The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love

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Pub Date 05 Jan 2012 | Archive Date 01 Feb 2022

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“Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip.”
The New York Times

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

   • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
   • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
   • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.


Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

“Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip.”
The New York Times

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep...

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Absolutely loved this book. I wish I knew about this book years ago, because I hadn't known about the attachment styles before this book, and I found this book eye-opening to so many of the relationship dynamics that we experience ourselves or see withing our friends and families. I now believe that having an understanding of one's attachment style is important because it helps us know why someone behaves the way they do and how to respond to certain behavior. Everyone should read this book to have a better understanding in how people work and to improve communication in all relationships.

Thank you Netgalley & Penguin Random House for this e-ARC

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Super helpful. book. Definitely worth reading to become more familiar with your attachment style. Will help in all relationships.

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This was such a fantastic resource! Learning about the attachment styles was eye opening and interesting. Levine and Heller did a great job not only describing the attachment styles but also giving advice as to how best to navigate when you have a particular attachment style or if you partner has a particular attachment style. Highly recommended, great book!

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This book is about parenting, self/help, and families. I like this book because it describes the three major attachment styles and which one each person is. Once you know what type of attachment style you are, then you can develop stronger relationships with the people you love. I love that this book is based on science.

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I enjoyed this book and found it very helpful! It gives advice for relationships and can be used for different types of relationships. It makes a lot of since and will definitely help me build on some of the relationships I have. I think if you enjoy self help books in general or are open to advice on your relationship that you can learn a lot and enjoy getting another perspective by reading this book!

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An excellent book for anyone interested in relationships. The authors are researchers exploring attachment theory in adults. While attachment theory with regard to children has been around for several decades, application of attachment theory to adult relationships is new. After reading several books on the attachment process in children, I was excited to see this new book on attachment in adult romantic relationships. This book delivered.

While based in solid science and research, this book is nonetheless highly readable. All of us have been in relationships - both good and bad - so the book is highly relatable as well. Many examples are given to demonstrate secure, avoidant, and anxious attachment relationships. The book keeps your attention.

Highly recommended.

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Attached was a such a great read! I have always been interested in psychology but when I learned about it in college, I was too young to really apply it to my life. Attached helped me reflect on my childhood and my relationship with my fiancé. There are many reasons a relationship can fail so why not try to be proactive and examine ways you can better yourself and your relationship? I think this is a great introduction to attachment styles and how to balance yours with your partner's. If you are looking for more in-depth information on your particular style, there are other resources out there.

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This book was very informative, but really only for people with an anxious attachment style. I am this kind of person, so for me personally, I found this book to be very fascinating and insightful. If you know that you are not an anxiously attached type of person, this might not be the most helpful for you.

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I ended up buying this book to add to my Self Help collection! It is hands down the best book on the subject of Attachment. It’s simplified in its explanation of the forms of Attachment and how it applies to who you are and how you show up in your relationships. If you are new to this topic and are on the journey of self discovery, this book is one that should be on the top of your list.

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This should be essential reading for everyone.
Insightful, informative and down to earth, with many practical examples and reflective questions throughout. Full of eye-opening and very accessible research based information that is applicable to all sorts of relationships, including romantic and platonic.
Written in a very approachable way that had me turning the pages quickly, hungry for more revelations and full of plenty of ah-ha! moments for both myself and the people in my life. This has made it easy to understand the concepts of attachment - avoidant, secure and anxious - and elaborates on them all further with their own sections and examples to demonstrate them as well as the reasons behind them. A fascinating read.

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This book is extremely helpful in understanding attachment theory and your own attachment style. This will help in all relationships and is very accessible, even for someone who doesn't have a lot of background knowledge on the subject.

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