Wow!!! I could relate to this book and felt/feel the same way as she describes (how does she do that?). It really hit home and resonated with me on a profound level. Rae lays it all out there. She is transparent and raw, yet inspirational. I gained 'a lot' from this book and feel better equipped in many ways, such as how to deal with situations, boundaries, and my emotions, not to mention some close relationships. I feel stronger about "being strong" and not guilty ending toxic relationships without taking on any of the guilt I have in the past. The ending made me tear up with happy tears. I highly recommend this book.

This book resonated with me in a lot of ways. I enjoyed reading it and hearing the author's story. I'm glad I read it.

I should start by saying that I had no idea what this book was about when I signed up to read it through NetGalley. It was an opportunity to read an advanced copy of a book with an alluring title so I jumped in with both feet. I should have done some research. I assumed this was a novel. It is not. It is advertised as a memoir, but seemed more of a self-help book to me. Sadly, self-help is not my favorite genre.

After the first few chapters, I jumped around reading here and there. In total, I read about 50%-60%. The author’s personal experiences correlates with the message of the importance of loving yourself. Somewhat interesting but not for me.

Thank you to NetGalley for this opportunity. I intend to pay closer attention to a books synopsis in the future.. ⭐️⭐️
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✨ "Stop being good, and start being free." ✨

This book cracked something open in me. LOVEABLE isn’t just Amber Rae’s story—it’s a mirror. A raw, honest, and incredibly eye-opening reflection on what it means to honor your truth, even when it’s uncomfortable.

As I turned each page, I found myself thinking about my own life—my upbringing, the ways I was taught to be “good,” and the silent moments in my marriage when I didn’t fully acknowledge my own needs or feelings. Amber’s vulnerability gave me permission to reflect on my own. 💭

This isn’t about choosing someone else. It’s about finally choosing yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re going through the motions, smiling through the ache, or wondering if there’s more to life than the roles we’re told to play—please read this book. It will stir something deep in you.

🩷 Highly recommend to anyone craving truth, freedom, and self-love.

I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily. Such a beautiful memoir that I could relate strongly to as a woman. I loved the honest look at how our past shapes our present and our future if we let it, especially based on our own insecurities. This book gave us stunning look at how your insecurities can destroy your relationships if you let them, and not just with other people but also with yourself. I really appreciated the author’s honesty with her own situation, and so many parts were so relatable that it gave me a huge comfort inside. Many feelings that a woman feels are actually normal and common, but the key is to work on them and then work through them. When she shared her work in therapy, it gave great examples for other women on how they can come to terms with certain things in their own lives.

Years ago, I read Amber Rae’s book Choose Wonder Over Worry and it deeply resonated with me. As someone who loves a memoir + knew that I enjoyed her writing previously, I was really looking forward to reading Loveable.

In this memoir, Amber Rae shares her candid, raw, heartfelt thoughts about leaving her marriage, finding her soulmate, and working through some deep rooted patterns & beliefs. In short, intimate chapters she shares her truth, and her journey to realizing that being honest was going to set her free - and it wasn’t about being “good”. This book is a beautiful reflection of Amber’s deep work with many gems that will stick with me.

“You heal in all directions”

Thank you to St. Martin’s Press and NetGalley for the opportunity to read this ARC in exchange for my honest review.

Thank you St. Martin’s Press for the opportunity to read this phenomenal and life opening experience this book had for me.
I think I can safely say that I (along with so many others) have had to have experienced at least one of the deeply personal thoughts or events Amber Rae shares in Lovable. This memoir is beautifully and eloquently pieced together. The way Amber weaves between childhood and her present-day experiences is not only seamless, but incredibly powerful. The parallels she draws between her early life and the threads of generational trauma hit so close to home—and she expresses them with such grace and vulnerability.

As I turned the pages, I found myself crying, laughing, and quite literally kicking my feet in reaction to the rawness and truth in her story. It felt like sitting down with a friend who just gets it, I actually told my friend this is a book she would enjoy. I truly wish more people would write memoirs like this…there are so many out there walking around with a story worth sharing, and Amber shows how freeing and transformative it can be to finally tell it.

This is a book I’ll be recommending to everyone. I already know I’ll be picking up a physical copy in August to keep close and revisit often. If you’ve ever questioned your worth, struggled with your past, or tried to break free from inherited pain, this one is for you.

The story, here, is interesting as is the personal growth and development. She has a strong writing style, refreshingly punchy and fast paced for a personal, self-help style narrative.

But there is a specific language to therapy. It can be be expressive and inclusive to those who speak it but can ostracize those who don't. Sometimes, this makes the dialogue an insights seem to pander to that crowd and be a little dismissive of those who do not speak it's mantras.

But still, a heartfelt, fairly unique story that is sure to resonate with many.

