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How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings

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Sadly the e-book file was either too strong or incompatible with my Tolino e-reader, because I ran into problems trying to run it after a certain set of pages. This makes me a very sad girl, as the 10 pages I ended up reading really intrigued me and had me laughing until I cried.

Quite the handbook that isn't only applicable to women working with men, but women practically working anywhere, with anyone. I felt this on so many levels. On my to buy list as soon as it comes out!!!

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You know when something is even funnier when it's true? And sometimes something is so, so true it makes you want to laugh but also weep and tear your own hair out at the same time?

That's being a woman in the workplace in a nutshell.

Sarah Cooper's "How to be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings" is so real it hurts. Hurts because of how much you'll laugh but also how you'll recognize all the situations she describes and go "same." At one point, there is a pie graph entitled "Know Who's Accountable for Harassment." A tiny sliver is The Company, another tiny sliver is The Harasser. 90% of the graph is "YOU."

Yep.

If you're female and have a job, you will appreciate this book. It will make you laugh, cry, and laugh again. Then you'll be inspired to pick up a sledge hammer and smash Toxic Male Workplace Culture. Screw men's fragile ego.

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This book was funny, but I think I have read very similar books/posts before. It may be a good gift anyways.

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Loved it! Can't wait to see it promoted across reddit.com/r/TrollXChromosomes. I think that community could make it go viral.

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Hilarious look at the sad state of how women are treated in the work place. When you think about it too much you either have to laugh or cry and, like the author, I would rather laugh. So much of what is joked about in this book is true. Often truer than true. I would love to leave copies of this on everyone's desk at work (including the bosses) in hopes that it could bring enlightenment to some and chuckles to others.

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In her upcoming book How to be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings: Non-Threatening Leadership Strategies for Women, author/comedian Sarah Cooper serves up a hefty dose of irony. Her tips call attention to the ridiculous expectations and unspoken rules that women at the workplace dealing with are subjected to, such as:


- The bias against married women who could possibly get pregnant and take maternity leave


- Different meanings applied to the same responses given by men and women (eg. "I changed my mind about this." may be seen as thoughtful coming from a man and erratic coming from a woman.)


- Having to deal with gaslighting, mansplaining and harassment


- Having to choose between being successful and being likeable


The book also shows toxic rules not limited to women, like having to hide religious or political views, sexual orientation or mental health issues.


The tips are presented in playfully sarcastic tone with tongue-in-cheek illustrations, diagrams, graphs and worksheets that further shows all the absurdity of those situations.


What really irks me, though, is the knowledge that the perpetrator of some of these indignities against women are other women. (Yep, we really need to do something about that, girls.)

Thanks to NetGalley and Andrews McMeel Publishing for the free advanced reader copy in exchange for an honest review.

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Dear author and publisher, why do you come up with this book only now?! Ten years ago, a friend who recruited me to their company told me that the reason I was not hired because the supervisor who conducted the interview was threatened by my skills. Several years after that, I had a job interview in the I.T. department of a huge local T.V. station here in the country. I had no problems with my series of interview with the human resources head, but when I was interviewed by two supervisors from the department where I should be assigned, I encountered a bit of problem because of being honest. When I was asked if I can do hard coding, I answered that I can but that's my biggest mistake because I was compared to one of them. The one who asked me the question candidly joke that I beat his companion because he cannot do it, which made the receiver of the remark speechless and humiliated. And yes, all supervisors who turn down my applications were all male!

If only this book was released sooner, I could have learned how to deal with those men. The content may be in humor form, but there's a bit of truth to the details especially on how some men still think that the workforce should be still male-dominated. They may not admit it but there are instances that they are threatened by their female counterpart. I'm quite sure that all employed ladies or used to worked before has experienced several instances that were listed in this book. I could grab copies of this and give as a present to some friends, particularly those who currently experience sexism from their work.

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How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men’s Feelings Review by Sarah Cooper

I can’t stop laughing! This quick read was the perfect on sitting laugh fest that I have been looking for. Sarah Cooper really understand the frustrations of being a woman in the workforce.

“If you have the choice between saving a man’s ego or saving his life, trust me. Save the ego. He’ll thank you for it later. I mean, he won’t because he’ll be dead, but you know what I mean.” This quote from the introduction of this book really says it all. This book is perfect for working women who know that the world isn’t equal and sometimes just want to laugh at the stupid things that happen just because you’re a woman.

I really enjoyed the “Lower Expectations” action plan. With this fun worksheet, I now know how to properly lower my career, life and family expectations. There is even a choose your own adventure chapter to this book and achievement stickers. This book ties together beautiful typography with funny and true graphics.

This book teaches women everything from how to smile right to voice loudness and everything in between. Every woman needs this satirical book in their life. But as this wonderful book says “You do you! No, not that you the other you the one people like.” Seriously - I going to go pre-order copies for all of my favorite feminists. It’s the perfect book to read when you’re feeling stressed about something at work and just need to laugh it off.

