A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent
by Isabella Rotman
This title was previously available on NetGalley and is now archived.
Pub Date 27 Oct 2020 | Archive Date 30 Aug 2020
Oni Press, Limerence Press
How do you tell someone you want to do stuff with them? How do you ask if they want to do stuff with you? How do you know what stuff you want to do with each other? Enter: Sargeant Yes Means Yes from the Consent Cavalry, a beacon of clarity in a fuzzy minefield of questions. Sarge drops in on a diverse range of folks deciding whether to engage in sexual activity in this short and fun comic guide to communicating what you want, don't want, and how you want it!
With wit and charm, Sarge also includes tips on what affirmative consent looks like, advocating for what you want, and setting boundaries that honor your comfort and safety. The result is a positive resource illustrating how easy it really is to respect each other’s bodies and desires.
Part of the acclaimed QUICK & EASY GUIDE series from Limerence Press.
Average rating from 110 members
Excellent. Explains the topic in a short and easy to understand way. The graphics are great too. I love how this book makes a complex topic fun to read and boils various points down to a few very simple concepts. Highly recommend this to young readers as well as adults
This is such an important book! It's a quick read and written in a way that's easy to understand. Isabella Rotman frames consent as something ongoing and affirmative, an enthusiastic "yes", rather than just the absence of a "no". She covers the basics of consent, interspersed with quotes from other sex education books and at the end, there's a guide for further reading. There's also a handy yes/no/maybe checklist at the end to use as a tool to start talking about sex. There are lots of great books about consent out there for kids, but this isn't one of those. It's aimed at teens and adults- anyone who might be thinking about getting sexy (including kissing) with someone else. I've really loved the other books in the Quick and Easy Guide series, but this one has been my favourite! I can't wait to recommend it!
A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent // by Isabella Rotman "Consent is an explicitly communicated, reversible, mutual agreement made when all parties are capable of making that decision. Consent may or may not be verbal, but it has to be unambiguous and voluntary." A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent by Isabella Rotman is an easy to understand illustrated guide to having safe and consensual sex and relationships. It has clear illustrations that are inclusive across the spectrum and speaks about many different types of interactions while also making it clear that there are many other ways to have a healthy relationship with people that are not included in this book as long as you are practicing the same concept of consent. It has many helpful resources towards the end of the book that can assist you in deciding for yourself what kind of activities you are comfortable with and how to talk to your potential partners about topics related to sex, including contraception and your identity. It also lists hotlines for depression, suicide and sexual assault. The bibliography allows you to go into more details on things that have been touched on in this book as well. "Does this person want to have sex with me, and are they capable of making that decision right now?" I am a big fan of this book! I cannot wait for it to get released so I can put it on my bookshelf. This book can really help you learn about yourself as well as how to interact with other people. It will teach you about explicit consent and what situations are not considered consent, such as coercion. This can help people understand past situations that maybe made them uncomfortable but they do not understand why and how to handle those situations moving forward. This can also be a helpful resource for teenagers who are just starting out and learning about their sexuality. But there are many adults who still need to learn about this concept and I do still feel that it is appropriate for them as well. "But I encourage all of you to set a standard beyond that. Affirmative consent isn't just about whether your partner does or does not want to have sex with you. it's about discussing what kind(s) of sex you want to have, respecting your partner's boundaries and desires, and advocating for your own."
A comprehensive, intersectional guide to consent. Written so that anyone of the age to have this discussion can understand the tough topics surrounding consent. They included topics from “having the discussion with a partner” to “why it matters to have enthusiastic consent.” Truly an important read for everyone. Even if you think you know all the “rules” this is a good reminder of how to have safe, sane, and consensual relationships.
