This book explores the ups and downs of friendships, but I was a little bothered by the disjunction between part one and part two.

This was a fantastic debut novel. It is a multiple POV story of people wanting to survive, wanting to succeed, wanting the road not chosen, and the affect of each character's decisions on the others.The characters all feel very real; not perfect and not unlikeable, but deserving of empathy as they live their lives and make decisions based on the circumstances they find themselves in, even while these decisions have disastrous consequences at times. At the end, there is an open question of what success really means, and what is it that we really should be striving for with our lives? Jia's prose is absorbing, and I strongly recommend. Special thanks to Tin House for the ARC.

Wanting by Claire Jia tells the story of two best friends growing up in mainland China. It's a tender, evocative debut that explores themes of class divides, longing, and the choices we make and the lasting consequences they leave behind— like no other book I've read before.

The narrative follows Ye Lian and Luo Wenyu's journey from their early bond, to the slow drifting apart over time, and the bittersweet attempt at a reconnection a decade later. The portrayal of this friendship is so strong and achingly real and I was enamored by Claire's ability to draw me in from the very first page. Alongside their story, we meet Chen, a secondary character who's grappling to make sense of his broken marriage and reflecting on his and his wife's shared past living abroad. His story offers a thought-provoking exploration of immigration and the pressure to succeed, to represent, to live up to the image of the “ideal” Chinese man in America. 

Claire Jia’s storytelling really shines in bringing together the messy emotions and real-life challenges her characters face, making their stories feel personal and authentic. This was truly an unforgettable read.

Thank you so much to NetGalley, Tin House, and to the brilliant author, Claire Jia, for the eARC of this intensely captivating and complex novel :)

Claire Jia’s debut novel Wanting is a riveting exploration of close female friendship and the emotions that accompany it: passion, jealousy, obsession, rebellion. It is a story of the possibilities that can unfold when two best friends forge a world of their own, a world in which they make the rules and they are each other’s “perfect accomplices,” as the main character Lian says of her and her best friend, Wenyu. When the two childhood best friends are reunited after a decade, they rekindle their fierce, uninhibited bond, allowing all of their hidden desires to run wild - knowingly, they risk the destruction of the seemingly perfect lives they have each built for a chance to satisfy their unrelenting wanting.

Wanting is also so much more than a tale of friendship and desire. It is a nuanced portrayal of class tensions and the widespread, devastating effects of capitalism in both China and America. It is a critique of the inaccessible and deceitful “American dream.” And it is a reflection on the complexities and limitations of language: the meanings lost in translation, the contexts in which we speak one language versus another, the statements that we can say comfortably in a foreign language but may never dare say in our native tongue (e.g. “I love you” vs “wo ai ni”).

I am going to be thinking about this novel for a long time. I could honestly write a whole essay about it. Can’t wait to read more from Claire Jia!

This book really captivated me. I wasn’t sure what I was going into going in, but I really enjoyed it. The pace and way the author was able to set the scene as well as the characters was really enjoyable to read.

I loved this story about female friendships, and really just friendships in general. It was an accurate portrayal of how friends come and go. I really enjoyed the writing style from Jia and will definitely be looking out for whatever book comes next.

Thanks to NetGalley and Tin House for a copy of this ARC!

Thank you to NetGalley for the eARC copy of this book.

This novel did such a wonderful job on describing female friendships and how friendships can drift apart as they move through different stages in life. I thought this story was very well done and I enjoyed this author's writing style and descriptions.

This book is such a beautiful expose into what lies on the other side of our wanting - our desires, longings, worries, and pedantic schedules of life. All of us struggle to want that which we cannot have or that which is placed just barely out of our grasp. The longing for something else does not really go away with time or age, only morphs into other desires or festers into a fetid scar. Almost every aspect of human relationship is explored in this book - friendship, familial, romantic, marriage, in-laws, workplace, all of these aspects of our lives are explored.

