Marriage Rules

The renowned psychologist-whose mega-bestseller The Dance of Anger has sold more than 2.75 million copies-now offers essential wisdom for maintaining a happy marriage.

Much has changed in society since Harriet Lerner wrote her first bestseller nearly thirty years ago. Yet two timeless truths remain: marriage doesn't have to be complicated, and we are the best experts on our own relationships. With Marriage Rules, Lerner builds on these fundamentals in ten powerful chapters that address the essential sources of strife in love. Following a unique format, this innovative rescue manual draws on sensible solutions that we can easily implement.

Focusing on direct, clear solutions, topics include talking straight, fighting fair, overcoming emotional distance, listening, sex, kids, in-laws, your personal bottom line, what to do when things fall apart, and how to maintain individuality within a partnership. Mutual respect forms the basis of the rules; encouraging readers to reduce a stream of "me first" demands. She believes that most people already know, deep down, what they need to do in order to have a good or at least better marriage. Illuminating, true stories and hands-on tips solve the problem of how to implement the rules, especially if it involves overcoming years of negative habits.

Unlocking the process of communication and self-discovery, Marriage Rules can revitalize and inspire all couples at every stage of their journey.

Praise for the works of Harriet Lerner:

"Like a family heirloom, The Dance of Anger can be passed from generation to generation as it is based on lasting truths."-Peggy Papp, M.S.W., The Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy

"Subtle and literate, The Dance of Intimacy is like a long, revealing conversation with a wise and compassionate friend."-Maggie Scarf, author of national bestsellers Unfinished Business, Intimate Partners, and Intimate Worlds

Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist whose many acclaimed books, including the New York Times bestseller The Dance of Anger, have topped six million copies in combined sales. A dynamic, sought-after speaker, she has appeared on Oprah, CNN, and NPR, and she hosts the "Dance of Connection" blog on psychologytoday.com. She and her husband of thirty years live in Lawrence, Kansas, where they have a private practice.

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