Timely, thoughtful, and empowering book that delivers a powerful message: to make wiser decisions, we must learn to step outside ourselves. Written by leadership expert and former U.S. Navy Captain David Marquet, alongside psychologist Michael Gillespie, this book artfully blends neuroscience, behavioral psychology, and leadership insight to present a simple yet transformative idea—become your own coach through psychological distancing.
From the start, Marquet and Gillespie challenge the often-repeated mantra to “be fully present.” Instead, they advocate for a counterintuitive yet deeply impactful approach: distancing ourselves from the emotional immediacy of the moment to gain objectivity and clarity. Through three core strategies—self-distancing, spatial distancing, and temporal distancing—the authors guide readers to view their decisions through a wiser, broader lens. Each technique is made practical with well-researched examples, from everyday life choices to high-stakes business decisions.
The authors turn complex cognitive science into actionable tools, supported by real-life cases and reflection exercises that invite readers to apply the ideas immediately. Whether you're a leader navigating team dynamics, a professional facing career crossroads, or simply someone aiming to reduce daily anxiety, this book offers grounded, empowering strategies for clear and courageous thinking. Ultimately, it’s a guide to becoming more self-aware, less reactive, and more intentional in every area of life.

A worthwhile self-help/leadership book touting the practice of taking a step back from situations before analyzing or reacting. A strategy that applies to business and personal lives equally.

Excellent book for personal and professional development. I learnt a lot. It was very well written with lots of examples from different walks of life. Highly recommended. Thank you to the author. Thank you to #netgalley and the publisher for an ARC.