I was fortunate enough to read an advanced reader copy of this book before marrying my husband. I should caveat this by saying we both live with mental health issues so we're firm believers in therapy not just to help us cope with our illnesses, but to thrive and live better lives.

This book is like having a therapist at your disposal. It's non-judgmental, prompts reflection and action, and gives you tangible things to do to give real results. Because of that I think this book is as effective as the work you're willing to put into it to have tough conversations and change behavior, but if you're open to making changes I think there is SO much wisdom in here. I think the thing that strikes me is even if your relationship is healthy and not in crisis there are ALWAYS things you can do better or things you can spot and work on before they become large problems.

Would recommend!

This was an excellent relationship book. I highly recommend it.

Sometimes you feel like you have issues in your relationship. This book points out that many of them are normal issues that everyone deals with. I think it would be a great read for newlyweds so they don’t overreact when there is a small conflict of differing opinions in their relationship. These days it seems people expect perfection from their spouse and may give up to early on a marriage.

Great tips for strengthening your relationship. Even has some thought-provoking exercises.

I voluntarily read and reviewed an advanced copy of this book courtesy of NetGalley. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

As a licensed marriage and family therapist the #1 issue couples seek help for is communication. Relationship Reset helps individuals and couples understand why they can’t seem to communicate effectively with their loved one.

Relationship Reset provides a 6-Stage Change Cycle for Committed Couple Relationships: (1) You and Me, (2) We, (3) I and I, (4) The We/I Plateau, (5) The D-Factor, and (6) Us or Me. This is a profoundly informative and helpful tool that provides information on the patterns of life cycle for the individual and the relationship. Most importantly, however, it helps to answer the question: “Is this normal?”

What I enjoyed most about this book is how the author addresses the relationship patterns and roles we inherently assume and which are encoded in childhood interactions with our early caregivers. Understanding your own preferred or default position/s helps the individual critically assess its usefulness, or lack of, in your current relationships. A child of an alcoholic parent may have learned to over function in order to pick up the slack however now as an adult in his/her relationships this subconscious need to over function can create resentment, intimacy problems, and perpetual fighting. Understanding why we do things helps us to change how we react to things.

I highly recommend this book for individuals, couples and anyone who wants to learn more about themselves and why they keep repeating the same old patterns.

This book contains some valuable information, up-to-date techniques and recommendations, thought provoking projects and overall useful tools and advice. Lets be honest, this book isn't going to save your marriage... no book can do that. But doing something is better than doing nothing and if you're interested in reading this or actually pick it up that's a step in the right direction and a winning mindset, I hope.
I like this wiring style. It's informative and suggestive without being condescending. It's conversational. Some of the chapters or sections will speak to you more than others. Some are more informational (i.e. "boring") than others, but those are important parts too. She uses a lot of examples so you should be able to find yourself or your relationship here. And even if your significant other isn't on board, these are things you can work on by yourself and for yourself. Books like these are a dime a dozen, so why should you choose this one over others? Because she's "real", she gets it, and she genuinely seems to want to help you help yourself, not to get rich off of a book or to gain herself clients... but to do what she can to help by sharing what she knows, what she uses an what has worked.

No nonsense advice backed-up by scientific research.

Relationship Reset is a great resource for couples! I liked how the book was broken up into sections with very practical advice and wisdom for people who have been married for 2 minutes or 60 years. A great tool to help your relationship grow and flourish.

I enjoyed reading this book and plan to put a lot of this into practice. The first half of the book explains how we operate as individuals within a relationship and then how are to resolve issues that arise from those differences and similarities. Since you and your partner are one of each of those, it can feel a little long winded reading all the types that do no apply to you. BUT it is very necessary to have each of the parts there, however, I would have skipped over the ones that did not apply, had I not been reviewing the book.

The second section of the book, that gave tips on strengthening your relationship, was my favorite. It was written in a way that they could all be applied to almost anyone's relationship since they were not specific to a certain personality type and I felt like I could relate to everything she was saying.

I think that this is a great book for couples. It is not written with a lot of professional jargon that can be confusing. It is very straight forward and easy to understand and easy to apply to your life.

Very insightful and easy to read! I really enjoyed this book and will take many tips with me, to better function as a wife and lover. I would definitely recommend to anyone, especially anyone who needs a refresher course in your relationship.

An easy to follow guide for couples describing ways to better your relationship using techniques taken from CBT. The ideas and excercises are clear and logical. A nice addition to the self-help library of both new and long-term couples.

I received an advanced copy of this book from the publisher via netgalley in exchange for an honest review. Thanks!