True to You

A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself

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Pub Date Jul 09 2024 | Archive Date Jul 23 2024
St. Martin's Press | St. Martin's Essentials


A Guide to The Theory and Practice of Creating Authentic Relationships

When’s the last time you felt as composed as you portray to your boss, family and friends? If there’s a discord between the two, you’re not alone. Humans are master pretenders—we often seem stronger, calmer and more mature than we really are, while the truth is we’re full of doubts and self-criticism that pushes us to borrow reassurance from friends, beliefs from strangers on the internet, or attention that, in the moment, makes us feel successful, but leaves us totally hollow and burnt out.

True to You is a relatable self-help guide for people who want to learn to live less focused on others’ reactions and more confidently by their own principles. Readers will learn how to:

· Interrupt relationship patterns that keep you stuck.
· Rely less on praise and approval from others.
· Develop a solid sense of self in anxious times.
· Build more authentic and rewarding relationships.

Dr. Smith uses examples from the lives of her therapy clients to explain how we borrow confidence, calmness, and beliefs from our relationships and offers actionable steps and exercises for building a life with your own best-thinking. With a healthy dose of humor, she unpacks the science of our social nature, explaining why we try so hard to be what others want us to be and how we can start living from the inside out. By learning how to be more responsible for yourself, rather than over-responsible for everyone else, you can find the freedom to develop richer relationships, pursue what’s important to you, and feel steadier in this very anxious world.

A Guide to The Theory and Practice of Creating Authentic Relationships

When’s the last time you felt as composed as you portray to your boss, family and friends? If there’s a discord between the two...

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Absolutely loved this book. Very informative. I will recommend this book to everyone.

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"True to You," by Kathleen Smith, is a refreshing and insightful guide for those of us who often find ourselves bending over backwards to please others. Smith skillfully breaks down the patterns that keep us stuck in people-pleasing mode and offers practical strategies to reclaim our sense of self. Drawing from real-life examples and her own therapy practice, she provides actionable steps to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing and cultivate more fulfilling relationships. Smith's emphasis on self-responsibility resonates deeply, offering a path to freedom from the exhausting cycle of seeking validation from others.

Overall, "True to You" is a game-changer. It's not just another self-help book; it's a roadmap to reclaiming your life and finding authenticity in a world full of expectations. Whether you're a chronic people-pleaser like me or simply seeking guidance on building more meaningful relationships, this book is a must-read.

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Such a great read for people knew to boundaries and interrupting people pleasing cycles. I found this book very insightful and packed with useful advice.

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As a people pleaser, I found this book to be very helpful in starting to create healthy boundaries. It is very easy to be taken advantage of.

Definitely will be revisiting the authors bulleted questions to work through them in a deeper way.

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"True to You" is a book I didn't realize how badly I needed, and now I'm excited to make some much-needed changes. It is written clearly with examples, exercises, and action steps to become stronger in building a life based on who you are, rather than based on the lives of those around you. I highly recommend this for anyone who struggles with boundaries and/or people-pleasing. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC.

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Wow! Didn't realize how much I needed this. Feeling both called out and seen - and, thankfully, I have some tools to deal with this problem of mine. I appreciate the author's bullet pointed questions. I'll spend more time with this, and could definitely recommend it to friends! Lol, I guess we're all people pleasers.

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True to You by Kathleen Smith provided me tools to put myself first and to not allow myself to be taking advantage of. The importance of focusing on you was so powerful and I hope to use the information provided ongoing.

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This was a very accessible, well-structured, and thorough guide to exploring healthy boundaries, self-knowledge, and assertive communication. I really enjoyed the format of this book and found it easy to follow and very helpful. I will use a lot of these insights in my therapy work with clients!

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Engaging and accessible. A recommended purchase for collections where self-help and psych titles are popular.

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I definitely saw glimpses of myself in this story. The writing style was personally hard for me to digest sometimes, but when I took it slow and soaked every word up I got a lot from it!

Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for this E-Arc!

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