Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Daily Practices to Honor Your Emotions and Live with Confidence
by Lindsay C Gibson
This title was previously available on NetGalley and is now archived.
Pub Date 02 Dec 2021 | Archive Date 01 Sep 2021
New Harbinger Publications, Inc., New Harbinger
From the author of the self-help hit, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, this essential guide offers daily, practical ways to help you heal the invisible wounds caused by immature parents, nurture self-awareness, trust your emotions, improve relationships, and stop putting others' needs ahead of your own.
If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you probably still struggle with anger, sadness, resentment, or shame. As a child, your emotional needs were not met, your feelings were dismissed, and you likely took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent's behavior. Somewhere along the way, you lost your sense of self. And without this strong sense of self, you may feel like your own well-being isn't valuable.
In this compassionate guide-written just for you, not them-you'll find tips and tools to help you set boundaries with others, honor and validate your emotions, and thrive in the face of life's challenges. You'll discover how to protect yourself from hurtful behavior, stop making excuses for others' limitations, forge healthier relationships, and feel more confident in your life. Most importantly, you'll learn how to stop putting others' needs before your own, and manage daily stressors with competence, clarity, and optimism.
Self-care means honoring and respecting the self. But when you grow up with emotionally immature parents, you are taught that setting limits is selfish and uncaring. You are taught to seek approval instead of authenticity in relationships. And you are taught that empathy and emotional awareness are liabilities, rather than assets. But there's another way to go through life-one in which you can take care of yourself, first and foremost.
Let this book guide you toward a new way of being.
“Lindsay Gibson’s book is treasure trove of golden nuggets studded with practical insights, wisdom, and inspiration written in bite-size pieces by a serious, experienced professional who has a deep understanding of the human condition. As the child of two emotionally immature (EI) parents, I felt the book was a window into my soul reaching in, offering me a hand and lifting me up.”
—Arlene Ingram, retired PK-12 school counselor with thirty-five years’ experience; and former president of the Virginia Counselors Association, and of Potomac and Chesapeake Association for College Admissions Counseling
“Lindsay has done it again! Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents is the loving advice and instruction that those of us with these types of parents needed but never got. Lindsay offers compassion with application for guiding us on how to reparent ourselves, while throughout, reminding us that we deserve to have better lives! This book is another Lindsay Gibson ‘must-have’ in everyone’s library.”
—Ameé Quiriconi, host of the One Broken Mom podcast, and author of The Fearless Woman’s Guide to Starting a Business
“Gibson has written another powerful book that captures the reader’s interest with her genuine concern that the reader has ‘the best possible life.’ Although she addresses those primarily affected by EI parents, friends, and families, this book has suggestions and insights that everyone can relate to and learn from. I myself read it two times as a retired therapist, and will certainly suggest it to other colleagues and friends.”
—Judy K. Snider, MSW/ACSW, coauthor of I Love You, Be Careful—a Mom’s Choice Award winner