This book has all the tools we need to set boundaries in our lives. The personal anecdotes and practical tools make this an invaluable resource for everyone. Whether needing more boundaries at work, with family, or even with yourself, this book can provide scripts and prompts to think through meaningful boundaries.

Melissa Urban walks us through how to set boundaries in all areas of life, with realistic tips and scripts that are easy to implement. Great read for anyone.

Where was this book in my younger days???

Melissa Urban hits the nail on the head. I wish I had known more about boundaries sooner. A lot of grief would have been saved! I thought this book was excellent as a beginner in boundaries. It held a lot of valuable information that really resonated with me. The language was accessible, interesting, and impactful.

I would highly recommend to anyone learning about boundaries and trying to grow.

Thank you to NetGalley and to the publisher for this ARC in exchange for an honest review.

This book couldn't have come at a better time in my life than right now. I read it and applied much of it to my life. It was extremely helpful and well done. I highly recommend to anyone who needs to set boundaries.

I found this book to be very, very helpful and informative in terms of scripts to help with a lot of different areas of life.

Boundaries are a place I seriously struggle with as an adult who is a people pleaser. I tend to sugarcoat the way I feel or what I need to make whatever I'm saying land softer for the other person. I'm going to start exploring options from verbiage on this book. Thank you Melissa.

As someone who needs to create boundaries and is working on it, I needed this book! This book is one I will reread over and over. It is helpful in teaching what boundaries are, why they are important, and how to execute them. Boundaries are for us; it shows people what we will do when a boundary is broken. But not in a way that is alienating.

What a refreshing, funny book! It delivers a fresh perspective on setting healthy boundaries. This is a must-read for anyone struggling with boundaries with friends or family.

A very useful discussion of boundaries -- the scripts make it a great resource. They're templates that can be customized, but they show the language to use, how to articulate what you need -- and what's not acceptable.

Quite a useful, concise manual for leading by example in all of your interactions and circumstances. The book focuses a lot on the conversational aspect of setting limits (the scripts are extremely useful), but it doesn't go into much detail on determining when boundaries are necessary or dismantling decades of cultural conditioning that suggests boundaries are bad. Would be wonderful in combination with some in-depth research on the subject and lots of counseling, which I believe Urban herself would heartily support.

I requested The Book of Boundaries because I'm a counselor and a mom, and I am always working to improve and share helpful boundaries. I had some trepidation, because my primary knowledge of Melissa Urban was through the Whole 30. However, I have been wildly surprised by how helpful and thorough this book is. I love the scripts that are shared for dealing with a wide range of relationships. I've already recommended it to others in my circle, and I think this is a valuable resource for anyone looking to strengthen their personal boundaries.

Thank you so much to the publisher and the amazing author for the free advanced copy of this book!
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I’ve been a Melissa Urban fan for years, so it comes as no surprise that I was beyond elated to hear she was writing a book about boundaries. Her Instagram story segments on boundaries were always helpful, kind, and entertaining to watch, and I knew that her personal story would elevate her boundary guidance so much. This book is a must-read for everyone, and I may just find myself giving it to a few people as a Christmas gift this year!
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The book's journey into why boundaries are important and how to set them empowers to reader in a way that previous non-fiction books haven't, and Melissa breaks each level of boundary down to a point that makes it easy to extrapolate into other areas of life. Whether it's romance, work, or family - or even something else entirely, this book can help save and maintain your relationships!

YESSSSS! This book is EVERYTHING you never knew you needed, and then some; I highly recommend it to EVERYONE!

Included are over 130+ clear and kind scripts with the power to positively impact almost every part of your life. Most of these scripts are relatable to multiple scenarios and written in her established Green / Yellow / Red style, meant to provide soft and hard boundary phrases based on the situation. I’ve already started incorporating a few into my life and have bookmarked others I see being used soon!

I started following Melissa Urban recently, and as soon as I discovered her unique feed and heard about this book, I knew I HAD to have it! I immediately proceeded to pre-order a hardcopy and self-narrated Audible audiobook! What I appreciated the most was Melissa’s down-to-earth, REAL PERSON vibes. Listening to the audiobook and following along with the text felt like I was talking to a friend with solid, SOLICITED advice!

I’m grateful to have also been granted a complimentary ebook of this title, The Book of Boundaries. I want to thank the author Melissa Urban, the Random House Publishing Group publishers, and NetGalley for this opportunity.

*This review will be cross-posted to GoodReads. It has also been left on Amazon, Apple Books, Barnes and Noble, Google Books, and Target!

I have been a fan of Melissa Urban for years. I've even completed many Whole30s thanks to her. Her new book did not disappoint. Melissa has a way of explaining things that makes you want to listen. She walks her readers through the concept of creating boundaries in your life to keep yourself in a good place. She breaks down everyday situations that warrant boundaries, how to create boundaries, and how to stick to them when the pressure is on. This is a book you want a physical copy because you will 100% be highlighting and taking copious notes. It is a book that you will most definitely revisit time after time. Melissa's words are contagious! Enjoy!

