I related to the premise of the novel, as I am going through perimenopause like Clementine. However, it fell flat for me. I found Clementine's antics were not relatable (most women would not act that way) - however the way the husband doesn't contribute to the family mental load rings true with me. As she is fed up by everything, she starts a viral “I’d rather not” movement on tiktok. I didn't care for the antics nor the characters, as they were all too over the top to be relatable. I didn't find it funny, I found it to be cringe-worthy.

Thank you to NetGalley for the ARC.

Overall, I really enjoyed the book. It was a great example of and insight into woman/motherhood and highlighted menopause which is (as Clem says) so often ignored. I felt like, perhaps I was not the intended demographic for this book so I didn't fully relate to Clementine, but I did recommend it to my mom and friends who I think would adore it. The first ~40% of the book was outstanding, I got a little muddled in the middle, but I really enjoyed how it all wrapped up and how we saw a realistic "glow up" (for lack of a better term) from Clem. I felt like I wanted to know more about Georgia and Ethan - Ethan seemed to actually really understand Clem and we didn't get to really explore that relationship at all. I didn't really see the need for the fish drama and felt like it sometimes gave me a break to put the book down rather than be locked in 100%.

A wonderful read!
This novel drew me in from the very first page and kept me hooked until the end. The characters were vibrant and relatable, the writing was engaging, and the story had just the right balance of heart and humor. Highly recommend!
Many thanks to NetGalley, the author, and the publisher for my ARC. All opinions are my own.

Firstly, thank you to the publisher and author for an eARC of this book in exchange for my honest review.

I am not 100% sure how I feel about this book.. it has taken me a while to get through, mostly because I found the first few chapters quite triggering (as a new mum I desperately don’t want my life to go down the same path Clementine’s did). However, once I got out of my own head, I appreciated the book for the witty, informative, and thought provoking book it is. Some of the scenes had me laughing out loud. The overnight tiktok fame felt a little unrealistic.

Overall I enjoyed this book, however I don’t think I am the target audience so the overall message didn’t really resonate with me at this time. 2.5⭐️

This was a fun and lighthearted story about a women dealing with perimenopause and how it makes her realise she is unhappy in her life- not to heavy, perfect beach reading!

I wanted to love this one so much: the premise spoke to me, the cover -- I LOVE THE COVER! -- spoke to me, but it was frustrating to read and I struggled to finish it.

I'm a mom of three, have kids who play hockey, and feel like I have a running list of to dos playing through my mind on loop at all hours of the day. The problem I have with this book is not Clementine's decision to do less -- its that she has seemingly spent her married and parental life enabling her family and then is flabbergasted when they can't do anything without her. I did love her friendship with Georgia, but that was about it. The stealing of the fish, the weird coup in her doctors office -- no thanks.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for the arc in exchange for my honest review.

I could not put this book down. It had everything I want in a book: joy, humor, heartbreak, frustration, friendship, and female rage. Also, librarians. It’s a quick, concise read, but not in a way that sacrifices plot or character development.

My only small complaint when I finished was that I wished the book had explored Clementine’s marriage and relationship to her husband further. But then I realized: it’s SPECIAL that this is a book about Clementine and only Clementine. Why should it put her husband at the centerpoint of her life? I could not recommend this book more highly for any woman who has ever been fed up with a man, perhaps eldest daughters (in addition to moms, of course) and anyone who has had a bad gynecological experience most of all.

Clementine Crane hits perimenopause and her entire life goes of the rails. From dealing with hot flashes to her best friend dying, all while carrying the mental load for her family, Clementine was very relatable in many ways. However, her character does some things (steals the library fish? eschews family traditions?) that made her a little over-the-top. My favorite part was the texting from the daughter, Anna. That the author got spot on-it sounded exactly how my daughter texts me from school!

I received a copy of this book from NetGalley in exchange for my honest and unbiased opinion.

Clementine Crane is frustrated and really fed up. Like so many women, she juggles her daily life with a husband, three children, job and the thousands of tasks she faces every day. She has finally found a best friend in 87 year old Georgia. What shocks Clementine is the onset of perimenopause, particularly hot flashes. She simply cannot handle much more so she sets out to take control and enable all women who are enduring this phase of life. Clementine believes women are not adequately prepared or supported so she becomes a Tik Tok sensation with her “I prefer not to” theme. Much of this book revolves around hot flash symptoms and gynecologists. Her family thinks she is crazy when she disrobes in public and starts refusing all their requests for driving and picking up take-out. It was difficult to connect with much of Clementine’s behavior including her antics at work. This book will not be for everyone. Still the theme is understandable and often relatable, and the texts by her children hilarious. With thanks to Netgalley and Alcove Press for this ARC. My opinions are my own.

This was a fun one, quirky and funny. It fostered pensiveness and I liked the tenacity of the main character. Refreshing for women and women readers everywhere.

