Carry On

Unpacking Your Internalized Transphobic and Queerphobic Baggage

by Nillin Lore

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Pub Date Mar 20 2026 | Archive Date Apr 30 2026

LGBTQIAP+ | Nonfiction (Adult) | Self-Help

Description

An exploration of the messy but liberating process of defining and decentering inner narratives of shame, fear and regret for one’s own queer identity.

Queerphobic and transphobic messaging can arrive from nearly any direction, and once queer and trans people are exposed to the fear, disgust and judgement people have for otherness, it can easily fester into internalized oppression.

In a society that promotes the narrative of self-loathing queers, loving and accepting ourselves can be hard to imagine, let alone achieve. Author and activist Mx. Nillin Lore has first-hand insight into the complex inner journey of decluttering the guilt, shame and anxiety that can feed our inner discriminator and in Carry On, they provide a guided expedition through the source material of our own erasure.

A self-reflective journey and a toolset for dismantling inflammatory inner frameworks, this is a practical and encouraging guide for those ready and willing to unpack their internalized queerphobic and transphobic baggage.

An exploration of the messy but liberating process of defining and decentering inner narratives of shame, fear and regret for one’s own queer identity.

Queerphobic and transphobic messaging can arrive...

Advance Praise

“This book is like sitting down with a friend at 2 a.m. and having one of those real chats—you know, the ones that have you laughing, crying and reflecting all at the same time. Nillin takes you on a journey through all the challenges and barriers and beauty of being queer and trans, and they are your cheerleader every step of the way.”—Andrew Gurza, author of Notes From a Queer Cripple

“Whether you are trans, nonbinary, queer, or figuring it all out, Carry On is the supportive friend you need for journeying through life (while ensuring your baggage fits in the overhead compartment!). Nillin Lore offers vulnerable experiences and a gentle sense of humor throughout, alongside practical advice and useful resources. It is not only a guiding hand for those who personally resonate with the identities discussed, but also for those who (like me) want to better inform their solidarity with 2SLGBTQ+ loved ones.”—Kitty Stryker, author of Ask Yourself, Say More and Love Rebels

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Key Selling Points

Timely. As the dialogue around trans rights and queer visibility is heightened, this is a valuable resource for those experiencing guilt, shame and anxiety around their identity.
Unique perspective. Mx. Nillin Lore writes from their own experience as a trans and queer activist based in Saskatchewan, offering personal insights and candid advice.
Accessibility. Written in an informal and non-therapeutic manner, with a focus on making big ideas understandable without being dumbed down.

Key Selling Points

Timely. As the dialogue around trans rights and queer visibility is heightened, this is a valuable resource for those experiencing guilt, shame and anxiety around their identity.
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EDITION	Other Format
ISBN	9781990869822
PRICE	$19.95 (USD)
PAGES	264

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Featured Reviews

Alicia V, Media/Journalist

An incredibly validating, necessary read. Lore breaks down internalized queerphobia with compassion, clarity, and zero judgment. A must-have guide for queer people learning to love themselves more deeply.

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Emma W, Reviewer

Thank you NetGalley for the free copy.

Reading Carry On was such a validating experience, and the book’s message to re-centre your inner narratives on queer joy and acceptance rather than shame and regret important. I loved Mx. Nillin Lore’s candid and judgement-free insights, and the insights of other queer and trans people, throughout the book.

Chapter 7 mentions how helpful it can be to work with a counsellor to unpack trauma and I need to agree here; processing trauma is heavy work that shouldn’t be done alone.

I reviewed an uncorrected ARC, so the final version may be different, but I think it would have helped if the questions throughout the book intended to help readers unpack their baggage were highlighted in boxes, that would be easy to flip through and come back to as any when you need to.

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