Melissa Urban has written a self help book that can help you set healthy boundaries.
There is much in this book to help an individual figure out what their own boundaries might be and how to ( in a healthy way ) set boundaries to accommodate his or her goals.
Like all self help books, this is only useful if you have the common sense to read all of the book! Setting boundaries and expecting people around you to follow them would entail that the boundaries are fair, healthy and reasonable.
She has given a great number of examples of what a boundary might be in a particular instance and employed a red, yellow , green plan for using your boundary limits.
Enjoyed reading and do recommend.
Thank you to the publisher and NetGalley for allowing me this ARC.

You can also read my review NOW on my blog - https://kellyjpramberger.wixsite.com/coffeeuntil/blog
Thanks to NetGalley for providing a copy of Melissa's new book for the purpose of the review.

I'm a huge Whole 30 fan and follow Melissa Urban on Instagram. I have been engrossed in her posts about setting boundaries for months now. I knew this book was going to be an important resource for me. I was right!

It's much more then learning that no is a complete sentence. She provides real examples of conversations that most likely will or already have come up in your life. The information is easy to understand and Melissa makes sense of the reader's comfort level by giving ideas of how to set boundaries and exactly what to say. There's no feelings of - I couldn't do that. Instead you will feel empowered.

I also wanted to note that this book should be required reading for doing life!

Melissa Urban’s book about boundaries was exactly what I expected: practical, forthright, with a touch or two of candid humor. While she and I don’t share a worldview and much of the book felt repetitive (I’ve reflected that in my star rating),I found a lot of down-to-earth advice in the pages of her self-help book that are quite helpful. Key takeaways: boundaries need to be clear and kind; boundaries are about setting a standard for myself not about controlling another person’s behavior; boundaries take practice and you’ll mess up as you learn to set them; and finally, boundaries, healthily set, will help you grow in confidence in making *and* receiving them from others. Above all, assume the best of others– and quite frankly, as a critical perfectionist, that’s a message I can’t hear enough.

The Book Of Boundaries is a handy and pragmatic book about how to settle healthy limits in all relationships and layers of your life. It is a manual to keep close by and for frequent reference, as our reality changes, but the ability to set limits is forever useful. For every and all kinds of situation, there is a prompt waiting for you.
Melissa is not afraid to get involved - she has specific, word-by-word responses you can use in daily situations. If you are looking for specific help, rather than vague guidelines, you should certainly give it a go.
Unpretentious and uncomplicated, an SOS book to (re)visit whenever you feel circumscribed to a reality that doesn’t fit you.

Thank you to Melissa Urban and NetGalley for this ARC and allowing me to be a part of the launch team in exchange for an honest review!

These past three years have been a crash course in learning how to set boundaries that have been a requirement for my own and my family's mental and physical health. They have finally come into the spotlight as a form of SELF CARE. However, despite even helping my clients set them, I still struggle with putting my needs into clear, kind language.

This is what The Book of Boundaries does best, and I wish I'd had a copy when I was a young adult navigating the waters of dating, moving out on my own, my relationship with alcohol in my mid-20s, and definitely my bedside nursing career. As someone with people pleasing and codependent tendencies, I had spent a lot of energy suppressing my needs in order to be seen as "good" or obedient or compliant.

Melissa's (of course, we're on a first name basis) organization of the topic is perfection- guiding you through different areas of your life that likely need boundaries. She preaches to be clear and kind, that boundaries are about what YOU will do (not controlling the other person). She provides scripts, coded by color (green, yellow, red) in progressing order of firmness, for a variety of topics. They are wonderful and fabulous, but also might even open your eyes to a world that might feel scary at first- speaking with honesty and authenticity.

My only very minimal gripe is that I am still scared of some of these...confrontations (because some feel like it). Clearly, this is not the author's or the book's problem, but a sign of areas in which I need to work. However, it would be nice to have some tips on how to build confidence in the area of boundaries for these more difficult conversations.

Overall, I will be recommending this to all my clients who struggle to set their own boundaries! I recommend that you buy the physical book so that you have something to reference and go back to. Not ever section is for everyone, but if you choose to read the whole thing, I promise you'll get something out of everything.

4.5 stars

I was a bit skeptical going into this book since the author doesn't have credentials in any counseling or related field but was interested in giving it a shot due to liking her work in the Whole30 realm and an interest in the subject. Overall, it was a well-written and researched book. She has years of experience with setting boundaries and coaching others to set them as well. Each chapter is laid out by a topic and includes specific scenarios that she gives an example of a green, yellow, and red boundary you could set in that situation. I think it would be helpful for many people that are working to build their boundary building chops.