These two actors met on the L word show and became friends and then found family. They take turns telling behind the scenes about their friendships, their struggles, and how the show impacted their lives. I really enjoyed the behind the scenes nature as well as hearing more about the real friendships that happened off camera.

Kate and Leisha narrate their book and do an excellent job of it. This was an alc from NetGalley.

I really enjoyed this memoir from two best friends who I have enjoyed watching on The L Word. It’s neat to hear about the behind the scenes of how the show was made and how they became friends through the experience.
Kate and Leisha narrating their story was perfect.

Picture it - it's the early 2000s, I'm watching the L Word with my boyfriend. I am very closeted, but very open about my love and absolute admiration of women. But still living the straight life. And here comes Jenny. GAH she wrecked my life - all the women on the L Word wrecked my life. I spent YEARS wondering how I could live that life.
Now it's 2025 - I'm out loud, still very open about my love and adoration of women. Walking the line between femme and butch on the daily.
And now I have these women - this audiobook is gonna be on repeat for a long time to come.
Hearing these women were just as close in RL made the show that much better. Hearing their truth, their lives - AND that Yoplait commercial - So Gay for YOU! Gah!

Really great insight into the show as well as these two actresses lives. I'm sure I'm not the only person who tried to sneak episodes of The L Word as a young queer person. It was neat hearing about how the show really gained traction and how they all worked hard for the success of the show. I enjoyed the whole journey - from Kate and Leisha walking into the audition room to their thoughts on the reboot. They each narrate their sections and I always enjoy when that gets to happen. I think this could be interesting for anyone wanting insider info on Hollywood, early Showtime hits, LGBTQ+ history, or queer TV. Thank you NetGalley and Macmillan Audio for the advance copy in exchange for an honest review.

As a fan of Kate and Leisha, from The L Word, to their podcast Pants, I almost had no choice but to enjoy their audiobook. As someone familiar with them and their stories and storytelling, this audiobook delivered nearly exactly what I hoped it would be. I enjoyed listening to them perform their impressions of one another, casemates, crew, and friends and family members across each of their lives. I also really enjoyed the back and forth delivery of their sections, with each of them reflecting on typically the same time period from their overlapping perspectives. Despite there being a wealth of blogging, recaps, articles, and podcasts episodes about the creation, development and production of The L Word, I was really glad to see that these stories felt fresh and like it felt like Kate and Leisha went out of their way to include never before heard stories. I also really appreciate hearing their perspectives looking back on the show all these years on, with all the experiences they've had since with plenty of time passed to allowed their memories of it to land. It still feels so important and significant, the role this show played in the lives of so many LGBTQ people. And there's definitely still a hole left that has yet to be filled by its loss. It was nice to spend hours with these equally significant people hearing about not only what it meant to them, but their personal backgrounds and intimate lives. I'm very very glad they did the book!

Book 113 of 350 ~ 2025

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This and Queer as Folk were such eye openers. How these two actresses write is how I expected them to be irl if it makes sense?

Finding out how they first met, found each other, and more importantly, what this pair of pants go through... they generously let us into their world.

I read the ebook, and then after I got their voices in my head after the first two chapters, I synced my reading with the audiobook.

It fits like a glove.

Will make you laugh, will make you sigh, on a whole will make you feel.

Love this.

I received a complimentary copy of this ebook and audiobook. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own.

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This book was an absolute delight to listen to. Kate and Liesha both captivate the audience immediately. With their calm and steady narration. It is fascinating to get a behind the scenes look into the original queer women’s show and the walls they broke down. Readers will relate to their coming out stories and struggles along the way. Both old fans and new fans will not be able to put this book down. 5 stars!

I watched the original series but not the reboot or Kate & Leisha’s podcast. That said, I loved this joint memoir. Thank you both for sharing your stories! It makes me want to watch The L Word again!

So Gay For You by Leisha Hailey and Kate Moennig (Published June 3, 2025)

For fans of the L Word, the Pants Pod, and Generation Q a piece of queer community and knowledge lives in So Gay For You. Leisha and Kate delivered a witty, whimsical, and thoughtful glimpse into life behind the scenes of the L Word. From heartbreak to queer joy, readers share in the experiences that set the stage not only for the L word but life in Holly wood and beyond for Leisha and Kate. I appreciate learning a piece of queer history, the advocacy that went into making the L Word possible. I appreciated the vulnerability shared by Kate and Leisha as we are gifted with insight into their breakups, friendships, romance, and self-discovery. Listening to their stories felt like an intimate look at navigating life as an artist, stumbling into community, and finding acceptance. As an incredible bonus, both Leisha and Kate narrate their passages in the audiobook; their voices had me immediately immersed making it feel like I was having a conversation with a friend.

Thank you to NetGalley and Macmillan audio for an advanced copy of the audiobook, it was a such a privilege to read So Gay For You! I encourage anyone who is looking for a queer slice of life, memoir, and glimpse into the L Word history to listen to the audiobook or pick up a copy of the book.

This was such a cute book and gave so much more detail than I thought it would. I am fascinated by their coming out stories and their childhoods. I love the idea of "earthlings" and how confused they were by the original name of the show. I thoroughly enjoyed the transparency of Leisha and Kate regarding the show, their found family, the media/fans and especially how off the rails the show went in season 6.
My favorite tidbit was hearing Kate talk about the fans after she left Carmen at the alter, and how they were yelling "F*** you, Shane!" It made me laugh out loud. Highly encourage this book for fans of the L Word!

