There is a lot of good information in here for mothers of all stages and mindsets. I had to read this slowly in order to really take it in, little by little. As with many parenting books, some things resonated with me as if I had written it myself, and others were harder for me to identify with. But the author does a great job of keeping things flowing and connecting to where the reader is constantly connecting their own lives with the stories, or gleaning from their insight. Regardless, I believe every mom could glean something from this, especially those who struggle with mom-guilt from the pressures of our society. I definitely qualify in that 🙋‍♀️ Thank you to NetGalley for the ARC in exchange for my honest review.

Dr Morgan has put together a relatable, gentle guide for how to rebuild your relationship with yourself for anyone who seems to have lost themselves in motherhood. She gives real life strategies that you can actually use in your daily life to avoid burnout and make yourself a priority. I'm so grateful for this book. I changed my preorder from Kindle to hard copy because I've been taking so many notes that I know I'll want to come back to again and again!

Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself: 5 Steps to Banish Guilt and Beat Burnout When You Already Have Too Much to Do by Morgan Cutlip is the book every parent needs. Parenting our children is so important. This author suggests it is just as important to parent ourselves. This is not your typical parenting book. This is why it’s the book you should pick up and read. It’s such an interesting and important read. I received a digital copy of this book from the publisher with no obligations. These opinions are entirely my own.

Great resource for moms. I am a mother of two strong-willed grown daughters who are now mother’s of strong-willed toddler daughters, and this book was just what we all needed. The book had many relatable examples (which convinced me the author could handle my story) and broke down everything in a way that I could manage and not feel overwhelmed about improvement. The concepts that were originally her fathers was also a great idea for all relationships. This is a workbook of hope and skills to navigate life. The author pulled everything into perspective for me and helped me understand what was happening in my life right now.
I can’t say enough good things about this. It’s a relief to know that other people are struggling with the same things. I recommend this book.
Thanks Thomas Nelson via NetGalley.

This may be the best parenting book I have read to date. I intend to share it with all of my mom friends because I think everyone can always use a reminder to go mom yourself

This book has been such a helpful resource for me as I navigate motherhood and marriage with a 2 year old and 3 month old. There is theory and science, but also very easy to implement tools and strategies that have been helpful for me. Thank you Dr. Cutlip!

This book is an absolutely wonderful resource as a mom. It does not feel overwhelming , and many times I felt I was hearing what Dr. Morgan Cutlip was writing from my own therapist. Highly suggest buying this book and giving her an Instagram follow!

I want to thank everyone for this early, gifted copy of Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself by Morgan Cutlip.

I have followed Morgan on Instagram for a few years now, loving her practical ways of getting through motherhood, that aren't always just bashing your husband and your kids. I was excited to see that she was writing a book that really pertained to my current life of raising two littles, but feeling a little unlike myself.

I really enjoyed Morgan's book. There were times when I felt like she was talking directly to me, like she has seen me as a mom, seen me interact with my husband and my kids. I found that this is the type of book that I will want to read at least twice, to highlight the things that meant the most to me, but also read again to mark up and take note of what stood out to me.

I will definitely be recommending this book to my friends with kids, and saving it for my friends who don't have kids yet.

I am the mom of a 10 year old and an 8 year old. I have spent a lot of time over the last several years (partially pandemic-prompted) in self-development, self-recovery, and therapy. A lot of the concepts in this book were not new to me, but I liked the way they were packaged and presented.

Thank you to the publisher - I received a complimentary eARC of this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself is for every parent who’s ever felt selfish putting their needs above the rest of the family’s. I highlighted so many parts to reference again when I need them.

I loved the actionable items of evaluating which needs are low and how to know yourself better. I will definitely be gifting this to new moms.

I loved this book!! I had highlights galore in it as I reflected on my role as a mother and how I can be my best self. This book was so delightful and I feel empowered.

Huge thanks to NetGalley to read and review this book. I have to say, I’m not one to read self-help books, but this was EYE OPENING. I highly recommend it for any mom, parent, or guardian- especially those with littles. I wish I had access to the PDF because I honestly would have done the work while reading.

Such a helpful perspective. Relatable and professional all at the same time. Love Dr. Cutlip’s advice!!

