Nicola Dinan has done it again. Following her award-winning debut novel, *Bellies*, *Disappoint Me* is another outstanding, witty, and tender coming-of-age story.

Life in your thirties can be a transformative time, filled with both opportunities and challenges. From careers to relationships, financial stability to family dynamics, our thirties are often marked by various expectations— expectations from society, family, and ourselves. When you factor in the cultural expectations surrounding queerness, gender roles, racial and ethnic identities, and millennial ideals, it becomes clear that no one can meet all these demands.

The protagonist, Max, is a disillusioned trans poet who falls for Vincent, a "normie," or cis-het corporate lawyer. Throughout the novel, Max, Vincent, and their peers judge themselves and each other, often adhering to rigid moral standards. However, life and people are far more nuanced; truth often exists in shades of gray rather than just black and white. No one is entirely good or bad, right or wrong.

The characters have complex identities—some are multiracial, have lived in different countries, or identify as transgender and queer. Their lives are shaped by personal choices and experiences. This novel beautifully portrays the journey of growing up and realizing that everyone is human, including our parents, who did the best they could at that time. It explores themes of understanding, nuance, forgiveness, growth, and healing.

I highly recommend this book, but I advise readers to be aware that it addresses transphobia and to review content warnings (CWs) beforehand.

Thank you to NetGalley and Random House for this wonderful ARC. I will be purchasing it when it comes out!

first of all thank you so much for the opportunity of receiving an ARC <3

second the review, i cant lie in the beginning of this book i was so confused on what i was reading because it’s a lot of max’s thoughts being spoken aloud along with her thought process and it didn’t take me until a chapter or 2 later to understand. (so thankful for the dual pov to understand more of the story)

however, the writing itself was great & i love that the few main focuses here are forgiveness, growth, identity & relationships. nicola did a great job with situations & issues in the book not being fully solved and instead made a reference of “the world kept spinning” because that happens in life, it’s never a stand still no matter what you’re going though. i personally love that the characters in this novel are messy because it captures the amount of inner monologues they have before speaking, the thoughts they have that are running at miles per hour, it captures the growth aspect of this book well.

the book is a great read but i can definitely see the book not being for certain people & overall nicola’s writing is intriguing and makes me want to read more of her work in the near future :)