Grieving a Suicide
A Loved One's Search for Comfort, Answers, and Hope
by Albert Y. Hsu
Pub Date 04 Jul 2017
"Albert," the neighbor said, "your mom needs you to come home."
That's how it began for Albert Hsu when his father died. Anyone who has lost a loved one to suicide experiences tremendous shock and trauma. What follows is a confusing mix of emotions—anger, guilt, grief, and despair.
Suicide raises heartrending questions:
Why did this happen?
Why didn't we see it coming?
Could we have done anything to prevent it?
How can we go on?
Many also wonder if those who choose suicide are doomed to an eternity separated from God and their loved ones. Some may even start asking whether life is worth living at all.
After his father's death, Hsu wrestled with the intense emotional and theological questions surrounding suicide. While acknowledging that there are no easy answers, he draws on the resources of the Christian faith to point suicide survivors to the God who offers comfort in our grief and hope for the future.
For those who have lost a loved one to suicide and for their counselors
and pastors, this book is an essential companion for the journey toward
This revised edition incorporates updated statistics and now includes a discussion guide for suicide survivor groups.
"Grieving a Suicide is one of the most helpful books I read after our son, Matthew, died by suicide. I scribbled notes and comments to myself on nearly every page of this revised and expanded edition, and I found Al Hsu's compassionate and practical words even more beneficial than before. He has walked this painful path and knows firsthand how to give hope and comfort to grieving people. Grieving a Suicide is on my list of must-read books for survivors of suicide loss."
—Kay Warren, Saddleback Church, Lake Forest, California
"In a world that often meets our most desperate moments with silence, this book is a vital voice of hope. Leaving space for grief, Hsu offers clear answers to questions people don't ask until they have to. In the process, he graciously points us toward life and light, which can be so hard to see in the darkness left by suicide."
—Amy Simpson, life and leadership coach, author of Troubled Minds
"This is a sad, painful, comforting, and wonderful book. Al Hsu, with endearing honesty, carries the reader on a journey through his own story of grief, weaving together many contemporary, literary, and historic examples of responses to suicide and possible explanations for such a tragic choice. He does not shrink from grappling with tough questions about life and God that are raised by such suffering. This is a profound, detailed, and immensely helpful book for anyone touched by the suicide of a friend or family member. I know of no other book so comprehensive, sensitive, and healing."
—Richard Winter, psychotherapist, professor emeritus of counseling and applied theology, Covenant Theological Seminary, author of When Life Goes Dark