I just finished reading this book. The plot was absolutely fantastic! It was quite the page turner, and I could nor put the book down once I began reading it. I cannot wait for it to be released. I will recommend it to everyone I know!

“I prefer not to.” A simple phrase… and Clementine’s brilliantly bold rebellion.

Clementine Crane Prefers Not To is a hilariously honest, refreshingly raw exploration of modern womanhood, told through the voice of a main character who feels like all of us. Clementine isn’t just quirky and overwhelmed—she’s the glue, the lynchpin, the calendar-wielding, errand-running, appointment-booking, family-organising everything-doer. And when she hits her limit (and her first hot flash), it all starts to unravel—in the most gloriously relatable way.

This book had me laughing, nodding, and occasionally yelling, “YES!” at the page. Kristin Bair doesn’t shy away from the emotional toll of invisible labour or the identity earthquake that perimenopause can bring. It’s brutally honest, but also deeply compassionate, and packed with laugh-out-loud moments that make the heavier truths hit even harder.

Clementine’s journey felt like both a breakdown and a breakthrough—and it was such a joy to follow her as she set boundaries, let go of the guilt, and slowly reclaimed herself. The pacing is quick, the tone is spot-on, and the story is exactly the kind of cathartic, empowering read that so many women need.

If you’ve ever felt like the world might fall apart if you stop holding it together—this one’s for you. Honest, hilarious, and long overdue.

This book exceeded my expectations. The author was not afraid to put it all out there and say it all out loud.
It was the ultimate fantasy read for a perimenopausal woman, like me. We whisper to each other about what it would be like to take off for some coveted alone time and just not have to manage everyone else's lives for a while.
I was especially touched by Bair's description of a frazzled wife/mother endlessly stuffing her chest cavity full of all the appointments for everyone in the family, activities, destinations, locations of household items, planning lists for holidays, EVERYTHING. After 40 some years, it takes its toll. And as that mental load starts to hit peek capacity, perimenopause comes along to rip everything you thought you knew about your own body away. It's a unique and dramatic time that is only starting to come into the light.
Clementine Crane is a hero for modern perimenopausal women. I loved that she was quirky, and angry, and exhausted from doing it all for so long.
It's perfectly written and I often found myself laughing out loud or nodding fiercely with the spot on depictions of what it's like.
The decremental extinguishing of a woman's spirit. Amen, sister!
Can't wait to read more by this author.

Clemetine Crane has a demanding husband, demanding kids, and a difficult boss. She finds herself constantly juggling to keep all of the balls in the air- until one day she cannot any longer. As she enters peri-menopause and finds out that there is little in the way of knowledge and support out there, she finds herself championing the cause, picking up friends and supporters along the way, even though her family thinks that she has officially lost it.

My only complaint about this book? It isn't out until October 2025. This was- by far- the most relatable book that I have read in a very long time. As a 43-year-old with a uterus and demanding kids and a demanding job, I found myself nodding along with Clementine's declarations throughout the book. As the mother of kids who frequently need things- RIGHT NOW- I found the text scenes particularly relatable and also hilarious!

I really realized how much of an impact this book had on me when I found myself thinking and saying "I would prefer not to". Kristin Blair has written a hit here. This is easily my favourite book of 2025 to date and I can't wait until every mother, woman, wife, and uterus- haver can read this too.

Clementine Crane Prefers Not To by Kristin Bair is a clever and empowering tale about a woman who boldly chooses to reject societal expectations and discovers her own strength in the process. With humor and sharp insight, the book dives into themes of individuality and resilience, making it both entertaining and thought-provoking.

This was an absolute joy to read, as a person new to raging 'hotness' this funny and yet moving story is an ode to all women who have. just. had. enough. Fantastic plot and character development with lots of depth behind the humour, this was a real joy to read.

Oh my gosh!!!! If you are a woman going through (peri) menopause this book is for you! A subject that is taboo, even today, but Kristin Bair brings it to us with laughter and tears. The main character, Clementine Crane, takes you through her first hot flash and all the things that come along with (peri) menopause! I loved Clementine and how she learned to take time for herself by the simple phrase " I prefer not to" and how she finds new beginnings for her life.

Clementine had 4 kids, one of them being her brain dead husband who shares zero mental load because that’s the woman’s job. She’s had enough and starts a viral ‘I’d rather not’ movement that involves her going off the rails a few times. A fun, easy book overall and relatable especially for moms, but also a bit excessive with characters that were mid level likable at best.

As a woman of a certain age I was absolutely looking forward to reading this book. I wanted to love it. I tried to love it. But the characters, especially Clementine, were just so over the top I couldn’t take any of them seriously. People just don’t behave like this. Boy glad or no, women aren’t stripping off their clothes and diving into a 3 foot snowbank or stealing goldfish from a library fish tank. It felt like the author was trying too hard to be relatable and funny and the book wasn’t either for me.

Every woman should read this book because Clementine and various situations are so relatable. I enjoyed this lighthearted and incredibly funny read.