This book reminded me a lot of Sally Rooney’s writing style in that there is a lot of emotional depth and emotional mining into these characters. But this is the supremely better work in my opinion. Where Rooney looks mostly on human relationships of people in their early to late 20s in a romantic lens, Jia looks at all aspects of human relationships and all ages. The story also looks at wanting in every aspect, from human connection, to excitement in one’s life, to success, wealth, accolades, and more. There is not a single character here who is objectively “good” or easy to root for - all are deeply flawed and make a serious of seemingly innocuous decisions throughout time that lead to devastating consequences. In the end it’s undetermined whether everyone learns their lesson or gets what they deserve, but that’s exactly what life is.

I am so glad I read this book and am even more excited to purchase it once it is finally published. Thank you to the author, NetGalley, and the publisher, Tin books, for letting me receive an electronic ARC in exchange for a honest review.

Ye Lian’s life is stable and moving in the right direction, by all accounts. She has a good, reliable job, a long-term boyfriend, and strong family ties. However, when her childhood best friend, Luo Wenyu, returns to China from California - bringing along her white fiance and a life of decadence and social media fame - everything changes. Lian begins to question everything she had assumed was good in her life and begins to wonder if what she really wants is the life Wenyu leads - or appears to lead, at least. As secrets are uncovered, Lian and Wenyu fight to navigate their public and secret lives.

I really, really enjoyed this book. It's a devastating, unflinching look at friendship (particularly female friendship), desire, social media fame, and lies. I was constantly rooting for the characters to make the right decisions, even as I watched them make (arguably) the wrong ones. It's incredible that this is Claire Jia's debut novel, and I can't wait to read more from her in the future.

Wanting is a piercing exploration of the lengths one will go through to obtain their wants and desires. Seen through the lens of Lian, her childhood best friend Wenyu and Wenyu's contractor Chen, wanting takes many forms and many shades. Lies, deception, secrets, capitalism unchecked. Wanting also asks what makes a home, when is enough enough, what's wrong with being ordinary. Thank you to NetGalley and Tin House for the opportunity to read this wonderful eArc In exchange for my honest and fair review.

Very good book! I like the themes of friendship, growing up, adulthood, growth, and loss. It was very well written and it was an interesting story. I think the book was a good one!!

Thank you to NetGalley, to the author, and to the publisher for this complimentary ARC in exchange for my honest review!!!

Ye Lian’s life appears picture-perfect—good job, dependable boyfriend, bright future—but the sudden reappearance of her childhood best friend, Luo Wenyu, shatters that calm. Wenyu returns from California like a whirlwind, trailing glamour, wealth, and mystery in her wake. What begins as a nostalgic reconnection quickly becomes a slow unraveling as buried secrets, old rivalries, and the ever-shifting terrain of female friendship begin to surface.

Jia’s writing is sharp, intimate, and richly observant. She vividly and cinematicly captures the texture of modern urban life—from karaoke bars in Xidan to hushed WeChat confessions. The story flows effortlessly between perspectives, with architect Song Chen adding a poignant counterpoint to the women’s entanglements. His storyline deepens the novel’s exploration of loss, regret, and reinvention.

What makes this novel so compelling is how it examines desire—not just romantic or sexual but aspirational—the desire to be seen, to belong, to escape, to redefine. Jia doesn’t flinch from the darker corners of that yearning, but she also never loses sight of the quiet beauty in intimacy, connection, and choosing the unknown over the safe.

Part friendship drama, part social critique, and entirely unforgettable, this is a luminous debut that reads like a whispered secret you can’t stop thinking about.

The publisher provided ARC via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.

I found this book to have a really interesting premise and I really enjoyed the charecters. The middle of the book did get a little slow but besides that I found the story was well developed as well as the characters

So, I've rounded down this 3.5 star title because the further into the book I read, the less I found myself enjoying it. Only for the suspense to return, ebb and flow, and then let me down again.

