21 Days to Better Boundaries

A Guide to Setting Boundaries with Kindness + Compassion

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Pub Date 20 Oct 2022 | Archive Date 06 Dec 2022

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An emotionally intelligent guide to setting boundaries with clarity, confidence, and kindness…

This powerful how-to approach to boundaries provides simple, effective guidance to help you know what you need, be confident that your needs matter, and get your needs met while having healthier, happier relationships. Plus, you’ll learn why saying no means saying yes to what you really want.

Good boundaries are essential for healthy relationships. We need them to thrive in our friendships, partnerships, and work life. We need them so we can be more fully ourselves. We also need them to be adaptable. And, we often struggle with knowing how to set boundaries – say no, or state what we need – without stepping on someone else’s toes or risking a relationship. That uncertainty can stop us from setting boundaries where we need them or cause us to sound harsher than we’d like.

One of the most influential teachers in the field of Focusing, Ann Weiser Cornell, shares a remarkably compassionate guide to setting the boundaries you need while creating healthy, happy relationships. If you’d like to set boundaries with kindness and compassion, this book is for you.

Filled with best practices from Focusing, a research-based, body-informed therapeutic technique for creating powerful life change, 21 Days to Better Boundaries helps you identify what you need, know that your needs matter (a lot), and explore kind ways you can communicate your needs to others.

An emotionally intelligent guide to setting boundaries with clarity, confidence, and kindness…

This powerful how-to approach to boundaries provides simple, effective guidance to help you know what...

Advance Praise

"""...such a simple book to read that will change its readers' lives."" -Kristi Elizabeth, San Francisco Book Review

 ""...an essential self-help book...that will accompany me on my journey to better boundaries for the weeks to come but, more importantly, for years to come. I am grateful to the author for this gradual, engaging, and lively guide. I highly and wholeheartedly recommend it."" -Marie-Hélène Fasquel for Readers' Favorite

""...the results can be transformative! I recommend this guide to readers who seek more open and fulfilling personal connections while remaining true to their values and selfworth."" -Courtnee Turner Hoyle for Readers' Favorite

""Read this book today to get the power to put your happiness first, but still maintain great relationships with the people around you."" -Luwi Nyakansaila for Readers' Favorite"

"""...such a simple book to read that will change its readers' lives."" -Kristi Elizabeth, San Francisco Book Review

""...an essential self-help book...that will accompany me on my journey to better...

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This is a must-have resource! It is full of great strategies, advice, and easy to implement ideas. This is one I'll return to again and again. Many thanks to the author, publisher, and NetGalley for the advanced copy of the book.

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Exactly the kind of book I needed. Sometimes I get too caught up in what people want and what I actually want. It's exhausting and tire you out easily.
This book mentions some amazing points of setting boundaries without anger as well as feeling guilty.
Thank you Netgalley, publisher and author for the arc in exchange of honest review.

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This was pretty interesting to read about. I haven’t read many self help books in my lifetime but this was great. It was interesting and had so much to say, I was grateful for some of the thugs in this book.

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Need help setting better boundaries? Take 15 minutes each day for 21 days and you'll be on the path to healthier relationships with Ann Weiser Cornell's book.

This guide provides simple, effective advice on how to identify your needs and get them met while maintaining healthier, happier relationships. Cornell's approach is based on emotional intelligence, and she emphasizes the importance of using kindness and compassion when setting boundaries.

I particularly enjoyed how it was focused on daily 15 minutes commitment which is just the right amount for me to build a habit. It gave me all the tools to find the balance empathy for others and complete self neglect.

21 Days to Better Boundaries is an easy read that is filled with helpful tips and techniques. Cornell provides case studies and exercises to help readers apply the concepts she discusses. The book also includes a section on how to say no, which can be especially challenging for people who have difficulty asserting themselves.

Overall, 21 Days to Better Boundaries is an excellent resource for anyone interested in creating healthy boundaries in their relationships. The advice is practical and easy to follow, and the author's approach is both compassionate and empowering. Make sure you're taking care of yourself first by reading Ann Weiser Cornell’s 21 Days to Better Boundaries.

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thanks netgalley for this arc. This book was really interesting for me to read. I haven't read many self-help books in my life, but this was important to me. there was information that over time I will assimilate more and more and that will surely help me every day. it's a really good book, very well written, for those who need a little daily help.

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In a world where we are in each other's business and faces through our connection to the internet, reading this book gave me the subtle reminder that I can draw the line and went a step ahead to suggest how best to do so with kindness and compassion.
It's meant to be read daily and you get to reflect on each step as you go. What I loved most about this book was not in the very beginning, but what came more towards the end- on the most important boundary and that of the self, because it may be easy to draw the line for people, places and things but what about the voices in our heads, the lies we tell ourselves, or the fears that limit us from living an abundant life- how do we identify what is a feeling and what is not?
It's an encouraging read. Thanks Netgalley for the eARC.

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I received an electronic copy through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

I wish I could bring the advice contained in this book to my younger self--that self that was conditioned to be a people-pleaser--and give her the courage to stand up for herself, to build those boundaries.

Filled with tips to help you figure out when you need to erect some boundaries, how to do it, how to understand where those who don't like those boundaries may be coming from, and how to respect their feelings while standing your ground.

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21 Days to Better Boundaries; A Guide to Setting Boundaries with Kindness + Compassion by Ann Weiser Cornell was a beautiful book and step-by-step guide to protecting yourself with boundaries. Cornell really holds your hand and doesn't make you feel alone throughout the book and process. Highly recommend.

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I personally know so many people, myself included, who would benefit heavily from this book. This an essential guide for so many of us out there who struggle with boundaries. I recently have been trying to set boundaries myself so this book found me at the perfect time in my life.

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Excellent, helpful advice that is easy to follow on how to set better boundaries in your life. This is something I struggle with and this book helped me a lot. Thank you NetGalley for the opportunity to read an advanced copy!

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21 Days to Better Boundaries 4⭐️ Boundaries are my weakest link so I’m always open for some help. I liked it and it was a simple straight forward thing. A lot of self awareness and exercises for practice setting boundaries. I had years of therapy and I found this helpful. If you’re looking for help with this topic then I think you’ll find it helpful.
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I really enjoyed this book by Ann Weiser Cornell. She provided useful tips, examples, and visuals to help her readers understand and gain a new perspective for setting boundaries. Each lesson was simple to follow, but also encourages the reader to reflect on a deeper level. I highly recommend this book for those who are looking to set boundaries confidently to build a healthier relationship with themselves and others. Thank you to NetGalley and BooksGoSocial for this eARC in exchange for my honest review.

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Wow. I love this book. It's so helpful to learn how to set boundaries. I didn't have that when I was younger. This book is therapeutic. I will definitely be referencing it when I need to. The practices are awesome for self growth.

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I received an advance reader copy of this book to read in exchange for an honest review via netgalley and the publishers.

21 Days to Better Boundaries is a self-help book for anyone who finds it hard to say no, maintain boundaries, not give in and people pleases. This was such a helpful book to read and as a person who does struggle to maintain boundaries at times in worklife and homelife and often gets walked all over by people who take all they can out of you, I found it a great resource. I'd have preferred this in physical format so I could refer back to it again going forward as I received the e-Arc from netgalley.
This book gives you tips and advice on how to recognise when you need to set some boundaries in place as well as how to do this, how to respect others feelings whilst instilling these boundaries and also understanding the people who may not like the boundaries you are sitting in place and why they don't like it. I found it a great angle to help you understand the other person's view point too.

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