These "Quick & Easy Guides" are so helpful and they tackle difficult subjects in a really lighthearted way. I would very much recommend this new one, which is all about how consent works and why it's important. I especially appreciated that it distinguishes between basic consent (the right to say no), which is important, but also a pretty low bar, and affirmative consent, which is about more than just saying "yes" or "no", and is all about communication and sharing wants and needs. I would say this is a must read for anyone, because understanding consent is a must for anyone, not just when it comes to sex. Rep: non-binary main character, characters of colour, same-gender couples CWs: discussions of non-consent and sexual violence
I love Oni Press. So when I heard about this graphic novel I was super excited to get a copy. When I saw it was available for download on NetGalley I was so pumped. I love how they're using a fun, easily readable format such as a graphic novel to present a topic that is so pertinent in our society today-consent. I love that the main character who is teaching the reader about consent identifies as they/them. I like how friendly the information is presented. I think this book does a really good job of illustrating what consent is. I really enjoyed reading this book. I highly recommend it.
These 'Quick Guides' are important for everyone to read, and this one focuses on the importance of communicating with your partner and receiving consent. I love how they included many scenarios and types of consent as well. Again, everyone needs to read this. Thank you OniPress and NetGalley for the advanced reader's copy in exchange for an honest review.
This book is a short educational comic that explains what consent is and isn't. It teaches that affirmative consent is the only way to go. It also explains other things such as what sex is, how to understand what you want and how to find out what your partner wants. This book was just as the name said it would be, quick and easy. I would recommend that anyone who is interested in sex read this book.
An absolutely fantastic, relevant, timely book that should be required reading for all 9th graders in their sex education curriculum. Without alienating LGBTQ+ among us, the author explains, simply and effectively, how couples should communicate when it comes to not just heterosexual sex, but all activities one may be involved in when it comes to a romantic partner. Powerful and essential for any teen library
This is definitely the type of informative material the world needs! Easy to follow, inclusive, respectful, and well-meaning. I liked how this book talks about AFFIRMATIVE CONSENT. "Does this person want to have this type of sex with me and are they CAPABLE of making that decision right now." Brilliant message! Also the fact the book points out consent is ever changing and not a guaranteed constant was refreshing! Just because you're dating or have done something in the past doesn't mean it always has to happen. Absolutely thought this book was a winner. Would definitely give to my teen!
This book is exactly as it's titled, a quick and easy guide to consent. The book takes the stance that "affirmative consent" is the best way to approach sex, and lays out all of the examples and definitions in an easy and clear manner. This is a must read for anyone and everyone, but especially young people who are just getting started having sex.
Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for this advanced copy in exchange for my honest review. Consent isn't a simple yes/no situation, this book covers that! It provides a very detailed and situational explanation for a variety of instances that consent and communication are necessary. This graphic novel educates on a valuable topic in a fun yet knowledgeable way. The narrator is nonbinary which makes it feel more applicable to ALL readers and less intimidating for any specific genders. It touches on nuances that are rarely mentioned and explained when it comes to sex and consent. I appreciated that it discussed the importance of nonverbal communication in addition to the frequently discussed verbal communication. The tone is perfect for this topic, especially if it’s in the hands of teens. It’s upbeat and sassy while still remaining serious and knowledgable. While the author is not a sexual health professional, sources are provided to help make better decisions based off the content in the book. It even provided a portion to be interactive in practicing consent by providing various checklists as tools to begin conversations with your partner/s. Overall, (aside from a couple grammatical/ sentence structure mistakes) this was a very informative and encompassing resource for anyone and especially those who are sexually active.
