion for. Curtis Sittenfeld has quickly become an automatic read author for me, and I selfishly hope she continues to publish for many years to come!

A huge thank you to NetGalley and Random House for this advanced copy in exchange for my honest review!

These dozen short stories are enjoyable trips into the lives of some very emotionally complicated characters. The author carefully crafts narratives that make you empathize with the subject as well as scrutinize their behaviors. Without issuing many spoiler alerts, it's hard to pinpoint one story or character that stands out or doesn't fit with the theme of the book. I believe you will enjoy each story; getting to know the characters and understand the human experience in each of them is a fantastic journey.

Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC, in exchange for an unbiased review.

I love Sittenfeld's writings, with "Romantic Comedy" being my favorite. She writes GenX, middle-aged, white, Midwestern, cynical divorced mom-type characters that are hard to find in a cluttered sea of carbon-copy female millennial characters. But I'm not a huge fan of short stories. "Show Don't Tell" is an exception for me, because rather than feeling that there's not enough time in a short story to commit and connect to a character and plot, Sittenfeld actually accomplishes this. To be clear, there are some misses among the hits ("Tomorrow Box" was perplexing at best), but overall I highly recommend this collection.

Before a couple years ago, I had only ever read Sittenfeld's first novel, Prep, which is a truly bizarre but impactful novel about a Midwestern teenager who goes to an elitist East Coast boarding school. Prep is super weird but probably responsible for many 90s' kids' sexual awakenings (myself included, lmao). Then last year I read Romantic Comedy. which I LOVED. And then came this book, a short story collection, which is not normally my cup of tea. But I really enjoyed this one.

This is just a really delightful short story collection. Just like in Prep and Romantic Comedy, Sittenfeld's characters feel so real - they have the thoughts that everyone has but is afraid to voice, they have weird and conflicting desires, their past affects them in strange and lasting ways, and they make choices that don't always make sense. I especially loved "White Women Lol," which explores subtle racism in privileged communities; "The Richest Babysitter in the World," which seems to be a story about Jeff and Mackenzie Bezos before they got super rich; and "The Hug," which showcases the ways relationships change over time and how you might need different things from your partner in different phases of life. And of course, I loved "Lost But Not Forgotten," the last story of the collection, which picks up with our Prep protagonist Lee at her thirtieth high school reunion. Sittenfeld's voice is sharp and incisive in these stories, and each one caught my attention.

Thank you to NetGalley and Random House Publishing Group for an advanced reader's copy in exchange for an honest review!

Unfortunately I just think Sittenfeld’s writing just isn’t for me. I wanted to like this and I loved the idea of bite sized short stories but I struggled throughout. I think fans of her work will enjoy them! Thank you for the opportunity to read!

50/50 split for stories I enjoyed and ones I found odious. All were thought provoking, whether macro of the world overall, or micro of my own experiences and thoughts. It’s amazing the effort that is put into constructing an entire narrative, a connection to the characters, and this extensive and elaborate set-up, just to get you to really think about one singular idea, thought or perspective. At times this became tiring, absorbing so much ultra-specific information for just one point or demonstration and then moving on. This is not a book to sit down and read straight through; it needs to be little interludes from your other reading, one short story palette cleanser at a time.