I read this book incredibly fast. As a Cajun, myself, I absolutely loved everything about this book! I love stories like this that look back into the past and family life/secrets. This is definitely one of the best books I've read this year!

Very interesting book about a family tragedy.
The writing style is natural and follows the history of the authors family.
It was a very interesting read and I recommed, however it felt like this book was for family not the wider public. I wish the themes had been more explores, such as domestic violence, PTSD and family trauma. It was briefly discussed further than their family in the last few chapters.

Thanks for the ARC from Köehler Books!

I felt for this family. It was heartfelt and heartbreaking. I found it hard to follow at times. Even though the trauma was hard, the author did a great job writing this story for their family.

This was a good read about a family that endured a horrific loss in the early 1960s when their dad killed their mom and then himself after a night out. The four offspring felt the effects in many ways, and most of the family just buried it and didn’t talk about it at all. Many of the coming generations didn’t learn about it until after they became adults, because it was kept so quiet in the family. In later years, the family could see the generational trauma and how it affected so many of them.

This was a riveting read about a topic I'm not very familiar with, but filled me with a desire to learn more. The writing was informative and accessible!

We Don't Talk About That is a deeply personal look at how one terrible event can affect a family for generations.

The story begins with Amanda Schoepp learning from her grandfather, during a sleeper-train trip from Los Angeles to New Orleans, about the murder-suicide that took the lives of his parents. What makes the story especially interesting is that the family had essentially made an agreement after the 1963 tragedy to never talk about it. That silence became part of the family's identity and was passed down through generations.

I liked that this isn't presented as just a true crime story about what happened. Schoepp spends years researching her family's history and speaking with relatives, trying to understand not only the tragedy itself but the people who had to live with its aftermath. The Cajun family history and the different personalities within the family give the book a more personal feel than a straightforward historical account.

The strongest part of the book for me was the idea of how families can bury painful events instead of dealing with them, even when the effects of those events continue long after everyone has stopped talking about them. It is a sad story, but there is also a lot about resilience and the complicated ways families survive.

Overall, this is an emotional and interesting memoir that blends family history, true crime, and generational trauma. Readers who enjoy personal nonfiction and family stories built around long-held secrets will probably find a lot to like here.

This is a bittersweet true story of multiple generations and where the trauma began. It is a stunning reading experience when it came to finding out the author's history before a double violent event occurred. This shows an explanation of how all the women have gone from one generation to the next in finding unhealthy partners and the male figures being in and out of their family's life. Certainly keeping the family's dark event secret made the lives of their children a lost one. The story was given in a pleasant manner. Every question I thought of while reading was answered along the way. The nicest part of the book is how the author broke down each child of the deceased great grandparents. I enjoyed reading the true story of Adrian and Brian.