[Free ARC from Net Galley]

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This book is a guide to help women navigate difficult workplace situations. It is marketed as a humorous book (and in fact is very funny) but is also an accurate portrayal of the issues women still face today on their professional lives.

Some of the chapters titles are "COMMUNICATION: How to talk like a man but still be seen as a woman", "AMBITION: How to advance your career without shoving it in everyone's face", and "NEGOTIATION: gaslightning for beginners".

I read the book in a seating and it includes illustrations that describe different situations women may encounter and the corresponding responses they should have when encountering those situations. 

Overall, I liked it, it was highly entertaining as wells as a relevant and light-hearted portrayal of the workplace today. 

Received ARC from the publisher via Netgalley

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Sarah Cooper's book - coming up in a bookstore near you this end October - is for those weak of heart women looking for a hilarious survival guide in a male-dominated tech, or publishing or high-end corporation environment. Add what is close to your professional home. 'Being ambitious, seeking power, showing knowledge, these are all dangerous paths if we really want to be successful and get a head'.

In order to help you out, this book offers creative yet simple illustrations with simple explanations, blank pages to doole while men are explaining things and highly inspiring titles such as: 'How to talk like a man but still be seen as a woman', 'How to advance your career without blowing it in everyone's face', 'How to bury your true self to work and then hide it completely'. Plus stickers suggestions for accomplishments 'such as treating a woman like a human'. 'When all else fails, a set of wearable mustaches is included to allow women to seem more manlike, canceling out any need to be less threatening'. In case you need some easy to understand references, the chart 'toddler vs. CEO' helps you perfectly to figure out what some highly displayed emotions are all about.

It is a hilarious but 'oh, so true' read. Read it loud and laugh out louder, and keep being authentic doing exactly the opposite the women characters in this book are doing.

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This is a good fun book that very much addresses the stereotypes within the office environment (we all know at least one of these!).

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"How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings" is a sarcastic, satirical take on advice books geared towards career woman to teach them how to navigate the workplace. Covering topics like what the perfect female vocal pitch is and men and women can say the exact same thing, but it can be perceived in different ways, This book highlights the real issues woman face not only in the workplace, but in society. Accompanied with hilarious illustrations and captions throughout, it is a quick, laugh out loud experience Because if you can't laugh about it, you're probably crying instead.

I received the book in exchange for a review from the publisher

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Thanks to author/publisher for the ARC.

Absolutely hilarious book. So many laugh out loud moments. Honestly very few that i did not laugh.

While the book sounds more geared towards professional women, most boss worker relationships can fit into the examples given. No boss likes a smart employee.

The one with the email cc, content of the email and how to use mathematical terms to sound smart are genius.

Have already recommended this book to all my coworkers!

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Just when you thought you couldn't be entertained any more thoroughly... Here's a book for all women, with humor and all the relevance we could hope for. Yes, this is not the world our mothers knew... But that doesn't mean we can't be successful.

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This book is awesome. It was a super quick read but it made me laugh out loud constantly. I wanted to share it with all the threateningly successful women I know and I even showed parts to my husband (a man who is secure enough in himself to laugh and not feel threatened). I loved the format, the comic book like style, and the humor. I am excited to read more of this author’s books! Thanks to netgalley for providing a free copy for me to review.

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The handbook for a girl trying to get ahead in a world created for men. This satirical book made me laugh a lot, made me want to screenshot so many things for my wallpaper on my ipad as I was reading it but, also held some very painful truths in a light hearted way. It’s a good book for when you just want to take a break from the stress of work or those debates you may find yourself in with your significant other when he says something just a little offensive and you know he just might not understand the struggle. *eARC Netgalley*

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This is a hilarious satirical book that made me laugh out loud several times. It's a very quick, light read, but enjoyable nonetheless. The author's aim was "to write a book that was hopefully funny but could also make people want to throw it across the room" and she achieves this perfectly. It's a great mix of comedy but also very real understanding of the frustrations of living as a woman in a patriarchal society.

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Hilarious! This witty, brutal but honest guide would sure make you plan for your big jump and attack for greatness (without of course hurting men)

However, at some point I find it confusing. I know it's supposed to be sarcastic but sometimes I can't identify which is real. I want to take it so serious that it'll be my "How-to" but then again, I may find myself a laughing stock by men with huge ego. The book is very entertaining with all the illustrations and exercises plus tons of examples and comparisons.

"So how do you feel successful without hurting men's feelings? You don't. You be successful whether men's feelings are hurt or not, because really that's up to them, not you."

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This book was hilarious! Unfortunately, it was also very true. Hopefully men who read this will think about their behavior in the workplace.

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The book that could have been written by the Trump administration! Luckily it was written by Cooper, a woman who pokes fun at the world women find themselves in. We've come a long a way baby – not. If you are a woman who works in any field, or a man with an IQ over 75, this book will have you laughing until you cry. Or maybe crying until you laugh

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