Sounds Fake But Okay

An Asexual and Aromantic Perspective on Love, Relationships, Sex, and Pretty Much Anything Else

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Pub Date 21 Feb 2023 | Archive Date 21 Feb 2023

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'Somehow, over time, we forgot that the rituals behind dating and sex were constructs made up by human beings and eventually, they became hard and fast rules that society imposed on us all.'

True Love. Third Wheels. Dick pics. 'Dying alone'. Who decided this was normal?

Sarah and Kayla invite you to put on your purple aspec glasses - and rethink everything you thought you knew about society, friendship, sex, romance and more.

Drawing on their personal stories, and those of aspec friends all over the world, prepare to explore your microlabels, investigate different models of partnership, delve into the intersection of gender norms and compulsory sexuality and reconsider the meaning of sex - when allosexual attraction is out of the equation.

Spanning the whole range of relationships we have in our lives - to family, friends, lovers, society, our gender, and ourselves, this book asks you to let your imagination roam, and think again what human connection really is.

Includes exclusive 'Sounds Fake But Okay' podcast episodes.

'Somehow, over time, we forgot that the rituals behind dating and sex were constructs made up by human beings and eventually, they became hard and fast rules that society imposed on us all.'


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Actually ace here and this book is... Ace!! (Had to, sorry!) A recommended purchase for general nonfiction and HS collections.

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I really enjoyed this book! I found it well written, well-explained and very helpful. I think it was an easy read to introduce people to asexuality but also was in depth and able to read by someone with prior knowledge of this as well.

It had some really great ideas and concepts discussed in it such as the aspec lens and I really enjoyed seeing the survey responses and hearing other people's thoughts.

I haven't listened to Sarah and Kayla's podcast and I don't think that impacted my enjoyment of this book so I thin kit works well for those who are already aware of the podcast and those who don't.

Definitely recommend this book to...pretty much everyone! Great for those wanting to learn more about different sexualities/romantic attractions, learn more about themselves, it would be a good read for someone (i.e. a close friend or family member) that is trying to understand someone they know who is asexual/aromantic.

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First off, this was really hard to read. Not from the subject matter, but the formatting of this book was way off. For example, this was shown in the middle of a paragraph.

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And its written as if it was a script for a podcast, not for an actual book. I understand that the writers are podcasters, but that was a major drawback on this one. I mean page notes were showing up in the middle of the page, not anywhere near the bottom.

Second off, there really is no reason to add an offensive old film as being good rep if its racist. I don't care that every movie from back then was this way, it did not need to be in there.

Third off, the actual information about being ace was scant. There was mostly quotes from random people from reddit and such and those were fine, but I felt like there was so much missing. There were some heavy duty paragraphs that I guess was supposed to show details about what it all means, but it just didn't hit right.

I think this one ended up being like a buzzfeed's top 10 list article instead of any sort of real detailed much needed info.

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