There was so much interesting information in this book and such a different perspective to parenting. I wish it would have come out before my daughter was born! But she’s still young so there’s still time to implement some of the suggestions in this book. I liked that it wasn’t “if you just do xyz then your relationship with your child will be amazing!” There’s a lot of self reflection that is trucking blackly in this day and age.

Thank you to the publisher and NetGalley for allowing me to read and review this book.

Received an advance reader copy in exchange for a fair review.
Thanks to NetGalley and Guilford Publications for the opportunity to read and review Raising a Secure Child by Kent Hoffman. This non-fiction book is all about parenting to help your child feel secure, comfortable and confident. As we all know, there's a lot of parenting wisdom and advice for the taking and it seems like everyone is willing to share his or her opinion whether it's wanted or not. This book describes a way to build self-esteem and the feeling of security from the time your baby is born. I like the idea of the simple act of letting your children know you are there for them and showing them, through your actions that you truly are, can build the security that we all need to succeed in life. I was interested in the sensitivity section and the checklist that helps us see our own shark music (a phrase given to how we defend ourselves unconsciously). My favorite line of the book is, "Self-esteem is built not from praise but from acceptance". 4 stars for a helpful book that boosts self confidence and a well balanced childhood!

Contains very relevant, significant and important information!
Information is deeply important to humanity as it clarifies the fact that we grow, develop our worldview, model how to relate and be affectionate, our personality and self-esteem, we acquire our values to thrive, the ability to solve and face the problems of life , for the rest of our lives! ... and all based on the quality of attachment experiences with our primary caregiver.
The authors write this book with great clarity, sensitivity, there is much kindness in their approach and genunian guide, tested their Circle of Security approach and also built it on the newest findings of neuroscience. They provide many practical suggestions to connect more deeply with our children, but also to be kinder to us and develop a better parenting.
What was most relevant to me are the tools to identify ruptures and make healing repairs. First, we inevitably learned an attachment style from our parents, but we can identify and protect our children (and grandchildren) from struggling with the same aspects of parenting. And second, there are times when we can feel overwhelmed and make mistakes with our children but we can always repair and teach them to resolve themselves emotionally.
I visualize that the benefits and scope of applying this secure attachment model with our children, but also within schools and communities, would result in a greater percentage of emotionally and socially intelligent individuals, resilient, competent, empathetic, kind, who enjoy and sustain their physical and emotional health, ... this would change society!
My gratitude to the Publisher and NetGalley for allowing me to review the book