I loved reading about Ambers journey and found this book to be easy to read and super digestible and made me reflect on my own life which is the best when writers can do that!!! Thanks for sharing this honest and heartfelt story.

I was originally intrigued by this title because I was so curious as to how she would justify leaving her husband for another man. However, once I dove in, I was pleasantly surprised that this was not a story of unfaithfulness at all, but one of coming back to herself and freeing herself from the expectation of being "good."

This book was therapeutic for her, but it felt like free therapy for me, too! While awful, it was interesting to see 35 year old Amber reflect on moments from her childhood that led her to her reactions today. She created such a strong connection there and it was quite beautiful to see how she has reshaped these moments today!

Definitely rooting for her and John - great book overall and a quick read!

Wow…just wow! Talk about about a book that I didn’t know I needed to read. This book is so beautifully written and “hit home” more than I’d honestly like to admit. I was hanging on to every chapter like she was speaking right into my soul.

Cool story.
Thanks to author, publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free it had no bearing on the rating I gave it.

From the outside, Rae's marriage was idyllic. From the inside, it was looking emptier and emptier—and then she met someone else, and within a matter of weeks her marriage was over. This is partly a story of finding that someone else (and thus the catalyst to leave a marriage that wasn't working for Rae), partly a story of what came after, and partly a look into the parts of her past that kept her stuck in patterns that weren't serving her.

I appreciate that Rae delves into the "after"—an instant connection being a starting point but not enough to carry a relationship in and of itself, not without work. This would probably be a good read for fans of Glennon Doyle. It turned out to not be a great fit for me—no shade to anyone who is into soulmates and signs, visions and symbolism, but that's not really me. I'm somewhere between skeptical and cynical (or, if I'm being kinder to myself, perhaps it's accurate to say that I'm just terminally practical), and I tend to be in memoir more for the storytelling and the vicarious experience and less for the life lessons.

"Loveable" makes for a very quick read (I read the bulk of it on a couple of mid-length train rides and still had time to finish two other books), and I expect it'll find an enthusiastic audience. I didn't look up Rae's other books before picking this one up, and in retrospect I probably should have; if her previous books look like up your alley, this might also be a better fit for you than it was for you.

Thanks to the author and publisher for providing a review copy through NetGalley.

This memoir leans more toward imaginative visualization than traditional non-fiction, and may be better suited to a different classification. That said, I appreciate the author's dedication and creative approach in sharing their perspective through journal-style entries, offering a unique lens on their experiences. This novel has a very organic, divine feminine aesthetic that some may interpret in a symbolic or anatomical way, culminating in the birth of a son, rather than a daughter.

wow this is an incredible i would call it self-help book. we are usually raised with so many beliefs and so called "standards" that we easily lose ourselves as women as a person just to please others. sometimes we have to be selfish and yes, they will definitely see as we are the problem but once we start loving ourselves first, we can careless what others say about us. This book is so relatable and so helpful that if you have forgotten about selflove and connection this will remind you that is never too late to create something out of nowhere, Love

I picked up “Loveable” because it sounded like a fascinating memoir about a woman who makes the difficult decision to leave her marriage. And while I did enjoy that part of the story- I had no idea that this would really be much more of a therapeutic read for me.

I highly recommend this memoir for anyone who has found themselves or is currently
in a marriage that they’re struggling with. Amber shares so much inner dialog that felt like it could have come straight from my own thoughts. I would never have guessed that my feelings were shared ones and seeing them on the page was so validating. What we’re going through is normal and is something that you can get through. There is happiness on the other side if you’re willing to seek it.

Read This if you can relate to these statements:
“I wonder when I got so good at making other people think I’m fine.”
“Why do I keep holding onto hope that something will change?”

Caution to Readers- Amber does touch on some sensitive subjects including forms of cheating, abusive parental relationships and eating disorders. The short “essay” style chapters made these very easy to navigate through.

Thanks to NetGalley and St. Martin’s Press for this early copy.
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Initially, I came from a place of judgement when I began this book, because I couldn’t separate the necessary actions she took to end her marriage and the happiness I feel in my own. Her actions felt unfathomable and detached to me initially. However, once I was able to give space (and my god I’m so happy I did!) and lean into Amber’s own need for happiness and freedom, this book really spoke to me and I could appreciate Amber’s bravery in revealing the hard stuff and the work she had to do to be free.

There are so many great nuggets regarding abuse, harmful parental relationships, and generational trauma and impact. Her revisiting her childhood trauma throughout to inform her romantic relationships and the lead up to who she is as an adult was so poignant. I felt for her, related to her so deeply in these moments, and couldn’t help but root for her happy ending not only with John but with herself.

Less than 300 pages and short, quick chapters. It is beautifully spiritual with easy, approachable writing. It is wild how it all unfolds, but real, raw, and honest. Can’t recommend it enough!