Absolutely loved this book. It’s funny, heartfelt, and full of behind-the-scenes stories from The L Word. Kate and Leisha’s friendship is the real star of the story. It’s so genuine and sweet, you can’t help but root for them. Whether you’re a longtime fan or just love a good story about chosen family and queer joy, this one’s a must-read.

So Gay For You follows Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey as they look back on the early days of The L Word—a show they thought would be a small, unknown project that ended up becoming a groundbreaking piece of queer TV history. From their first meeting at auditions to becoming real-life best friends, the book dives into their journey through fame, identity, and chosen family, all while highlighting just how much the show meant to the LGBTQ+ community. It’s full of behind-the-scenes stories, laughs, and heartfelt moments that show just how deep their bond runs. As a huge fan of The L Word, I knew I had to read this, and it did not disappoint! It’s funny, emotional, and full of love—you can really feel their friendship. I loved reminiscing with them and soaking in all the nostalgia!

Thank you to Netgalley, St. Martin's Press and the authors for a gifted copy of the book, an ARC and ALC!

Funny and witty. So Gay for You is entertaining. I listened to the audio, which is narrated by the authors. I recommend this book to everyone who wants a good chuckle.

This book was an absolute delight. Leisha and Kate were so genuine and charming, and I loved every second spent listening to them recount stories from both their professional and personal lives.

Like millions of other gay women, my memories of watching the The L Word take up a very treasured corner of my heart. I was in college, had just realized I was lesbian, and spent many a night staying up way too late watching episode after episode with the first fellow queer friends I'd ever had. This was ten years ago. And THAT was ten years after the show had originally aired. So now, to revisit this show through the snapshots in this book at a time in my life where I get to go home to my wife and children every day, was such a warm and assuring experience. I loved hearing that the cast got along so well and that everyone really had a fair say in the creative process for the majority of the run. I was also, honestly, relieved to hear a concurring sentiment that not all aspects of the show have “aged well,” so to speak. But I also agree that this does not and should not diminish the impact of this show. There really was nothing like it at the time.

Watching the original run of the show is basically a rite of passage for lesbians. And I think this book should be required reading as a follow-up. I absolutely recommend this book--print, audio, whatever floats your boat!--for anyone who appreciates the value of friendship and community, two things which I think society is desperately in short supply of as of late. So, go text a friend. Call them at midnight. Make brownies together at their apartment. You'll cherish the fact that you did.

"So Gay for You" by Kate Moennig; Leisha Hailey" was quick and fun read about the L word and the effects of the show on the authors/actor's life and friendship. Super light and fast pride read/listen.

So Gay for You has everything I want in a celebrity memoir. Leisha and Kate narrate and take turns sharing their portion of the memoir which feels balanced and a fun way to share both sides of their stories. They take us through auditions for The L Word, their experience working on the show, snippets into their lives/living arrangements, the lead up to Generation Q and what leads them to start the Pants Podcast. I loved getting to know each of them on a deeper level, their personal struggles, and how much love they have for each other. This book is about friendship, found family and queerness beyond just learning about what it was like to be in The L Word. A bonus of the audio is that Leisha and Kate answer questions from 10 fans. I highly recommend the audiobook if you are a fan of The L Word, have followed Leisha or Kate throughout their career or just enjoy hearing about queer female friendships. Thank you to MacMillian Audio for giving me an advanced audiobook copy. Out June 3, 2025.

Thank you, NatGalley and MacMillan Audio for this ARC audiobook for review. This was the very best Pride month gift to receive this book! I absolutely adored The L Word when it first aired and to be able to see that community of women. I really enjoyed hearing how Leisha and Kate came into the L Word and beyond.

As a fan of the show, even though I didn't finish all the seasons, I was excited to see this audio book was available for request. I enjoyed revisiting the show and loved the behind the scenes feel of the book.

I hadn’t watched The L Word since it was airing and I was in college, but when I saw these two had a book coming out, I HAD to read it. Navigating coming out while living in a sorority house surrounded by frat boys and judgy midwesterners, watching this show with the queer community I found in my college town was a ray of sunshine every week (well except the Dana plot line… seriously still devastated).
It was interesting to hear Kate & Leisha’s “coming out” stories and about their bringing long before the show. Dang, Alice may have already been my favorite character but Leisha is a super badass lady and while I was listening I realized I have a Lilith Fair poster with her OG band Murmurs on it! Really everything about their time before/during/and after the show was interesting to visit. I basically find any like story interesting and when it’s someone I’m a fan of, that’s an added treat.
It was reassuring to hear some of their takes on The L Word decisions and nice to get some behind the scenes moments from a group I haven’t revisited in ages.
This memoir is quick and easy. I alternated between the audio, narrated by the authors, and the kindle and enjoyed both- though hearing their voices is obviously a step above.
Five stars- would definitely recommend o any fan!

Fans of the L word are sure to enjoy this new behind the scenes look at what filming and acting in the show was like from two of the OG cast members and IRL besties/podcasters. I really enjoyed Alice and Shane - by far my two fav characters. I never got a chance to watch the reboot but this book had me intrigued. Good on audio narrated by the authors themselves and a perfect pick for Pride Month!! Many thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for an early audio copy in exchange for my honest review!