I <em>love</em> the teachable graphic novels that have gained popularity in the past year, and the <em>Quick & Easy Guide</em>s are a huge part of that. In my mind, the best thing about each of these is how diverse they are, be it by sexuality and gender or race. <em>A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent </em>by Isabella Rotman is an utterly <em>fantastic</em> example of how amazing these educational guides can be. In this round of beautifully illustrated panels, our narrator takes us on a journey to lean about just what consent is, as well as how to recognize, use, and respect it. I really don't think I could have enough praise for these graphic novels, and this one in particular. Consent is a topic that so many these days somehow do not understand and having a reference to explain it is extremely important. I hope that there will one day be a time in which consent is widely taught to everyone to the point that books like this will not be as necessary as they are, but for now, I am glad that they exist. The artwork that illustrates the essential message that this book is sending remains absolutely gorgeous. I've found myself genuinely appreciative of these novels and impressed with the way that they deliver information. All topics are presented in easy to understand ways. They're thoroughly engaging are always impressively informative. I would recommend them to just about anyone, and this one especially. <em>I was provided a free copy of this book via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.</em>
A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent is all that it promises to be! It's very concise and informative, short and simple to read, but at the same time engaging and just fun to look at. I loved the disclaimers and content warnings at the beginning. It talks clearly about what it is and is not. I also loved that it was inclusive and openly talked about genders, both that gender bias does exist and that consent and lack of consent isn't tied to gender. On that note, yay to the non-binary guide who moderates the lesson that is this book, that was a lovely touch! As I said before the art is fun to look at and also inclusive in body types and skin colours. The book also made sure to talk about social norms and how that affects how we communicate, particularly about sex and consent. There's talk about how talking about sex is a skill that you can and should practice! For that it provides checklists and conversation starters to practice sexual and consent focussed communication, as well as more resources. It also includes direct quotes from several sexual consent educators. My favourite touch and what was actually new to me was how clear it was that consent can and should go so much further than "not assault," and that it can and should go past that entirely to truly be affirmative, which is referred to as gold standart of consent.
This book should be required reading for every person regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation!! It breaks consent down, destigmatizes conversations about sex, and helps readers begin to address their fears of rejection. The illustrations are also aesthetically pleasing and depict a diverse range of couples. 10 out of 10 would recommend. I received an ebook copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
Excellent resource for defining and exploring the complexities of sexual consent! This is a very comprehensive overview, and the delivery is fun and all-inclusive of sexual orientations and gender identities. As a future sex educator and therapist, I will be keeping a copy of this guide on hand for use with my clients. Thank you NetGalley for the eARC!
Isabella Rotman's guide to consent is a fantastic look at what consent is and what it is not. This book should be in every library collection, with a copy in teen and adult. Everyone can learn something here!
This book should be mandatory at schools. Every young man and woman should study this and learn from it. This book is so important and I am so glad that it exists. It’s a touchy subject, that’s often difficult for some people to understand. However, this book provides a fresh and thorough approach. I truly hope that this book gets the recognition it deserves.
I wish I had this book 10+ years ago when dealing with an unhealthy, emotionally abusive relationship. This guide is LITERALLY quick and easy but so full of life-changing information. Even as a woman in a currently healthy relationship, this book gave me important things to consider regarding consent and communication. Absolutely recommended.
I WANT TO BUY THIS BOOK AND GIVE IT TO EVERYONE I KNOW! I knew I would like this book when Sargent Yes Means Yes came in and said their pronouns. I was like yep, this book is for me. It was such a fun and educative little book. I especially loved how consent was stripped down to the basics and explained simply. The diversity in A Quick And Easy Guide To Consent was also an highlight of the book. Everyone was represented and that made me very very happy. In conclusion, BUY THIS BOOK FOR EVERYONE YOU MEET! I would say buy it for your kids but I don't know the appropriate age range since I don't have children. I do have a 16 year old brother and I'm definitely getting this book for him when it comes out.
This book nailed it! It was written in a way most people could understand. I read it to see what way and how well it was written. There was still sometimes I didn't know and I thought I knew all about consent . I like how it took into consideration genders and sexual orientation. The illustratings were basic but clear and detailed. I recommend every teenager and you adult should read this .
This is a book for everyone - it discuss a difficult subject(consent) in a really lighthearted way and easy for everyone to understand. It provides a detailed explanation for diffrent situations that consent and communication are necessary, both verbal and nonverbal. I aslo really like how it include people of diffrent genders, the narrator is nonbinary which makes it more accessible for all readers.
A well written and thought provoking read that should be on school reading lists across the world, as is something everyone should read.
This was quite educational, short and to the point. I really liked how it highlighted diversity and was very sensitive towards former traumas, genders etc. The art was helpful in illustrating the ideas explained.
This was a really great beginner guide to consent. I think it would be a wonderful read for teens or anyone just getting involved in sexual activity. I particularly liked the checklist in the back pages for couples to go over together.
