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We Don't Talk About That

One Family's Journey to the Other Side of Tragedy

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Pub Date Oct 15 2026 | Archive Date Sep 6 2026


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Description

When Amanda Schoepp was thirteen, she took a sleeper train with her grandfather from Los Angeles to New Orleans. On that trip, he shared how his parents died. It wasn't cancer or old age or pickled livers-it was murder-suicide.

For him to share this was rare because, following the 1963 tragedy, an unspoken agreement became oath among immediate family: Never discuss it.

Avoidance was seemingly easier than facing the pain, and the elders passed that belief on through generations.

Until now.

Leveraging a decade of research and interviews with her wonderfully dysfunctional Cajun family, Schoepp illuminates for the first time the realities of her lineage, exploring the complexities of generational trauma and the ways a singular event can shape the future.

We Don't Talk About That follows her Southern family's overnight upheaval, the unbounding resilience that finds its way through the cracks, and how Schoepp uniquely fits into the greater patchwork of it all.

When Amanda Schoepp was thirteen, she took a sleeper train with her grandfather from Los Angeles to New Orleans. On that trip, he shared how his parents died. It wasn't cancer or old age or pickled...


A Note From the Publisher

Amanda Schoepp is a nonfiction writer and former journalist for Missouri-area publications with a passion for city history and culture, particularly St. Louis and New Orleans. Schoepp 's expertise lies in digital content production from both editorial and copywriting positions, including background in ghostwriting articles for clients that were successfully published in Forbes, Fast Company, Inc., Entrepreneur, and others. In the mid-2000s, Schoepp worked as a reporter for multiple publications, including The Republic-Monitor in Perryville, Missouri; Newsmagazine Network in West St. Louis County; The Webster-Kirkwood Times in St. Louis; and The Alton-Telegraph in Alton, Illinois. Today, she's a contract editor and writer. She holds a bachelor's in journalism from Webster University in St. Louis.

Amanda Schoepp is a nonfiction writer and former journalist for Missouri-area publications with a passion for city history and culture, particularly St. Louis and New Orleans. Schoepp 's...


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I read this book incredibly fast. As a Cajun, myself, I absolutely loved everything about this book! I love stories like this that look back into the past and family life/secrets. This is definitely one of the best books I've read this year!

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Very interesting book about a family tragedy.
The writing style is natural and follows the history of the authors family.
It was a very interesting read and I recommed, however it felt like this book was for family not the wider public. I wish the themes had been more explores, such as domestic violence, PTSD and family trauma. It was briefly discussed further than their family in the last few chapters.

Thanks for the ARC from Köehler Books!

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I felt for this family. It was heartfelt and heartbreaking. I found it hard to follow at times. Even though the trauma was hard, the author did a great job writing this story for their family.

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This was a good read about a family that endured a horrific loss in the early 1960s when their dad killed their mom and then himself after a night out. The four offspring felt the effects in many ways, and most of the family just buried it and didn’t talk about it at all. Many of the coming generations didn’t learn about it until after they became adults, because it was kept so quiet in the family. In later years, the family could see the generational trauma and how it affected so many of them.

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This was a riveting read about a topic I'm not very familiar with, but filled me with a desire to learn more. The writing was informative and accessible!

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