The heart of the novel is the friendship between Lian and Wenyu, girlhood besties who drift apart only to fall back into each other many years, and many experiences, later. Our girls seem to have an easy pattern that lasts throughout their lives. Their friendship, "with its obsession and envy," is intense, is enviable, feels real. It's easy to picture the Americanized YouTube personality, documenting their perfect life for their fans who fantasize about their own lives being as grand, as beautiful, as rich, as happy. The mask of the online persona slipping only for a dearest friend, the loyalty and sacrifice in the name of friendship, the uncertainty of whether something is true or we're just unable to let go of the past, the lies we tell ourselves and others in the name of wanting. All these things are aspects of a stellar part one to the story. I'm a sucker for a devoted friendship, and that's what I got with these two women.

In part two, the story of Chen and Fan, I was at times completely intrigued to continue flipping through pages but at other times was unable to relate or care, feeling parts of their story lingered too long. While the wanting is still obvious in this section of the novel, it focuses on different elements of wanting, different desires and sacrifices, different choices. While perhaps equally, or even more, realistic than the relationship(s) in part one, the emphasis in part two was just harder to enjoy. Much earlier in the book, Jia wrote about the separation of karma and revenge, "that one was predestined, the natural consequence of one's actions; the other, a human plot. Both pointed to some initial debt." Exciting, and certainly more a focus in this "chapter," but, ultimately, disappointing.

I found the connection between part one characters and part two characters... charming. A reminder that we all know somebody who knows somebody, the seven degrees of knowing, reminding us, perhaps, the world isn't as big as we make it seem. I appreciated that it wasn't some grandiose revelation, even if I felt other aspects of the conclusion were lacking. The first part of the book was so strong, I'd anticipated the remainder to be as captivating. The pacing, the prose, the character studies, the wanting, it's still all there. It just didn't leave me feeling... obsessed.

Some of the main characters "romanticize a time in their lives when their dreams were boundless-when they were young and friends were plenty," while others wonder what it would be like to get something they'd "actually yearned for." Still, each thinks about "all the almosts or not-at-alls" and wonders what life could have been had they but made one different choice. Or many different choices. These are easily relatable questions with billions of differing answers, so I agree with some other reviewers that this would be an excellent book club read. All in all, I don't think you'd be disappointed reading this. Maybe you'll even do some reflection and decide what you want, too.

Thanks to NetGalley and Tin House for this e-ARC.

"Wanting" is a debut novel with themes of friendship, envy, and self-doubt. I found it engaging and relatable even though I am probably much older than the target audience. I liked how the narrative flows in a claustrophobic way which forced me to pay attention and at times, seemed to mimick the inner lives of the characters. Recommended reading! Thanks to NetGalley and Tin House Books for the ARC.

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3.5/5 stars. That loss of 1/2 might be more due to me as the reader not being the target audience?

I was already thinking this novel isn’t for me based on the authors note: “…friendship is most intense when you’re wanting, and wanting is intensified by friendship.”
A book blurb says it’s a “love letter to friendship”. Really? Not any friendship I’d want to have.

Readers who enjoy Liane Moriarty are likely to enjoy Wanting. Although it doesn’t have the same length, I think readers who enjoyed The Goldfinch might also enjoy Wanting.
It starts off almost as if it’s a beach read, but it’s half-literary. Claire Jia is an insightful and clever writer. She leaves room for the reader to reach their own conclusions and make the connections. I could also picture it being a modern C-drama, the type that Apple produces in the US. (Lin Yi would play Zhetai.)

The first part focuses on Lian, a superficial, insecure, and petty 29-year-old woman. I found her unlikeable and boring—which means there was room for character growth.
The second part is focuses on Chen and his current goals and situation.
The third part then is how they connect. But don’t expect a strong connection. That’s not really the crux of the story. There are things the main characters have in common and Chen is I think around 55 years old.
While there is some character growth for Lian, it’s not a massive unbelievable 180. Our author is showing us how the thoughts and behaviors of cheaters and liars affect their lives and others at a variety of life stages.