Cutlip does a truly phenomenal job of identifying and compartmentalizing the challenges of motherhood. I kept wondering “is motherhood really this universal?” Perhaps, but a lot of the credit goes to the author. I keep coming back to this book. I can’t say this book has necessarily helped me find myself again but it’s helped me think more critically about the way I’m treating myself and that matters too.

Morgan goes through several tangible ways to make life as a mother just a bit more regulated. Mothers who are regulated are better equiped to care for their families and better able to advocate for themselves and their needs. Motherhood shouldn't be a call to martyrdom.

I finally found a parenting book that I like! I cried through the intro cause I felt so seen. Morgan's experiences resonated so deeply with me, both in her actions to regulate herself, her approach to burnout, and her ways of parenting. I really enjoyed this book.

One of my big struggles with parenting books is that they tend to skew towards Stay at Home Moms. As a working parent, it was refreshing to see tips and techniques that will work for me as well as SAHMs.

Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself is unlike any other book I've read about motherhood! Dr. Cutlip outlines a practical way to check-in with yourself and make "microadjustments" to nurture your relationship with yourself. She shares stories from her life as a mother and I could really relate. It was helpful to read how to applied her check-ins in real life situations with her children and I feel equipped to do the same! The book also includes discussion questions and worksheets to take a deeper dive into the information shared in each chapter. I would recommend this book to any mom!

In line with Cutlip's social media presence, this book was affirming and supportive. Parts were a bit slow, and it felt repetitive at portions as well but overall it was an uplifting read.

I grabbed this off of NetGalley more as a preemptive measure. I’m still in the halcyon days of motherhood where I have reassurances that my baby adores me and that I’m doing well enough (although I wish I showered more and that someday he will sleep through the night…or at all). But I am very aware it might not be like this for long.

The honesty in here regarding priorities and balance and kids felt like a breath of fresh air, and if I were a different person I might keep a copy. Self-help books are still not for me, though; even with how potentially relevant this was, the style of the genre is off putting to me. I also disagree with a lot of the marriage advice/examples. If people say hurtful and inaccurate things, for instance (“you’ve been gone a lot”), I don’t think it’s “defensive” or “lacking willpower” to point out how unfair that is.

Great practical questions, though, that might help a lot of parents find their identities again.

Note: This is published by a Christian publishing house. While it’s not the central focus, you can see how the perspective guides the conclusions made, and it’s not really disclosed. Heads up if you’re not into that sort of thing.

Thank you to NetGalley and Thomas Nelson for an eARC in exchange for an honest review.

3.5 stars. Since I’m about to become a parent for the first time, I’ve read several parenting books recently and though this one isn’t all that unique, it is still good overall.
Cutlip claims to have a completely fresh premise, and although the RAM model is new to me (the five bonds of know, trust, rely, commit and trust), she also gets into the basics of attachment theory and burnout which are concepts I’m already familiar with. For those who aren’t familiar with those ideas or for someone who is needing a pep talk and hasn’t read a parenting book/content in a while, this could be nice.
The most practical parts of the book were the “Ask yourself these questions” sections toward the end of each chapter. I also appreciated some of the scripts and examples of reframing she gave, but it’s hard to know how applicable those are in real life situations until I’m in the thick of parenting.
Overall, I feel that this would be better suited as a workbook with brief explanations and examples followed by her questions. I know she had some tables and graphs, but, at least in my early copy, the formatting on those was either absent or unreadable due to the number of errors.
When reading on the iOS Kindle app, large sections of text were in a font color nearly matching the page color, which made it entirely unreadable. When reading on a Kindle Paperwhite, every other page had pretty major formatting issues and repeated lines. I’m not sure if this has been corrected in the final copy that was recently published.

My last aside, which is a bit of a nitpick, is that the voice was very millennial. An example of this is the verbiage of “momming so hard” used in each chapter. If millennials are the target audience, this may be great. I realize I’m somewhat in the minority as I’m becoming a parent now as a Gen Z-er/cusper (born ‘98) while my peers are waiting longer to have kids. However, I could see my peers reading this and having a similar smirk or eye roll at some of the distinctly millennial language.
Thank you for the advanced copy!

This is a book I will keep forever. I read it twice. Once quickly, and then again -- with a journal and pen to really dive deep through the prompts. It helped me understand where my feelings in motherhood were coming from and gave me knowledge to reframe those feelings to a positive light. Now I have a better understanding my needs and a plan to nurture myself for the betterment of me and my family. I will continue to reference this book again and again.