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How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings

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How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings by Sarah Cooper was interesting enough while I was reading but ultimately mostly forgettable and I skim read most of it. I do want to give this book another try when I'm not in a reading slump though.

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Sarah Cooper at her best. This one is a gem. LOL funny. Real life situations with hilarious solutions. Couldn’t stop laughing. Write more please.

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As a woman in the financial industry, this offered up some great tips. It will help me better connect with my many male bosses.

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Ambitious women should definitely pick this book up. It's pretty important for them to be seen as more agreeable. Ambitious women are super scary, after all.

For real though, I definitely liked this. It's a great, satirical read.

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frustratingly accurate and hilarious all at the same time. Definitely worth the read if you want a quick feminist read

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A funny, sarcastic and downright witty book. The author Sarah Cooper shares plenty of tips and tricks to survive that egotistical male at the workplace. Some of the quips were spot on and thoroughly laughable. I can imagine holding this book in print and doodling on one of the blank pages included in the book for this purpose.

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A must read. Truthful, raw, honest. A very informative book as well. I plan to gift this book to several of my friends.

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Loved, loved, LOVED this book! It is hilarious, but also speaks to the larger issues of gender discrepancy in the workplace. Highly recommended to working women or those hoping to get a glimpse into their experience and perspective.

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A humorous (if not very prescient) and tongue-in-cheek collection of workplace tips & tricks for career success geared toward female readers.

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My full review appears on Weekend Notes. Thanks to the publishers for sharing this title. It was a hoot!

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Very, very funny satirical "guide" to succeeding in a male-dominated world. And kind of depressing in its hilarity and accuracy.

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If you're a woman in the workplace, you know that you are much more scrutinized than your male colleagues. You know that what you do, even if it's the exact same thing that a male colleague might do, will be looked upon differently because you're a woman. You'll find yourself changing what you do, how you do it, what you say, how you say it, so as not to get other folks (men AND women) up in arms. If you're a woman in the workplace, I'm sure you'll find something to identify with in this satirical collection of comics.

This is the kind of book that you read and laugh with to keep from wanting to burn the world down in a rage crying. You can laugh at these situations and the way Sarah Cooper portrays them as long as you don't think too hard about how painfully accurate they are and what they mean for our world.

In case you are a man (or hell, sometimes even a woman) who does not believe these things to be true or worse, denies them, I'm not sure what can be done for you, but I have literally seen something of these things happen in front of me.

Well. I did not mean for this review to sound angry but oops—I thought too hard about these issues!

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Only protected PDF format which I didn't see. So have to jump through hoops to install apps on unused old tablets. Still, this might be hilarious for some but it is just OK to funny in places for me. I laughed at some of the flippant situations but I think I'm a too angry woman to laugh at the relevance and the accuracy of some of these situations. Is it funny? Yes, in some places for me. So 3 1/2 but I'll bump it up for the chuckles

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AH HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA.

Just based on the title, you know you're going to laugh until you cry. And you're going to laugh because you want to cry. And maybe you're just going to cry.

This book is very funny, but also very real, which makes it...not funny. You see the conundrum here, yes?

Irony runs rampant throughout, and I think the best part is the fact that maybe, just maybe, you can find humor in the bullshit scenarios you have experienced more than once in your professional life.

Also, the motivational pretty fonted breaks in the chapters make everything better.

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“Conclusion: Be Threatening”

“This book is not for men. And the title has little to do with how we make men feel. Instead, it’s about how we think we make men feel and how we are consumed by trying to make them feel a certain way or avoid feeling a certain way, as if that should be our number one concern.

“So how do you be successful without hurting men’s feelings? You don’t. You be successful whether men’s feelings are hurt or not, because really that’s up to them, not you.”

HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITHOUT HURTING MEN’S FEELINGS is, sadly, just as at home in 2018 as it would have been twenty-seven years ago, during the Anita Hill hearings. That thought fills me with rage – a potent expression of which is sarcasm. Luckily, HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL has that in spades.

With chapters on Communication (“How to Talk Like a Man but Still Be Seen as a Woman”), Ambition (“How to Advance Your Career Without Shoving It in Everyone’s Face”), and Leadership (“Non-threatening Leadership Strategies for Women”) HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL is a satirical guide to getting ahead in the corporate environment.

Most of the advice is directed at women, though a few chapters have a more gender-neutral, almost DILBERT-esque feel (minus the general grossness of Scott Adams); see, e.g., the chapter on “authenticity.” There are even some fun interactive elements, like blank pages for doodling out a mansplaining sesh; a choose-your-own-adventure chapter (would you rather: be liked or be successful?); and Men’s Achievement Stickers for allies (get in while the bar’s low, guys!).

Probably the most relevant chapter is that on harassment, namely, “How to Be Harassed Without Hurting His Career.” This one definitely pushes the book over the “would be funny if it wasn’t so darn depressing” line. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll blame the patriarchy.

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This was simply HILARIOUS! I couldn't stop smiling and nodding my head all way through, because it honestly was so relatable.

How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings is a sarcastic, humorous how-to guide on how to survive being a woman in the modern work environment, but it's honestly relatable for whichever part of life you're in. It basically just pokes fun at the every day struggles of women and I promise it will leave you grinning.

Plus, the transition pages were also hilarious and the book was very aesthetically pleasing.

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I received a copy of this book from NetGalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review.

This is excellent satire. I'm sure there will be people very offended by it.
Oh well.
Having worked in retail (even though this book seems to pertain to office work) I can tell you that there's an uncomfortable amount of truth in this book.

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"Because you know what's more precious than my hopes and dreams? A man's ego.

A man's ego must be protected at all cost."

How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings: Non-threatening Leadership Strategies for Women is really, really good.

It's one of those books that is so successful because not only is it genuinely funny (with wonderful visual aids and illustrations to boot) but it's all so painfully true, and timely.

Within the pages of this book, you will find helpful tips for how to ace your interview (without over-acing it), how to talk like a man (but be seen as a woman) and how to be harassed (but protect your harasser). I can't think of a woman who wouldn't relate to at least one thing that is discussed in this book but I can certainly think of plenty of men that will be OUTRAGED by it, which, who cares? This book isn't for them. This book is for the women who experience all of these things and have to be able to laugh about them so that they won't die inside every second of the workday.

I kept flagging pages that I wanted to pull quotes from for this review but I quickly found that I was tagging nearly every other page. The only one I felt compelled to include is the one that I opened with here; for all of the other incredible ones, you'll just have to go and read this for yourself!

I was unfamiliar with Sarah Cooper before picking up this book and I plan to correct that mistake immediately by going back and reading anything and everything else she has ever written.

I received this ARC as a courtesy from NetGalley & the publisher in exchange for an honest review.

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This was such a fun quick read, I loved how it was super funny while also addressing relevant issues - such as double standards and sexism in the workplace, negotiating salary/raises, diversity, and etc. - which are essential to talk about but can be difficult to bring up or have ones experience validated, and this book does some of that while also giving a reader a few laughs along the way

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I know I should laugh and find the irony of the book funny. I do, but I cannot enjoy it. I understand that the book is filled with irony and should be lived on the complete opposite, but I am a little offended of the book. Working woman have fought hard to be where they are now, and to make fun of uncomfortable situations is not the way to go. I work in a male dominated tech industry, and yes some of the pages spoke to me, but they also spoke to negative of my male coworkers. This book play on stereotypes, that's why it is funny and that is why I find outdated and vulgar.

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