I realize this review might make it sound like I didn’t enjoy the book. I actually couldn’t put it down. I’m not one for these type of characters (grossly flawed and unlikeable; two of them arguably sociopaths). But the writing compelled me and Jia (or her narrator) has distinctive perspectives and interpretations, not all of which I think we agree on. This will make it a great book club read—a lot of discussion to be had.

Thank you to Tin House and NetGalley for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
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Thank you so so much to Tin House and NetGalley for the ARC. I absolutely loved it. The writing style was perfection - the author was able to keep me grasped throughout the whole book and captured feelings so well. I loved the complexity of the characters and the way it described "wanting" and desire, as well as how it delved deep on the characters' struggle with identity and success. As someone who is also an immigrant that struggles to discern "belonging" and to define what "home" is, this book was so incredibly relatable and made me feel less lonely. I also loved the way the story keeps you in your toes until the very end. Finally, the author was able to capture an inner struggle I have had for a while of trying to understand and define for myself what "greatness" and "success" means, and how much it is defined by ourselves or dictated by society.

Claire Jia’s debut novel, Wanting, is a striking exploration of envy, longing, and the roads not taken. Through the intertwined lives of Ye Lian, Luo Wenyu, and Song Chen, the story examines how our choices shape us—and how, no matter how much we have, we often find ourselves wondering, what if?

I really enjoyed this novel, especially its honest portrayal of girlhood and the emotional turbulence that comes with hitting a quarter-life crisis. Jia captures the way life can feel like a constant comparison game, where the grass always seems greener on the other side. Having spent my 20s living abroad—immersed in different cultures, learning languages, and making friends from all over the world—I could deeply relate to the mindset of these characters. Even now, I sometimes find myself reflecting on the paths I didn’t take. Did I make the right choices? Could things have been different?

One of the novel’s strongest elements is its emotional depth. The longing and uncertainty that linger beneath the surface of Lian and Wenyu’s friendship feel incredibly real. The novel resonates because it taps into a universal feeling: the idea that, no matter where we end up, we sometimes question if it’s enough.

My only critique lies in the book’s structure. The narrative felt like one continuous flow, without clear breaks or pauses, making it feel like a long, run-on chapter. While this may have been an intentional stylistic choice, I found myself wishing for more structured moments to breathe.

That said, Wanting is a solid four-star read for me. It’s an evocative novel that would make for a fantastic discussion among friends, especially those who have ever questioned their own life choices.

Thank you to NetGalley and Tin House Books for the free eARC in exchange for my honest feedback.

Thank you to Netgalley for this arc of Wanting. This book was very emotional. This follows Ye Lian who has a great job, great boyfriend, and she's about to get married. When he childhood friend comes back, the rekindle their friendship and she sees how well she is doing and all the things she has. Lian starts to question the things she already has. This book was very well written and very relatable.

“Wanting” is Claire Jia's debut novel, divided into three parts. It tells the story of interconnected lives, with the main characters each facing a life crisis. Much like the film "The Graduate," they experience disillusionment at a significant milestone in their lives. They grapple with the feeling that the "grass is greener on the other side," pondering what their lives might be like if they had chosen different paths. They are uncertain about the future that lies ahead and feel confined by societal expectations. Plus, there is an epic pool scene.

The sense of wanting in the novel is not characterized by greed or excessive desire; rather, it reflects a profound unhappiness and a sense of entitlement that arises from comparing oneself to peers, societal expectations, and pop culture. This sentiment is particularly relatable during significant milestones such as a quarter-life crisis, when considering marriage, or achieving homeownership.

I highly recommend this novel. Jia maintains an engaging plot as the story unfolds from multiple perspectives. The last section of the book had a grip on me—I could not put it down. Thank you to Tin House and NetGalley for providing this ARC.