I received a copy of this book from Netgalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review. This book is a fantastic guide to consent. It's very good at giving the basics in a really easy to understand way. This book should be required reading!
TW: sexual violence "I want us to think of "okay with it," or willingness to have sex, as the lowest bar of consent." - A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent by Isabella Rotman Filed under: Books That Everyone Should Read Words are not enough to express how much I adore this book! With the help of Sargent Yes Means Yes from the Consent Cavalry, Isabella Rotman's A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent discusses the importance of affirmative consent (may be verbal or non-verbal). This book deserves an A+ for providing content warnings, disclaimers, useful checklists, and being highly intersectional in terms of sex, gender, and race. Seriously though, most, if not all, books should be like this. Other authors should take note. It's 2020 for pete's sake. Entertaining and educational. Sargent Yes Means Yes, who uses they/them pronouns, helps us in learning more about consent and having The Discussion with your partner, even if they're only hookups. Sexual consent is currently seen as a somewhat sensitive topic, and most people assume that just because their partner doesn't say no when they do something, it means that they're okay with it. Please understand that lack of the word no does not mean that they're saying yes, and, as highlighted by the quote above, simply being okay with it is the lowest bar of consent. Hence, the importance of affirmative consent. All partners involved should be /into/ it, whatever it may be. If I could, I would provide a copy of this book to each potential sexual partner and quiz them about it just so I know that they understand and respect the importance of affirmative consent. Thank you to Isabella Rotman and Limerence Press for providing me an e-ARC of this book via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review!
A Quick and Easy guide to consent takes the lowest bar of consent, willingness, and turns it into the golden standard: affirmative consent. This graphic novel shows you that consent is more than a lack of no. It starts with an informed, absolute yes and discusses the factors that go into it. A Quick and Easy Guide is perfect for anyone new to physical and sexual experiences or anyone in need of redefining sex and consent in a more positive way. Like the book says, it is a beginner's guide and in no way a comprehensive set of rules. The worksheets in the back that assist in thinking about/ exploring boundaries is an excellent tool.
In this comic we follow a Sargent who teaches different people about different kind of consents, sex and so much more. It provides so much insight about sex and consent in a friendly way that is easy to understand for everyone. I really loved how it included all these types of sex, genders and sexualities. Boy do I wish I've read this two years ago. I highly recommend reading this! Definitely a must have for high schools and even for you to have in your personal collection.
A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent is just what the title says. It informative, concise, and fun. Discussing sex and consent can be uncomfortable. It seems to be the opposite of sexy. This book simplifies the subject and gives the reader a convincing argument for using an affirmative yes. It also shows how this can make for better sex because by empowering partners to give feedback. I recommend this book to anyone that is or plans to be sexually active.
This book really lives up to its title. It is quick and easy to understand and covers all bases and questions people might have. I think it would be a very helpful book to have in high schools and on college campuses. I think the art is really cute, but I hope it's in color for the final print. I also really love the personification of the consent teacher "Sarge". It's very humorous without taking away from the seriousness of the topic. I also 100% love and appreciate how inclusive it is.
This book explained consent in an easy-to-understand way but also went into the details that people often have questions about and did it beautifully. I think it was pretty inclusive, and presented in a way that young people would find relates to them. Perfect for teaching people about what consent really means, how to respect others’ boundaries and also desires, and for having better sex.
This book is fantastic! This should definitely be taught in schools or be included in a summer reading list of some sort. Heck, there are a lot of grown adults who need to read this book and educate themselves on consent. I love how openly the book wants to incentivize the discussion of consent with your significant other. Consent should be gotten loud and proud as should a no should the situation change.
I received an ARC of this book from NetGalley for review. This book is wonderful, it's in the same vein of The Care and Keeping of you books in that it handles sensitive topics in an age appropriate way. But this is a lot more queer friendly! I used to volunteer as a sex educator for middle school students many years ago and I once had a student ask me how lesbians have sex. This book and the language in the What is Sex? section would have been a helpful resource at that time and can still be incredibly useful for teens and up.
This book is a graphic novel guide on consent that has a character that goes by the name of "Sarge". Sarge helps a couple learn about the general idea of consent. When they understand he goes to a nearby bar to cover some additional topics on consent. This book is thorough and uses language that is easy to understand. There is a section that covers the details of different ways to have sex and briefly touches on the details of what it means to say no and not have that respected. The book does start with a content warning to help the readers be aware of this. I read this preview to get an understanding whether or not it would be appropriate to purchase for my library's YA collection. I'm a little torn but may ultimately purchase it for the collection because it is important information even though one part went into a little more detail than some may find appropriate if they were just browsing in the YA department. The other issue a random browser may have is at the end they have a check list that couples can use together to get an understanding of what the other is comfortable with, this is a great idea but some may have an issue with the detail it lists. I think this is a great book overall and is a great tool to use to have conversations with older teens who are in need of it in their relationships. I also liked how Sarge had a way of telling the audience the information like Adam Connover in Adam Ruins Everything. The characters in the book were light and fun so it was easy to read though.
I have read two other books in this series: 'A Quick and Easy Guide to Queer and Trans Identities' and 'A Quick and Easy Guide to Sex and Disability'. I absolutely loved the other books in the series, which it why I was so eager to read this one too. This graphic novel was absolutely wonderful! I have nothing but good things to say about it! It is an educational tool, personal empowerment tool, light-hearted, informative graphic novel that has wonderful illustrations, good humour and above all respect for the topic of sexuality, sexual behaviours and consent. I really liked the clear content warnings displayed at the beginning of the book, they were very clear and simple but very important. I definitely believe this book and the others I have read should be used within high schools and further education. I thought the way the book educates the readers on the topic of consent is spot on and covers absolutely every topic you could think of. One thing in particular that I thought was very important was the clarification in the difference between being okay with something and actually wanting something. Books like this are a clear example of how powerful literature can be and it should be appreciated and utilised greater than it currently is. This book is for everybody. Old and young, able bodied and those with a disability, those of any gender and sexuality, sexually experienced or not. It shrinks the taboo, raises awareness, improves education and is a fantastic little book. Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for providing me with a copy of this book to read and give my own, honest opinion.
I loved this! I've loved all of the previous books in the "Quick & Easy Guide" series and this one is no exception. The author gives a great overview of what consent means, how to consent, and when to consent. Should definitely be mandatory reading for anyone.
The title tells you pretty much everything you need to know about the book A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent. Everything you could need to know about consent is clearly explained with images to back up the verbiage, in case any potential confusion exists. This book is a must for the sex ed curriculum.
This graphic novel is an open and honest introduction to the topic of affirmative consent. In particular this book explores consent for sexual acts. This book is intended for readers ages 16 and over. The content is mature, but not explicit. The information contained in this book is necessary for all teens and young adults to understand. This book presents facts in a straightforward manner while including information about many types of relationships, not just heterosexual ones. This is the second book from the "Quick & Easy Guide" series that I have read (I've also read "A Quick and Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns"). I intend to read all books in this series and put them into the hands of high school students who need this information to make safe choices. That being said, the start of the book is a bit wordy and I wonder if some parts could have been written in more teen-friendly language. Overall, 5 out of 5 stars.
This book lived up to it's title and provided a quick and easily accessible explanation of what can seem like a difficult subject. The breakdowns of the goal of affirmative consent as well as the ways in which consent can be in question (and what to do when that happens) was treated seriously but managed to keep the reading light. The humor was spot on and the illustrations were very engaging.
A very well written and inclusive guide on the topic of consent. The book does an incredible job at breaking down what consent is, how to obtain consent, and how to recognize and act accordingly when consent is not given, or is not able to be given. This book would be an incredible resource for teenagers, who are the target audience. It relays important information in a way they can understand and absorb. Additionally, the book does not focus on heterosexual couples, which is very necessary when learning about sex and consent. Even though the book is a comic, different characters reflect different races, so the inclusion of interracial couples was a welcome change from the typical white washed form of sex education. One thing to note about the book is before it even starts, it is clear to the reader what the book is... and what it is not, which is very important. The author also cites sources very well and welcomes readers to learn in addition to the book they are reading. I will say the book is *incredibly* cheesy. The character teaching about consent is named Sergeant No Means No from the Consent Calvary. Despite the cheesiness though, the book proves to be a factual and informative resource that will help readers navigate to have healthy, consensual sexual encounters.
I love these "Quick and Easy" guides. They are clear, honest and no-n0nsense. This one doesn't pull any punches or lean on euphemisms. It makes the topic very easy to understand. The art is clean and appealing--and the story is even fun!
Thank you Limerence Press and Netgalley for giving me an e-ARC of "A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent" in exchange for an honest review. This book is a must-read for anyone looking for content that skillfully explains consent during sexual relationships. The book is in the form of a comic strip, with the main character as Sarge (referred to with they/them pronouns) who pops up during sticky times and guides the supporting characters through understanding consent and implementing it effectively. This book broaches topics surrounding consent like non-verbal consent, sexual assault, emotional manipulation, lack of consent and dealing with it, consent when intoxicated and kink-consent with honesty and an all round clarity about it. This book is LGBTQIA friendly. At the end of this book, there is a detailed questionnaire and guide to understanding your own sexuality and figuring out your preferences. The questionnaire also makes it easier to share this info with your partner(s), considering that certain questions have answers broken down into categories like Giving / Receiving (for example: explicit photographs). I also loved the artwork in the book, it brilliantly brought home many points that are crucial to this important discussion. For my Indian followers who are looking to buy this book: this book has resources for USA laws for consent and various hotlines, so barring that, the rest of the content is perfectly relatable for discussions because consent is universal.
Note: I did receive this book as an eARC via Netgalley in exchange for a honest review. As far as warnings go, besides frank talk about sex there is only one page in the consent book that involves a diagram of disembodied body parts that might be involved in different kinds of sex. As a series for young people potentially just discovering sexuality and gender, everything is pretty light and fluffy (especially visually) while still covering a lot of nuance. Thing are covered in a way that strips down a lot of the intensity, stigma, and fear often tied into puberty. About sex, rather then necessarily sexuality, this book did include a lot of diverse representation when it came to different kinds of gender (across the spectrum), sexuality, and race. I would have been interested in more body diversity and disability representation, but there was some of each, and disability and sexuality is the focus of another whole book in the series so hopefully things will feel more balanced overall. Short, this book still managed to be very thorough. We cover not only what could be seen as the basics of consent, but also cover issues like what is sex, how to frame consent positively, intoxication, manipulation, age of consent, kinks, and informed consent. There's also a short section on dealing with rejection, an extensive bibliography to find out more, and a worksheet to help all of us figure out what sorts of things we consent to or not.
This is another fantastic guide from Isabella Rotman. I'd love to hand this out in middle schools and bars alike, not to mention to my patients. The art is warm and welcoming, the tone sounds like a friendly pal, and the subject matter is comprehensive and inclusive. One quibble: I'd love for future editions to specifically include PrEP on the checklist in the back! Second quibble: I'd also love a specific mention of medical consent in the beginning when showing non-sexual forms of consent, since so many people don't realize they still have the right to withhold consent in medical situations. Or maybe another book about that? I can consult! Isabella, message me... I received a free electronic ARC of this book from the publisher via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
I appreciate how this book highlights the importance of consent. 'A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent' serves as a great comprehensive source of information on the topic of consent. This book explores aspects such as setting boundaries, open communication, and situations that differentiate explicit consent and something that isn’t deemed as consent (for example, coercion, guilt/obligation, leveraging power, and so on). The art style endearing and engaging. The narrator is non-binary, enabling this read to be more accessible for readers. Also, I liked how this book included definitions and a checklist which can be used as a guide or self-reflection exercise whilst including LGBQIA+ in the narrative. Overall, this was an extremely great book with helpful information. This is a relevant read and I’d recommend this to both adults and teenagers. Thank you to NetGalley and the publishers for a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.